 Hey, you guys, how are you guys doing girl? This is a random chit chat. Mm-hmm girl My skin is glossing because I just Did my skin regimen you guys I have a separate video on what I use but today I used to be your charcoal face wash I always use toner By good molecules or witch hazel. I like to use the ordinary Lactic acid I'll use 5%. I know that's not really zooming in. Can you all see that the ordinary and then I also use by good molecules good molecules, they're hyaluronic acid serum and then I survey Moisturizer and that is it look and I was telling another I don't know what it is lately around the apartment complex at least three or four people have been like I Hate that you're moving because you have such one young woman stop me And she's like, you know, I just want to tell you I see you walking around with your son and you have such Great energy. I said, oh, thank you I said, I have to watch it because as I'm getting older and moving into my 40s. I could be a little snippy and she looked at me She's like 40s. She's a no way. No way. She's a white girl. I Say yes, honey. I'm 41. She's like you look really good. I say, you know what that is darling That's called minding my business and the good skin regimen that she started laughing So yeah, you guys, you know, and it's what I always talk about and y'all know this. I'm a very Optimistic person. I Treat everybody the same and I believe in the energy that you put out in the Energy that you put out in the universe is what you receive back so I always try to be that Now this is not overly happy go lucky, but more positive. I smile when I see people I know a lot of women nowadays. I don't know what it is a lot of women are young ladies They don't even smile at all. They don't smile at men because they don't want men talking I smile at everyone girl, but girl. I told y'all at the dispensary the security officer is Where's he from it will get to the chit chat. Well, this is what a chit chat. Let me do my intro Yeah, I know how we do this. We talk about what's going on my personal life What I'm watching on YouTube and what I'm watching on TV. So girl I'll go to the dispensary and so the security officer is from where I see from Islands the Virgin Islands, right? And I smile and say hi and so this previous time I went For a change I had a little bit of makeup. I had a nice dress because what was going on? There was something going on here They were having a happy hour later on here. So I just wanted to go ahead and get done up just a little bit not super glam so I When I came out of this misery I noticed him at some type of vendor Some guy was selling hot dog in the park hot dogs in the parking lot there and he's like, hey love. How you doing? I said, how are you? I didn't see you at the front. He said, yeah He said look when you keep saying he said I just want to let you know Whenever you go you if you get a divorce. I'm here. I cook. I clean. I said hold on Why you putting that he said yeah my man here when you got out the car. He was like damn What at me y'all, I know I'm a good-looking woman, but I Whatever so he said that the other man when they saw me get out the car. He was like, damn Who is that? She is beautiful. I saw y'all are sweet. Yeah, okay. Bye I mean I maybe I shouldn't be smiling so much but I smile and I say hi to people because I just think that that's a Friendly person, but he was so funny. He said what are you saying? He said I could tell I knew you were married The first time I he said most women that are this happy and smiling and they're typically already taken. I said Okay Whatever you say Anyway y'all so what's going on? We're still in apartment clearly we were more than likely being these apartments for a while We signed our lease until March of next year to give us time to look for a house We had to get a new real estate agent baby because that other real estate agent we had she was just too busy She was a nice woman, but I could tell that she what we could tell that she was preoccupied with other things Which we were like now So we have another real estate agent. She is perfect So far so good And so she's sitting as you know houses to look at every day when I really almost say every two or three days And so still that houses in Texas the good thing with the houses in Texas is that they are selling for What is going on like? Sorry y'all I had to adjust my camera anyway, so yeah that house searching has been going okay We've only had this real estate agent for a week But baby look one of the houses that she sent us when I did a search a Website came up that said died in the house calm not in the state of Texas I believe the real estate agent does not have to Reveal of someone died in a house So I was like what the hell is this so this had it had notes and the description that said meth fire died I was like ooh So my husband asked the real estate agent and she went back and asked the other real estate agent for the seller And they were like we don't have any history of someone dying so Would y'all be okay with buying or living in a house where you know someone had died man I Don't think I could do it the way our energy is set up. We can feel just about everything. I don't think we could do that girl So yeah, everything's going good besides that girl these kids I Know there's been like talk on social media and in the news about how social media Influences this generation and I mean from JB's age up to my niece's age Who's 22 how it has how it has had a negative impact