 Welcome again to another Narc Survival Live video, in this one talking about the signs of a Narciss Defeat, they did all of these things to you, things that you didn't want, things that you didn't like and you revealed it to them that you didn't like what they were doing and yet they still continue to persist, they chose to not leave you alone in peace, they chose to continue abusing you, to continue manipulating you, to continue lying to you for your vacant and gaslighting you, when all you really wanted was to be left in peace, once you had realized what they were and that they were toxic and that they couldn't behave in a normal functional way, so they did all of these things to you, things that you didn't want, things that you didn't like and now what you want to know is the signs that you have defeated them, because you want to give them a taste of their own medicine, you want to know that they are hurt after all of the ways that they hurt you, but that's the funny thing about it, because the very fact that they did hurt you already reveals that they were defeated, because a person must feel defeated before they begin to behave in that way, so they're already acting from their defeat, they were defeated a long time ago, in their childhood they accepted that who they really are is not good enough, so they abandoned their true selves and they created a false character, and this false character manipulates and exploits people, it has to attain a possession of power and control over its target, it can't be vulnerable, it can't connect to you or anyone else, and that is how you know that yes they are defeated, they were defeated a very long time ago, and as I've said in past videos all a narcissist can do is manipulate you, the best you will ever get from them is an illusion, and that's just how it goes when you've already been defeated, because when you've been defeated and you've lost yourself all you can do is manipulate someone, all you can do is be fake, all you can do is deceive, and that is all they can do, because since they abandoned their true self, now all they have is a void, which means that they can't be alone, they have to have a source of supply, they have to attach themselves to someone, but then because they have this attachment disorder they can't attach to you fully, which means that they also can't detach, because at the beginning of the relationship you are knowingly rejected them, as you may not have said anything openly, but they can detect it, they constantly scan in your body language, your facial expressions, your tone of voice to see if there's anything that you disapprove of them, so they already felt defeated right at the beginning of the relationship, and then from that point on that's why they become so hateful, bitter and resentful, because you rejected their formal self, you didn't accept it as being true or real, or it wasn't good enough for you because it was fake, it was manipulative, deceptive, so you weren't willing to tolerate it, and when you reject a narcissist's true self, they also feel about pain and rejection of their true self as well, when you reject the false self, because instantly when the false self has been rejected and it feels like it's not good enough, that's when they lose the false self, it deflates, their ego deflates, and then they trigger to reflect on their true self, which they already feel like it is not good enough, so then in that moment they just feel completely worthless inside, and that is when it could get quite dangerous for you because they will want to lash out at you, when they feel defeated they see it as an attack on their false character, their false image, so then they will want to lash out at you, which means that in some cases they could become physically violent, or as we know these days their preference is to engage in emotional or psychological abuse, and I assume that the reason for that is because physical abuse on children is not really accepted these days as it was before, so parents aren't really doing that to their children anymore, and instead these narcissistic parents may just emotionally and psychologically abuse the child, so then that's the environment that they used to, maybe they weren't physically abused, like children of narcissists were before a few decades ago, so for that reason that's probably why it's becoming more common these days, and also because of course if you put your hands on someone as physical evidence they could get in a lot of trouble, they could go to jail, narcissists want to remain safe, comfortable and secure even while they're abusing their victims, so that's why their preference is emotional and psychological abuse, because narcissists, unlike psychopaths, they will only do things if they think they can get away with it, while a psychopath they don't really care if they can get away with it or not they're still going to do it, but narcissists they want to avoid getting caught, they don't want to have to deal with the consequences, psychopaths I'd even think about the consequences, they don't even think that far ahead, they are beyond caring completely, but narcissists do, and that's why their preference may be emotional and psychological abuse, because they want to feel protected, they want to feel like they can get away with it, so that they can continue to maintain their false character and the illusion and continue getting that positive source of supply as well, without that threat to their exposure, they can continue pretending as though they're these kind, sweet, loving, caring people, these Samaritans, these communal narcissists, these charitable people, they want to continue playing that role, because that's a potent source of supply, and that's actually their preference, that's like their diamond source of supply, but the problem is they can't sustain it for a long period of time, and that's how they typically fall back into the coal sources of supply, and that suggests like a reenactment of what they experienced in their childhood, so they want to play that out with you, but in a way where they don't get caught, and