 What's going on you guys welcome to the single guy channel? My name is Lloyd. I am not the single guy today We're gonna be talking about the seven qualities of high value men So if you want to be a high value guy, you should watch this video because I'm gonna be going over the seven qualities that I think you need To have to be a high value guy So let's begin with number one number one is going to be you put yourself first This is something that a lot of guys talk about I've talked about numerous times on this channel But it's true, you know think about yourself in a given situation so like let's say you're on an airplane and The masks come down almost every single time the stewardess is going to tell you to put the mask on yourself Before you put it on anybody else first the reason why is because if you don't help yourself out first You cannot help the people around you that is why a high value guy needs to put himself first The meaning of a high value guy is you're giving value to others This is actually going to be one of the other points But you have to put yourself first in order to do this because if you don't then your relationships are going to suffer The people around you are going to suffer You're not going to be able to give your all to your clients or what a business or whatever it is So if you don't put yourself first your overall going to be less valuable in our society and have a hell You're going to be a high value guy if you're less valuable So the important thing here is to put yourself first your health your career This does not mean that everybody else gets put to the wayside. You never help anybody else out No, no, you have to help other help out other people But you have to put yourself first on the list. Okay, if you're dead You can't help out anybody else if you're you know not in your not your best self It's going to be difficult for you to do that too. Okay. All right So number two is going to be courage. You have to be courageous if you're a high value guy It doesn't mean that you don't feel fear a lot of people think that these tough guys or these You know heroes, they don't feel fear. That's not true at all in real life people feel fear all the time men feel fear all the time They just don't let it control them if you let fear control you you'll never pursue your dreams You'll never help out anybody else who never stand up when the moment is right, you know I'll give you an example dude like there was You know, I was at a situation where I was in line to go into a club We were standing in line and there was a person across the street that fell out of a car She hurt herself. She was clearly drunk. She hurt herself and everybody in line Stood there and watched this happen. I Was the only one that ran over and checked on her Was I afraid about losing my spot in line? Yeah But do you know what I? Faced my fears and I went over and I did the right thing and checked on her to make sure she was okay And sure enough people let me back in line and they you know congratulated me on helping her and also in my head I'm like, thank you, but like what's wrong with your legs, you know Like why couldn't you have walked over there people go through life scared all the time and as a result people get hurt around them They're too afraid They let the fear control them and it's not that I don't feel the fear. It's just that I'm prepared to face it That's it, you know literally posting these videos and a lot of people talked about wanting to do this But they were too scared to put their face on it. They were too scared to actually pursue their dream. I wasn't so use courage, man Number three you want to show mastery in something if you're not good at something It's difficult to be a high value guy because you know what value can you provide to other people if you're not good at Something so this could be your career. This could be hobbies. This could be anything, you know in my life I do jujitsu I grow my business I do other things as well too and I'm trying to be good at those things that I do so I do them regularly and I improve over time if you're not You know Getting good at something or if you're not good at something then it you probably not going to be a high value guy And it doesn't matter what you be good at. Yeah, sure There's going to be some things that people might respect a little bit more But in the end you want to do something that you'll like doing because that's how you get good at something You do it regularly so Pick something a hobby anything that you feel like you want to get good at Cool number four is going to be Strength you have to be strong as a high value guy If you're not strong as a high value guy It's gonna be very difficult for you to support the other people around you And I'm not just talking about physical strength although physical strength helps, you know Even just a scrawny guy like me I actually hit weights and I go to the gym, but I'm surprisingly strong So if you're a guy out there, even if you look like me or even if you're scrawny It pays to be able to practice with resistance and lifting things or at least do something physically active, right? But not just physical strength more important than physical strength is going to be your emotional strength your resolve If you're someone who gives up easily if you're someone who freaks out when things get tough How are you going to be when you're around a partner? How are you going to be when you're around your friends? I mean think about the quintessential father figure does he freak out? Does he you know crying and sobbing all the time not saying men can't cry? But you shouldn't be breaking down at the first sign of trouble. That's not how people look up to you You're not going to be a high value guy doing that. So you have to show strength Okay, strength is one of the quintessential parts of being a man because we are the physically we are the stronger sex But not we're just talking about physicality there But yeah, you want to be stronger, okay? Number five is you want to be honorable to have a code of conduct to yourself Is the way that you treat other people the way that you feel like you should be treating other people? And in my own life like I have a code of conduct for the way that I behave towards other people I'm one of the things is honesty