 Hi y'all she said Okay, so this video today is going to be about How to raise your standards? Now if you're not like If you're not very cultured if you haven't been to all these places if you haven't been to fancy places If you don't know what to like if you don't know how to raise your standards I'm gonna I'm gonna give you some clues and pointers on how to do it Okay so Take yourself somewhere nice, you know Go out to lunch somewhere nice or breakfast or where you know Whatever meal that you have time to take yourself to take yourself somewhere nice somewhere. You've never been before somewhere You'd like to go Somewhere you think you know would be a cool place to go like on a date or You know out to lunch and take yourself there first. Okay. Get used to being in certain areas in certain places that you know that you like and And you know go to lunch because the lunch means always a little bit cheaper and go to lunch You know sit down have a meal, you know order whatever you like and You know after that maybe you can go walk around and window shop or you know Just take yourself out for a date basically basically take yourself out for a date somewhere You've never been impress yourself, you know, try something new and don't be afraid to go by yourself Okay, because first of all, this is how you meet people second of all Once you meet people that are in the same places that you want to be then there's no issues of you know Equality as far as your standards so Take yourself out to lunch Maybe if you don't want to sit at a table by yourself lots of restaurants have like a bar sit at the bar Eat your lunch get maybe a glass of wine or iced tea if you don't drink But a lot of successful single men Tend to go to nice restaurants for lunch and sit at the bar and have a meal So if you're there and they're there, you know You never know what could spark and also Don't be afraid to you know to smile be more inviting, you know Look happy look like you're enjoying yourself because when people see you enjoying yourself They want to know, you know, oh this person looks like she's fun to hang around. Oh, she looks cool She's living the life. She's happy, you know, they don't see you as someone who's like out to scheme on them or They don't see you as like Purely sexual because you're not like in a club at night dressed all, you know skimpy You're out having lunch at a very nice restaurant and you're in your lady clothes when I say lady clothes I mean your classy clothes. Okay Like you could like they don't know if you're on your lunch break. They don't know if you're a lady of leisure But you're dressed nice. You're not showing everything. You're you know, presentable someone they could take home to mom. Okay So you go out to lunch Try to go alone like guys don't like to approach women with a lot of cackling women around them But try to go alone sometimes, you know Be easily Able to be approached, you know So like when you go about yourself you take yourself to a nice restaurant You're raising your standards. You're showing other people who might be interested in you looking at you what you expect You could end up meeting someone Or not So you just take yourself on a date, you know, go go look around at, you know Places where you think it would be a good place to you know Go after dinner perhaps like a Museum or a Art museum like if you like history go to the natural history and science museum You like art go to the art museum and just walk around, you know Get into the feel of how you want to be treated and And your standards because then when someone approaches you and they ask you out on a date and they say well Where do you want to go? You have all these nice places to name And you might just impress them Because they might have never been and they might feel say oh well this lady knows, you know Nice things to do and she's very classy and she's showing me new things. I really like this. She's so different You know instead of the same old thing. Oh, let's just go have drinks. Oh, let's just go to the club, you know You're you're going out exploring places so that when you do get asked on a date Then you have some cool, you know new stuff to do that they might not consider, you know Places to go on a date. So you're exploring explore your city find little cool things different things that are not You know just like a Normal thing to do That's it one time when I was when I was younger I took my date to the natural history the natural history funeral museum. I Took them to a funeral museum because it was like right next door to where I went to school. I Went to mortuary college, so it was connected to the school And they were like wow, that's so cool. I didn't even know this place existed, you know Or just like a new restaurant that no one's in it like, you know That's different different type of food fusion food I don't know but just do something different take yourself out to something different because when you are approached by a guy the next time You're not gonna be boring in the same and oh, I want to go, you know here and I want to go there to the club I want to go, you know You're gonna have some interesting things to do and it's also gonna raise your standards and men because you're Automatically gonna know who's gonna be who's gonna fit in here Who's gonna be able to afford this place and who's gonna be able to? Also be impressed by this place, you know If you're if you're used to dating guys who are like subpar Mediocre, you know, you know, they're not gonna enjoy certain things You know, they're not gonna be able to afford certain places So you're not even going to be interested in them because now your standards are raised You know what you like, you know where you want to be taken on a date You'll see when you're out. You'll see other people on dates at these places You'll see the kind of men That they're dating and and you'll see them, you know, you know what they don't look that much different than me They're not that much different than me. I can actually, you know date someone on this level, you know, you'd be surprised I've gone into places where you would think, you know Only super rich people will go but I will go in there and see people look worse than me and I don't look bad but I will see them on dates with these guys and You would be like, you know, I Just been going to the wrong places, you know Go to the nice side of town and get your standards up. Don't hang around places where you know These people have issues. Go go uptown, you know That's what I did I'm not