on children? I'm gonna say this. I don't think it's necessarily social media but at the end of the day it falls to the parents monitoring their children on these platforms because I Monitor what JB does all the time. I want he wants to load up something. I look at it You know, whatever he's looking at I look at it his little raggedy Okay His little friends out here. I've catch caught them Slipping up and cursing in front of me. They would do it in front of me like the Disrespect if you want to curse at home on the playground do it But don't do that in front of me and I was like and I check them and I let their parents know I check your kid And they're like, oh, thank you. Well, you got every right to do I say yes because if they around me and if they're acting like that, I'm gonna check your babies cuz You can't do y'all and I know what it is JB told me before that they watch a lot of tick-tock that has cursing And so he's like mommy I think that once so-and-so I'm not gonna give any names once so-and-so so-and-so leaves The other kids will go back to their normal selves and they won't be cursing. I said JB Thank God you guys that I pray for my child and he has a great head on his soldiers He has a great head on his shoulders to where he knows that's not right and he doesn't feel Pressure to act like them, you know what I mean? So JB is doing good in school He's doing better. He was kind of struggling with math. He's getting a lot better better. I Haven't started doing additional work at home because I've just been so busy with work and house hunting and all that So yeah, y'all this is going on at home I Been on my health care kick again Working out more you guys make sure you get your immune system up and popping if you haven't already I ordered some liquid zinc Calcium I take a slur of vitamins every day, but just overall making sure I'm eating better I have a green juice here that I made and I drink that every morning a Little bit too much junk food still, but I'm kind of taking me down on that What I want to know you to I Been watching a lot of the concerts. Yeah, I'm checking my time because I got two minutes what to hit this baby out Um, I've been watching a lot of the Tiny Desk concerts And I love Tiny Desk NPR and Tiny Desk now. I'm gonna say this I've been really digging Um Give me leave me alone and whoever is booking these artists you need to raise honey But I'm gonna say this y'all know the artist Yaba Y Bba she used to be Abby and then her mother unfortunately committed suicide and she changed her name um He has an almost sadness about her just her incomplete aura is and I'm pretty sure it has to do with her mother passing But she has an almost sadness about this and let me I'm gonna say this because she She can sing there's no denying her talent, but when you compare her I hate that we do this not wait. We just do this as as humans, but I don't know of at least 10 20 Gospel in the old school black church that sing like that or better So I just want to try to say if you put her against other black gospel singers I mean people like in your church or whatever that are like that she there's no there's There's no competition. There's no competition. You know, I mean she's she can hang with them But if you put her out there In the mainstream and with other artists, it's like wow She can do that and it's so funny when I see other people come in and they're like wow I've never seen someone. I've never heard someone sing like this. I'm like, you know This is black. This is this is black church. We know those of us who grew up in the church We are familiar with those riffs and runs. I know that um, the Clark sisters kimberow are huge inspirations for her And again, I'm not denying her talent because baby can't sing I guess what I'm seeing is that if you put her with other people that are in that field She wouldn't stand out but because she's singing contemporary You know music that she stands out as she should I'm just saying that so I am digging her tiny desk So baby, I'm back to looking at kitchen nightmares Gordon Ramsay is a Gordon Ramsay is a mess But apart of me feels like a lot of that stuff is scripted which a lot of reality tv is again Again, this is kitchen nightmares. I feel like A good part of it is scripted and sure enough I went back and read an article from someone a restaurant owner who was on the show And he said that they thought they would have a lot more time with gordon ramsey Outside of the tv screen. It wasn't like that What you saw is what you got they only The only time they had to spend with him and get his expertise was when the camera was on um, not only that but some of the people who Showed up, you know how they do like a open And now they have customers coming there saying that some of those people were asked to exaggerate how bad the food was girl But you know, I kind of figured that what else what else I'm going to talk about linda Linda land who is another youtuber you guys um I am friends with her on facebook. So I saw her initial posts And I must have a person I don't post a lot On people I know on social media. I will contact you. I will DM you. I will call you So I immediately called her when I saw this and I didn't get to speak with her, but then I spoke to her in person about two two or three days ago And we talked in length about what's going on Let me tell you something. I let her know I said look You cannot and she knows this linda is a smart woman two things You can't force no man to be a man. You