where it's not a threat to their false image and the illusion, so that's why they will continue to abuse you, because actually they like it, I mean they do like the admiration of their false self as well, but once they know you're on to them and you're not buying into it anymore, you're not falling for their lies, their future faking, then they start to enjoy abusing you even more, I mean that's really the turning point of it all, it's when you're not validating the false character, when you're not making them feel perfect as though there's nothing wrong with them, when you stop doing that, then immediately they're going to find more fulfilment in abusing you, but even if you don't stop doing that, then they still can't sustain it over a long period of time, and it's typically the people who are closest to them, those are the ones who will see that abuse, but this is how you know that you've defeated them, these are the signs, anytime that they try to hurt you, it's because they feel hurt, hurt people hurt people, they've got so many unhealed traumas that they bring to you and project on to you, they put that on to you, and instantly, I'm going to have said this before, whatever you're around someone, always pay attention to how you feel, no matter what they're showing you, it's what they feel deep down, of course NASA says they are masters of manipulation, they know how to orchestrate a situation, they can plan and coordinate the elements to produce their desired effects, to get the response that they want from you to validate the false self of that, so that they can feel attractive and desirable, powerful and important, so that's what they're trying to do, anytime that they're trying to affect you, it's because they already feel defeated, all they can do is manipulate you, the best you will ever get from them is an illusion, when they're manipulating you, they are being fake, that's not who they really are, it is a false character, are they using the false character because they already feel defeated, they can't be who they really are, they can't be vulnerable, they can't be intimate, they can't connect to you because they already feel defeated, they feel like they're not good enough, deep down they believe that they are unlovable because their parents did not accept to approve of their false self, so that's why they now use the false character to manipulate you, and also anytime that they try to hurt you and when they rage, these are signs of their defeat, or sometimes they may triangulate you with another person, they may try to make you envious or jealous of what they have with them, and when they're doing that they're really just projecting these negative traits about themselves onto you and getting you to agree with that, to make you feel like something is wrong with you, you're not good enough, that's how you couldn't sustain the relationship with them, but actually know it was the other way around, and let me be that reminder to you, let me remind you of how much you tried, you gave it your all, you gave everything you had and it was never enough, they still weren't happy, they still wanted more, because they're very greedy and selfish, nothing could ever be enough to fill that void, so they're always going to want more, and deep down they know that it is them, narcissists do understand that something is wrong with them, that's why they hide, that's why they're often so covert, so they keep a code of silence, because they know that they're corrupt, they know that there's so many things wrong with them, and that's why they run off, and yeah it may look like they're running from you, I can tell you they're just running from a reflection of themselves that they do not like, but they do not want to see, because remember they got around you and they shared these parts with you, at some point they opened up and they became vulnerable in a way, when they experienced their narcissistic injury and you saw their rage, so they revealed these parts of themselves to you, you'd think if they loved themselves at all they would have stuck a brand, no once they devalue you then they discard you, they got to get rid of you, and then they go off with someone else, they start again with someone new, because they're running from themselves, and then they run off and take up a new character with someone else, this is why they do not like long-term relationships unless they can keep you under a spell, unless they can gas like you, because they do not want anything to do with themselves, they do not want to see a reflection of themselves, that's why they go off with someone else after they project all of this stuff onto you, and your identities switch, it's like you become them and they become you, so you take on all of these negative traits about them, they project that all onto you and get you to agree with it, as though that's who you are, other than they become you, they take bits and pieces of you to add to this false character that they've created, which they then use to manipulate another person, who may be naïve and unaware, when most cases it's another toxic person, they may be a narcissist as well, it may be a grandiose narcissist and together they create the solution to manipulate you so that they can bond over your destruction, because that's the closest thing that they ever get to experiencing joy, it gives them a thrill, it gives them a sense of euphoria, when they can make you think that something is wrong with you and bond over your destruction, and that's all they're really trying to do when they discard you, because they don't want to accept what they know deep down that something is seriously wrong with them, they don't want to accept that, because they lack belief in themselves, they feel like it's already too late as though they should have done the work a long time ago, and now it's not going to make much difference if they decide to start now, well as for us because we do have a true self, we have a true identity, even though they could never accept it because they went to the project, these negative traits about themselves onto us