 Hello everybody, welcome to the real life of podcast. They call me Superhost Miskithinji and this is where all feelings are represented. I am joined, goodbye. He is an official father of many because they call me daddy. My name is Eddie Butita, they call me anytime. Hey! My name is Ndanya, the gracious host. Alright guys, thank you so much for joining us on SPM Buzz in case you haven't subscribed. Please make sure you do so that you do not miss out on this interesting conversations. Now today's topic of discussion, we are delving into a conversation that everyone resonates, relationships. But in this case, we bring it down to blind dates and online dating. What are some of the safety measures do we get to take? And is it actually, you know, something that is doable? Have people done these things and elevated to certain depth of relationships? What do you guys think about all that? Blind date. I'm blind date. I'm not blind date. It's not like I'm blind date. I'm blind date. I'm blind date. I'm blind date. But it can take one a life life. Blind dates have an idea of how they look like when it's online dating. Blind dates are blind dates. So it's supposed to be blind until you meet physicals? Yes. Even if you're online dating. No, that's not it. That's why you're getting it wrong now. Even if you're doing video calls for two years. That is blind. It's still blind. What is it? Grammar. Grammar has no internet. There's no internet. No blind, but blind, honestly. Me, you've met in an app and you don't even know each other. No. Now online? Online, now you know each other. I've seen your pictures. What if they're not my pictures? Now that's, you see, now you, you're a catfish. Watch out for me. It's supposed to be blind. Okay, now in the school of dating, as an expert. As long as I've never sat down with you. Like this. So that you start seeing. Internet, COEvo, filter, COEvo. No. No. I'm not a catfish. One has got two different people. One has a cure. It means there is a probability. So the idea is it is blind until you get to know each other. On a personal level. Correct. But people used to think it is blind because you've never met. You know that's all for, hello, hello. They are no WhatsApp. So I'm looking for financially stable man. I'm looking for financially stable man. I'm looking for financially stable man. I'm looking for financially stable man. So you know that you got to know each other. Then you get to meet each other, you can see each other. Or archive. Audio. So that's the concept of blind date. It doesn't mean when video calls came. And internet, it stopped being blind now because I've seen you. I feel like it is still blind. Until I meet you personally. So there is rules that used to apply. The rules of Shijai Kukutan and Awebe Sikujui should still apply on this internet thing until we know each other personally. Okay, I have no problem with the rules applying for sure. That's because if you've not met someone one-on-one, then there are so many other things that you don't know. But you know people have dated long-term, long-distance relationships in a long-term basis like Fervias. You already know things about this person. You know what makes them mad. You know how they look like. You know so many other things. That has to be a difference between our blind dating and online dating. Betu, you are missing the point. The point is we can date for two years online. Nasi mimi. I think it's because I'm your wife. You don't know how to cut fish. It's because I'm the one who cuts fish. You take a video call. You're going to show up as a different person. Nasi mimi. Nasi mimi. Correct. The image she is giving you online is not the ring. So it's correct to call it blind. Now, who care between the next date and what next now? Okay, so do you guys think that you can meet someone online and that relationship works? Yes, but the rules according to me should be it is still a blind date. Even if it's online. So you should handle with caution until there is a personal interaction after some time. Yes, not once, not twice. Say it to me. Now internet today is not a video call. It's a stop call blind date. Personal interaction. What are the safety measures? Because yes, you can be cautious. Speaking of the time on call and on video. But when you meet them personally, then that's another issue. Come on. What are the safety measures? What do you have? What do you need to know? Actually, I don't know. Safety measures. I have a lot of devices. Relationship expands. This is a relationship. So you need to be careful. Someone who has no relationship. Okay, I have rule number one. Meet in public several times before Monday. Meet in public. Number two, don't trust easily. Number three, don't trust easily. Number three, don't trust easily. I am losing it over time. I won't need rules. Number one, you are the three. I am the last one. Meeting. Trust your instincts. If your instinct tells you, best this person is not good or you are confused about how you have been interacting with this person online. Trust your instincts. Number two, tell a friend where you are