 Years ago I remember reading from a baseball book, and I've also heard this said in Cricket as well, the concept that to be a good fielder you have to want the ball to come to you. And that always stuck with me, I mean clearly just literally speaking wanting the ball to come to you does not make it any more likely to come to you, the way you might just be standing out in that field for a long time and maybe the ball comes to you maybe it doesn't. So why would wanting the ball to come to you make a difference? It seems like this is part of making an active mindset, a mindset that is ready to face challenges and new experiences, new opportunities. Being ready, the idea of wanting the ball to come to you is sets up this mentality of I am ready to take whatever comes my way versus the opposite of not wanting the ball to come to you is more like oh how can I hide and how can I how can I just get through this day without anything happening which is a much more passive approach to life where you just hope that nothing happens. So I am not I don't play much baseball or certainly much cricket but I like thinking of this I like using this metaphor for life. I've certainly spent a lot of my life with a more passive mindset of just trying to avoid challenges trying to get by just like a fielder hoping that the ball never comes to him just hoping that they can stand there get through get through the day get through the the experience and just be done which you know when I put it in those words is kind of a terrible mindset but imagine the mindset of I am ready for some new challenge I am ready for something to hit me I am just on guard and prepared to meet whatever challenge comes my way that is the active approach to life and I think that what I find interesting is the idea that you know wanting something or not wanting it that doesn't change reality but it changes the mindset with which we face whatever happens so that I can accept happily every time there's a new challenge it's not like oh why did I have to take this child why do I need another problem yet another problem in my way when is it going to end versus okay here we go here's a challenge now I will address this challenge I'm ready to address it that's the difference so I'm going to work on cultivating this mindset where I am happy to take on challenges of course not creating trouble never creating trouble where it's not necessary because there's always enough challenge there's never a need to create new trouble there's always more than enough to go around but an attitude of whatever happens to come I am ready and I will happily embrace it when I start my day I have a plan a program for what I'm going to do with that day but there can always be interruptions surprises unexpected problems and challenges to deal with and I can go into my day accepting gladly the idea that this is going to be part of a day this is part of what it means to live is to have these things popping up every day and again of course not encouraging problems and if there are problems popping up I can later analyze you know why are these interruptions happening and perhaps make changes so that they don't happen again or don't happen unnecessarily but each time that a challenge does happen I think the ideal is to face it just like a fielder on the field ready for a ball to be hit to me at any moment so that problems can pop up any moment new challenges new surprises we have to deal with can pop up every moment and rather than lamenting them we can be happy that it's now time to deal with the next challenge and that's the task of life