 What's going on, y'all? Welcome to the Single Guy channel. My name is Lloyd. I am not the Single Guy. Today we're going to be talking about a question that I get a lot, and that's how often should you text a girl that you like? A lot of people come to me with these questions and they're wondering, hey, Lloyd, I don't want to be seen as needy when I text a girl that I like. So how often should I text her to show her that I'm interested, but to not be needy? Now, when I get this question, I think that most guys are thinking about it in not the wrong way, but they could think about it in a little bit of a better way, because it's not so much that how often you're texting a girl that's going to indicate whether you're needy or not. It's more what you're texting her, how you're texting her, and then the how often part is a small piece of that. So obviously, if you're blowing up her phone constantly, you're texting her five or six times and she only responds to one of them. That's too much. You're texting her too often. Give her a little bit of a break. But if she's responding every single time, you can still keep texting her. It really depends on the situation, how she's responding to you, how she's feeling, what the kind of relationship you guys have is, and what you're ultimately sending her. What I find is that even if you're sending her things that are really needy, but you're only sending them once a week, it still can come across as needy. So what do I mean by this? I mean that if you're only trying to ask her if she's free, if you're only trying to get her to meet up with you and trying to do this and trying to do that, if you're only trying to get her to do something all the time, that can be seen as needy. So what I would recommend is you space those out. If that's what you're trying to do, you're the kind of guy who only wants to use your phone to set up dates. I would space those out, but you can also take time to talk to her for a little bit too. Build up some rapport, allow her to get comfortable with you. That can work. Now, if you don't want to do this, the truth is you don't have to. Part of the answer to this question is what you want. Do you want to text a girl every single day? Do you want to only text her once a week and just make plans with that person? There are going to be some women that are down for that, but in my own personal life, I find that women, like if they are talking to a guy that they're interested in, they kind of want to talk to him, they kind of want to hear from him. And so for me, I like to space those out the times that I'm asking her out, the times that I'm like, well, I'm just the ass girl's out, but you know, the times that we're making plans and I like to space those out in between things where we're talking about her day, I'm sharing silly things that I've found out or just like generally general banter. If you're spacing those out in between those, you can text that person a lot more. Okay? For instance, if I'm just sending her funny things and she's responding to every single message, I can be texting her every single day and it's great. But if I'm only asking her to do something or come somewhere, then I probably need to wait a week or I probably need to wait at least a few days before I continually ask that because you've been asking her to grow out every single day. That gets needy very quick and probably by the third time she's not going to respond to you. So pay attention to what you're sending this person and pay attention to how she's responding to you and that will tell you how often you should text this person. And again, it's not so much about how often you're texting the person. It's the overall like how you're messaging and what you're messaging this person that really matters. The formula that I think works for me is kind of what I was saying, which is building rapport but at the same time making plans here and there. I only try and make plans with the person probably like once a week. And if you're at the beginning stages, you should probably keep it to be around there. If you're seeing her too much at the beginning, that can drive people away fast. There's going to be a chance that she's super into you and she wants to see you super quickly. But I think you guys should back the bus up a little bit and take things a little slower, even if you really like the person. Let things work out the way they're going to because sometimes if you go in too hard, they can scare the other person off. So that's what I would recommend for you guys. I know I can't give you a straight answer to this question. What I've found in general with women is if they really like a guy, they want to hear from them every single day. They don't want to hear, hey, can you meet up? Can you meet up? But they do just want to hear from them. It's up to you whether you want to text that much because you can, that's not your style. You don't want to text her every single day. That's okay. You don't have to. And I've, me and my own personal life, like I, if I'm talking to a girl that I really like and it's the beginning stage, I'll probably message her like maybe once every other day, once every three days or something like that. But as we start dating and we start getting closer, then we can start talking more and more. But that's just me and my own personal life. Again, guys, it's up to you and it's up to how you're texting the person. So that's really what I would be looking for is paying attention to her and paying attention to what you want. All right. Well, if you want an exact answer for your given situation, you know, you probably need to talk to me, but I really only do that for my coaching clients. 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