 Hey, welcome to above life channel. Hi, this is Bridget All right, so today I'm gonna record a Sunday morning coffee episode for you with you Cheers. Yeah, I know it's early. It's so I have been doing this thing lately where I wake up in the morning early to go outside and see the sunrise and it's similar every day because of the kind of the landscape in front of me my trees and things and it's out in the front yard and It's just beautiful and today the clouds over here. I'll take a picture and post it on Instagram here on Sunday They look a little cotton candy like but they're kind of a blue like a bluish blueberry kind of color It's just so pretty. It's it's a very simple sky Today and it's just it's peaceful It's peaceful. So I will share it with you after this as long. I mean it changes so quickly That's the cool thing about the sky that I love. I love clouds and cloud pictures You know that if you watch me on Instagram, I do post quite a few cloud pics It changes so quickly the element of air really helps with swift Change doesn't it? Mm-hmm Yeah So a little bit of an update on this Sunday morning coffee with Bridget episode We're in July here as I'm recording this and yesterday on Saturday We just had our Celebration for my mother-in-law who made her transition in June this year into the afterlife and the family Just the real close family had a picnic and it was maybe I don't know 12 15 15 people I'm not even sure how many less than 20 and It was just so nice like I haven't been to a funeral or memorial service in years thankfully and I can't remember the last one. I've been to actually it's been a long time and It was outside at the cemetery and it was warm real warm and For the actual service kind of part the formal part and it was just very at first I was very I had a lot of Overwhelming the empath empathy place in the heart space and then I kind of moved into a Well, I looked I heard very clearly Trees the trees the trees and so if you've been following my work at all on fairy grasshopper Channel my YouTube channel, you know that I work with tree wisdom or a Celtic tree oracle the o-one and That's all about tree wisdom and so I looked at the trees and I just breathed in and I looked at the sky She breathed in and just really kind of centered myself in my my body now I was not Panicky because of the dead people. Let me be really clear the dead people Being in the cemetery. That's not the problem It was all the grief and mourning the sadness the mixed feelings the multitude of emotions the whole range of emotions as you would expect at a funeral That was felt there it would kind of come in like waves almost and It wasn't like waves like in the water. It actually felt like Sunwaves like you know when it's really really hot outside It almost feels like the heat kind of comes to you in waves like if you're moving or walking There's like pockets where it's not quite so bad and all of a sudden it kind of comes at you kind of in a wave Like that that's how it felt the air like the energy just felt like that kind of an air like a heavy hot air and And So yeah, so it was a living people the emotions of the living that were far more anxiety-provoking than the peace of the dead Interesting this man So I've thought about a lot of topics for whoops Sorry about that. I thought about a lot of topics today For our conversation for Sunday morning coffee, I have a lot I always get so much inspiration from sessions from channeling and I Would I Would like to talk I would like to talk about the privacy of death Or perhaps a better way to describe that would be the intimacy intimacy of death So we're gonna talk about death, but not in a morbid depressing sense. Okay We're gonna talk about it like how Where I live in Minnesota in the Midwest we have season changes So in the fall here come end of September early October the trees that you see behind me not the evergreens, of course They're always evergreen. That's the name, but the other trees that you see behind me They will turn Their leaves will turn color and then they will drop their leaves so they will die the leaves will die and They will fall off the tree They will decay and leave the tree and fall to the earth and become this mulch and compost and be accepted and received into the earth at some point and The trees are not dead They are dormant They go quiet they go within they resource their energy They conserve their energy and they resource it from within themselves when they need it as they need it We can learn a lot from trees So this is the death and rebirth cycle very obviously through nature So we get our cues from nature if we pay attention if we would actually listen or look to The natural structures of things like with sacred geometry and oh I should mention by the way If you don't follow me on fairy grasshopper YouTube You need to if you're interested in an intuitive stuff and learning about intuition learning about psychic stuff learning about Messages from spirit learning about how to interpret your own intuition. You need to just be on fairy grasshopper channel Because a couple of times a week I do videos that would help you learn and support your process. Okay, so Sacred geometry is found in nature and I actually have some videos coming Probably in the next couple of weeks I'm not sure when they're gonna be scheduled to share But that I've recorded about sacred geometry about grids and what does that mean? But my point is is that is in nature if we look to nature for our structure We'd understand that there are cycles even if you live in the part of the world that doesn't have such dramatic Changing of the leaves on the trees and then they fall to the ground and they're done with this cycle Making room for the new For the next cycle, right? When I was in the cemetery yesterday, I was feeling the energy of the evergreens of a standing below one I have some pictures. I took up just looking up at the leaves and how gorgeous the leaves were such in perfect Alignment with each other balancing each