 Hey, tribe of journeymen and women. So today we are back and Lesson that that la la la lessons that I have learned the hard way, which means I am sharing Oh, my mom is gonna pass by it. Let's pretend she doesn't exist where we are sharing the Lessons that the experiences that I directly went through Experienced probably some pain and difficulties and challenges But eventually discovered some cool stuff which helped me evolve and I work on them and In this one, I will do something that I will I did already a Before we will take a look at my desktop. Oh, so exciting But trust me, it's gonna be a good one. So we're gonna digest and dissect This guy today Shiny it's another desktop. I made if you don't know what I'm talking about. I'll quickly show you I Have this tradition for a while now. Oh, it's this is my new one. Shoot. You weren't supposed to see it Okay, well, that's a good example. I guess Because so I choose a picture which resonates me which Which kind of Inspires me and expresses the image that that makes me stronger that empowers me or reminds me what's important for me This is Batman, but I'll tell you about this one next time and then I start writing down whenever I feel like I Face adversity I face a challenge. I Look deep and hard for a solution like what thought what insight Will inspire me to overcome that will be the solution which will help me move and pass through it and whenever I find that one which really resonates with me and kind of embodies a certain message I Type the text on The picture and then this is just the beginning. I just started this one but Then you know, it's gonna be like all over the place and when it's finished when when the space is full And I kind of feel that I covered Like that period that that stage that stage of certain challenges that I started owning it And I'm like, okay now I am actually not I'm not only intellectually thinking about these things Which are written down, but I actually feel like I started embodying them and and I'm really practicing them They're really like they became part of me Then I move on to the next one So in one of the videos I already covered one of them But it's been a couple months. I guess two three months dish After I finished that one and started a new one and as you could see this is the new one Let me open it up for you This is the new one and it's full and packed There was a lot of stuff there and we're going to dissect it and I will share the most valuable insights that help me pass through adversity And what each sentence means in this video. So Let's get a sip of coffee and let's get started so first of all you see the Image of the Batman and with editing powers. I will probably just put it up for you without using my reflection here the reason I chose this particular Wallpaper or first of all, there's obviously You know empty space a lot of empty space there where you can put the text in but the Image of self off Batman if you don't know yet. I love the character of Batman. They're separate videos about that why I love him But in this particular moment, he you know, he's kind of in that state of Confidence and I'm ready to take this on and That was kind of the sense that I felt or I felt like that's what I need The first stage the one which I dissected before There was a lot of doubt and a lot of hardship And a lot of confusion But I kind of started working through that and in this stage I felt like okay, you know what? It's still a tough time. I'm still like a bit confused and a bit lost and I'm not sure exactly how to Deal with this problem But I'm I'm confident I will you know, I'm in that stage where no matter what's gonna happen I will push through it and that picture in particular kind of reflects for me that now if we look at The specific phrases I wrote down There's again, there's a lot of them and I it's not like it's not necessarily in order like here and here I think I was bouncing back and forth like in this way But the first one I wrote is be raw personal and vulnerable Basically the the main Challenge behind this whole journey was to find and discover My journey that I set out myself for is how to create the biggest possible impact So as many people as I can and and I wasn't sure for quite a while now I have a good clear knowledge of where I can what I can start it But at that moment I was still like in that confusion state and like trying things and seeing what works and what doesn't and not really Being sure like how can I deliver the most value and one of the realizations was that in our society? We are missing Authenticity more than off more than less you know Like if you look at influencers a lot of them, which I guess I'm kind of part of that culture Unfortunately, I'm trying not to be like part of that culture, but you know, I guess you can consider me an influencer based on those terms but like if you look at Instagram was that I'm not that good on Instagram, but There's a lot of tendencies to present only the positive side of yourself and actually PewDiePie the biggest youtuber in the world 60 million followers or think he's I like him. He's a good guy But then he made once a video, which I really liked was he was talking about forced positivity You know, he's he's all about YouTube He knows all the biggest youtubers and he was criticizing and that he's been through that road himself That sometimes you get that feeling that if you really want to reach an audience You need to kind of show only your positive side You always have to be hyped and energetic and he was taking up some research researchers where who are saying that It's actually bad for the psyche that kind of leads a person to depression and he was talking that it's a bad way to go But but that's kind of how most influencers are Or people in general like turn on Facebook and everyone is sharing only