and impose this false character onto us so that they could pull us into their fake world, despite that yeah we do accept ourselves, and that's how throughout the entire relationship it was so easy for us, when this shame came up we could accept it, we could feel it, we could agree with it, we could own it, even though a lot of times it wasn't even ours, so it belonged to them, but we could still accept it and we were constantly just trying to make amends, trying to correct it, trying to make things better, trying to make things right, but no matter what you do for a narcissist it's never going to be enough because they've got these unmet emotions on these in childhood and it's like what difference does it make if you're coming around now, you're coming into my life and you're doing everything you possibly can to try to please me, it's too late, they're looking at it like where was this 20, 30 years ago or however old they may be, where was it back then, because that's what they needed in that moment when they thought and loved by their parents, and I know what you're thinking, maybe you thought and loved your parents sometimes as well, and I understand that, I know I did too sometimes, but it's different because we managed to find that emotional strength within ourselves, we managed to tell ourselves, we knew the difference, we knew that it was wrong, how we were treated, we knew that it wasn't right, as for them, they didn't know, or they didn't want to know, they didn't want to accept it, so instead they chose to continue along that path, and they wanted to be on the other end of it, where they could be then, be the ones who are like the judge, jury and the executioner, were there in an authority to possession, they always had to be in control, they're the boss, they're in charge, it's all because they're damaged, they're broken people, it's of course when you're around them, once you learn to separate yourself from them, and see it from an observed point of view, it's just you're constantly seeing signs of their defeats, their hopelessness, their helplessness, but they've just given up on themselves and their lives, whereas for us we never give up, we've got to keep going until the day we die, many of us for us that's not even an option, we couldn't do that even if we wanted to, as chosen ones, as empaths, this is who we are, our personalities are already fixed, and as Dr Brahmini said in one of her videos, an empath cannot become an assist, it doesn't matter what they do to us, how much abuse we go through at our core, that will always be there, and they can never take that away, or they can do, as if they kill us physically, or if they get us to enter a very deep state of depression, to where we want to kill ourselves, that's the only way that they can put out our light, even then our souls will live on into another life, but yeah when you're around them, you will constantly see their signs of defeats, they will try to project that onto you, and you will feel defeated yourself, unless you're able to separate yourself from it, but if you're around it for a certain amount of time, of course, yes, it's going to affect you, as I've said in a recent video, any interaction that you get into, it will affect you in some way, it's either going to raise you up, or it's going to bring you down, it's going to be one of the two, of course when you get around us, there's the people, unless they're manipulating you, and reflecting your own qualities, which is back to you, and you're susceptible to it, and you believe in the illusion, all it's going to do is bring you down, and even when they are manipulating you, it seems like it's bringing you up, that's actually just an illusion, you're just bringing yourself up, you're just being shown yourself back to you, that's what that is, all they can really do is trick you, or choke you, who they actually are, and that is when they experience a narcissistic injury, that's when they then reflect on whatever it is that's inside of them, this undeveloped true self, this demon, whatever it is, this predator, and then that's when they experience their narcissistic rage, because yes, although they are predators, they do not want to accept it, they do not want to see themselves as predators, unless they can use it as a source of power, but one thing they will never do, and this is how you know exactly what you're dealing with, because that would be the beginning stages of their healing as a narcissist, they will never connect themselves being a predator to vulnerability, that's never going to happen, the only time that they will ever accept what they are as a predator is as a source of power, as a means to hurt you, which is another sign of their defeat, and it's almost like they've sold their souls, because they know that even though they're traumatized, even though they went through all of these things, they feel helpless, they feel hopeless, they feel like there's nothing they can do about it, and that's just the way that they're always going to be, and for most narcissists, yeah they're right, they're completely right, that's how it's going to be for them, it is never going to get any better than that, but yeah you will see these signs of their defeat, especially once you start to catch on and you begin to see who they really are, because the last thing they want to see is a reflection of themselves, what I know for you and for myself as well, it's like that's all we really wanted when we were around them, it's just for them to accept who we actually are, it's like for them to accept us, they then have to accept themselves, which is something they do want to do, they have to disconnect from themselves and their own emotions that even be around us, that's the only way that they can feel like they exist, because otherwise they feel broken, they feel destroyed, they feel like they're not good enough, they can't connect the true self to reality because they feel like it's not worthy, because that true self has rejected a long time ago in childhood, they've got these unmet emotional needs, so yeah you will see these