 G'day mate. So I've got a heat-speed strike on my main channel yesterday for my completely innocuous Livestream of Jew sex and capitalism too Give me a heat-speed strike It's just this calm reason thoughtful discussion of different approaches between Judaism and Christianity to the natural passions such as the passions for money passions for sex, passions for honor, passions for fame, passions for status, passions for success and it got a heat-speed strike crazy so just thinking about this idea people talk because they want something so What are the reasons that people talk to you? What do they what do they want from you? When they talk to you so Probably most of the time most of the Talk directed your ways because people want to connect with you want to build their relationship with you their friendship Right. We're wired to connect to people. So I think that's the primary reason we talk is to connect because your happiness level essentially equals the quality of your relationships And the deeper your relationships the happier most people feel and the way to deepen relationships is through communication spend time together intensity of the interaction frequency and length those are the components of of friendship So we talk to connect So what are we doing here? Why are we talking here? on on YouTube What are we what are we getting out of this? so I guess another reason that We talk is to ask for help and another reason we talk is to give help to other people Then another reason we talk is to get clarity about What we need what we want what we really think We want to assess what's going on in the world around us. We often want information so that we can better navigate say a work issue or say a computer problem or You don't know about someone that you're you're dealing with so you want to get feedback on what sort of person is this like where are they at now? Do they need help? Are they dangerous? so that's a big reason that we communicate and then I think men talk a lot to show off to try to change other people's perceptions of them to raise themselves in social status so men tend to be very eager to talk In length about topics. They think they know something about So for working-class people, it's often something like sports for middle-class people there will be in an area of their educational or professional specialty or or a hobby and But what upper-class people? Upper-class men, what do they show off? I guess probably their their level of knowledge of a particular interest or hobby or some artistic cultural endeavor But who are upper-class people showing off to? Not sure So yeah, men Big reason men talk is to show off is to try to change their social status much more than with women women I think their primary reason they talk is to share feelings and they just feel driven to share feelings with Usually with people they like and have some connection with So I think another reason we talk is to try to figure out If we like someone or if we matter to them So we may really like someone And we find ourselves talking even though we have no evidence that they like us That's an incredibly dispiriting feeling when you're talking to someone who has no interest in what you have to say So People talk as they want something. So what are the reasons people talk to you? So people talk to me Probably the the main Reason they talk to me is to connect is to bond to deepen our acquaintance ship friendship And sometimes people talk to me because they want to get me into bed Right, or we talk to people because we want to try to get something from them We want to get a job or a promotion or a reference or help with our computer or car or our taxes or dealing with city bureaucracy Or trying to figure out how to observe a Jewish festival Or what's the best book on a certain topic? So Yeah, I notice people primarily talking to me. I think for connection And a lot of people talk to me for help See I'm heavily involved in 12 step programs so They may want to tap into my experience strengthen hope around certain issues Or on the the steps or the tools of a particular program Then I noticed a lot of people will want to talk to me because they I guess I seem sympathetic And They may have a spouse who's ill They're very worried about they may be worried about their kids is a drug addict I just that They want to share their worries and concerns. This is as much more women than men Uh men Generally speaking seem quite reluctant to Talk about their worries fears concerns and negative emotions But women if they like you they they're much more open to sharing that stuff Then often people talk to me to get yeah to get my help to answer questions or in business People will talk to me because they they want something some Expertise that I have or I've agreed to do a task or provide a service in exchange for the payment so It's not the reason people talk to me Then a lot of the times people talk to me because they want to show off How smart they are Right, so why do why do people chat here on live streams? What's what's going on with that? What's the motivation? for that so so for the outgoing person Making conversation connecting with people interacting with people Generally a source of energy That's the mark of the extrovert while for introvert talking to other people It's generally tiring It wears them out so someone like ultra high tea seems very extroverted he seems to get energy by throwing down his comments in the chat other people why do people write comments in the chats of these live stream so And people like alex large they want to talk about the stock market They know that these live streams tend to attract a very intelligent audience. So They want to discuss what's going on in the world with other equally intelligent people What's going on with the stock market? Is this a good trade? Is that a good trade? What's a good investment now? so some people have Come to do business together as a resort of meeting on these live streams They've made a lot of money together Other people just like socializing together because they met people on these live streams so I think part of reason that people comment is they don't want to feel alone that they want to share their frustrations And this is a friendly side to do that with frequently like-minded right-wing inclined people or certainly political, cultural religious dissidents So this is a safe space to share so People enjoy making comments sharing concerns or raising questions because this is this is a space where They find that those needs get met and people comment to provoke to express their displeasure their anger Try to wind me up. I want to knock me down people comment to