other out on both sides of the stem coming down from the leaf and how It was just this beautiful structured organized pattern that provided a sanctuary for me and as I am there Having these energy energy these connections with nature, which was beautiful Later on in the day when we went to the party or the picnic, which was so relaxing and almost felt kind of like a 4th of July Families just hanging out. It was just a beautiful relaxing summer day. It was just so perfect so perfect and And it got me to thinking and I had some deep conversations with some of my my husband's family and One woman in particular. She's a teacher and we had some really deep conversations and We talked about death just a bit. She asked me about when my mother-in-law died and If I helped her to cross over and I thought ooh, this is a really great opportunity to talk about death and My understanding and perspective of it now granted. I don't remember my death specifically in any other lifetime So I can't really stay from a first-person point of view. I can say however from a psychic medium point of view I've seen it many times in many ways through many perspectives of The afterlife and people who have died I've seen them share it in different ways And as you will know if you watch above-life channel and you watch other channeling channels other psychics You know that the perception of a of someone else's death Even when you're tapping in and seeing it through their eyes or their shared experience They're sharing an experience from their perspective with you Even psychic mediums get different variations of they see different things because we have access to different experiences within ourselves That the afterlife spirit taps into that's why people get a little different information or perceive things in a different way It's not that one person's right and one person's wrong. It's that there are different views like right now. I'm looking out at the sky It's gorgeous here. It's covered by the house the Sun, but I'm looking and I see those puffy clouds that look like cotton candies and I Think it's beautiful, but I would say oh no this idol. There's no Sun No, no no on this day at this moment. There's no the Sun isn't directly here I can you know, it's not beaming through there's no shadow. There's there's some light reflected So I I can make the assumption that the Sun is there But I can't tell you what color it is how big it is if there's other clouds in front of it What colors it's making in front of the sky if it's warm and hot by where the Sun is out I can't tell you that why because my perception is here So interesting just like with our perception of death and dying So my response to that was no I didn't help her transition or crossover You can I mean I I know that there are people and services and things Death coaches or death doulas and things that can help people transition, but let me tell you something I have a very very I Have I didn't realize this so much until recently, but I have a strong opinion about death And I said to this teacher friend. I said I believe that death is private I believe it is intimate it is between that spirit and their creator and their understandings and their life and their ever life after ever after life and I just think it's it's just like it's just like birth It's between that soul the timing the timing is between that spirit and the universe and That to me is sacred and it's intimate and it's private And I just respect that I totally respect that so I know so I said no I did that help her crossover because she was in a Situation where she was in hospice as you know if you watched my fairy grass upper channel I talked about this a few weeks back in great detail about like feelings and emotions and my perspective about it, but The For her my mother-in-law was extremely strong very strong wills very strong woman Just somebody to be really admired athletic this tiny little body that was Basically her bones were like chalk inside of her body seriously her vertebrae's her back was unbelievable I don't know how the woman could even stand up but she did and she walked and she moved and She had had back surgery at one point in her 70s and they had to stop because it was too much They were going to keep going all the way up her back And then she had some heart stuff show up and it was too long of a surgery So they had to stop and they couldn't do it again. They said they couldn't do anymore and She then continued to live another what 15 14 13 13 another to at least 10 plus years, right? Never complained never complained strong woman dealt with a lot of a lot of pain in her body A lot of pain in her body, but girls strong man. She did not complain. It's so impressive like that's so not me I get like a hang nail and I'm like And so It took her body like 10 12 days after She went into an unresponsive state like kind of like a comatose state with medication to that was helping to ease her pain and discomfort if she had any at that time and then But she was not you weren't able to communicate with her or talk to her anything like that and So There was some interpretations by there were some interpretations that potentially she needed help to cross over and so I Nobody reached like nobody reached out to me or asked me if I would help do that Which was nice because I didn't have to make the decision about that But what I know about that is that the family is Who the assistance is for so when you enter a hospice care situation? It's really for the family more than the person it's like To support the family, right and As we know people grieve differently I've talked about this to people grieve differently talked about this on fairy grass upper channel and We can't really we shouldn't we shouldn't really put ourselves into a position to grieve comparison grief or to proxy grief for someone else or to I mean grief needs to be authentic it needs to be Have room to be in a pure state in space and it has to be allowed to be expressed Individualized right some