 Sometimes your friends are way too nice and not petty and sometimes you have to be petty for them So that's what today's video was get you a friend like Tana y'all. Please. Please don't What is up everybody, this is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem But focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about mental health And what I like to do is pull different topics from the YouTube community to try to teach you how to improve your mental Emotional well-being so if you're into that make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell So yeah as of the time of recording this I just watched Tana mojo's video with this dude Zach about stuff that went on with Bryce I was first notified about this because Tristan was telling me the other night She's like yo Tana is freaking out on Twitter, and I'm like, uh, I don't even want to know what's going on but Because we are glutton's for punishment we watch the video and yeah There's some topics that I want to talk about with this because you know like mental health something I'm trying to do with this channel when talking about mental health like Mental health is so much more than a lack of having a mental illness It is so much different right like you don't need to be physically unhealthy and have a disease in order to take care of Your body and eat healthy foods same thing with your mental health So part of mental health is knowing who to hang out with so I did a video the other day About like why people watch Tana mojo and basically what I was talking about is a lot of people can identify To Tana or the hang out with people like Tana, right? So like this video is about like why you need to judge who you're hanging out with like here's the thing a lot of people Think that judgment is bad like don't judge people don't judge anybody like this is an insane expectation of humans You want to know why because based on our evolution based on our survival, right? We have to judge people. We absolutely have to judge people. Okay, let's go back to the caveman days, right? Let's say that there was some caveman out there and he was constantly like hey I'm gonna go wrestle with a lion, right? You'd have to judge that person's behavior and say this person might get me into some trouble that might kill me Okay, so we need to judge people in our lives to know whether or not we should hang out with them So I want you to watch this because Tana mojo is probably never gonna see this video But like if you have people in your life like Tana, you need to stop hanging out with them or set up some boundaries Or you know if it's like a brother or a sister or like a friend that you've grown up with like it's okay to love them from a distance Trust me. I'm a recovering drug addict and alcoholic I have a lot of crazy friends who are still out there doing a lot of crazy things I love them to death from a distance. I check in on them. I see how they're doing We have conversations, but we don't hang out because in order for me to stay mentally healthy I cannot have that chaos in my life, right? And here's the thing about Tana Tana is constantly having chaos in her life So if you have people in your life who are constantly having chaos by Coincidence which it never is you need to figure out is this good for your mental health So what I want you to do what I want you to do throughout this entire video I want you to keep going back to Tana mojo saying that she's a huge advocate for self-reflection and growth like Tana, please girl Like this one of the reasons I'm making this video one of the reasons why I talk to you guys so much about who you're hanging out with and You know the types of people that people are is because I used to be a terrible person I used to be the worst most awful person on earth Okay, and here's the thing. I used to always tell people like oh, I'm trying to improve I'm trying to get better like I mentioned I'm a recovering drug addict and alcoholic. You know many times I told people hey, I'm trying to be a better person. I'm trying to be a better father I'm trying to be a better boyfriend. I'm trying to be a better son I'm trying to be a better friend all these other things, but my behavior never changed my behavior never changed And this is a form of manipulation What people like Tana do what people like I used to do is tell you just what you need to be here to get you Off our back for a minute and maybe disguise and mask all the messed up things that we're doing like you guys like After Tana con we thought that that would be you know a life-changing moment For her and I already know the comments that are gonna come and say oh Tana's young Tana's this Tana's that and that's no longer an excuse Like I am the last person you could say like oh, they're young give them a break or whatever like when you're an adult Like when you're an adult like you need to start taking responsibility for the the decisions that you're making All right, and that's something that happened to me like I didn't start taking responsibility for my decisions my dumb Idiotic decisions that were causing chaos in my life until I was 27 years old when I got sober So yeah, maybe Tana will grow out grow out of this like I I hope the best for Tana I hope the best for everybody on this planet, right? I love everybody I just don't like everybody and I wouldn't necessarily hang out with everybody But I don't think that anybody is a lost cause and there's always a way to improve But it is complete BS when somebody like Tana Says that they're a huge advocate for self-improvement self-growth and self-reflection Like what absolutely blew my mind was how she started her video with this disclaimer saying this and then throughout the video She was saying stuff like this As you guys know, I'm a petty ass bitch Like it is 1,000 percent contradictory to tell somebody that I'm about self-improvement self-growth Self-reflection and then minutes later say that you are a petty ass person, right? Like