 Okay, hello, hello, hello, hello, hello. Got me? Got me in the back there? All right, good. Very cool. All right, welcome back from lunch, everybody. Got the tech set up. Everyone's having their seats there. Good luck having that bean burrito with queso on the side, settle in your stomach. Now, anyhow, coming up here, so far we've talked a little bit about attraction, meeting women and stuff. This next guy coming to the stage all the way from Boston, about to make a move to Texas, is gonna talk about what's going on in the bedroom. Boom, right down to the good stuff. And it's his first time speaking here at the 21 Convention and coming around you'll find a piece of paper where he's gonna give you a special discount distributed by our lovely assistant, Christina. She's gonna be giving you a paper that will pretty much lay out how you get a 50% discount on his book, Sex God Method, if anything, he's humble. Now, ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the stage, Daniel Rose. Give it up. What's up, guys? Okay, so in my presentation today, I'm gonna be talking about sexual competence. My book, The Sex God Method, covers all aspects of sex. And at the end, I would like you to invest in it. But in this one, I'd like to deliver a ton of value to you guys and give you some really, really good stuff which you can take away and build sexual competence with. And I don't just wanna give you a speech where you hear a speech and you get entertained. I want you to have some written action steps which you guys are gonna take and which are individualized and customized to you. So ideally, as a result of this speech, you guys will be doing a couple things which are gonna directly improve your sexual competence. So in this presentation, we're gonna cover, number one, why I have come to believe that sexual confidence is the number one most important thing for dating, okay, for picking up women, and also obviously for giving women orgasms in the bedroom. Now I believe that if you don't have sexual confidence, then it's gonna be virtually impossible to give women orgasms and it's gonna be virtually impossible to attract them. So obviously some really important stuff. Number two, I'm gonna show you my radical new model of how sexual confidence is built. Why I believe that all methods of building sexual confidence in the past were wrong and how they actually make your sexual competence worse. I'm gonna show you the new way which I've used and which some of my students have used which we've gotten some great results from. Number three, we're gonna talk about six counterintuitive strategies to improve your sexual confidence, to make you feel better about yourself in the bedroom and to make you more masculine and more sexually attractive. And finally, kind of as a part of this, I'm gonna work in some hard and fast techniques for giving women orgasms and giving them really incredible pleasure. So, get some good stuff. But first, I'd like to kick this off by asking you guys a question. How many of you guys, at any point, have ever been insecure about the size of your penis? Stand up and raise your hand. That was good. For everybody who had the courage to stand up and raise your hand, I really give you props because I like to do little experiments like this a lot of the times when I talk and I find that the guys who have the courage to admit that they have that insecure is about the size of their penis are actually the most sexually confident. But there were like five guys in this entire room who stood up and raised their hand. But I think we all know that every guy, regardless of how big it actually is, has had insecurities about that at one time or another. And then every guy has thought about it at one time or the other. And then for some guys, it's so bad that they're buying extents and the penis pumps and all the enlargers and stuff like that. But every guy has thought about it at one point or another but we have difficulty even emitting it. We have difficulty even talking about it. And this brings up a really important issue that I think is holding a lot of guys back with sexual confidence. We as men, especially men in America, it's socially unacceptable for us to even begin talking about issues which pertain to our sexual confidence. It's socially unacceptable for us to even think about them or to even admit to ourselves that we might need help in one of these areas. And this creates a big problem because sexual confidence, I believe, is the number one most important thing. And if you can't talk about it with anybody, I mean, if you can't even think about it to yourself, it's a problem because you can never make it better. So the first thing which I would ask of you guys going into this presentation is to come in with a really open mind and to recognize that a lot of men have problems in this area but they have difficulty admitting it. I want you to think about where could I improve my sexual confidence? Where could I improve my sexual skills? And don't just think that you know it all which is the classic mistake that many men make. So that's the first thing I wanted to point out about sexual confidence. Come in with an open mind and realize that every guy can stand the benefit from learning this stuff. So why do I really believe that sexual confidence is so important? Well, when I first started teaching sex, I noticed that when guys were coming to me, what they wanted was the technique. They wanted to know the way to move their fingers. They wanted to know the sex position that's automatically gonna give their orgasms or they wanted to know like 27 different techniques for oral sex. And at the beginning I would teach this stuff because that stuff helps. I mean, it's good to know. It's good to know different ways to give oral sex. It's good to know different sex positions but ultimately, if you're not a sexually attractive guy, it's not gonna make the difference for you. If you know 25 different sex positions and you're a nerd, you're an even bigger nerd. I mean, it's really not gonna help if you know a lot of techniques but you don't have the sexual confidence to back it up. So this is why I believe