the good sides of their lives Like I've been in this trip look at me and my partner here and and so so yeah, you have a lot of those things which The trouble with that is first of all it Creates a false impression. It kind of makes you feel like everyone is doing great and you're the only one doing bad So and that illusion is unhealthy, but also too. I feel like as a society We are missing Authenticity we actually it's important that we would go out there and talk with each other Openly about our problems and issues and the the distinguishment there. There's a fine line, which I think it's important to balance on I'm not suggesting everyone to complain and it's not something I want to do either or I should do I think that's complaining doesn't work. We do there are people who complain all over the place And that's like that's not really helpful for anyone But I'm talking about Kind of owning your shit meaning where You're you're not controlled by Your difficulties in your life and you're not complaining to everyone you're not crying to everyone about it But but you admit it you're open that it's there, but you're focusing at the same time You're admitting it. You're accepting it. You're embracing it But you're also focusing on something on the next step You're not staying in that place, but you're moving to the better place And I really want to part of my journey. I realized authenticity and honesty is not It is a challenge sometimes, you know, sometimes I talk about things which are not easy to talk about but But it's not that difficult for me to access it. I'm used to being honest with you and I'm not afraid to share my shit and And I realized it's important that I do that And that's actually something in my understanding in my in my vision. That's something that actually the world needs. We need more Vulnerability we need more openness to realize that we're all in the same boat So that's where kind of the idea comes from I realized if I want to give something valuable to people I need to be raw personal and born vulnerable. That's the only way I will really give something unique now So this is where the second sentence comes in share success and failure, but share its certainty Because I did in the past when I used to run my martial arts journey channel my main channel With more than a hundred thousand subscribers now I tried a lot of different things in that channel and sometimes I would Admit my mistakes there, which I thought is a good thing to do I felt like I need to do it But something I noticed that if I would go down with a mistake Then people would appreciate it less like people wouldn't find it as valuable if I did this mistake And I did this mistake then it's all about me, but if we are thinking about Offering value to others. It's important that That we would share it objectively and I guess, you know, it can be emotional about it too, but but again, we don't want to make It's it's not about making yourself into a victim instead. It's looking at your challenge with certainty and And and exploring it together with others, which is I think a powerful tool powerful powerful vehicle That's kind of something that I noted down for myself is that I need to share success and failure But share it with certainty so that I shouldn't just go out there and tell about my problems to the world But instead even better is I should share my difficulties when you know, I have a certain sense of What I learned from it or where I'm going to go with it So I could talk more about here by feeling a bit big So I hope you got the main kind of idea and I'll just move on to the next one The next one is a lot of change too fast hurts the law of solid ground Make sure you calculate and take care with change So this is a powerful one and it's one I used to bump into constantly my life, but it's the first time I really found the solution for it and Quick story in short ways when I bumped into all these walls and I realized There's something I'm missing. I'm not sure how to make this happen. I Realized I'm missing information. I dove into books and for like a couple of weeks. I was just like mad like crazy I was reading books from morning till evening and walking my dog with audio books and just all the time learning and gathering Information and one of the books I read was really a really good one Maxwell by Max was Something anyway, it's a it's 21 Irrefutable laws of leadership. I think it will see a leadership book and That book was telling that if the leader Changes his direction too many times too quickly then his The people who is leading start to doubt him and I noticed that in the past I used to do that mistake You know, I would be quick about if I would notice something doesn't work I would be quick to drop it and then take the new thing and to degree. It's a good practice, but also it's a dangerous practice because you are that makes people feel like you're uncertain and It's more difficult for people to trust you and if I really want to give something valuable to people I need to make sure that there's a relationship between of us of trust and certainty so So that's that's the reason I wrote down this throat this quote That I need to make sure that I don't I consider What changes I'm gonna make and I don't rush it that if I decide that I need to change something that I would change into it slowly and kind of get everyone together with me versus just Rapidly keep chaotically changing and then making people feel uncertain Now this is a great one if you take a step too far take three steps back Recollect and then keep moving forward this one. I came up for by myself for myself But it really empowered me and helped me out to realize how to do this because again when I was in the lost and confused state I I felt like I okay. I'm gonna try this and I try that I'm gonna try that and