I really place a lot of importance on honesty and being as honest as you can even if you heard the other person's feelings I feel like being honest is the right thing to do now That doesn't mean just openly declaring everything that I feel like is necessary the first things that come into my head But if I feel like the truth is important I say it and the second thing also too is I want to make sure that I'm you know Improving getting better at something. You know if I have to admit that I'm wrong that I admit that I'm wrong Okay, that's how you improve and I don't pretend like I know things if I don't know them So these are some of the code of codes of conduct that I have for myself But what are some for you write them down and whatever you think they are stick to them If you don't stick to principles, you know, who are you? Not a high value guy. That's for sure Number six is you give value towards others. I hinted at this at the beginning But it's so important you guys the reason why you're a high value guy and people consider you to be a high value guy Is you give value towards other people? I'm sure there are like some very rich and very famous people that don't give value to anybody else And they're very selfish with it and a lot of people are like well, but Lloyd aren't they high value? No Even if you're rich and famous but super selfish and you don't give value to anybody else You're not a high value guy People don't want to be around that Even women well even women they might be attracted to them at first but once they hang out with them they they begin to You know, they don't want to be in that environment. Okay, but even you know Like it's tough for me to find an example of that because even a selfish Like famous rich guy like he's probably provided value in some way shape or form maybe in the past You know They did a movie that everybody liked and that was value that he provided or the rich guy Maybe at one point in time at a business that was giving value But then he got selfish and now he's just kind of resting on his laurel laurels, you know I get guys who are rich all the time that come to me for help and it's you know They have trouble conveying that they give value towards other people Right as a high value guy you have to give value towards others It's not dependent upon like your fame or wealth or your resources But those things can't help because you have more to give But you have to you have to give towards other people There's really no reason to have it otherwise number seven You want to continuously improve? Okay Growing and getting better Those kinds of things are part of being a high value guy And I know this sounds exhausting to a lot of people. It doesn't mean you can't take breaks Yeah, sure you can take breaks like taking breaks is important You want to do things that are going to nourish you and energize you to to keep going on in the future But when guys truly have Given up when they've truly said, you know what I'm kind of done contributing towards other people Is typically not always but a lot of times it's when they retire When they retire from their career, they just go into their house and they wake up and watch tv every day And shortly after they will die It usually happens quite quickly for people who retire The easy way to stay living and to stay loving life is to keep working to keep doing the things that you love to keep Improving other people's lives. It doesn't have to be work, but you have to be doing something And the moment guys start doing that they don't really have a reason to live anymore and they know it and you know, they end up You know, you end up passing away, right? So you don't have to be out on it every day and give as much value as you can every single day That's exhausting but overall you want to be improving in life. And yes, that should be your goal You know to to improving give to others and if you stop Well, then you stop being a high value guy and That's why a lot of guys die shortly after they retire All right, cool. So that's seven. I'm going to give you one more bonus one because this is a dating channel I would be You know, it would be an error for me not to say that having charisma and attractiveness to your arsenal Makes you a better high value guy. Look, it's not you can be a high value guy and still Not do super well with women I get a lot of those guys because although you're a high value guy A lot of women don't see it or the value that you're providing towards other people Isn't seen by the women that you want to date So a lot of times I'll get these guys who need help in this area and they need to market themselves better Well, an easy way to market yourself better is to, you know, look more presentable have game have charisma And overall just, you know, know how to be more like Attractive Like think about bill gates the bill gates is bill gates in warren buffet You know, like would it kill warren buffet to get a haircut? You know, like he would be he would have so much more luck in his dating if he has a dating life I know he's happily married. He doesn't care about this sort of stuff But if you're a guy watching this you probably are somebody wants to do better with women If you want to be a high value guy and actually get women I know high value guys out there that do all of the seven things that I talked about and they Don't work on the last bit which is usually what I talk about on this channel Like how to have game and have charisma how to set up your life So you're meeting women that you want to meet like those kinds of things do matter and I You know, if I if you don't include those into your life, you're going to be like What's the point of me being a high value guy because you know, I'm going to be realistic A lot of what we do as men is to impress women to win over women and those kinds of things You know, not everything but a lot of a lot of what we do and if you don't have that component Makes it a lot harder. So thanks for watching you guys. I did a master class on this very recently There's actually a replay of it. So some of you saw it. Some of you didn't but if you didn't This is a good summary of kind of what I talked about. I went way more in depth than it and kind of showed you the steps on this But thanks for watching you guys And good luck out there