can't And second if they want to go let them go if someone wants to leave let them go because in order for a relationship Especially a marriage to work. Both of you have to want it And so he's awesome. I'm not gonna Yeah, excuse shabby another thing is that And I told her I said I've been there, you know, my husband and I had a separation And I will say there was an incident where I think I was over his house because jb was going over jb was like two and a half three when this was going on So I was over at that house and I just grabbed some bananas, right? Within two hours, I heard it knock at the door at the apartments that we used to live in And it was him and was my husband was then we weren't married And I'm like he had a bunch of groceries and he was like I saw you took some bananas. He's like Are you you guys make food? He's like if you ever need something just let me know I'll whatever you need. You don't have to steal food. Baby. What do you want? I'm almost done I guess my point is that even when we we were not together He always made sure we were right because I am the mother of his child You know, we always had an understanding that if anything he will always provide Look, we were only separated for like Not even a year like eight nine months. And so we didn't go through any type of child support He gave me money every two weeks like no problem because if anything I always knew that my now my husband was always a provider He all whatever I needed I don't have to ask for anything So he always provides no problem because he recognizes my role as the mother of his child, which is All about respect at the end of the day respect me each other in the roles that we have in a relationship So I think it's a damn shame that her husband um I'm not gonna So I think it's unfortunate And I am a very look when I give people advice. I'm very Like I don't sugarcoat I told I say you're gonna be okay, but you're gonna go through it You're gonna go through the ringer could they just separate it and it's just real you're gonna go through it It's gonna be hard. It's gonna be rough He's gonna be on some bull And it's gonna be difficult family. It's gonna be giving you advice Everyone's gonna be giving you their own opinion including me Um, you have to do what's best for you and your children and when this is all said and done You will come out with a great testimony, baby It's but it's just unfortunate And I hate that she's having to go through this. That's another youtuber also that's going through She actually went through a divorce. Her husband ended up being very it started off emotional I'm abusive And then it turned physical And so Yeah, you guys, uh, you know pray over linda and pray over that situation So that's all I have to say about that situation. So yeah, it's positive thoughts towards linda and the entire situation All right, you guys what I'm watching on tv love and marriage Speaking of narcissistic men Girl martel and I don't know if y'all watches love and marriage huntsville That one husband martel is the most narcissistic self-absorbed man I have met in a long time Absolutely disgusting. Look, he had a whole Baby by another woman while he was married And he still flips things around on melanie, but they're both toxic towards each other. They're going I think they're officially divorced though I went back and I'm starting to rewatch the act about, uh Gypsy rose because I just think that story is absolutely crazy. You guys gypsy rose and her mama crazy mama didi Did y'all know that this is true or not? They had her her cremated the mom didi because again Gypsy rose and her boyfriend ended up killing the mom And there was rumors that her family flushed her ashes down my toilet. That's not funny. That is cold Wow, I forgot to mention this another show that I finished was made Made is on what was made on you guys made is on netflix It starts andi mcdow A younger actress. I don't know her name actually something anika rolls who played in um The princess and the frog um, who else who else Not a lot of you know, andi mcdow and anika are one of the top, you know Uh actresses in the movie a series. Excuse me. It's a limited series, I believe It's so made hits on it's called made made hits on several Subjects several triggering subjects the main being abuse um Abuse it hits on mental illness homelessness poverty Social economic, which is poverty. What else infertility? So It is it is a lot I I would say I would caution and tread lightly if you have gone through those or if you're in a Certain headspace where you really can't handle that type of I would stay away from this. I don't mean to laugh. I would stay away from this series However, I found it very good. There were certain episodes that were like, uh, Girl, my anxiety was like what the hell is going to happen Because you know a lot of these series something crazy just happens out of the blue and you're like, what the hell But it really wasn't like that. It was very very well acted very well scripted. Um So overall journey says young woman who has a child Uh, and her is he her husband? Y'all is he just her boyfriend? I believe you just saw a boyfriend He's abusive and it makes you realize how Abuse can come in Many forms and I think even in a way her mother was almost abusive to her her mother was played by andy mcdow I love andy mcdow She's such a cute quirky actress And it was funny to see her with her gray hair because she girl she was like Quarantine hit We ain't doing no dying but she looks beautiful with her regal gray hair in the front And she has beautiful curly hair. Yeah, I know andy mcdow from groundhog day groundhog day Um, but anyways, so this young woman has a child and like I said, her boyfriend is Verbally abusive. He is your typical narcissistic and I know we kind of I feel like narcissism is being thrown around a lot That term is being thrown around um, but this The person that plays her husband or boyfriend definitely is but you know oftentimes You hear people say Why don't the person lead meaning the victim of the abuse and there was one part spoiler alert there's one part where she goes to a shelter and The shelter owner. I love this lady. I've never seen her in a movie before. I think her first name is bj She's played by an uh an older black woman. I say older like 55 60 years old She tells the young woman It takes five times For you to leave Five times because she befriends another woman the young woman at the um homeless shelter. She's a Hispanic girl And she ends up leaving and going back to her husband who choked her I mean just devastating and so You know, you see how and andy, excuse me The young woman's character ends up doing the same thing going back to her abuse or two In the middle of the show. Um, but I guess my point is is that when it comes to emotional abuse manipulation like that is really hard because Because they're not hitting you you you don't think you're being abused So her character you see her character going through these range of emotions because she's like she's like no, I'm not being hit He didn't put his hands on me and he just and he only acts like this when he's drunk You see what I mean? So It's behavior that can be controlled if he wasn't drinking almost so um her own father you could see that the The history of the abuse because her own mother went through that with her father and she almost has a regulation or a memory Of hiding underneath the cabinet as a child and her mom coming in to rescue her with a bloody nose And it just shows you how things are passed on and behaviors and families are passed on because we we model The behavior that we see from our parents. Honestly, we do and it's sad to know that and to see that happen But thankfully, you know, she was able to break free and break that cycle of abuse So check it out again. It's called made. I absolutely enjoyed it. I loved it um, and I can sit here and say you guys I just My heart goes out to any of you who have ever been in situations like that. I've known people um, ironically, I've worked with several women who have been through You know marriages where their husband I remember one time one of my co-workers She told me she's going to have to be my mom. She said Vivian my breaking straw was He meaning her husband was holding their baby and he was Punching her in the face Holding her baby and punching her in the face and I looked at her like Oh my god, like I could not imagine going through something like that and what that does to you and break you down as a woman and as a mother But she said that was that was the straw for her Because she was like if he could do that holding our child and put our child in danger, I gotta leave I mean, she would tell me crazy stuff like If if he if she did something that he didn't like like I think one time they were out to dinner And he didn't like what she did. She said something. She made a joke. She was laughing he grabbed the The inner thigh her inner thigh and pinched it so hard to stop her from behaving that way She said the next morning her her thighs were purple just purple with it with With him grabbing her he was so basically he would grab her in areas to where when she wears clothes You couldn't see the the abuses. So That is horrible that is absolute I was giving me chills just thinking about that and that's just lock and key season two is on Netflix I'm starting to watch that. I'm confused because I don't even remember what the hell happened y'all in season one but that's back on um I did watch because it was halloween. It was a couple of scary movies on yeah I tried not to watch a lot of scary movies one doing this time because I really do feel like the atmosphere is different But I did catch some of halloween h2o Again, I'm a type of person. I look at the good in everyone So michael myers, I don't know if y'all realizes, but he actually let someone go Not the cycle path that we have grown to know Uh, there was a scene where a mom and her daughter went into a bathroom So michael was out in the bathroom. So when the mom was in the bathroom, she looks over And she see michael with his mask on and he grabs her purse And he just leaves in her band because I guess his little his little courtroom fam And so he didn't kill her. So, you know, you have to look at the good in everybody. It's all I'm saying, you know Y'all know what I'm saying. So that's it you guys. This is just a real quick um Chit chat. I do have some hair related videos. There are coming up I have a moisturizing deep conditioner where I'm using the eating body works deep conditioner I have a swar review and the blue magic cholesterol hair review coming up. Excuse me. Um product review coming up I know busby I'm supposed to do that flexi rods sick going on two years. My flexi rods are in the storage unit. So baby I don't know what to say. Um, I do have like a wash and go style coming up. So that is it everyone Thank you so much for watching and thank you as always to all of my new subscribers. Take care. Bye