sometimes I felt I was bombarding people and people who were following my new journey and they were like, okay This is a bit too much for us and they would be uncertain You know how to how to follow along this journey and benefit from it and when I would catch myself in that moment There would be a bit of a sense of panic. I'm like, oh shit. I fucked up I I I tried too many things too quickly and now people are confused about what's happening. That's kind of what I did How I finished my martial arts journey with announcing this journey It was too quick and too sudden and too much information and then that created a sense of uncertainty people So I Wanted to make sure that so what I learned is that if I feel like it's a tendency I have to do too much too quickly And I realized that when I do that I should accept that there's a sense of panic that I'm like, oh my oh crap I did that again and then just kind of chill down come back to something which is Which I know which I am confident that works and Stay in that room for a while. Don't go mad. Don't go crazy Don't go continue experimenting, you know for a moment stick with things that you know that work Settle in regain your confidence regain your ground and then move on so that that really helped me another one is People first need to buy into you only later crumbs division keep working hard to people to let Keep working to let people trust you keep working hard and by that The buy into it's again a quote from the leadership book, which really helped me at the time at that stage when I was in it the idea by the writer is that Even if your vision is the best What you're teaching is the best but people don't Trust your believing you in this way, you know as a leader that you can lead them to where you want to be They will not listen to your vision that first You know, it's quote for him that they need to buy into you are meaning they need to develop a relationship of trust They need to believe that you can take them them where you're Tongue them that you will take them and I realized that's one of the challenges. I was facing You know, I I I introduced my new direction so quickly and in kind of a chaotic way that people started losing The trust in me or faith that I can do something because it was so new as well and so awkward My new direction the way I announced it that people were like, well, okay. Well, even if some of it sounds good Uh I will wait kind of I will wait and see if this really if this is really real before I You know put any effort or thoughts into it or or interest and that's one of the ways I kind of discovered this This open sharing I realized, you know what instead of Coming out with an end product an idea of oh, we should all do this together instead. I should come back to the beginning and simply uh offer something solid offer something of value but Something that would help us develop a relationship of trust Where you will feel like okay, I can trust rocus. I see who he knows what he's talking about Now let's see where he wants to head to I realize that's that's an important step To make if I want to achieve something big with this in the future So I want to create a culture. Oh, this is a big one. So, okay. Well, let's let's stick with it I want to create a culture and movement of people who are devoted to becoming their best selves Focusing their lives on serving others According to their strengths So this is a quote which came to me at the final stages of this this period Where Where I've asked myself, so what do I really want to achieve here and this phrase resonated with me so much I was like, oh, this is exactly what I want and And that's what I realized that again. I want to create a culture and movement like that's my Endgame that's that's what I would really want to fulfill in my life Is to inspire people and kind of create a platform for people where they could Where they would feel inspired to devote themselves to becoming their best selves Not only for themselves, but also for others And again kind of focusing on their strengths to give what they can give best not to try to copy someone else So it's a long story and I'm still kind of clarifying this but that that particular line that particular phrase Really inspires me and shouldn't and that's what I want to aim for to be honest. I don't know yet exactly how to get there But I'm taking this journey one step at a time I'm looking what's the next good step and then taking it But then that's what I would want to go to that's what I would want to see in the world. I want to see That's why I use the word culture. We want to see a lot of people living that way living not for themselves not being Make not make their lives all about that but making their lives about themselves as much as everyone else And aiming to become better so that they could serve better They could put more value into the world and I want that to be like a standard I wouldn't I wouldn't make sure that that that's not a An exception. We're like, oh look at this guy. He's doing something for the better of everyone But that that would become a standard There would be a whole huge movement where it's like a lot of people are doing that A lot of people are living that way. I think that would Dramatically improve our world and our lives We would have more people who are living not for themselves, but for the greater whole And and also I'm inspired by an idea that was presented by Malcolm Gladwell In the book the tipping point a very good book on marketing, but but just covers a lot of universal things The idea behind the tipping point is that When there's enough people standing on the other side of the scale the scales start to tip and switch And something that used to be new becomes the norm like you know in the past There were moments where Cars were new, you know with forward