going. And even a company, let them accompany you, they might not come into the, you know, sitting the table that you guys are seated because it's a private interaction. But they can sit at the far end where they can see you. And also, there's no plans of going to a, you know, a private room. It's just a public place. So, that is number one, meet in a public place. When you're going to meet, you can go to a general, say, you're not going to have any rules, you're going to meet in a public place. You're not going to meet, you're going to meet, I'm a man. Me, in my life, I'm going to sit at the same place, I'm going to sit at the same place. Anyway, you guys are sitting at the same place. So, when you, you, you, men don't want to look bad, you see, I'm a woman, but I insist women tell men to meet them in a public center. Actually, my point was, sometimes, there is a thin line between you not trusting me. And me protecting myself. Sometimes, you have to protect too. You have to say, man, I'm the one who's going to be there. I'm the one who's going to be there. You have to protect yourself. But I'm the one who's going to be there. So, there's no need to say anything. But why are you taking off any... Any time there is a thin line... Any time there is a thin line stands to your ground. You can say, you're going to meet in a public place. You're going to meet in a public place. I say, I'm the one who's going to be there. I'm not going to be there. By the way, me. Me who's going to be there. You're going to be there. Yes, there's no need to say anything. But you've got to respect the people. You're going to be there. Okay, there's no need. So, let's go back to your roots. Yes. Number one, I'm the one. I'm the one in the public place. Okay, there's no need. I think being in public does not even make you safe. Also, to mention on that... Unless you're not meeting this person. Also, to mention on that... It's better. Let me tell you. At a hotel, it's public. Even a hotel room, it is a public space. Actually, I have an idea. The first date I will go to is at the Bogi. I will take a 15. You know I am the best. I am online and I will go to Twitter. Guess what guys? I invited this Chile. You guys are the best. The first date I will go to is at the Hangout. I will go to the Game. I am the best. I am the best. I am the best. We hang out and get to know each other. I am the best. I am the best. I am the best. I am the best. In other words, I feel like sometimes just giving someone more attention needs to come after we work. For sure. Maybe first dates should be because what is a public place? It's a safe place An open public space It's an open public space Maybe you can buy that one That one is okay Open public space What guarantees you that After meeting someone in a public place At a good person It doesn't mean it's a public place 7 times At a 10th But it's not easy It's not easy It's not easy It's not easy It's not easy But it's not easy It's not serious Look at it from a perspective of a 19 year old naive girl She's a Jew She's a woman She's a Jew She's a third eye That's correct What kind of person is she? She's a person from experience She's a character development When I use her She'll tell me She won't let me end it I see it depending on my experience I advise her She's the one who will be consulted She'll say Ladies consult me That's a trap She'll consult me And I'll ask her How I warmly approach her I wanted her to know To try to be an audience than just the same person. Come up for example, who can meet, eh? Who will be your best friend? Who will be your best friend? Already not change a lot of things. Who will be your best friend? But someone brought you where I was. Someone knows you are with me. Same with me for meeting someone dangerous because some ladies are dangerous. It is true. I am not a woman. I am a woman. I am a woman. Already, when you are sure that someone will be your best friend, you are with me. It is different. You are sure that someone will be your best friend. So the same thing, first of all, make the person you are meeting aware of that. By the way, who will be your best friend? Me, I mean, who will be your best friend? Who will be your best friend? And also, the other side, who will be your best friend? I am not a woman who will be your best friend. I am not a woman who will be your best friend. It is the world. Some people are dangerous. Some people are good. In all genders. And it is just by mistake. Even if you are the first person. The good people remain good. The bad people, those who can change will change. Those who can't, will never change. So the best way is to be safe. I totally agree. There is good and evil in the world. With that one, we have to accept. But again, we need to be cautious. One also, another thing I would want to probably just say, meet during the day. Because during the day, and in a public setup, you're probably even able to ask someone for help. It's better to do day meetings. And then the other one, just have an exit plan. In case things don't go the way they are supposed to go. When you meet this