 Next time you bite someone, I'm going to bite you, so now that we're in agreement, don't bite people, don't bite people, because next time I will bite you, would you be okay with that? But I have seen it. I've never recorded a single video, I haven't had a space but to know anything about it. I don't have a hundred percent confidence. You know, I shamelessly plug everywhere. Alright, cool. So, let's see, do I look handsome? Am I good? Are there anything already? Of course. Nice. Thanks. Poochette. My name's Ty, I have a hobby. Hi, I'm Bethany. Bethany, nice to meet you. I saw your talk today. That was really cool. Very, very cool. So normally I have a hobby where I talk to people about things that I'm strongly motivated by, things that I really strongly believe. It's fun if it's something that you think you may not be wrong about, and I'll ask to have questions, I'm not trying to make this an argument or a debate, but I'm really trying to help you figure out like, did I come to this conclusion using a good reliability method. And if you want to do that on me, I'm totally fine with it too. I like to think about this conversation. Is there anything that you have like a really strong belief about? I think I need help on the spanking for kids. Spanking for kids? That's definitely like a heavy topic. I'm probably one of my first talks that I saw on street histimology and it stirred like an emotional response for me. I probably would say I'm at a 90% confidence that I'm against it. 90% confidence that you're against it? Yeah. Probably when I first started talking I was probably at 100. Okay. Now I've got that lower confidence. Okay. So what's your position on spanking kids? Why are you still so high on spanking your kids ever? Yeah. Well, the classic is how I was raised. I'm really not forward at all. I don't do it for my kids. And I researched the child development and how it can be harmful down the road and call these like adverse child experiences. Or really weird fetishes. Yeah. Like just, you know, yeah. I'm wondering, is there a middle ground? Like maybe not necessarily, like you do agree, would you say in discipline? Your child? Yes. But just not like harmful abuse, smacking them? Right. Yeah. More like more of the constructive, positive parenting list on the, let's see if we can find something else besides spanking first. Okay. What would be some of those middle grounds? Like taking away privileges or timeouts or definitely probably timeouts and taking away privileges are the two main methods that I use for much over. Okay. Is there a possibility that something a little bit more harsh than that, not necessarily of spanking, but more harsh than just timeouts and taking away privileges could have a constructive, beneficial outcome? Yes. What would you say is like the most, not spiking, but like the most aggressive form of discipline that could actually be? A little bit too. Because they've actually been talking about how like maybe timeouts, maybe it's not such a good idea. Yeah. Yeah. Because like that isolating child instead of just kind of helping them regulate their feelings. Sure. And I would not think I heard that. Uh-oh. It's like here I'm with my wife and spanking and now I'm moving toward and I thought timeout was effective, but it may not be effective for my second child, so I don't know yet. Is there anything that's more harmful or more aggressive than timeouts that you still be okay with? Like if I said, hey, I don't have kids, but like pretend I did. I said, I don't timeout or take away privileges. I just say if you do this again, then something bad's going to happen. Like if you do this immediately, but like we are in agreement that if you do this action again, you might get hurt because I don't know how to control myself on this. This hurt me so much that I'm letting you know again, child to me, you should be well enough aware that if you do this again, this bad thing is going to happen. It's not like stepping out of the street. Or like you hit a kid in school or something like that is like listen, do you know what that feels like? Okay. Don't do it again. I'm going to show you what that feels like or something like that. Like biting. Biting probably is probably better. That's probably better. Like when I was growing up, I bit a lot of people. I've been in adults before. It's like if you bite, I'm going to bite you so you know what it feels like. Are you cool with that? Because the next time you do it, the next, I'm talking to my engineer kid. The next time you bite someone, I'm going to bite you. So now that we're in agreement, don't bite people. Don't bite people. Because the next time I will bite you, would you be okay with that? But I have seen it. I would be troubled about that. Can I pull into a context that I'm a little bit more familiar with? I got a cat. I love my cat. I'm a cat dad. A really, really big cat dad. I squirt him with water. Or I move through water to air. Like I have a spray can of air and it works way better. Because one, it sounds like this. And two, there's no like long lasting marks. Because I think once he does something bad and I spray it with air, 30 seconds, he has no idea what is wrong. But if he's still wet, I feel bad. So just quick air spray can. And now it's gotten to the point where if I think he's doing something bad, because I can hear some rumbling in the kitchen, I just spray the can and I can hear him jump off the shelf. Just like walk back to his bed and be like, rooms away. No problem. If it was something like that for a person, like if it was an equivalent to that, okay, I'm going to spray with water to do that. I don't respect that. Would you be more cool with that? Yeah, it doesn't sound, I mean it's kind of strange, but I guess it would, it doesn't seem to me, quite as powerful as spanking or not quite, maybe not as humiliating, I'm not sure. What about washing your mouth with soap? Ooh. Yeah, I'm not going to lie to you. Yeah. I think the pulp. That's a good one. I don't like the chemical aspect of it. Yeah, yeah, like sporting other possibilities. There's something I always wonder, like, you know what, I'm not this deep like elbow move because I'm like, okay, I just want to make sure I'm in the right place. Okay, how about this? How about this? I think it might be going on to something, because I'm working it out too. If someone does, a kid does something bad, like beats up a kid and have a kid in school, you're like, you find out your kid's a bully. Now you say, okay, check this out. Not only am I taking away your privileges, I'm not going to bother the timeouts. You have to do these activities, mowing the lawn, helping that person mow the lawn, mow that kid's lawn. Like, you're going to have, you're going to talk to this person and you're going to work for that kid for the next couple of weeks or so, and you're going to do some hard labor. It's going to suck. You're going to be sore. But you're going to build some character in terms of like empathy people, like building empathy with regard to people because you'll realize what he's coming from when you do his work for him. Yeah. And if you don't do that, it's just going to get worse. Yeah. That's the circumstance you were before we get back to square one. Mm-hmm. Imaginary kid. I'm sorry. Imaginary kid, would you be okay with that? Yeah. Is that something you'd be more in line with? Hard labor? Well, hard labor would back and break some water, right? Don't send me to your prison camp. Yeah. Shores are good. I think chores and like learning how to respect other people might come in and get back. Even like roadside trash pickups. Yeah. You know. Like putting some community hours. Yeah. There's a group of like, there's a Boy Scout group or there's like the YMCA group. You're now volunteering hours for them until we're back to square one. I'm not putting a trash in a park. I mean, I learned a lot about like, hey, learning is not okay. Boom. Cause I don't want to do that every again. Okay. So I think, you know, short talk, but like I think we found like a really good middle ground that's more streamed and you know, timeouts and. Yeah. Privileges. Like now you're going to benefit the society a little bit. Yeah. Build some character. Maybe you might actually like it. Yeah. Make it into a career or something. Yeah. It can work out. The thing for Fonda, when I'm watching street epistemology, you're going to get a point. Awesome.