signs of their defeat, and the more powerful of a person you are, the stronger you are, the more signs of their defeat you're going to see, if you're weak, if you're naive, if you're foolish, you're not going to see much, you're just going to see the farce character because they know they can keep you in the matrix, they can keep you under a spell, I can pull the wall over your eyes so they're not going to reveal to you how they actually feel about themselves, they're not going to show you their defeat, they're not going to try to hurt you as much, but once you begin to catch on, that's when you're going to see, that's when it's really going to open Pandora's box, and you're going to see all of these things about them that you may never have seen before, and you may never see them see them the same way again after that, from that point on, because you thought you knew them, but then it's like no, it's this completely different person underneath the facade, it's like this monster, this demon, this beast, just wants to dominate control because they're so insecure, they hate themselves, they're very afraid of themselves, well as for us, I mean we went into a, oh we wanted, it was a relationship, we just wanted a connection, intimacy, we wanted to love them, we did our best to accept them, even when they had the narcissistic injury and they raised it, abused us, we were still there trying to help them, trying to make them better, we still tried, and the reason why we tried so much, because we have that love for ourselves, is because we accept ourselves, because we have high self-esteem, that's why, but again that's the problem, because it's like if you have high self-esteem, you get around an insecure self-hating narcissist, they're going to want to destroy you, that's like throwing a piece of meat to a pack of dogs, they're just going to rip you apart, because you're showing them everything that they're not, and they don't like that, that's why they have to manipulate you, gaslight you, project all of these negative things about themselves on to you, because they cannot accept that you accept yourself, or that you have self-love as high self-esteem, they just can't accept that, because that equates to you pretty much is because you had your emotional needs met as a child, you felt secure within yourself and your childhood, they've never felt secure themselves in their entire lives, that's why they're so out of whack, that's why they're so unstable, that's why whenever you get around them they're always trying to destabilize you, that's why they're always trying to do that to you, because that is their internal condition, they feel destabilized within themselves, especially when they get around you, and the reason why is because you've got that self-love, you've got a high self-esteem, and sometimes when you get around someone who has low self-esteem, they lack self-love, but they can be vulnerable, so they can accept that, they're not pushing it away, that type of person won't attack you, they won't seek to harm you, because they can accept that with themselves, so they don't need to, they don't need to experience this self-harm, because that's really what it is, self-harm vicariously through you, they don't need to do that, narcissists do because they're in denial, that's why they're so arrogant, they're so grandiose, they're so prideful, because they just can't be vulnerable and accept, they can't accept that you're just a better person than them all around, they can't accept that, they can't accept that you have high self-esteem, they don't, they can't accept that you love yourself for real, and they don't, they can't accept that you had your remote and needs met and chartered, and they didn't, they can't accept any of that, and that is why they can't accept you, they can't accept you because they can't accept themselves, that is why even if you try to accept them, who you see underneath the mask, that's still going to cause, well not a narcissistic injury because that's already an injury after that, but it's just going to deepen that wound, it's going to make it even worse, and then they're going to want to hurt you even more because it's like, it's too late, all of that time they went through in their lives, and they look at it like, where have you been all of this time, because everyone's just an object, everyone's an extension of them, they don't view us as separate people with our own feelings and needs, so they also put this onto you, this role as their caretaker, unconsciously though, they don't actually realize it, but they're viewing you as their parent and childhood, and you're meant to make up for all of that, all of that trauma, everything they went through, you're meant to solve it all, you're meant to give them the world, you're meant to make everything better for them, because of that childhood trauma, but at the same time they also resent you because it's like, where have you been all of this time, where were you there for them all of that time ago, and that's why no matter how much you sacrifice yourself for them, you could give them the world quite literally, I don't know many of you have done so much for them, but no matter what you do it's never enough, because they needed that all of that time ago, that child, that undeveloped child inside of them, they needed that love all of that time ago, and it didn't get it, so now that's why they're so bitter, they're so resentful, and that's why it doesn't matter what you do, it's never good enough, because now they've got a void inside of them, but that's what happens when a child's emotional needs are not fulfilled, or if they're spoiled, the parent meets their superficial needs, but not emotionally, that can reduce narcissism as well, and yeah this is a problem all around the world, this is why you look on Instagram, Twitter, TikTok, it's all just superficial, it's all fake, people just have these false characters, they can't be real, they can't be vulnerable, because they never had their emotional needs fulfilled as a child, and if you did, as an empath, let me show you one, you