 Hi y'all she was seven. I'm back. Okay, so I know it's been like a week and I'm sorry But I just have to make this really quick video today because I have been seeing so much crazy stuff on Facebook I'm in a group that's like, you know about makeup and cosmetics and stuff And this is the last place that I thought I would see something that I could like talk about on this channel but there were like these women in a Conversation and you know one of the posts and they were saying, you know, I hope my my daughter or my son turns out gay Because I don't have to worry about them, you know being hurt or being used or being You know heartbroken and all this kind of stuff is or getting pregnant It's just gonna save me so much trauma trauma and trouble as a mother of a teenager later on and I you know they were just hoping that their child was gay and There there's nothing against gay people. I mean, I have gay people in my family. I love gay people So this is not no kind of gay bashing video This is just the reality of the world we live in where a mother wishes their child would you know be gay or lesbian because of What's out there to choose from okay? So that's like a wake-up call that was like a wake-up call to me because these were all different race women They were Asian Black white Latina women all of them were all different races and they were saying the exact same things. They were saying, you know Yeah, a lot of guys are not, you know, like they used to be so my child's gonna have to be independent anyway They're they're not gonna be able to depend on someone I'd rather not I would rather her not get pregnant With someone who could not take care of her or the child I would rather her just you know focus on her career and focus on this and that and You know maybe have a girlfriend blah blah blah and I was reading this and I was like, oh my god this is so sad because even if the child was straight and You know, they're gonna they're gonna have to put up with this type of stuff because you know hope and you know I hope my child turns out gay is just hope because a lot of people are straight So if your child is straight, you're gonna have to deal with this kind of stuff You're gonna have to teach them, you know the type of men that are out there and Sadly women are being forced to become more masculine in this society and so You know It's sad that we're gonna have to gear our daughters to become more masculine and they can't even enjoy being you know in their femininity It's just sad You know some some girls are going to be able to get what they want from a man in life And some are not you know, there are some that there's just some girls that are just born gorgeous Dropped it gorgeous and people are gonna fall over there and try to do stuff for them just because of the way they look But the average female is not gonna have this type of attention From men, so they're gonna have to actually become more masculine to take care of themselves and It's just gonna be the sad reality of the future of females, you know either we're gonna Be extra feminine and extra Successful in our own right Or we're gonna be extra masculine Because we're gonna have to support ourselves because guys are not You know men anymore, and they're just a roommate type situation so like I think Raising your children to be very independent is going to be very important if you have children like an elementary and high school You know do not raise them to depend on what's out there but if They do enter into a relationship make sure it's with someone who can take care of them Okay, I don't wreck like a lot of people will disagree with me on this to the 10th millionth degree but I Don't recommend Getting married to a man if he's gonna make you go out and work for another man. That's just me. I'm just sorry Now if he gives you money to start your own business and you can build your own and Contribute to the family that's perfectly fine because you're not working for anyone and you can hire help Or you can you know put your business on hold if you need to start a family or raise your children You know you're you have that choice, but if your man says hey, I don't care You know you have to get up and work. You've been in the bed three days. You just had a baby You got to go back to work because I need help with his rent. That's not a man to me Okay If you're if you are going to marry do not marry a man Who's going to force you out of the bed with your newborn child? Hand that newborn child over to a stranger and get your butt back to work because he needs help with the rent That's not a man. I would rather I would rather my child be single than have to deal with that mess like seriously so And also guys don't try to start a family don't get a woman don't try to be in a relationship if you cannot afford One if you lay down with the woman with no condom on and you know that there's a chance that she can get pregnant and you're And like y'all are in a bad situation and your butt cannot afford To pay for anything by yourself You know in case your wife can't work or your girlfriend can't work Do not lay down with her with no condom because a lot of guys always blame the girl But you're the one you're the one that's taking that chance in that risk Okay So strap a little get of a second me do whatever you need to do but don't complain after the fact, okay? Ah So yes Ladies do not settle for less if your man cannot say okay, baby Take two three years off of your career or job and I'll take care of you until the child's old enough to go to school If your man can't say that to you, then he's not a man. Okay. I'm just sorry I know that there's situations out there where two people have to work But if you're gonna start a family and your husband makes you get up out of your bed after three days of after giving birth That's not a man to me. Okay, so make sure you marry someone or save up enough money to where you can take a year or two or three years off To raise your child because that's the most important thing If your man needs help paying the rent and you know To me, it's just it would be such a turnoff I would be like, you know what if you don't even turn me on anymore. What can you do for me? You know, that's just I have to leave our child with a stranger and get up and go work under someone other man Because you're not man enough to take care of your family. Oh, you just turn me off, you know, I Would not be able to sleep