that sexual confidence is so important in the bedroom. Once you have attained sexual confidence, you can use pretty much any technique you want and she's gonna like it. You're gonna give women orgasms. It's gonna be really pleasurable experience for you and her. Or if you want, you could use no technique at all and just make it feel good for you and make it feel good for her and that's gonna be great sex. And another thing which I've noticed is that ever since I started teaching sex, I wasn't really focused on the pickup and dating side so much but I noticed that the more I approved the bed and the more sexual confidence I got, the better my results with women gut. I was a type of guy who before I got into all this stuff, I had a lot of what's called quote, intergame issues where I would get super nervous when I was going to talk to a girl. When I was going to like get her phone number, I would like freeze up and then not go for it. When I was going to kiss her, you know, I would get like super nervous and I knew that was my opportunity but somehow I just couldn't pull the trigger. When I was going to have sex with her and sexually escalate, I would like freeze up, I wouldn't know what to do and I would just have all these quote, intergame problems and for a long time I really wondered what was at the root of this? Why was I always freezing up and why did it seem to not go away even when I got more experience and finally I determined it was because of this. It was because I lacked the sexual confidence, okay? I knew that ultimately before I learned this stuff, I would disappoint a girl if I succeeded. So a part of me didn't really want the success because I didn't want to experience that type of sexual disappointment and feeling bad about myself. So I was sabotaging myself, all right? And pick up and dating, I was sabotaging myself and many guys are doing this and if you look at your own behavior, you may be doing this to a certain extent too. So by improving your sexual confidence, you may be able to eliminate some self-sabotage. And finally as we talked about before, if you don't have sexual confidence, no techniques really matter. They're not gonna make the difference. So here are a few different ways that you may have heard of to build sexual confidence in the past. Affirmations, NLP, EFT, hypnosis, and the old standby, fake it till you make it. What I wanna tell you guys is that these ways are not recommended. I don't think that these ways are gonna build any sexual confidence. In fact, I believe that these are actually gonna make your sexual confidence worse rather than better. Basically, I believe sexual confidence is built through action, not just indiscriminate action, but action on a few specific things. And I think that if your way of building sexual confidence involves sitting in a chair and imagining stuff, or if it's an acronym or a buzzword, probably not gonna work. Action, I think is where it's at, not imagining stuff. And I feel the reason why these ways don't work is that they're based on self-deception. They're basically based on fooling yourself. I did affirmations for years, and affirmations are basically telling yourself something which isn't currently true. And I think that this can be very damaging, first of all, because most guys fail. I mean, you can look around, most guys doing the stuff never get any sexual confidence, over 95%. So there's a very high failure rate. And also, guys who have built their confidence through self-deception, frequently what happens is they attract women who have also built their confidence from self-deception, who are energy vampires, and who may look good, but who will really damage your life. So frequently, even if you succeed with this type of thing, it's not the type of success that you would really wanna have. Also, I really truly believe that lying to yourself in any way is the worst thing you can do for your self-esteem and for your sexual confidence, because I feel that sexual confidence is the feeling of being sure that you're a man of high sexual value to her. And the keyword is sure. Once you start lying to yourself, though, you can never really be sure about anything. I mean, how do you know if you're really sexually valuable or if that was just another thing you were telling yourself? So it undermines the feeling of being sure, which is why I really don't recommend any of these methods. Another mistake I wanna point out before we go into actually what to do is a lot of guys think of this as inner game. I really feel that you should remove the words inner game from your vocabulary, and there's a couple of reasons for that. First of all, inner game implies a non-sexual confidence, and the belief that a non-sexual confidence is gonna improve your sex life. In my experience, it does not. If you're confident in your business skills, if you're confident in your artistic skills, it's good to have that type of confidence, but I know a lot of guys who have great business skills, who have great artistic skills, who are confident in many other areas of their life, who aren't having very much sex, and I know guys whose other aspects of their life are a total failure, and they're having great sex lives. Social skills, social confidence is definitely better than having no confidence at all. It can definitely help to get you in the door, but I know a lot of guys who have fantastic social skills, far better than myself, who are not having very good sex at all, who have a lot of friends, who can do some very impressive stuff and who impress other guys, and they have a lot of girls around them, but at the end of the day, their sex life is not that good. So I believe that if you wanna have a great sex life, you need sexual confidence, it just makes sense. I mean, if you wanna have a great business, you need confidence in your business skills. You know, if you wanna have a great social life, you need confidence in your social skills. You wanna have great sex life, you don't need inter-game. You need sexual confidence. And the other thing, as we touched on before, inter-game contains the word game, which implies like tricking and self-deception