will be scapegoated, taunted, the spear campaign, gang stalking, because they uphold you to this role as their caretaker, as their parent, now they expect you to make up for all of that, everything they went through in their childhood, that's where their behavior is so extreme, you're looking at it like, what did I say, what did I do that was so bad, sometimes you make a mistake for the borderline, where it's like they turn molehills in the mountains, but actually no, they're bringing up all of this stuff from their childhood that was unresolved, that emotional needs were never fulfilled, and now they're holding you up to that, it's like, all right, now it's time for you to make everything better for me, after everything I went through in my life, but at the same time, because it's so bitter and sinful, and they can't be vulnerable, they can't accept, that's what we're going to get for them, it doesn't matter how much you sacrifice yourself for them, you can give them everything you have, you could give them your body, mind and soul, and it would never be enough, nothing can fill that void inside of them, their ego driven, they will always want more, because they're not connected to their soul, they don't even have a soul, that's what they always want more, and there's nothing that you can do for them, it doesn't matter what you do, the only thing you can do is leave them alone, set strong boundaries, and get a restraining order, if you can establish or maintain an existing support network, so that you can distance yourself from them, because the closer they get to you, the more they're going to harm you, they're just going to abuse you even more, but no matter what they do to you, it's never going to be enough, they're never going to feel satisfied, they're never going to have that moment where they're like yes, I'm satisfied, I'm full, yes that felt good, no matter how much love you give to them, or no matter how much they abuse you, they're never going to have that moment, it's never going to be like that for them, well as for you, it's like because your emotional need is worth a felt as a child, and your role is more to give, rather than to take, it's like they don't really have to do anything for you at all, just even sometimes letting you help them, you don't even have to receive anything, they don't even have to acknowledge that you even exist, just letting you help them is enough for you to feel satisfied on your own, but as for them because they're on the other end of the spectrum, they're the other extreme, it's the opposite for them, they have to destroy everyone and everything, so that they can get this sense of feeling whole within themselves, and ask probably why the world is the way that it is today, but they've also created quite a conundrum because it's a bit of a problem from all of this abuse that they put on to you, and while they've been spoiled with you, you've done all of these things for them, because of that it just makes them even more greedy, even more selfish, and it's like no matter what they get, they can never feel satisfied, and it's like a drug, they just need more and more, they always need another hit, and it's never as potent as it was in the beginning, they've always got to increase that dose, but it never feels the way it did at the first time, well as for you because you've been, I mean you've been starved of love, not as a child, but after that, once you've been getting into these relationships, once you've been starved of love, you've been starved of emotions, so now you've become hypersensitive, you've become hyper aware to the point where anything could fuel you, stimulate you, satisfy you, for some of you it could even have got to the point where it doesn't even have to be something that exists in reality, it could just be in your imagination, and that's enough for you to feel satisfied, which is a real problem for them, because as we know they're extremely envious and jealous, and anything you get any tiny morsels of attention or satisfaction or fulfilment, that really winds them up, especially since it's kind of like, and some of you may have experienced situations like this as well, where narcissists could have mansions around the world, they could have supercars for God's private jets, they could have whatever they want, whatever they want to in an instant, and do you ever not happy with any of that, are they always want more? Well as for you, you could just go one little thing, maybe you don't really have much in your life, but it could just be anything, you might just go to the shop and buy a hot chocolate, a coffee, maybe go home and just sit by yourself on the couch, watch a movie, they can get jealous of that, even though you're on your own, you haven't got anyone, you haven't got any company, and it's because they know that you've been emotionally starved of love, attention, of oceans, just by being around them because they're narcissistic, they have a void, they haven't got anything to give, they just consume more and more from you, they're never happy, they're never filled, it's very little thing you have, even just spending time with yourself, they can get jealous of that, they don't even want you to have yourself, they don't even want you to share your own company, because they know just you sitting on the couch home alone, watching a movie, you've got a cup of coffee in your hands, hot chocolate, whatever it is, whatever you enjoy, just you doing that, that's going to bring you more joy, more satisfaction than they could ever give to you in their entire lives, yes they already know that, they know they're not good enough, they know they're not capable, they can't satisfy you, and that is a big part of the problem for them, they know they're never going to have that moment, and they know, deep down they know that whatever they get around you, they are aware of this, and it triggers a lot of resentment within them, they really do not like it, they try to push it away, they try to deny it and hold on to the false character, yes they know they understand that when they get around you and