show off how much they know People comment often because they get joy out of belittling other people They're frustrated. They've had a hard day at work So they come into a live stream like this and they can they can just like let loose instead of kicking the dog They can come on here and kick whoever's annoying them and also people have a lot of fear and anxiety Frustration inability for their life to work to operate as they wish So they'll come on to this live stream and chat and discuss those frustrations So frequently it is people who are not connecting effectively with other people in real life so The audience that these live streams attract They they have more enjoyment talking to this particular audience than they do with people they know in the real world So Why do people talk to you? What is it that they want? from you There's connection There's commerce There's help There's enlisting people in a common cause It's just wanting to reassure yourself that you matter that you matter to someone else so You may find yourself just saying something and seeing what What people say in response If people just give a pro forma response You don't get any assurance that They put any significance on you and so The more socially adept would then just move on But other people are so desperate for connection They'll talk and talk and talk even though the recipient has no interest In what they have to say so How do you react when some some homeless man starts bending your ear? All right, that's that's no fun I know that I don't Don't tend to listen to homeless people talking to me but Other people I'll let them talk to me and bore me and I'll just like tune out think how How How long till I can get out of this conversation? So sometimes I'll give people a mercy listen Right, I'm sure we all do that we feel bad for someone we give them a mercy listen Or the cost of enduring their boring monologue Is less than the cost we feel we'd pay if we walked away Or shifted the conversation Or because we're just simply too weak To tell people that this topic bores me or you bore me so My goal is to have a a reason and a purpose for everything I do for every conversation I have and to not put up with conversations I find boring unless I'm deliberately choosing to give a a mercy listen so Women at a dance will sometimes give a mercy dance to some loser And I'm sure we all give mercy listens to people who are distraught To people who are socially inept to people who don't normally have friends or people to listen to their concerns The people who Just can't help talking and talking and talking even though Others aren't particularly interested in what they have to say but Unlead a purpose for life So if I don't have a reason for being in a conversation I want to get out of it I have other things that I can do With my time I can have other people I can talk to or have books to read or I can jump on a live stream Or I can work or I can meditate. I can make money. I can volunteer for some cause so I don't want to be Stuck in conversations and generally now at age 53 it's it's Less and less frequent that allow people to crowd me And to bend my ear if I have no interest in the topic Unless I'm deliberately choosing to give a mercy listen to someone I'm I want to be out of there So if I'm at a dinner party or a social gathering and I find it boring And I see no prospect for turning things around Then I want to get out of there I get out of there quickly and move on So I think the more clearly we know ourselves the more clarity we have at ourselves and More sense that we have a reason and a purpose for how we're doing things Then the less likely we are to be knocked off our vision, right? That's the great benefit of having a vision overarching purpose to our life That when things come up that detract from our vision We drop them effortlessly often. It's boom. No not interested After you've had the 10th telemarketer right you start to realize when someone's trying to tell you something because Normally people don't go up and say how are you today a stranger? I'd have a stranger cause you up and says how are you today? Sorry about touching my face realize that's a bad etiquette in the age of COVID-19 There's a stranger Calling you on the phone and asking you how you are today then 99.99% of the time it's telemarketer And some people still feel so bad about hanging up on them that they endure it But if you have a strong sense of vision for your life, I think you're much less likely to be knocked off course by telemarketers By other people who want to waste your time And let's see if there's anything going on In the chat Okay, you can't see anything going on here in the chat Okay, it's dead in the chat so People talk G'day Holly Holly the cock. So Holly what what do you notice? About people talking to you. What is it that they want? All right people talk because they want something from you I think the most normal most frequent reason is that people want connection They want to connect with you because they like having you in their life And they want to deepen the connection because the deeper our connections with other people the happier we are I can't think of any other metric that is as accurate the happiness Okay, I have to think about that they want attention. Yeah, okay people want attention But I'm presuming you mean there are people who Who aren't already friends because I assume when friends talk to you it's more than Attention they want connection and to bond So perhaps you're a sympathetic person. So a lot of people May talk to you because you seem like a a nice person and a kind person and Maybe say a little bit socially inept Because if you're bending the year of people who have no interest in what you have to say then you And the odds are about 99 percent you're socially inept and that you don't have normal people That you can connect to So people talk to you because they want something So they want your attention, but what's really going on there Is they want to feel that they matter To you. Okay Usually people call me to get advice and to unload And I don't mind. Okay. So you're a nice person And people know that they can bend your ear They can unload They can talk to you about things that they can't talk to other people about and they also want to tap into your legal expertise In your expertise in other areas. So yeah, people will talk to us to get help That's a very common reason that people talk to us. So People talk because they want something So what are what are some of the other reasons? Like Why am I talking to Holly right now? piece of v This youtube live stream because I get something out of it. She's very smart You're