with that kind of person. I would be like You know, that would be me. Okay, because I'm just being honest I'm just I just can't help. I'm I'm being honest with y'all. There are some women that will love someone no matter what No matter what they do they're gonna they're gonna support them go out there and work like a dog get up after Three days of giving birth still bleeding child still has their bilk accord attached to their belly But and they will go out there and work for that man just to keep a man. Okay, but that's not me If you are not man enough to be able to provide protect your woman and child you just not a man and you don't deserve one and honestly, I think all men Should really consider Before they stick their penis inside of a woman without protection all of that I just did because it's sad That You know a lot of men Will start a family and have no intention of being a provider, you know And then someone in the comments said oh, I like her I like her personality But it just sounds like she's talking about like black man and This is more than black man, I see white guys commenting well, you know, this is why You know, I see a lot of white guys commenting off of the MGTO W Videos and stuff like that. So this is not just black guys. These are white guys too. Y'all and this I don't want to pull Latina man into this because a Latino man into this I'm sorry. I don't want to pull Latino men to this because they're very family-based and oriented and you know, it's you know props to them we can learn something from Latino men, they're very loyal to their spouse and Even though, you know, the Latina woman works She's not gonna be working while she's like super pregnant and she is gonna be able to take care of her kids And most of the time their mothers live with them to help raise their family, you know and a lot of households I know that's how it is on this family down the street the grandmother the mother the father and The sisters all live together and so they all take care of each other, but that's just you know, they're culture Americanized culture is like, you know, you know mom dad and The siblings are in the house. And that's it. You don't have extra Or they have to hire help or send them to daycare and stuff like that. So it's not going to be easy the man has to be You know responsible enough To be able to handle his woman not working for a couple of years Before he starts his family, you know So and I know a lot of women get you know getting married and then they want to have kids right away And the man say well, we can't afford kids because you're gonna want to take off and blah blah blah and that's an issue That's why before you get married You choose the type of man who who you already know is gonna let you and allow you and be able to support you financially If you decide to start a family, you know, you don't you don't base You don't base it off potential you base it off what you can see what's tangible at the time Okay, and everybody has potential a bum has potential. Does that mean he's gonna be Donald Trump next year? Does that mean he's gonna win the lottery in two days? Does that mean he's going to you know Clean up himself and go work and get it and get a job Does it yes or no? It's a gamble. So I don't base anything on potential. I base on what I can see and touch so This basically is a rant because of what I saw on Facebook and all all these ladies are saying Oh, I wish my child was gay because the world they have to grow in up and sucks as far as partners are concerned, you know and They were just going in on it. They started a whole competition Oh, I hope my daughter's a lesbian because I sure don't want no guys missing over her or you know Breaking her heart or leaving her with like five kids By herself or who can't afford, you know to support her and has her out there working for it like a dog You know, I would rather her be happy and to be a lesbian And that is the sad truth of what's really going on and this wasn't even a group about that It was about makeup. Okay, so as you can see it's on everyone's mind and it's really sucks out there And I would hate to have to be dating and this Society of men and in this generation of men I would feel like I was a lesbian anyway because I would feel like I was dating another woman, you know So I'm gonna leave it at that and I know I'm gonna get a lot of people there. Oh, oh That's the problem with you. It's not a problem with us, okay? We are we've always been the same way women have always been Materialistic women have always wanted men that would make their lifestyle comfortable women have always been like that Okay, always the only problem is that most guys, especially black men have grown up With seeing one parent contribute to the household, which is the woman So now they think it's normal for the woman to be the provider or to to pay money to You know have a roof over their head, but that's really backwards It's supposed to be the other way around your the single mothers were actually doing the man's job because the man left So if you want to be a single mother man If you want to act like you're you know a mother a woman Who had no choice but to be the man and the woman? Then that's totally up to you, but I'm just telling y'all y'all are all thinking backwards you were raised, you know Sadly you were raised without the good example of what a real man is and now you don't even know what it is So you're just Thinking the woman is supposed to pay because that's what you saw your mom do. It's pretty sad, you know Was your mother happy doing all that? You know, do you wish that she didn't have to do that? You know, did you get the attention you thought you deserve as a child while your mom was slaving away? Did you really? Okay, so no, it's not supposed to be like that y'all It's not supposed to be like that and I don't care how unfair you think it is It's not supposed to be that little women can say it's unfair that we have to give birth and have periods and man Don't but we're not sitting up here complaining about it starting groups over it Man should have periods. Oh man should be able to give birth. No, we just take our our role and we go with it Okay, you're protected provider. That's why you're bigger. So you're taller. That's why you're skilled at certain things Okay, and if you don't if you don't use it, you're gonna lose it And that's what's happening All right. I'll see you guys later. Bye