they give the false character, they manipulate you, they try to feed you this illusion to get you to stroke their ego, they can feel good about themselves as though they're worthy, as though they're good enough, they're adequate, they know that when they're doing that, it's only because you're under a spell, they know that it's only because they fooled you, they tricked you, you're being manipulated, they know that, that's why they get so mad, and that's why after a certain amount of time, even if you do validate the false character and you give them all of the attention that they want, they will still pull the false character away and devalue you, and treat you with contempt, because at some level they do know that yes, it's got nothing to do with them, they recognise that at some level, they can see it, that you're just brainwashed, you're just wrapped up in some illusion, you're not really connected to them, they know there's nothing for you to connect to, because they know from the very beginning they were playing the game, it's manipulation, it's false character, it's not even real, they already know, they already understand that, so of course it actually brings them a lot of pain, a lot of resentment, even when they're giving it the false character, that triggers them as well, because it's kind of like they know that it's not real, they know that it's just assimilation, they know that they've just pulled the wool over your rise, and do you think you're getting something when in reality you're not even getting that, that's not even what you're receiving, you think you're getting someone who's loving, kind, caring, compassionate, someone who's deciding to build a connect with you, someone who cares about your feelings, they're considerate, they're loyal to you, they're devoted, they actually have the ability to care more about you than they care about themselves, you think that's what you're getting, and that's why you're validating the false self and struggling their ego, and they do make that connection, they do notice that, they see it, and that really irritates them more than anything else, because they can see that it's got nothing to do with them, that's why they hate it when they see you satisfied, when they see you happy, when they see you experiencing joy, they don't like that, and that's why they later devalue you, because it's like, once they understand that, they've made that link, they've made that connection, that's really got nothing to do with them, it's like, what's the point in me doing anything for you, why should I reciprocate, why should I do any of that, when that's just going to make you feel good, and I'm still going to be miserable, and of course they're still going to be miserable, because you think you're connecting to them, you're not, you're not giving anything to them, you think you're satisfying them, you're not, they sacrifice you for their false self, that's where it goes to, they're not even receiving it, and that's why they can ever be satisfied, that's where it goes into the void, the void of the false self, not into the true self, and to develop child self of who they actually are, and that's how they can't heal, and it doesn't really do anything for them, if anything it just makes them worse, and they become even more abusive as time goes on, that's why, so essentially no matter what you do, they will always feel defeated, even if you do stroke their ego, you've got to do the false self, with time, regardless of that, they're still going to become more abusive, they're going to become even worse, they're going to become even more degenerate, it doesn't matter how many fans, how many supporters they have, how many people validate the illusion, they're still going to keep doing that, and it's going to get even worse as time goes by, because it's not even going to them, and they're making that link, that connection, they can see you're not giving anything to them, and that's why they don't feel whole, they don't feel satisfied, it's going to the false character, you don't even know who they actually are, and if you did know you would be running in the opposite direction, you wouldn't want anything to do with them, and they know that, and that is why they hate and resent you, that is why they can't stand you, that is why they feel defeated whenever they get around you, that is why you will always be walking on eggshells, whenever you are around them, and that's why they'll also be walking on eggshells whenever they're around you, because it's like they know what you want, they don't know what you want to see, but if they give that to you it can never be real, it can only be fake, and they're not really about that, they're not really into that, they're just playing a role in order to get what they want from you, but they never really get what they want from you, they're never satisfied because it goes to their false character, so they're also walking on eggshells around you because they're constantly having to play this role, acting as though they're into what you're into when actually they're not, they're not about that at all, they're not about love, intimacy, a relationship or a connection, they're not about marriage or children, they don't care about any of that, clearly if they did care about that, they'd probably be more focused on that instead of abusing you, nice to see this cat just laying here resting, looks so peaceful, I just love peaceful things, that's stimulating for me, that's what brings me joy, and I find it very healing, and of course we would because after all of the trauma, all of the abuse, we just really crave that vulnerability, that connection, I guess that's what brings a lot of you to me in these videos, because unlike the narcissist, I'm not afraid to be vulnerable, I'm not afraid to be myself, and we can be that way together on here, but it's like you could never be that way with them, they could never tolerate it, they could never accept it, they want to do to be fake just like them, and that's why when you get around these fake-ass narcissistic family members or friends, they're all fake just like each other, because they all make each other the same way, and then it's like they wonder why they're all so miserable, yeah that's just the way that they are, and they will always be that way, as for us, we have this space, we have this community where people can be their true selves, and they won't be shunned, they won't be pushed away, and instead we welcome that here, we encourage it, I want everyone to feel safe, where they feel like they could open up and share their stories on cue without being judged, and I do hope that I have achieved that for you, and I guess why I'm so motivated to achieve that is probably because I never had that before, I never had it when I needed it, that space, that room where I was encouraged to be myself, who I am, what I'm really interested in, what I'm really about, because yes that is what I'm about, I am about love, I am about intimacy, and I am about connection, and that's why I'm so proud of this community that I've created, where people can be themselves, where people can't open up, they can't be vulnerable, because I look at it like it's not what they're here, what's the point living this life, if your entire life is a lie, it's all fake, you couldn't even be real, and that's why when I get on cue I like to be the realest of the real, I just like to put it all out on cue, share my thoughts exactly what I'm thinking, because for me that's something that I can feel proud of, when I look back knowing that I gave it all, I gave all of myself, as I put it out on video for everyone to see, instead of denying and surprising myself like narcissists do, instead of just giving you a forced character, so yeah that's what I wanted to do on cue, and I do believe that I have achieved that, even though sometimes we do get some trolls, there are always trolls in these communities, I mean just look on any twitter page, youtube channel, wherever it may be, wherever there's a comment section, there will always be a group of trolls egging each other on, because that's their idea of fun, that's what does it for them, that's what floats their boats, that's what makes them tick, but as for us it's the opposite, we prefer to connect to each other instead of to a delusion, I was gonna say delusion, but yeah it's a delusion as well, I just enjoy getting on here, knowing that I am making a difference for so many of you who have been through so much hurt, so much pain, as I have myself in my own life, and yeah I guess that does kind of medicate me in some ways, for those of us who are on the other end of the spectrum, where it's like instead of hurting people, to feel validated, to get that sense of fulfilment for us, our value is determined by what we give, how much we can help people, making them feel better, even if we are sacrificing ourselves sometimes, it's hurting us for those of us who are codependent, and that's why sometimes we must put ourselves first, we must focus more on ourselves and on our own needs, but of course as soon as you do that, you move further away from that end of the spectrum of codependency, narcissists, the predators of the guard, they will immediately sense it, or they won't like it, they will become even more active, even more enthusiastic about bringing you down, and pushing you back to that other end of the spectrum, because they want you to stay there, they're on the further end of the narcissistic spectrum, so they want you to be on that opposite end, so that it resonates with them, if you're going more to the middle, if you're becoming healthier, then it's no longer magnetic, and that's how typically when someone who has a bit of codependency gets around a narcissist, you remain around them, as you keep sacrificing yourself, you become more and more codependent, for them to continue resonating with you, they have to become even more narcissistic, even psychopathic, and if you really want to mess up a narcissist, that's what you could do, keep giving, give more and more, become even more codependent, continue sacrificing yourself, and they will eventually turn into a psychopath, they really will, they'll all become psychopathic, but in some ways that is quite sadistic, that's quite cruel to do that, but then I guess it isn't because if you're codependent you're not going to be aware of that, you're going to think that you're helping them, but that is what happens to them, the more that you give, the more that you sacrifice yourself, the more narcissistic and even psychopathic they will become, they will get even worse, it's only when you pull back and you stop giving in to them that they could then become healthier, but these are the signs that the narcissist is defeated, hurt people, hurt people, anytime that they try to hurt you, that's out of defeat, and even anytime that they try to manipulate you, it's because they know that the true selves are not good enough, so pretty much anything they do, I mean anything they do is manipulation, it's an illusion, unless you see that narcissistic rage, and even the rage that's a sign they've been defeated as well, so what they can really do is reveal the fact that they are defeated and that they were defeated a long time ago in childhood, by not having their emotional needs fulfilled and being able to do that for themselves, anyway I do hope that you found this video helpful, if you did you can give it a thumbs up down below, let me know your thoughts about this video in the comment section, I'd love to hear from you, I read your comments every day, hit subscribe and click notifications to be notified when I upload a new video, and if you would like to donate, you can leave a super chat, a live chat, a super thanks in the comment section, or you can go to my PayPal, it is paypal.me slash Narcseviver, and if you'd like to book a one on one with me, just go to my website, it's narcseviver.co.uk, and you can also follow me on Instagram, I've got new pictures and videos for my travels, which I upload to my stories every day on there, and also I'm uploading pictures and videos from 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