people get angry. Yes, I mean there's all these stages. We know. Yes, we know the pamphlets Yes, we've heard the stages of dying. We've heard all this stuff now It's a little more mainstream than it used to be but the privacy of death is Something that I don't think you need to help somebody transition over like oh, they're not gonna go They're just gonna stay here. Like I don't know people Now I've had cases and I'm thinking about this back in my early days as a psychic medium doing mediumship sessions where It felt as though there were spirits or souls that didn't fully cross over and in that case Yes, you could assist them to transition, but to assist somebody to die to leave their body It's not a psychic thing. It's a love thing. It's a love thing. It's about loving them It's about loving each other in their presence. It's about Allowing their physical body the beauty of the time it needs to let go and release But her physical body needed time more time But the relatives as you can imagine were upset by how long it was taking for her to die like oh my gosh Do we make the right choice to doing hospice? Do we oh my gosh, you know kind of a thing She's this strong that what you know kind of a thing and so why is it taking so long? This is horrible well Because that's how long it takes it takes as long as it takes that's Different people have different experiences And the observation of the death process it's not very private sometimes it can be very voyeur-like or observationist and Confusing and complicated and you want to be with the person because you don't want them to be alone And yet most times like when I was checking in on this death process for my mother-in-law and sharing with my husband I'm like she's not even in her body, honey. I'm like she's out of her body She's just stand in there outside her body watching everybody else watch her like it's like so weird to her and She's courted to her body because her body isn't isn't dead yet because the body is miraculous It is stronger than we think it is with stronger than we believe it is So if you need to hear that your body is stronger than you think it is your body is stronger than you maybe even believe it So I'm not kidding you. I'm not kidding you and so She was courted to her body. She her spirit was there. She's fine. She wasn't suffering there was no suffering she'd already chosen to be done to be outside the body but The process for the body just took longer than expected and she was patient But the other relatives were and we're having a hard time because there was this there's like this assumption that dying or death is suffering Or it's painful or it's and it can be the dying process within us now think about how we die to ourselves Slowly sometimes when we withhold from ourselves the truth of who we are when we deny ourselves any dreams Desires or ambitions we might have only deny the intimacy that we have with other people and sharing What we want or what we'd like or what our interests are instead we curtail that based upon what we perceive the other person needs or wants from us This is true in the death process as well We are not supporting the other person through their death We are supporting and we are creating an environment co-creating an environment for ourselves to mourn while they are living and prepare for their death That's what that process is like the hospice process feels like a preparation for death now I have been I have experienced the hospice process. It's been 13 years 14 years 13 I can't remember now how many years it's been oh no It hasn't been that long since my grandfather died and I was there I was in the hospice in the room in the hospice wing of the hospital and I was there when he died the moment He died I could feel him start to leave like transition I felt him start to kind of slip out is how it felt and I was standing right next to the bed And I stood up and I went to him and I just Connected with his energy and I just held the space energetically and I just I got to witness it but I didn't create it or support it or Make it happen or assist him to transition No, I got to be part of it, which was a gift to me that was like A sweet spot and maybe that's why people are like I want to be with them I don't want them to die alone really It's I don't want to miss this beautiful opportunity to experience the energy of the grace that comes when a person leaves their body Because there it really is a cool. Let me just say For my experience it really is a cool experience to feel the energy as an empath. However that's not what people say and Understandably because you've been in this process right this slowly letting go or maybe you've been grieving a long time Because it's been up and down and up and down medically or up and down up and down with Alzheimer's that kind of a thing or both Maybe both like with us both You kind of been prepared for this you've kind of been wanting this kind of relief for them Anyway, but not wanting them to not be here But wanting them to have a quality of life etc etc right under totally understandable you've been in this Kind of a process right for some time I Want to say that however you perceive this and understand what death means for you. It is not an event Particularly or per se it is a it's kind of like this turning point I'll say because you can use the metaphor of death and understand that in many ways things die Like I said with the trees right the leaves died, but the tree didn't The tree lives on the tree is dormant within resourcing from within Using its energy conserving its energy within ourselves We choose to Release or change limited beliefs that we might have Structures that we may have created we release a relationship a marriage We release Our children out into the world Empty nesters i'm talking to you And in a way it's a death It's a grieving of a part of a time in our life or a term that we've served And it's over it's done That part is complete And yet we still continue the relationship, but in a new evolved