 The only way to win with the narcissist when you're trying to leave the narcissist they become desperate they become reckless and dangerous because of their despair and urgency they become very unpredictable so you never know what they're going to do they may start an argument so that it leads to a fight and then they will call the police on you they may steal your money and possessions and they may not even tell you that they know you're thinking about leaving they will just start sabotaging you they will make it difficult for you to leave so you may have thought you had the advantage over them by deciding to leave them first but they already knew what you were planning to do so they turned the tables on you they reversed the situation and gained the upper hand by stealing your stuff and leaving you before you got the chance to leave them because you kept complaining to them you kept telling them all of the things you didn't like so they know the game was over they knew it was time to do you win they knew it was time to cause serious problems for you and that is why many of you may have been caught up in the law you may have dealt with court cases you may have been arrested you may have spent time in prison because you wanted to show them you were done with them you were planning to get rid of them which is why that is not the right way to leave the narcissist you will never win by doing it that way because they will sabotage your progress they will talk about you to other people they will discredit you they will smear your name they will start a smear campaign they will report you at your job because they lost their grip on you they lost control of you so they're not going to let you go without suffering any punishment or injury they're not going to let you get away with it they will show a skillful use of underhand tactics to achieve their objectives they will act dishonestly and you may never see it coming because they may have seemed lazy and unmotivated while they were with you but now they're pulling out all the stops they're making every possible effort and using all of their available resources to get what they want from you the narcissist will try to provoke you into an argument to see where you are in the mind because they know that something has changed they can recognize when you're acting differently so they will start an argument with you to see how you react to them and if you get mad and you tell them that you're planning to leave them you've already blown your cover now they already know what you're planning to do and now they're going to file your plans they're going to make it difficult for you because you gave yourself away they notice changes in your behavior which is why you need to act uninterested you need to avoid showing any strong emotion because they're very sensitive to any changes in the environment they will pick up on it and they will respond to it they will sabotage whatever you're planning to do which is why the only way to win is to leave when they're unaware of it so that they don't have time to act in opposition to you you should never try to leave when they're already aware of your plans it will set you up for failure you should wait until they're away because they will fight you it may even become physical they will make the greatest possible effort to prevent you from leaving so don't let your emotions control your actions don't even confront them you can do that after you're gone until that time you should be silent because otherwise they will know that you're planning to leave them they will sense it and when you're gone you shouldn't let them know where you are you shouldn't give them any clue to your whereabouts because that would make all of your efforts pointless it puts you in a stronger position when they don't know your location because they're not going to go to great lengths just to track you down so if you move to a different area and you change your social media and phone numbers it's going to make it very difficult for them because when you leave a lot of them will try to stalk you when you finally left the narcissist you should not look back you should not have any regrets you should not question if you've made the right decision don't gas like yourself remember what you went through they were not the right person for you you never felt peace with them you always had to deal with something there were so many arguments because they like it when you're feeling down they don't care if it affects your work performance they like to see that which is why you've made the right decision by leaving them because that's just no way to live they were always complaining about something they could never be happy with anything and it just became negative and boring after a while because life is too short there are better uses of your time you forgot how to be happy you forgot to enjoy your life because it rubbed off on you you became miserable just like them which is why you plan to leave which is why you wanted to get out of it but once you decide to leave you should not look back because it's never going to get better they're always going to be this way the only way to win with the narcissist is to leave as quickly as possible thank you for watching I hope this video resonate with you please like comment share and subscribe if you would like to donate my PayPal link is in a video description coaching inquiries you can email me at coaching at NARC survivor the Cudder UK thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon