 The narcissist needs a sacrifice. When the narcissist first targeted you, they liked everything about you. They liked everything that you had. Maybe it was your positivity and happiness, your physical appearance, your confidence, your job, your money, house or car. They liked all of these things about you. It was very attractive to the narcissist. It attracted them to you. The only problem is, all of these things belong to you. All of these things were a part of you. It was something that you created. It was owned by you. It was your property. This is a dilemma that the narcissist often runs into. When they do find attractive or successful people, this is a difficult situation or problem that they often encounter because while they may admire everything that you have to offer, they don't want it to belong to you because that then gives you the ability and power to decide what you are going to share with them when the narcissist doesn't want a piece of the pie. They want it all. They want you to be at their disposal. They want to be able to use it whenever they want and for whatever purpose they want. They want you to sacrifice your life so that they can survive because the narcissist is constantly in survival mode and from the moment they first met you, they knew what they were missing. It triggered them to reflect on everything they lacked, everything that they needed to take from you, but they know that displaying this in the beginning isn't going to help them. They know that if they were to openly tell you everything they need from you, you would run away. So they take from you gradually over a long period of time. They gradually take more and more. It's like the tale of the boiling frog. You don't realise that you're being slowly boiled alive until it's too late and by the time you figure it out, the narcissist already has a plot to finish the job because narcissists don't come into your life to give. They don't come into your life to share anything with you. They targeted you because they saw something that they want and they expect you to hand it over to them. They have a strong sense of entitlement and a delusional sense of grandiosity so they believe that they are deserving of whatever they want. Even if it is at your expense, they don't consider you. They only have the mental capacity to consider themselves because they are in survival mode and you are their raft. You are meant to keep them afloat. You are meant to prevent them from sinking regardless of how it affects you because they don't see you or anyone as real people anyway. You're just objects that exist to serve them. The narcissist doesn't consider that you have your own wants, needs or desires. All they're concerned about is what they want from you. They targeted you to take something from you. Which is why if you look back over the course of your engagement with them, you will find that you have given far more than you have received while the narcissist still has plans to take more because they can never be satisfied. No matter how much you give to a narcissist, it will never be enough. They will always have this desire to take you to the cleaners because in their minds, regardless of what you've already done for them, you owe them. They don't see it as though they owe you because they have a strong sense of entitlement and a delusional sense of grandiosity once they have gained access to your world. They really believe that they are entitled to whatever they want from you and they believe that you should see it as a privilege to provide to them. They can also be very unappreciative of everything you share with them. They only see the finished product. They don't see the hard work that you put in to become the person that you are today. All they see is a shiny new toy and they want it at any expense or risk of consequences. And by you not surrendering, they see that as an act of abuse. They see it as though you are trying to hurt them because in their minds, they are more important or worthy. They are more deserving. Regardless of what it took for you to become who you are today, regardless of the trials and tribulations, the pain and suffering, the narcissist wants what they want and you have what they want. So they will do whatever it takes to take that from you. The narcissist comes into your life to leech off the fruits of your labor, not to share anything with you. They come into your life with nothing and leave with everything while making you and everyone else believe that you are the problem, the perfect crime and they will often leave unscathed. But no matter what the narcissist extracts from you, they will never be happy. They will never be satisfied. Just remember how unappreciative they were when they were with you, how nothing was ever good enough for them. They became accustomed to the life that you lived and now they can't live without it. They can't live without that part of you but they are like bottomless buckets that can never be filled. Nothing will ever make them happy. They came into your life because they were lacking something and they wanted you to sacrifice it for them but nothing they get from you or anyone else will ever be enough. It will never make them feel complete. They have an insatiable appetite. They will always be wanting more. The narcissist may try to use you as a sacrifice. They may take a lot from you without giving you anything back a return but don't let them take that real part of who you are. Your passion and enthusiasm. Everything that got you this far because while the narcissist may get a piece of the pie, just remember that you've got the recipe. You've got the list of ingredients that created it and no one can take that away from you. Thank you for watching. I hope this video wears out with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos. Check out the new Narc Survival website at www.narcsurvival.co.uk where you can read my blog posts, both coaching sessions and join our support forum. If you are lighter than me, my PayPal link is in the video description. For more coaching inquiries, you can email me at coaching at narcsurvival.co.uk. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.