again. Basically using techniques to trick yourself into being confident when there's no real basis for that. So I really feel inter-game is a very bad concept. Remove it from your vocabulary, replace it with sexual confidence. All right, so the only thing which I feel is gonna build real authentic sexual confidence is what I call sexual value signals. Sexual value signals are basically signals sent, not to your conscious mind, but to your subconscious, what I call your caveman mind. And back before, you know, humans develop civilization and language and all that, these sexual value signals were how you determine kind of your sexual status within the tribe. These are frequently irrational. They're not totally based on what your sexual value in today's society actually is. However, these sexual value signals have an extremely powerful effect on your sexual confidence. These are basically what determine your sexual confidence. And they have an effect on your sexual confidence which you cannot control. They're gonna affect your sexual confidence in the way that they are, whether you want them to or not, whether you think it makes sense or not. Now, this is how guys can develop sexual confidence just through experience and not through doing anything consciously. Basically what's happening is they're getting a lot of positive experience and naturally as a course of that, they're getting a lot of sexual value signals from women and from their social group. However, this can work. I mean, this is definitely far better than trying to get sexual confidence by imagining stuff. But it's a slow process as anybody will tell you. It's gonna take years and I feel that if there's any way you can, you should accelerate your building of sexual confidence as much as possible. So, let's talk about kind of a very negative cycle that a lot of guys get trapped in. Kind of like a dry spell. I'm sure everybody has experiences at one point or another. You get some kind of negative sexual feedback from a woman. Maybe it's not a big deal at first, but just kind of makes you feel a little down on yourself and your sexuality. And this causes your sexual confidence to go down. So you get even worse sexual feedback, in turn leading to less sexual confidence, in turn leading to even worse sexual feedback and becomes a cycle which is very, very difficult to escape. And this is the first thing you have to understand about sexual confidence. It is not a cause and effect phenomenon. A lot of people think that they can do one thing and their sexual confidence will go up a little bit and do another thing and it's gonna go up a little bit and do another thing and go up a little bit. Doesn't really work that way. Really it's more like a cycle where you do one thing and at first it's very difficult and you're probably not gonna see any perceptible difference at all. And you do another thing and another thing and another thing. And the first like beginning months are extremely hard. And this is why a lot of guys quit because they don't realize it's not gonna be that hard forever. The first few months are always gonna be the hardest. And once you've attained success, I mean, who in here has ever talked to a guy who's natural with women and he's like, man, getting girls is so hard. I gotta put so much work into it. This is such a pain in the ass. I mean, who is, what natural has ever said that? I mean, nobody has because it's not hard once you've gotten there. I mean, once you naturally have a lot of sexual confidence, it feeds on itself and you become more sexually confident without doing anything just cause a cycle is going so strongly. So if you're in this place right now, I want you to realize that only the first few months are gonna be really hard. If you can just make it past that, then it gets much easier. So let's talk about how I feel you can develop sexual confidence faster. I feel that ultimately the way to develop sexual confidence is through action, but not just through indiscriminate action, not just through like indiscriminately trying to get more sex. I feel that certain parts of sex and certain parts of dating and pickup have a really massively disproportionate effect on the sexual confidence because these parts send a large amount of sexual value signals, which are subconscious caveman mind interprets as being very important for our sexual worth. The key, I think, to developing sexual confidence and getting better in bed faster than a lot of other guys is identifying what these disproportionately impactful parts of the interaction are, and then really focusing on mastering those parts. And I feel by doing things that way you can master this in months while it's gonna take most guys years and years. So here's a few examples of what I mean by this. I feel that one of the most important parts of sex is after play or building an emotional connection after sex. Heather Havenwood, who's a female sexuality and dating expert, she told me something which I didn't forget, which is the connection that you build after sex and the things that you say and do to her after sex are actually more important than everything you're doing during sex. And I believe that. I truly do believe that. However, contrast that to mastering oral sex. Now, when you master after play, you build a stronger emotional connection and you will start having better sex life in the long term. But when you master oral sex, I believe it's not as powerful of a skill. But something about mastering oral sex disproportionately builds sexual confidence. And it's because once you master oral sex, you have a way to give any woman an orgasm basically anytime you want, no matter what. Even if for some reason you couldn't get it up or something went wrong or no matter what, you now have a way to give any woman an orgasm. Is that as important as building a sexual emotional connection after sex? It's actually not. However, mastering oral sex is gonna have a very large impact on your sexual confidence, much larger than the after play, even though it rationally shouldn't. Another example, emotion. Again, building strong emotions during sex, making her feel strong negative and