 So Taylor Nicole Dean is fresh out of rehab and it looks like she's already found a brand new boo after breaking up with Johnny Craig and this is very concerning and I'm worried about her recovery and that's exactly what we're going to talk about in this video. What is up everybody this is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel what I try to do is take different topics from the YouTube community and see what lessons we can pull from them to improve our own mental and emotional well-being and something I'm very passionate about is mental health as well as addiction recovery so if you're into any of that stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and yeah before I get started real quick if you're following me on social media you probably already got the memo well Instagram's actually been pretty wonky today acting kind of ratchet so you might not have seen it but anyways my brand new book Rewire Your Anxiety is out now and since it is the launch week I'm running a sale on it so if you get Rewire Your Anxiety the ebook or the audiobook you get another copy of any of my other books for free one of my books is about my recovery from addiction anxiety 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don't know about Taylor Nicole Dean she recently just came back from rehab so months ago I think it was back in April she was dating Johnny Craig and he got her into heroin she ended up going to treatment and she came back and she made a video but then she disappeared again so she went back to rehab and I made a video just the other day I'll link it up in the info card where she finally called it quicks with Johnny Craig and I was like oh oh thank god because I was like okay cool somebody maybe a therapist or somebody in her rehab got through to her and was like listen this is a bad relationship this will lead to relapse you need to get out of it I was so proud of her but after I made that video I got some DMs and people were sharing this picture with me saying it looked like Taylor and Nicole Dean had to pick these up like no no no no if her therapist just got her out of a relationship there's no way she would think it would be a good idea to start her cooking up with somebody and don't worry I'm going to get into the whole idea of why people in early recovery should not be doing this all right but I was like no no no because I'm a little bit of an optimist but then I saw this picture right where she shows this guy who she went to rehab with and talks about how she's crushing on him hard and I'm like oh no please don't tell me this is a rehab relationship please sweet baby Jesus don't tell me this is a rehab relationship all right and then she just posted this picture today it says yo we are cool bro friends his name is Jake for those of you wanting to know not going to spill my whole life story on this but I know a good thing when I see one now and we have what we have is really cool and genuinely helpful with my recovery and not full of codependent BS if you don't know what happened and why I went away for 30 days I don't want to keep explaining it I'll do a video when I'm ready so clearly I'm not the only one who sees this being an issue and potentially something that can mess with her recovery because then she posted this where she says y'all gotta realize I didn't swap my drug addiction with a new guy I was mentally single for over a year now and didn't have any romantic interaction for 12 plus months with my ex I just am moving on I just am allowing myself to have fun after feeling stuck for so long not getting dependent on another person and it's like oh my god all right so here's the thing like I said I have I've been in this game for seven years now I have literally worked with thousands of recovering drug addicts and alcoholics and I'm sitting here and I'm like Taylor and Nicole Dean like who do you think you're fooling right like something my dad would say is I was born at night but it wasn't last night all right like for anybody to look at this and to actually buy in that she's not catching some feelings like let's let's look at this right she talks about how she's crushing on this guy and then she's posting pictures with him and she has over a million subscribers on youtube hundreds of thousands on instagram and acting like this isn't a big deal like okay this is something like even if you're not an addict or an alcoholic like this is something that so many people do where it's like I don't really want a relationship I'm not looking for anything serious but imagine saying that and then bringing your hookup to come meet your family all right those actions are not aligning with words okay but just to put it in perspective for you real quick okay like I just want you to imagine Taylor Nicole Dean going to rehab okay working with counselors therapists social workers right maybe even a psychologist can you imagine any of them telling Taylor Nicole Dean that it would be a good idea to start hooking up with a guy that she just met in rehab like I want you to sit and ponder on that for a second like something I just talked about in my Tricia Paytas video is you can go to rehab as much as you want you can go to therapy as much as you want but if you're not doing what they suggest to you then it doesn't matter you are wasting your time and I hope the best for Taylor Nicole Dean I hope this doesn't lead to a relapse but it's something that I've seen play out in a bad way so so many times because here's the thing in early recovery we are in such a fragile vulnerable state