those two things don't go together like they just they just don't you know what I'm saying like Like that'd be like me telling you I'm a mentally healthy psychotic person like no, that's like an oxymoron. All right, so She she I think in Tana situation or people situation I know my situation was I lack self-awareness. Okay, I lied to myself a lot I lied to myself and say Chris you are trying Chris. You are trying to be a good person when the reality was I was still causing chaos everywhere I went All right, that part right there is Absolutely mind-blowing. Okay, like she put this thing on the screen like this This reminds me of when Logan Paul came sideways at Shane Dawson and said like shame You're scaring your young audience right first off I pretty much concluded that Shane Shane's audience isn't all that young because I took some surveys And I had people comment. I'm still getting comments on that video about how old people are most people are in their mid to late 20s. All right, but when it comes to Tana mojo, like she's saying she knows she she acknowledges that she has a young audience Like I'm not even gonna show any clips, but have you ever watched a Tana mojo video? Have you ever watched a Tana mojo video? You cannot contradict yourself by saying, hey, I have a young innocent Impressionable audience, but your story times are constantly made for adults. So here's a clip Here's a clip that I want you all to kind of sit back and recognize all right and understand what's happening here I made a video not too long ago. Like are we really surprised that Tana mojo screwed up Tana Khan and Basically, the whole idea of that video was people who are shocked people who are surprised by the chaos that ensues in their life Right that just keeps coming in. I don't get it. I don't get it Tana's famous lines is this could only happen to me like like the stars just aligned for chaos So look at this clip right here and look at this face. She's making even that deep He just kept hitting me like kept doing it and I was like really drunk So I'm like my balance wasn't great I was definitely fell into the bathtub and I remember being in the bathtub with my hands like this like bro Stop like stop me. Stop. Stop. Stop and just like this is Tana acting completely surprised About this chaos like like she lives this like perfectly quiet normal life She's just a young woman who likes to go out have fun Nothing crazy ever happens But here's a clip from a different video from just a few weeks ago and I walk up and I'm like what's up And I lean in to say what's up to this girl and the girlfriend was in the very back of the car And she like dodges her body forward like over the middle seat like over the front seat like whole body like through The car and grabs my hair like the entire side of my hair and I'm like, oh my god Like you guys this is why I'm saying you need to be a better judge of character when you are hanging out with people Like if if things like this keep happening every time you go out like I want you to sit back and reflect Do you have a friend where every time you go out drama happens? Right? Like do you think that's just a coincidence like do a little experiment with yourself like try to not hang out with that person for a little while and see see if your life changes a little bit Okay, like some of you have notices like maybe some of you when you moved out of your parents house Or some of you when you got a new roommate or an old roommate left or you got your own place You notice like oh wow the stress levels in my life have actually gone down And this is why all of this has to do with mental health, right? Like I said in my anaconda video the other day like you have to identify what problems you're causing, right? Like when if you're a victim of childhood trauma not your fault But if you're hanging out with people who are increasing your stress levels that is Something that you can change you can set up boundaries and not hang out with those people It is very it is not very easy, but it's very logical to say listen I love you, but I cannot hang out with you right now. Listen listen. Here's my thing. I Was young I was crazy. I did all these things like that was a lifestyle I was in but looking back on it. I had no right to play the victim I had no right to play the victim like oh my god Why do crazy things only happen to me? Like that was that was a form of delusion that I lived in for a long time a very long time Like if you love the chaos and you embrace the chaos do your thing baby. Do your thing I'm not here to judge but I don't want you to sit back and have these chaotic friends surrounding you and for you to sit here and be Confused or as shocked as tana is when crazy things happen if you go out and leave live a crazy lifestyle Crazy things are going to happen. That's how life works. I've mentioned in the other videos before I do not have a crazy life anymore. I hang out. That's what I do I make YouTube videos play video games with my son hang out with my beautiful girlfriend mess around with my cats You know like life. It's pretty chill today All right, so if you want a chill life if you want to decrease your chaos start removing chaotic people from your lives All right, but anyways anyways, let me know down in the comments below Have you had to cut people out of your life? Have you had to cut friends out of your life because every time you hung out with them or every time you talk to them? There was constantly drama or chaos going on. All right, let's have a conversation down below Anyways, that's all I got for you with this video if you like this video Please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos And a huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on patreon. You are all amazing Oh and surprise my mom some of you have already met She's gonna be on my channel because she's coming to town this weekend for Christmas boo. Yeah, thanks so much for watching I'll see you next time