 The narcissist refuses to let you go. They may have discarded you. Or you may have chosen to leave them. But at some point, you decided to move on. You decided to forget about them and move on with your life. And... Yeah. That's an important thing for you to do. But the problem is, they're not gonna accept it that easily. Yeah, you may try to leave. You may try to move on with your life. But they're not gonna let you go. They're gonna chase after you. And... Yeah, they will try and hoover you. They will try to love bomb you again. But if that doesn't work, if they know that you're not susceptible to them and ablation, then they're just gonna focus on tearing you down. They're gonna do whatever they can to irritate you, to make you miserable, to make your life hell. Yeah. That's what they're gonna do. And... They will try to intimidate you. They will talk about you to your family members and friends. I've spoken about some of this in... yesterday's video as well. So, I will go into that again briefly now. They will monitor your phone and computer usage. They will monitor your phone calls, your messages, your social media. And... They may even put a tracking device on your car. They may even put surveillance cameras in your home. And... Yeah, the reason why is because they just can't let you go. They hate to see you just leaving them and moving on with your life. They see that as an attack. And... Yeah, they're very envious and jealous. They can't stand to see you moving away from them. Remember, they see you as an object, as something that belongs to them. As their property. So... When you move on, they feel like they've lost something. Something that belonged to them. They don't see it as though you've just willingly walked out on your own. They don't see it like that. No, they see it as though someone has taken you away from them. As though there's someone out there who is better at manipulating you than they are. That's really how they see it. They see it as though someone has outdone them. You have to remember that they are very jealous and competitive. And they're also very paranoid and hyper-vigilant. I mean, I'm sure you will remember throughout your relationship with them, they were hypersensitive to anyone you talk to. They were always afraid that someone might take you away. And, yeah, when you finally move on, it's like their fears have manifested into reality. They feel like this is it. It's finally happened. Someone has come along and taken away my prized possession. This thing that I invested all of my time and energy into. But in reality, they didn't invest much, did they? They expected you to do all of the work. They expected you to see it as a privilege to be around them, to serve them. I mean, that's just how they think. They have this delusional mentality that you are an object that exists to meet their needs. And then when you finally get fed up and you walk away, they just see it like the arrogance. How could you do that to me? And that's why they're often expecting some form of compensation when you do go. Like, if they can't pull you back into it, then they're going to be waiting somewhere with their hands out, expecting you to pay up at some point. But yeah, they really don't like it when you finally get fed up and walk away. That really gets under their skin. That's really the last time they want to see. Especially if you walked away first. Because they always want things to end on their terms. They want to initiate it. They want it to be the ones to leave you. Remember, they think they're better than you. They think they're better than everyone. But then if you go and you leave them first, then you've just crushed their false narrative. You've just destroyed everything they tell themselves. And they're delusional minds. Yeah, they have big egos. That's true. They have inflated egos. But you can liken that to a balloon. When you put air into a balloon, you fill it up. You tie a knot into it. It's inflated. Just like their ego. It's inflated. It's big. But then all you need to do is just get a pin and stick it in the balloon. Pop. It deflates. It goes down. Yeah, it's the same thing with them. That's all you have to do is just give them a little bit of criticism, reject them, walk away and watch how their ego deflates. That's why they're so sensitive to criticism. They're actually at their weakest point when they are entertaining their delusions of grandeur. That's when they're most vulnerable. But to the outside, it might seem like that's when they're most strongest. That's when they're most strong. It's when they're grandiose. They're in this arrogant state. But no, actually that is when they're most vulnerable. And if you are still around them you can test it out. Watch what happens when they are really arrogant, they're in this larger-than-life state. Just give them a little criticism to test it out. And it could be something silly. Watch how they just completely break down. And that's how you know that it isn't real because a person's character doesn't change that quickly but it does with them because it's false. It's not real. And yeah, that's another reason why they just can't stand to let you go is because although that character isn't real you made it feel real. You made it feel like it actually existed in reality. You validated it. You supported the illusion. So you played a very important role. And they might move on and find new supply but that doesn't mean it's going to be the same as it was with you. Most people aren't going to put up with that. How they treated you. A lot of people will just walk out straight away as soon as they see it. And most people aren't going to do half of the things that you did for them. So even if they do