right and we can get hurt really easily and that's one of the reasons we need to focus on ourselves and strengthen the foundation of our recovery and not be fooling around with any guys or girls all right like this is the biggest suggestion in early recovery it's not to date for the first year oftentimes not even to hook up like I saw this play out so many times in my early recovery where my friends would drop off like flies because they started to hook up in early recovery either one person would relapse or both people would relapse okay and I saw this happen many many many more times in the treatment center so here's the other thing especially when you're hooking up with somebody else in early recovery it is one of the most selfish and self-centered things you could do because they are in a vulnerable state all right this isn't you just going out and hooking up with a random dude or random woman off of Tinder you are hooking up with somebody who came to a mental health treatment center okay like think about that for a second and the reason I'm so passionate about this is because I have seen so many horror stories that would blow your mind I do not have the hours in a day to tell you all of them but I'll tell you one that sticks out in the front of my mind when I see somebody like Taylor Nicole Dean saying I'm not looking for anything serious I'm not looking for a relationship so I'm fine there was a young woman who came through our treatment center and she didn't really care about being in treatment she was like forced there like her parents forced her to go they didn't care just like kind of slept in groups and everything like that but anyways she started hooking up with a bunch of guys in treatment and by the way that's against the rules don't do that okay and she was just like oh I'm not looking for a relationship I'm just having fun and just hooking up with guys right well she ended up hooking up with a guy who had a lot of psychological issues remember this is a mental health treatment center and even though she wasn't catching feelings this dude caught feelings for her he fell in love with her all right like remember the people you meet in rehab the people you meet in a mental health treatment center they have emotional issues right they struggle with things like depression they struggle with things like codependency so it's not all about you and yeah that story doesn't end there either because this guy caught such strong feelings for her and she said no I'm not looking for anything serious the dude tried to take his own life okay so that again is why I'm so passionate about this subject so when I see somebody like Taylor Nicole Dean meeting somebody in rehab meeting somebody who is fighting for their life every single day it is such a selfish and self-centered move to be like oh well I'm not looking for a relationship like think about this guy's recovery all right and here's why this stuff doesn't work out when people come into treatment okay it's not like everything was honky dory all right Taylor Nicole Dean was not living an amazing life on heroin things were wrong and she has things that she needs to work through as we all do right the other dude who came into rehab he came in broken as well like imagine this for a second imagine taking two glasses breaking them on the ground scooping them together and being like okay look this can work because that's basically what you're doing when you're taking two newly sober addicts and and trying to have any kind of semblance of a relationship one of the best things I did for my recovery was the first year not only did I stay single but I also stayed celibate because I'm the type of person I used to do this crap that Taylor and Nicole Dean did right I used to go and be like oh I'm not looking for anything serious this is just for fun we're just hooking up but then I'm like taking pictures with them and doing all these other things like I was lying to myself that's why in recovery they say we have to be honest we have to be honest not just with other people but with ourselves as well so again I hope the best for Taylor Nicole Dean and her recovery but this kind of stuff makes me very worried and check this out I've been doing this for a long time now and I hate I hate being right about these things but there is a reason why those of us with clean time have certain suggestions for those who are new like think about it for a second like I used to tell this to my clients all the time in rehab like do you think I get a bonus if you don't get in a relationship like do you think why do you think I'm telling you this right like why do you think it's recommended it's because we've seen this play out way too many times like I've seen thousands of people try I've seen probably less than four actually work out all right so think about that for a second and maybe maybe some of you in recovery can help me out in the comments below let me know let me know your experience did you try a little rehab relationship or a little like 12-step meeting relationship let me know how that worked out all right down in the comments below but anyways don't forget rewire your anxiety is out now and it's on sale get a copy of rewire your anxiety get another copy of any of my books feel free pretty sweet deal link down in the description and down in the pin comment below all right that's all I got for this video if you like this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos and a huge huge thank you to everybody out 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