person, what are they saying? What are they talking about? Have an exit plan. I know ladies who text their friends, text me and call me and tell me. Imagine they're talking about. You know. What? There's one thing that I need you to get. I don't have the issue of money. I feel like once you depend on this person for transpositioning forward, at a field and title, at some point, you'll come out of the jewellery. I don't know if I'll be able to do that. I'm not sure if I'll be able to do that. I don't know if I'll be able to come out of the jewellery or get to enjoy the things of life. I'll enjoy it, but I don't know if I'll be able to do that. I don't know if I'll be able to do that. The more you become needy, someone feels like they're buying you. Yes. They are true. It is good. And again, I'll give you a question, whatever you've said, on meeting during the time. For example, we want to do dinner. We can't do dinner at 1 p.m. But you can do lunch, bro. What do you mean? Number two, I have a perspective of, I have, this is my normal program as a man. I have a job I'm reporting from 8 to 5 p.m. From 5 p.m. there are some things I'm running. I'll be free from around 8. And that is my normal program. Monday, I'll be on Sunday. From 8 p.m. to around 10 p.m. How much time do you have? All right? Between 8 to 10 p.m. That is the time that I have. And Monday, I'll be on Sunday. I'll be free. I'll be free from around 8 p.m. There's a lunch break here. If there's a lunch break, there's no way you can recommend a fan date at night. I wish, I wish. That's a real luck. I wish, if it was possible to become a man for a day, we would be at lunch break. As we work on it. I come at ticking time. So I can eat at the same time. So you can't see me. Yeah, I've seen very busy men, but you can't chase a woman. This is where we go with a man who wants to be real. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I wish. I don't think it will happen to all of them. It will happen to all of them. One of the issues I have with the judge is that sometimes when people love, they open up to others. Without even... I would ask my mother to give me a like. It's true. I would ask her to give me a six. I would ask her to give me a five. I would ask her to give me a six. I would ask her to give me a five. Don't fall in love with the first one. You won't see these things. They are forgetting. When you have a first date... They are forgetting. They are forgetting. We have been dating online for two months. I am not going to Kenya for the first time. I am going to school in an airport. I want to see you tomorrow at 8pm. Whatever Eddie is saying is correct. Love is very stupid. You will see me. Because you have trusted me for the last two months. I am sorry to say whatever happened. It's not like this guy texted them for the first day. Hi, I want to see you tonight. You know, there is history of communication. You will see me. Trust me. Because he has been in constant communication for the last one month. For the last three weeks. When the time comes, I want to see you tonight. You feel comfortable. That's why we go back to what Patricia said when we started off. If you have never met someone one-on-one. That is still a blind date. Correct. But you do not trust them. As long as you have never met them one-on-one. You don't meet them at 8pm. If I don't know you on a personal level. It's still a blind date. So don't meet anyone. Whether you are arriving at 8pm or whatever. But also instincts here. And instincts. They play a very big role to decision making. If you listen very well to your instincts. They will speak to you. As I wrap up, let me tell you on instincts. Let me tell you. You see, as a man. You have to give it to me. You have to correct me if I am wrong. Instincts are the same. I have 5k. I have to get them out and I have to get them out. Since I was born in Tumsima. When I was two years old. I went to my two-home. I went to school. I went to school. Instincts are the same. That is not the right decision you are making. But you end up making those decisions. Based on love. That's why they say. It's late. That's why they say. If you are not capable of dating someone's daughter. Don't date them. Because that's how you see. You are dating someone else's life at risk. By calling them at night. Okay. Take home. It's still a blind date. If you don't know people. So we have said one. What one should we do? What one should we do? Don't meet someone at night. Meet in a public set up. If you don't know. If you don't know. If you don't know. If you don't know. You have people knowing where you are. In Tumsima. If you don't know. If there is any other thing that you feel like. We are leaving it out. Let us know. Let us know how your blind date worked. What are some of the safety rules or safety precautions that you take before you meet someone. For the first time. And in case you don't agree with anyone here. Please feel free to leave a comment down below. Thank you so much for watching. Follow me on Instagram. Ms. Kephenji. 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