positive emotions. One of the most important things you can do. However, mastering sexual jujitsu, which is a technique I'm gonna teach you guys to improve your stamina. This is gonna enable you to last longer in bed. Now, emotion, I mean, hands down, definitely more important than how long you're lasting in bed. But the feedback that you get from women while you're having intercourse, while you're insider, is really massively disproportionate for your sexual confidence. It feeds into the subconscious caveman mind again. Emotion is a concept which is difficult for our subconscious caveman mind to understand. But the feedback that we're getting while we're having intercourse with her, while we're insider, very easy for the subconscious caveman mind to understand. So it has a very disproportionate effect on improving your sexual confidence. Here's another example outside the bedroom. Now, there's a lot of different ways to get girls and that'll work. You can get girls through a very social and entertaining style of pickup, or you can get girls by being sexually honest and direct right off the bat. They both work for the individual girl. Sometimes the one will work better, sometimes the other one will work better. But you can see that if you had sex with one girl through sneaking in under the radar and you had sex with another girl through being sexually open and direct right from the beginning, the one is gonna impact your sexual confidence a lot more than the other. If you are direct right from the beginning, then that means she wants you a lot more. Again, not totally rational because in both cases you had sex. But the subconscious caveman mind doesn't understand that it just knows that you were open and she wanted you and that's all that goes in. So, sexual value signals, as we talked about before, can come from her. Obviously the sexual feedback when you're having actual sex with a real woman, that's the most powerful kind of sexual value signal. But there are sexual value signals which do not come from the girl. Some of them are gonna come from your social group. We'll go into exactly how that happens in a minute and some sexual value signals, some important ones actually come from yourself, from the messages you're sending your subconscious caveman mind. Here's one example of how your social group can affect your sexual confidence. I remember when I first started doing boot camps I would get kinda like nervous about how I was gonna do because I did well when I was with my friends and we were just picking up girls on our own. But I was like, maybe the pressure of the boot camp is gonna cause me to perform a lot worse than I normally do. But what I found is that it's actually the exact opposite. When I was doing boot camps I was actually doing way better than I normally did. And I was really thinking about this for a while because it didn't really make sense because typically I was with a few guys who were very nice guys, very well-intentioned but not very socially skilled yet. But despite that I was doing better on the boot camps than when I was with my friends. And I talked to a lot of other guys who were doing boot camps and a lot of them experienced the same exact thing. And the reason why I feel this boot camp effect exists is because of the value signals that the group was sending me. When you're on a boot camp and the students are looking at you not just as a person but as a guru, you know what I mean? And because they have such high expectations of you because they expect that you're gonna be phenomenally sexually successful beyond any normal human being that expectation makes you more sexually confident and translates into more success. So that's one example of how your social group can affect your sexual confidence and indirectly make your sex life better. Another example, here's another one which I think we've all been through before in which a lot of guys don't even think about. What happened to you guys the last time that you got caught masturbating? I mean, I know what happened to me. This was actually after I wrote the sex on meth, after I figured a lot of the stuff out. Like reflexively I just jumped up and it was really embarrassed right away because I didn't even think about it. It was just a reflex that's conditioned in. But when I thought about this later on, I thought about what sexual value signal does that send yourself? That sends yourself the signal that you should be embarrassed about your sexuality if someone walks in on you masturbating and you just get really embarrassed about it. So these are a few examples of how sexual value signals can be sent from people other than the girl and how they can be very important and affect your sexual confidence. So here are some advanced sexual value signals which are really gonna jack your sexual confidence. Number one, a girl having an orgasm during intercourse. Again, not the most important thing in fact, but your subconscious caveman mind thinks that this is the most important thing. Very powerful impact on your sexual confidence if you can pull that off. A girl having an orgasm during oral sex, not quite as intense and again, not as important as some kind of non-orgasmic skills. A subconscious caveman mind thinks it is. Another one, if she's really moaning and bucking in really obvious pleasure during foreplay, that's gonna increase your sexual confidence as well. Compliments on your sexual performance and also if the girl initiates sex with you. That's gonna be another one which is really gonna increase your sexual confidence. And we're gonna go into exactly how to maximize all these things in a minute. But you may be thinking if I'm not having a great sex life right now, how can I kind of get the cycle going? And here are some ways where if you're not quite at that level yet, you can get the cycle going so you do get those value signals coming in. Number one, here's a really small one which can actually be surprisingly important. Looking at yourself in the mirror and seeing a sexually attractive guy, looking like what you physically wanna look like, looking like the type of guys who have great sex life. In actual fact, this