move on and find new supply it doesn't mean that they're going to be at the same level as you were. It's very unlikely that they will be. As I've said before they're always looking for the bigger better deal. The next shiny new toy and that's when they get tricked because everything that glitters ain't always gold. Sometimes things are just shiny but they hold no value and they got lucky with you. You did hold value and that's why they refuse to let you go. But they don't always get so lucky. Sometimes they run into people who look sparkly and shiny and it's just on the surface underneath there's no value. So it doesn't sustain them. It doesn't make them feel good for long and people like that may cave into pressure as well. They might get fair about them. So these are all things to keep in mind and when you do keep these things in mind it should be no surprise why they refuse to let you go. Why they hold on to you so strongly. I mean all of the signs are there. Just remember everything you put up with. Everything you did for them. Of course they're not going to want to let someone like that go unless you've completely figured them out and they know they can't get away with things anymore. When they know that you've figured them out you know what they're about and you're tired of letting them stay at your home. You're tired of letting them drive your car. You're tired of paying for their bills giving them money buying them food. You're tired of always having to listen to their sob stories and their grandiose fantasies when you're fed up of doing all of that they probably won't refuse to let you go they'll probably get rid of you themselves and they'll never come back. So yeah if this video has some vibes with you up till this point that's why you got rid of them yourself. Your behavior pushed them away your boundaries and that is a good thing it's a blessing in disguise. So you have to remember that they're looking for weak people people who are weak and foolish and that doesn't always mean that you are weak it just means that they think you are and then if at some point they realize no you are strong you are smart then they're going to leave you alone and then also you have to display your strength and intelligence to them for them to know many of you I mean I know I did we tend to play stupid we act like we don't know what's going on we don't know what they're really like because we want the situation to continue we're addicted and we may act weak because we don't want to hurt them we're trying to help them but these things when you overlook things you act like you don't know what they're doing and you're trying to protect them you're trying to help them they just take it as yeah you're weak you're stupid they see your kindness as naivety a weakness a lack of strength and that just depends on what they're doing so yeah but when you get fed up and you start questioning and confronting them you start displaying your strength and intelligence that's when they know the jig is up and then they will drop you like a whole potato they will be gone I mean it's really that simple if you get rid of a narcissist if you want them to ghost you just display your strength and intelligence and watch how fast they run away and that's why it always seems they move on to someone who isn't so smart someone who isn't that strong so if they do that person is usually taking advantage of them but yeah if you're a fool they are going to hold on to you but it doesn't mean that you are a fool it just means that they think you are and that could be because if you're kindness and generosity your willingness to overlook things I mean it really doesn't say much about you if they think that you're a fool for being around them just think about that for a moment if someone thinks that you're a fool to be around them what does that say about them and then when you do walk away only then do they realize your intelligence and this is why as long as you are around them they're never going to see you as anything great because they're looking at it like if you were something great then why are you around me but before they get involved with you they think you're great then and that's why they try to secure you but that's only because you're not currently involved with them at that point once they've got you then they really just think you're stupid they do because they have low self-esteem deep down they hate themselves they believe they're worthless inadequate so I mean really they they gravitate towards people who are just like them people who lack self-love people who have low self-esteem and at one point that may have been you I know that was me that one time and they take advantage of that but even if you do love yourself and you do have high self-esteem they will find a way to tear it down because they know that's the only way they're going to be able to keep you they know they can't sustain you at a higher level that's why they always have to keep you down and when you do walk away you become stronger and wiser you should already know what's going to happen if you go back they're just going to bring you right back down again that's the only way that they can control you anyway I haven't got too much to say on this topic other than what I've already said 117 live viewers please hit that thumbs up button right now to support our community it's very important it makes a big difference for the channel so I'll do that now and just show the view here at this condo I'm staying got some great views I'd just like to thank you all for joining me another view here maybe I'll change and come back up go in the pool for a little while looks very relaxing but yeah thank you all and I'll talk to you in another video