 You know, May 40 here. So I'm listening to Vanity Fair article on Ivana Trump. It just kind of reminds me of the traditional notion of the porous self as opposed to the buffered self. So buffered self says, you know, we're all individuals, we have inalienable rights, you know, we can do anything we want and the porous self says that what's going on around us is going to have a profound effect. But you can't draw this sharp distinction between ourselves and other people, right? We're still vulnerable. So here's this Vanity Fair article. The Manolo Blanex had slightly scuffed. The toes dented a bit and not nearly as immaculate as they always had been. Ivana ordered a half-dozen tight-fitting, body-hugging, jewel-toned dresses. Then they retired to a couch. The designer and his business partner, Paul Margolin, sitting on either side of Ivana. So how's everything going? They asked. Do you need a dress for the inauguration? She said, I don't know if I'm going to go, remembers Bauer. Then she started sobbing uncontrollably. Tears pouring down her face. We both cradled her in our arms, saying, everything's gonna be okay. Her words came out in a torrent. They hate me. They all hate me. Bauer remembers Ivana wailing. Everywhere I go, they say things and they shout things at me. Outside my house in Saint-Tropez, Palm Beach, everywhere. They hate me. Through her sobs, she added, it's not my fault. I am not him. I divorced him a long time ago. I do not deserve this. Okay, so she's she's no longer married to Donald Trump, but of course she's still affected by him. All right, so we're porous. Like the people that we're connected to are always going to affect us. And what's going on with them is very likely to have an effect on us. So we don't get to draw this dramatic distinction between ourselves and others. Like the liberal notion is that we have this, you know, buffered, autonomous, strategic, rational self. So this is the Manly Lagoon. That's Manly Beach. Here's the Manly Lagoon. Ivana Trump wanted to get rid of a connection to the Donald, but even four marriages later. The designer was taken aback. I had to fight back tears myself. He says, because here was this woman. I greatly respected and loved. Totally broken down like this, gone from a size 8 to a 14. So one more argument for the porous self. Right, that part of the porous self is that a fetus isn't just a fetus. It's on a journey to becoming a full human being.