is not as important as a lot of guys think it is. But for your confidence, it comes at a very strategic time because this is something which can give you confidence even if you're not getting any positive sexual value signals from one. And we're gonna talk about this in a little while but this is why I really feel that you should work on your physique and your appearance because it gives you a very solid foundation for your sexual confidence where even if you lose everything else, you still have that. Expectations, we talked about this before with the boot camp effect. If your friends expect that you're the type of guy who's not gonna be sexually successful, then the reality is you're probably not gonna be. Now, if they're actively bringing you down, obviously that's bad. But even if they're really well intentioned, what's up? Okay, even if they're really well intentioned, then you can tell that even if they're well intentioned and they don't think you're gonna be sexually successful just because of what they've seen from you in the past, then this can really negatively impact your sexual success. So I feel that if you're hanging around with a peer group like this, then they gotta go. I mean, there's no way around this. They're really sending you the sexual value signals which show you that you shouldn't be having a great sex life. Finally, being honest and open about your sexual intent as we talked about before. I wanna skip to some of the strategies which I have for building sexual confidence now. The first strategy which I have for building sexual confidence is to stack the deck. And here's what I mean by this. We as guys, we typically have a tendency to do things which make great war stories because great war stories where we overcome a lot of obstacles and disadvantages. These are what get us props from our friends. Like this is what men think are cool. However, this type of behavior is, first of all, not very good for getting laid. And second of all, not very good for your sexual confidence. I feel that you should stack the deck and get every possible advantage in your favor before going in so that it's as easy as possible. One example of this is I'm sure you guys have all heard of stories like this where a pickup artist goes in through a group of 10 girls or 10 steroid-using guys and one girl and he goes in and he disarms all the guys and he does all this crazy stuff to overcome all the obstacles and then he gets a girl's phone number. And that's very impressive sounding that. He could do all that, is that phone number really worth anymore than if he just went up to a girl by herself? It's not really, in fact it's actually worth less. It just makes a more impressive story. Another example, what if a sex guru took a girl who had very little sexual confidence, maybe she was a virgin or had sexual abuse in her past and over the course of months really built that up and got her to the point where she could finally have her first orgasm? Very impressive, right? But is it really worth anymore than if you just got a girl who was already sexually confident and she had an orgasm without you barely having to do anything? It's not. And not only is this not good for your sex life, stacking the deck against yourself is really going to damage your sexual confidence. So, what I want you to do is to ask yourself, what can I do before sex starts or before the pickup or dating interaction even starts which is going to give me a massive advantage? And I want you to regard everything as being 50% over before it begins. A lot of guys, they trap themselves being only using techniques which work in the moment. But what you have to realize is that before you've even approached a girl, it's 50% over. And before you've even started to have sex with a girl, 50% of how much sexual pleasure she's going to have is going to already be determined just because of what's happened between the two of you in the past. So, here's a cool way to stack the deck. Who wants to know a way to make your penis one to three inches larger? This actually works, 100% guaranteed. And not only that, it's actually healthy. Who'd be interested in learning that? Okay, well, you may be a little bit disappointed because this is what it is. Bodybuilding, fitness. One thing which I've noticed which can incidentally have an effect on your sexual confidence is that if you reduce your body fat percentage and you kind of had like a gut before, it's going to create the perception that you're a little bit bigger. And I don't think this is the only reason why you should stay in shape, but this is a nice little side benefit. So if you're thinking about extends or the penis extender exercises, this is definitely much more recommended. I feel that the importance of your physique has been drastically underestimated by a lot of the dating gurus out there. First of all, having great physique does have a direct effect to build sexual attraction. Just looking good does turn around a little bit, but it has a much more powerful indirect effect. You're going to get compliments on your looks and if you're not getting any other positive sexual feedback, this can be a very important source of sexual confidence. Another one, as we talked about, you're going to get that social group effect because a lot of guys really drastically overestimate the importance of having an awesome physique and they think that it's everything. They think that if you have a great physique you should be having the best sex life. Not necessarily true, but it can be a very self-fulfilling prophecy. If everybody expects you to be getting laid like that, I've found a lot of the times that's what happens. Another one is that a visual turn on is a huge confidence builder when you first start having sex. If you take off your shirt and she gets turned off, I mean in the grand scheme of things that's a very small amount, but it's very demoralizing because that's the first thing that happens in the bedroom. And if things are going wrong right off the bat, now you have to turn it around and it's much more difficult. Whereas if things are going right off the bat then it's comparatively easy. So