Eventually making cars a natural thing to have now. It's like, oh you have a car. I have a car as well But someday it was like, oh look he has a car Now it has become a norm and that became a norm when enough people and more people than less had it And everyone was like, okay, it's normal to have a car. It's not something exceptional So that's the tipping point and that's what I would want to create with this journey as an end game as an end result that Living for the better of everyone else while devoting yourself to become best possible version Because that's the only way I believe you can you know really have significant impact on others And also playing to your strengths really, you know giving something that you're good at which others can't And To make that a norm would be oh my god, that'd be incredible. That'd be crazy. So that's what I'm gonna slowly move into now Don't expect or wait for everyone to agree with you. That is the way of batman long story about the batman part, but basically As I started publishing your videos and I actually started to discover my voice I started to feel like oh this is actually a great step To develop this journey and this is where I can make my initial impact and create value is through these You know conversations with you honest vulnerable raw and personal One of the first videos I put out and I had this faith I felt like I can really give something valuable for this At the same time I got one comment which kind of hit me It was a comment which tried to prove that I'm actually crazy You know that I'm I don't know what I'm doing and that I'm I'm taking this In the wrong way. I'm doing the wrong thing and that I should come back to the martial arts journey and uh, and you know, it's That comment kind of hurt me And made me question myself for a moment I was like I felt so confident about this new direction and I felt so strong and solid And then I read this comment and something bugs me about it. I was like, oh crap Well, because I guess part of me and I don't want to make this narrative too long But part of me is It's I do want People to be with me. I do want people to To see where I'm heading and and to move together And I know that I can't convince everyone and I know that I can't You know help out everyone to understand what I'm aiming for and and what is it that I'm doing But still it's it's painful because also to you as a viewer who's been on my channel for a long time And I would get comments from him constantly So there was kind of a sense of a personal relationship also weird personal relationship, but still But then I when I got this comment it kind of discouraged me and for a moment I I was like So man if he doesn't get me well Maybe there is Maybe there is a chance and I'm failing and I'm not doing the right thing But then I realized you know what? No, there was a deeper feeling in me. There was a deeper sense Where I know that this is legit. I can see that this is I don't know the end result yet. I don't know the old all the ways to do this But I'm starting to discover them. I I'm starting to see people receiving value from what I'm doing And and that's where the phrase came in don't expect or wait for everyone to agree with you That it's not about everyone saying you're doing the right thing like even Martha Martha Luther King, you know, he did incredible things, but he got shot That's because you know not everybody greeted him and that that the same applies to anyone else I kind of have had to remind myself and I have to remind myself that If somebody disagrees with you and something criticizes you heavily that doesn't mean it's a bad sign That in the end in the end, I can't wait for everyone to be with me on the same page before moving on and taking the next steps So don't expect or wait for everyone to agree with you. That is the way of Batman and with the Batman part a short explanation That's why the character of Batman inspires me and his mythology and the graphic novels and some of the movies He doesn't wait for everyone to agree with him some people hate him some people criticize him But he's focused on what he's doing and he's moving on because he knows that's his Legacy and he doesn't stop. So that's that's kind of that kind that image inspires me And we have just a few more left so Huh Oh, so this is actually these two relate so after you know the creating of culture and movement But first I need to prove and establish myself as a trustworthy value giver in this realm And that's something I kind of you know spoke about into the buy into part is that no matter how much I'm inspired by that uh idea or concept of creating a culture and movement of of people Living for the greater whole I can't go nuts and high all be hyped about it. It's a mistake already in the past Where I just just all I do is talk about that because that is an end result That's something that needs to be built and developed through time of of constant effort and and a relationship of trust so have some coffee and um I have coffee grains all over Who cares? So that that if I really want to Create that culture first of all I have to have that strong trusting relationship with you that you would See what I'm about that you would trust my words that you would trust that I'm sincere about what I'm doing And that that that we could move on together that you could give me feedback when I'm wrong and you know that I could Tell my mistakes when I make them but also that yeah, I would just that that you would Feel like there's there is value to listen to what I'm saying and that I will not give up Halfway through doing this that this is a thing that I'm completely devoted to all of that Trust needs to be developed through action. You need to see me To do really need to see me doing this again and again and again for years for a year for two years