burying your entire audience. How am I burying my entire audience? So I got a hate strike on my main channel So that's why I'm not live streaming over there So I'm talking to Holly right now because she's smart and I enjoy connecting with Holly She is a source of inspiration. She sharpens my thinking She gives me new ideas new perspectives She's very intelligent. She's an accomplished Woman. We have things in common. We went to the same university. We know any of the same people We have many similar political leanings Holly claims she's not that smart All right, and so this is a space where dissidents can come together. So why Why have dissident streams being so popular on youtube because The audience that already holds these views Can't get their appetite fed in the mainstream news media And it's not easy to connect with other people who are dissident beliefs And so that's one reason we show up to these live streams is that we can connect to fellow crime thinkers that we can Talk about things that are otherwise say socially unacceptable that are more risky to talk to to talk about with Most of the people we know in the real world So that's that's why we come on to these live streams. Also. This is convenient Right, we can come on we can Share something and then we can just move right on if we've got to take a call Odds are 99% socially inept It's very difficult to connect in real life with distance. I agree with you there We all need to talk about certain ideas and work through them with a sympathetic audience. Yeah So in real life We don't get to talk about this stuff as easily It's much more dangerous in real life right So Here we can we can be more honest We we Don't need to be as calculating in the things we say In this space We can unload we can We can think out loud We can run through different scenarios or We can shock Right. I enjoy trawling I enjoy shocking people. I enjoy provoking people So a lot of my audience enjoys that Okay What do you want Luke as a talker? Why do I talk? Yes Great questions. Why do I make so many YouTube live streams? And before that I was putting this kind of Energy and effort into my blogging. So why have I been blogging? Since July 3 1997 What do I get out of it if I'm talking right now to you? It means I want something So what is it I want? so Part of the reason is that I think I have something to say that will be helpful to people Or just creating not so much something. I say but a space that I create here On this channel through my various online and in real life activities. I create a space where Distant people can get together We network so I like Creating a place for people to come by creating a space. I like like connecting with people Who Have similar questions or concerns that I do because it's more difficult to connect to such people in real life I like to share my ideas So I'll have an idea or something that I think is an insight so I feel this yearning to share it to express it so I can try to break it down Deeper than that, but if I have a thought or an idea that I'm just like yearning to to express That's That's kind of what what drives me so same reason that painters paint And other people like to play basketball something i'm good at And we we all like to do things that we're good at So I think that's part of the reason We do things that we're good at and Little bit a little bit of the reason I enjoy making a few shackles Making a few dollars from this, but that's not the primary reason Yeah stream is buffering. It's terrible So we want people to know that we went to a concert that we know somebody who's on tv We we talked to show how important we are how smart we are How connected we are How interesting we are I think this is like mainly a male thing, right? We we talked to many other people's perceptions of us and to to show off Yeah, we talked to get clarity to we talked to impress We talked to get help. We talked to give help Okay So one thing I'm noticing in the news these days is all these asians writing up heads about how marginalized they feel in america and these are such solipsistic up ads Generally speaking they're incredibly self-absorbed. You can tell they're using it to try to get sympathy to try to gain victimhood points And to to try to get sympathy or just to get published that they're using this covid pandemic to To get published in the new york times the la times to tell people how hard it is as Asians in in america right now that To share their pain to share their fears their anxieties And these up heads tend to be incredibly solipsistic Right, there's no I just don't recall any Any understanding in these up ads about their The main Northeast asian countries of china and japan and greea. They don't want any immigrants Right, so however, however hard asians may have it in the united states They don't have it very hard Because they earn more money per hour Than any other racial group They save more money than any other racial group. They're more highly educated than any other racial group They have more solid family structures. They live longer They live better So by any objective category, they're thriving in the united states of america. They're doing really really well Yet they're writing all these up ads about how tough they've got it and how hard things are on them and showing no Understanding what things would be like for say some non asian who wanted to move to japan wanted to move to korea Wanted to move to china How modularized They would feel Right, so however racist americans are towards asians. It's nothing compared to What non asians would feel moving to korea china or japan So this lack of self-awareness this solipsism the self-absorption this lack of perspective Is breathtaking I think i've probably seen 30 or 40 op ads By asians in the prestigious media Over the past six weeks talking about how hard they've got it In the united states right now But with no Understanding of Perspective of what things are like for other groups say in asian countries How compared to other countries the united states is about the the least racist least discriminatory least bigoted country around So no sense of proportion no sense of gratitude, right? united states is a country formed by europeans who in the last 50 years have thrown themselves open to All sorts of groups around the world to come and join and These op ads just display no sense of gratitude so I think they mainly just want the status that They're seeing that in the current environment the victimhood brings status and they're clutching for the shiny Ring of victimhood to get published to get status to complain It's boring Come on stop Why can't I stop this live stream?