I really got to blow through this and I almost hesitate to put the slide in, but I want to give you like my three best tips on bodybuilding to kind of start you guys off. And I want to emphasize, this is the whole field of study and I encourage you guys to devote as much time to this as you do to sex or dating. But here are my three top tips. Number one, I want you to emphasize heavy compound lifts when you're in the gym. This is going to build size a lot more faster than say like bicep curls or crunches which a lot of guys are doing. Number two is I want you to emphasize free weights as much as possible and minimize machines. If you notice that typically a lot of the guys in the machines are not so big, the guys in the free weights tend to have much better physique. Number three is I feel that legs are an important key to success. If you guys have to get us to shout it out, what do you think is the body part that turns women on the most? What do you guys think? Abs? Text? Yeah, I mean typically that's what guys say, abs, pegs, biceps. As it turns out, it's your ass. I've gotten more sexual compliments on my ass and I've found that your arms are more for show. They're actually not really affecting her sexual arousal as much as you would think. But if you have a very strong, powerful ass, this is actually a much more of a turn on than you would expect. I'm sorry. And the reason for this is because she doesn't know this, but biologically she knows that a guy with a very strong, powerful ass and legs is gonna be a very strong, powerful person. Whereas if you're skinnier, then you're probably gonna be a much weaker, less virile man. So don't neglect your legs. And again, I really wanna emphasize that I basically covered a whole field in 30 seconds. I actually started a business with my own personal trainer, Mike Chang. You may have noticed recently I put on a lot of muscle. I was originally about 130. I'm about 160 right now. And the way I did it was by basically following his advice. So if you wanna learn more, check out sixpackshortcuts.com. We have a bunch of free articles and videos where you can really dive deep into that. So that's bodybuilding. Here's another one which I can feel, I feel really improves your sexual confidence disproportionately. Give her an orgasm before intercourse begins. Now here's why I feel this improves your sexual confidence so much. If you give her an orgasm before intercourse begins through finger stimulation or oral sex, what's gonna happen is, number one, it's gonna make it easier for her to have an orgasm during intercourse. And number two, it's gonna take a lot of the pressure off of you. So you're gonna perform a lot better during intercourse. And as we talked about before, the feedback that you're getting from her during intercourse is not the most important thing in the grand scheme of things, but your subconscious caveman mind thinks it's important. So it has a very disproportionate effect on your sexual confidence. And there are many different ways to do this. We can dive a little bit more into the technique later, but basically just realize that if you give her an orgasm before you start having intercourse, then that's gonna be a very good technique to have great sex and to improve your sexual confidence. Here's another one, sexual stamina. Again, the caveman mind really, really thinks intercourse is important. So if you're not lasting that long, if you're disappointing her with how long you're lasting, it's gonna be virtually impossible to have sexual confidence. If you improve your sexual stamina, then this is obviously gonna make your sex life better, but even more than that, it's gonna indirectly improve your sexual confidence. Okay, so here's a few tips to improve your stamina. Number one, a lot of the times during sex, we as guys, we have a tendency to take shallow, rapid breaths. This is very natural, that's a natural thing for men to do, but it's also very bad for your stamina because when you're taking shallow, rapid breaths, something about that makes your body tense. And when your body is tense, it inevitably triggers that ejaculation reflex and you have an orgasm too soon. So the next time that you're having sex, one thing that I'd like you guys consciously focus on is taking very slow, very deep breaths that come from your diaphragm. So your stomach expands when you're breathing in rather than your chest. And this is gonna feel really weird to be consciously thinking about your breathing while you're having sex at first. But just do this like two or three times and before you know it, it's gonna become natural and you'll start naturally breathing that way even when you're very aroused. This is a very simple thing that you can do which is gonna have a small but noticeable effect on your stamina. So that's one thing which you can start off with. Here's another very simple one is the sexual jujitsu technique that we talked about before. One thing which I have noticed is that sex can be kind of difficult for us as men because kind of the nature of sex causes us to thrust into the girls. That's just how it's done. And when you're thrusting, then it's kind of tensing up all the large muscle groups of your abs and your ass and your core and basically all the large muscle groups in your body are very tense. And again, it triggers your ejaculation reflex. So I feel that one thing which you can do which is really gonna help you out is to have what I call non-thrusting intercourse. This is gonna feel exactly the same as regular intercourse to her but it's gonna help you improve your stamina. So here are a few different ways to do this. In the missionary position, rather than thrusting into her 100% of the time, 50% of the time actually stay still, stay relaxed and pull her back onto you. A few ways you can do this, put your hands beneath her ass and actually pull her back and forth onto you. Put your hands on her shoulders and pull her back and forth onto you. And I think you get the idea. Basically, rather than thrusting 100% of the time, part of the time actually stay relaxed and pull her onto you. There are infinite varieties on this theme which you