for three years Not giving up when I face adversity I'm always doing what I'm saying And it's important that you would see that I'm really serious about this and that I will not give up And then that gives that trust and faith that when the time will come to start creating that culture creating that movement You will believe that you will know that I will not back out and that you can invest in this and you will not be left alone because that is Intentionally, that's my life's legacy You know and and I will be with you for this whole whole journey And I will work my ass off and I will put all my effort to make it happen So that means you can come along on the ride and you can become part of it And until that trust trusting relationship is developed I understand it's like you look at it if I would rush with this and I would be like Oh, let's create this culture and movement and you're like, well Who knows maybe Roku's is gonna quit the first time he gets a chance to or maybe this is no He's crazy. Maybe he's mentally ill and maybe he doesn't know what he's talking about So it's important to kind of Create a trust in relationship before I head there Okay last one Don't be concerned about numbers don't be concerned about results Don't be concerned about adversity trust your intuition And this is a big one But you know, I'm running out of time and a bit of running out of energy So so I'll just kind of slowly start wrapping it up. But basically what it points out to Is That especially when you're in the game of youtube, which I will talk more about in the future You see the statistics And you release a video And you see oh this video performed not as good as your other videos or you didn't get any You know comments somebody wrote a really nasty comment saying that you're wrong And all of that can easily discourage you from making Either new videos But if you're still sticking with it, it can discourage you from Creating the same type of content You can easily come to a conclusion if if that video is less watched than the previous video You're like, okay that I was really hyped about this direction, but it seems like People don't like it people don't care about it. I won't I shouldn't do it anymore but that's a bad way of looking at it because Not all great things will be recognized from day one to be honest Great things usually get criticized before they get recognized You know if they're if something your dean is not criticized there is chance you're not doing the right thing And that's why I feel it's important to trust the intuition if you have that feeling like I really see this as big I really trust this And even if the numbers are bad initially and you get adversity and you don't get the results you expected That doesn't mean you should stop and as Gary v One of the best social media experts in the world said Uh an idea I picked up from him until before you released If we're talking taking youtube as an example, which is a direct example for me before you have released 50 videos At least 50 videos on that subject. It's too early to question yourself and and and ask if this is the right direction or this is the wrong direction And that's a great idea because you know sometimes we publish one at video two videos We try once Twice fries and if it doesn't work, we're like, oh, that's a sign that it's not for me But no, you should do it at least 50 times and you should trust your intuition And you should you know keep going. So that's what I reminded. That's what I wrote down for myself And reminding myself that I I should resist the temptation To look at the numbers to look at the comments and decide whether this is a good direction or not based on that I should know better deep inside Through my intuition, which is I believe a subconscious You know employing the gathered intelligence and making decisions Uh, yeah that I should trust that process More than than temporary short-term results And doesn't mean you shouldn't listen at all to comments or views and numbers, but but it shouldn't be primary and the last one it's Oh, just Do what you know is right no matter what that is the way of the Batman And that's the same, you know, that's kind of the wrap up of the whole wallpaper here is that it's again No matter what happens no matter how many people disagree with you If you know that this is right if your gut tells it to you if your whole essence tells you this is the right way You should continue doing put the blind ears on as Gary V says and just continue doing it That's what Batman does in his mythology. That's what deeply inspires me and that's what I want to do So again, I hope you this Page was valuable to you and you got some valuable insight as well. Let me know what stuck with you most Share with me. I'm always read the comments and I do my best to respond to all of them But yeah, this was you know another private journey and then I'm ready making a new one and And just this is somebody to kind of let you know what what this was if I didn't tell you in the beginning So this desktop desktop is a rotating desktop I still have the new one And so these keep changing I'm actually going to show you the folder. So I have them in a folder Yeah, there's four of them right now. This one is The one I already covered the one I just covered and the one which already feel like I'm embodying This is a new one which I'm going to work on This is the first one which is starting to become old news But good to remember and this is my vision board and these keep changing on my desktop So that whenever I turn on the pc I would see it and it would remind me what's important What I learned what I need to learn and I would kind of constantly Be stimulated to to keep on owning this journey. So yeah Simple as that let me know what you think keep questioning and I'll see you in the next video