even lying. I would not hang out in places where I knew The people weren't gonna be able to Meet my standards. Yeah So go to go somewhere new Put on your lady-like outfit not not a slut outfit Because this is gonna be like during the day On a weekend or whatever put on a lady-like outfit So that when if a guy does approach you, he approaches you the right way with class, you know He's he's interested in you to getting to know you as a person to date you not just to have sex with you So Remember that like I don't ever suggest. I've never had a long-term relationship With anybody I met in the club. No Clubs are just like pick-up places for you know Stuff like that and and there are some people who met in the club and are still together. I understand that but Nowadays it's like It's not a good place to meet people. No bookstores. Yes But it's kind of weird trying to meet somebody in a bookstore because you know but a bookstore is a good place because you know You read I read we're literate, you know, we're not ignorant, you know, at least you have that in common, but Yeah, so raise your standards take yourself on a nice date Look around you observe your environment observe the people there observe the type of people on dates there Get into the feeling of being in nicer places and hiring your expectations of where you allow men to take you on dates Lady, okay, please no buffets I'm sorry Do not go to a buffet on a date, please. I beg of you. Don't do it Also, let's see, you know Like if you're overly Overly, you know done up for club all the time tone it down a little bit just a little bit for the daytime You know don't go out looking like, you know Overly made up guys don't like women overly made up. They think they're hiding something but just keep it You know, you can put on makeup put on lashes. You can put on whatever but don't overdo it No, don't don't look like a drag queen at noon Walking around, you know a park with kids Tone it down a little bit, right? I've seen some women who just went crazy just like they're walking around Walmart and stilettos with Like club clothes on okay on Sunday morning or Saturday morning. I'm like, no So yeah, tone it down a little bit because guys if they see that they think you know Oh, she's a hooker or she's trying to get attention from all the men And you just look natural nice a little bit done up like you care about yourself like you have standards. That's what they like Okay My tongue is numb because I sprayed some perfume and my mouth was open Anyway It tickles So yeah, thank y'all I know like a lot of y'all are younger and y'all are still like in the dating game and stuff like that Y'all need some little hints and tips and pointers and some of y'all have already been married and divorced and trying to get back into the dating game A lot of things have changed since You know, you you might have last dated or since I've dated men are more I'll just say this average men Who make average income or lower are not trying to pay for your stuff y'all And if they are they want something in return most of the time Not all the time there. I'm not gonna say all guys Okay They could genuinely be looking for you know a nice person to hang out with but You got to go for guys with a career a Stable career because if they have a job, I'm gonna tell y'all if you're turning date a guy with a job That's not That's not a solid foundation because they could lose that job You know if you have a career a guy he can just hop from company to company to company because his career secures his position in any company like you know that is You know to what his career is pertaining to so Try to tend to date guys with careers because they'll be more stable financially and they won't feel like Taking you out on the date is a risk Of losing their rent money or something. Okay, but go for guys with careers Go to lunch. Look for guys who are in like nice clothes that you know, they work somewhere That's nice and have a career Don't hang out at night guys who hang out late at night, especially on the weekdays They don't have a good job because they're like They're supposed they would be home getting sleep if and not out in the club trying to party if they were You know financially responsible and had a good career. Okay, they would usually be in by at least 10 o'clock On the week night now weekends different story Okay So yeah, so go out weekdays like if you have a lunch break take yourself to a nice restaurant for lunch Save up your little money. I know bring your lunch like maybe three days a week Save your money from going to like the fast food or wherever you eat Save that up to go get you like a good meal at a nice restaurant sit at the bar make yourself available and You know look around observe observe what's going on and see what you are missing by having low standards If you have low standards, I don't know Um That's what I okay. I'm gonna how long do I have okay? I'm gonna tell y'all a quick story every day, okay Every day me and my friend would go out to eat at this really nice restaurant We would sit at the bar and we would see business owners. We would see lawyers Doctors it was right in the medical center y'all go to go near the hospitals. Okay, let's write Near the medical center, we would see doctors lawyers funeral directors, you know everybody and We would just people would like just See us eating there. They would come in approaches. Would you like a drink? Oh? Would you like some company? Oh, well, what do you do are you going your break, too? And yeah, I work over there at the hospital and Home on company blah blah blah blah, you know, and they would just give you their car make sure you're me and got a car like, you know That means they have a career They would just give us cars and it's like if you ever want to go to lunch, you know We're on the same side of town the same time they just let me know I'll take you lunch Free lunch every day since We didn't even have jobs y'all me and my friend didn't even have a job We were just like y'all ready go you ready to go to lunch Okay, and she'll play well, I just called such and such and he say he'll take us both to lunch So they just want to be seen with pretty women You know, I don't know and they have enough money to just you know throw around it's lunch their doctors and okay, so She was in charge of making their arrangements Anyway, so let me start with my old tales of the early 2000s Okay, thank y'all for watching if y'all have any comments or questions Put them down below and I'll see y'all later