can use. For example, doggy style, rather than thrusting into her 100% of the time, 50% of the time pull her back and forth onto you. To her, it'll feel very similar to thrusting but the benefit to you is it's gonna allow you to stay relaxed and therefore last much longer. Another good one, if you're really struggling with this, is I recommend you use my blow job meditation technique. Here it is. Most of the time when guys are getting blow jobs, you know, it's really enjoyable for us. So we just try to get as much pleasure out of it as possible and it ends up getting us actually more excited and more tense by the time sex begins. What I feel is a good way to improve your stamina is to actually focus on getting more relaxed as she's going down on you before sex and to almost try to attain a meditative state of consciousness where nothing is going through your head, you have no distractions, you're not tense at all and you're just totally relaxed and present and in the moment. And just focus on that while she's giving you oral sex. I find that this is gonna allow you to last a lot longer once intercourse begins. So these are three kind of like quick and easy techniques which you can use which are gonna have a positive effect on your stamina. But I feel the long term solution is not a technique like this, it's what I call immersion. It's attaining a state of mind where you're totally in the moment and totally comfortable and totally relaxed during sex. Once you have this, then you can do again pretty much any technique and you're gonna have great stamina. So I encourage you to just like try these three out, just see that this stuff works and then once you've seen that it works to step it up and to learn immersion which is gonna be kind of a longer term project but ultimately a lot more rewarding. Okay, here's another one. Your subconscious caveman mind responds to these sexual value signals even when they're not 100% of reflection of your sexual skills. If you're with a girl who maybe isn't very sexually confident herself and you're actually doing some good stuff but she's not responding to it but just because of her issues that still affects your sexual confidence even though it shouldn't. Now on the other side, if you're with a girl who's really sexually confident and it's amazing sex every time, your confidence is still gonna respond to all those sexual value signals even when it's mostly the reflection of her and not of you. So I feel that one of the most important things that you can do is to select a girl who's gonna be sending you those sexual value signals who is sexually confident herself. So one very important thing which I feel you should concentrate on this is get out of what I call the Madonna horror complex. This is basically a belief that a lot of guys have that women fall into two categories. The good girls who we have relationship with and the bad girls or the whores who we just hook up with. These are imaginary because these two categories don't exist. In reality, all women are both a Madonna and a whore. There's a good girl and a bad girl side to all women. She's just gonna show you one of the other if you have this belief system depending on what she wants from you. So the first thing I would say is don't consciously select women for relationships who aren't very sexual. This is a big mistake. A lot of guys go out of their way to select girls who aren't that sexual for relationships and that's gonna lead to a lot of negative sexual value signals. It's really gonna erode your sexual confidence. Here's another really quick one which you can use. Your subconscious caveman brain cannot distinguish between techniques which you invented yourself and techniques which other guys invented. So one really quick way to have some better sex and to increase your sexual confidence is to steal other guys' techniques. This is so simple. This is mind-numbingly simple but nobody does it because a lot of guys have too much ego to do it. Here's what you do. After you have great sex, ask her what was one thing your passport friends did which was the best, which was really amazing for you. And a lot of guys don't wanna hear about that so they never ask it. But if you do ask it, if you're sexually confident enough to ask it, then she's gonna tell you and all you have to do is do the same exact thing. All you have to do is do the same exact thing that she told you and it's gonna work great. And that's another thing you can do to really quickly increase your sexual confidence and start having a better sex life. Another strategy which I think is great to use to increase your sexual confidence is to hold the trump card. If you have the ability to handle later situations, I think this is really gonna have a positive effect on your sexual confidence in earlier situations. I had a bunch of more specific examples which I wanted to mention but because of time I'm only gonna mention kind of a one big picture one which is sex and how it can affect your dating success. It's inevitable that you're gonna be thinking what's gonna happen later on down the line early in the interaction. If you feel you're gonna sexually disappoint her, then this is gonna negatively affect your confidence. Not only this but once you've started having sex and if you haven't developed relationship skills yet because a lot of times that's gonna come after sex, this is gonna cause you to kind of sabotage yourself early in the relationship and make mistakes. So one overarching theme which I want you guys to really zero in on is to focus on the later parts of an interaction over the earlier parts. That was a really good one, we'll have to skip. But I really wanted to get to this one because I see this is a very common mistake that a lot of guys make. A lot of guys when they start in on this stuff, what they'll do is they'll take my most advanced craziest dirty talk line right off the bat and they'll try it right away when they don't really have the sexual confidence to back it up. And I feel this is a really big mistake because a lot of times it ends up being where they'll quit and they'll quit right away and they'll just give up on