way I still continue the relationship with the trees even though I don't have the leaves In a new evolved way during the time of the winter there's still message and and connection and Just like the spirit in the afterlife there is still message. There is still connection and Yesterday in particular with all the family around I could just feel so much just Sweetness about the energy a happiness About things about family about appreciating those around you and it was just so sweet A sweetness and it totally is reflected of the energy of the legacy of the spirit that is crossed over and so While death the moment of to me feels very private. It's like the super sacred thing It's very intimate And so if you're you're chosen you're invited into that moment Just hold it for what it is and witness that in and just be there with it and Let yourself be there with it, but do not say that It is because you don't want the person to be alone because the person is not By the time they're in that you're in a hospice situation a care situation and the person is comatose or in and out of consciousness There's no loneliness. There's no separation of themselves They're closer to their god creator sourced energy than they've ever been and to their loving afterlife family members Welcoming them connecting with them joining in their family of origin energy of wholeness that They are not the ones that are lonely. You are there's parts of you that are lonely and those parts of you must die They must be released and let go because It will continue to create some resistance Some maybe blame a place to harbor some guilt Some play a place to question your past actions or behaviors, which does not serve you What you do if you want to question and look at your life and take a closer Lensing of your life is you start from where you're at today and you forgive yourself all those things It's not easy to do that. I'm not saying I can do that. I'm not saying I'm good at that I don't know how to do that. I just do the best I can Day by day by day and that's all we can do as humans is allow ourselves that So when I talk about death Within ourselves, it's not literal what I'm talking about for you The perception is the things that you can release and clear and give yourself a fresh start today To be closer to your wholeness to your spirit to your heart to your empathic nature To you as you are Dying to the false illusions or false promises Or commitments that you've made in the past that do not serve you You're not a bad person when you release those things and let those old commitments die And those old versions of what you thought you needed to be and how you had to act and how you had to dress I used to feel like that too. Let me tell you based upon like my kids and their friends and I don't want to embarrass them Now mama's got like her head shaved on the half side And one of my kids my oldest boy does not like it He's like, don't you remember when mom had long hair? He tells my other Kids, don't you remember don't remember mom's beautiful long hair like he clearly loved I used to have really long hair I supposed to picture that Hard to imagine, isn't it? Yeah, we look so different when we were younger and that's okay. I love this now And I'm kind of compromised Like I have Long on one side longer and one side short on the other So I'm kind of balancing right next time I'm like shaving this side too And they're just having this floppy hair on the top right Die to old expectations just death death to old expectations death to old limited beliefs Death to the crappy self-sabotage thoughts that I have sometimes Death to my limited perceptions of what I can and cannot do. Hello, mr. Crow just flying by beautifully I hope oh, I don't think you can see that on camera gorgeous crow. Just went Not loudly just Taking up wingspan space. Love the crow medicine. Oh, that's good stuff. Oh, I should talk about that I should do a video on for a grasshopper and now I'm seeing The reflections of the sun coming through and I hope that I can get a picture for you. I better wrap this up so I get a picture to post on instagram for you today So sunday morning coffee Today we talked about death a bit and there are perceptions of death and understandings of my from my perspective understanding the intimacy of that moment The privacy of death I mean, it's really personal death is personal. That's probably the best way to describe it Whether we're working on using the term death to to talk about our releasing of our different stages of our understanding of who We are who we thought we were our disappointments our Our hardships our suffering our challenges our past experiences, whatever it is that we're letting die Or the actual physical understanding of the soul leaving the body and what that means And the spirit I can assure you let me just tell you spirit is not lonely They're closer. They are not separated the body feels more separated Because it has a distinct purpose and it's beautiful. It's honorable and beautiful body beautiful body and But the spirit is not lonely. I promise you that I promise you so cheers to you today my sweet sweet viewers here For those of you who love the sunday morning coffee podcast. Thank you. I love connecting with you like this So I best to be getting on with my day. I got to do my ohms and my morning reading I'll probably be recording that version. It'll show up sometime next week or the week after I've been succinctly recording in Um videos for my card readings in the morning because I have some patterns that are showing up that are going to affect you potentially in the future because of my work as a medium and as a psychic Interesting stuff interesting stuff Thank you so much for being here. I hope I've inspired your spirit today Filled you with some hope perhaps giving you some things to think about for sure I'm certain of that and let's remember. This is your life now. Now. This is your life. This is yours This is yours So live it Just live it Thank you for being here