themselves. I feel a much smarter way to do things is to start small. Okay, start small, start with something that's impossible to fail. If you could just start off with saying it feels so good to be inside you or just making noises during sex if you've never done that before and do something which is impossible to get rejected and something that's impossible to fail, then you'll build a little bit of sexual confidence. Then you can do something a little bit bigger and a little bit bigger. But I really wanna urge you guys to not start with something like crazy right off the bat because that's kind of a recipe for failure. Start with something where you know you're not gonna fail and then slowly and slowly build up. And you're gonna build confidence much faster than you expect with this. So unfortunately I gotta skip a lot of this stuff but one thing which I really wanted to touch on before I close this out is the concept of sexual kaizen. Kaizen is basically a Japanese word which means constant and never-ending improvement. And I feel that this is obviously a good idea but it also gives you a lot of confidence because if you can see that you're gradually improving your sex life a little bit every day and you can see that curve of how it's going up, this is also gonna indirectly increase your sexual confidence and make the curve go even faster because something about that, something about a little bit of improvement every day makes it seem inevitable that we'll eventually get a great sex life in a way where inconsistent but larger improvements do not. So one thing which I would like you guys to do before we close this out is to write down I commit to constant and never-ending improvement in my sex life and to write down one specific way which you're gonna do that. One thing which you could do which is gonna lead to better sex or more sexual confidence. So real quick just write that down now. Yeah, sure. Okay, great, does everybody have there one thing? Okay, that is what I want you guys to commit to me that you're gonna do that one thing and that you're gonna take action as a result of this and it's not just gonna be another one of those talks where it just kind of sits in your head and nothing ever happens that you are gonna definitely commit to doing that one thing which you wrote down and that's all that's gonna occupy your mind. So if you wanna go deeper into this and you wanna learn more about the techniques for giving women orgasms and becoming great in bed, I recommend you pick up a copy of my book The Sex Guy Method. The Sex Guy Method is a guide to giving women orgasms and sexual pleasure. It's based around my system of the four mental orgasm triggers. Unlike a lot of sex books, it's not based around a lot of different sex positions and physical techniques. It's based around how to turn a woman on psychologically and I feel that once you turn around psychologically with these four orgasm triggers then it's gonna be easier to give orgasms using any technique. You're also gonna learn how to last longer in bed, how to get oral sex more frequently and better oral sex and how to give better oral sex. Basically, any sexual technique that you would wanna know, any issue which you may be running into, any sexual limiting beliefs that you may have, this book is gonna be the answer for that. So with The Sex Guy Method, I found that a lot of guys who came in without a lot of sexual experience, they came in and they were able to give women orgasms for the first time. Even guys who had a lot of sexual experience and were having pretty good sex were really able to take it to the next level and start having really great multi-orgasmic sex. One guy came to me and he was already kind of giving women orgasms, but he learned one of my techniques called a continuously orgasmic state where she can be having orgasm continuously for five or 10 or 15 minutes. And he thought that he was already having great sex life so there wouldn't really be too much from there. But even for the guys who are advanced, there's gonna be something for you in there which is really improve your sex life. So there are a lot of guys like this and you can check out my website for a lot of testimonials. But basically this has worked for me and this has worked for a lot of other guys too. So for you guys at the 21 convention, kind of as a thank you for being here, I'd like to offer you a 50% discount on my book if you'd like to invest in it today. I handed out, there were forms handed out before where if you fill that out, just fill that out with your information if you wanna learn more about my book and you'll get 50% off. You also have a 30 day trial of our VIP membership where you'll start getting feedback from some of my other top students and start getting access to our monthly content. It'll be a 30 day free trial on that and if you decide to keep it, then it will be $67 a month after that. So obviously I love it if you guys would invest and decide to take the next step in improving your sex life and we could really do something great together. So finally, I would like to thank you guys for listening to my talk today and I really encourage you to take that action. Don't let this just be another talk which you heard and you don't do anything about. Really commit to doing that one thing and it'll have a lot of positive effect on your sex life. So thank you and thank you for Anthony for hosting this. Is it better to practice on a person who you have sex with regularly or say a girl you've only had sex with once? How do you escalate quicker? Good question. He was asking, is it better to have the practice with a girl you're having sex with regularly or only having sex with one? Much better to practice with a girl who you're having sex with regularly. In fact, this really wasn't designed for a one night stands because you can only build a lot of the comfort and trust which a lot of the stuff requires over time. So I feel if you wanna become great in bed, long-term relationships, or if you wanna have multiple girls, open relationships are the way to go. So good question. All right, cool. Yeah, give it up for him one more time. Daniel Rose.