 Let me see make sure Just wanted to pop in the night for a quick Quick little live. I had did a Little live for the blessed tribe. What's the night Monday night? I'm gonna hear working a little more work left to do So I ain't gonna be on here alone but Had shot a video earlier today and then Now one of the things about when you're shooting videos Let me make sure this thing here make sure my YouTube One of the things when you're shooting videos Even know if y'all could hear me think I got the volume turned up one thing about when you shoot videos as an introvert One of my secrets is which today I was Promoting a YouTube course on Tony Gaston's Academy But one of my secrets is being an introvert and being a really shy person a lot of people don't believe that because they see My YouTube but I have to really go in my head and pretend I'm just talking to myself on YouTube pretend I'm just talking to the camera and I can't think about who's watching who's gonna see it or any of those things and one of My secrets is is when I shoot a video I have to upload it immediately Without looking at it. So I never watch back any of my videos I probably could count on my two hands out of the thousands thousand plus videos I have shot I could count on my two hands how many of the videos I have looked back at Before publishing it or after publishing some of my watch it after I published because I'm like look the word got to go out I'll watch it after it just to see if what I said was too abrasive or just too real too raw And I had shot a video today 50-minute video and didn't wasn't able to post it because I was driving to the game room with McKiz and my nieces and nephew and so I didn't get to post it cuz when you got a long video It won't post on just phone data. You got to be on Wi-Fi and so I end up having to Delete the video cuz I had time to think about it and I was like man. I probably I said this said that Deleted it and so I just say let me go live to make up for deleting that 50-minute video That I had in shot just sharing random life lessons y'all know sometime when I'm driving how I do I Try God bless you now on there Now and for y'all know them boy peanuts. I posted You know somebody one lady. I had a blocker went to talking about MSG and dirtiest thing and all that like man I'm listening. We've been eating boy peanuts all like if a boy peanut gonna kill you like my People around here Getting all kind of you having all kind of unprotected that and then talking about a boy peanut I'm like that come out of earth and they know addiction like the green leaf that people smoking on that come out of earth so I'm like a little boy peanut come out of earth and So I had a blocker You know, I don't deal with all that foolishness on the page man, you know, just like come on now You see I'm up here promoting blight business this boy peanuts The the best boy peanuts that the rural have ever seen if you taste a boy peanut You take these boy peanuts and you taste a boy peanut that tastes better than it I got to taste the old boy peanut and I fly and Stay in the country to taste them boy peanuts but um But that's it's a my friend I grew up with them and we're not best friends Or we don't hang out all the time and unlike that I just know him from childhood and he he'll you know a black man and man, you know He could be doing something else So I'm you know, I'm glad he's doing what he's doing because he could be doing something else Now what I was doing and now I don't know if this is a personality trait or whatever it is but one of the things that I hate is when I'm doing something and I run out of time of what I'm doing and I'm I'm cleaning up my group chat of The the growth group the growth group mastermind. We have a group chat, but I Just lost track of if somebody, you know had to drop out of the group just do the financial reasons That's the that's the only reason that I've known of Tonya. God bless you now Watch and with God bless you Thank you now. Oh, yeah now. I'm a shot shot now Book is coming in on my mentor. God bless you now. Y'all know my mentor dot life Certified life coaches Certified life coaches consultants therapists counselors on them Could join on there and watch Amber. She she got a YouTube but she she wanted a coach is on there and and so I always drop a name if somebody asked a question that relate to, you know, her sub subject matter Let me see not what I was doing is I'm sitting up here and I'm going through To Shawna Brown God bless you for being active still on the in the growth group. I Was going through and deleting the accounts from the thing that work That had expired, you know, because in the mastermind group It's a monthly Membership and so if somebody not on there and so I got a I'm in the tease right now So that thing bothered me because I thought I was gonna be done before I set the live I was like, oh, I just need 30 minutes But I didn't realize how tedious this was checking the name checking searching and on the Academy to see if the thing is Still active and then having to delete the person from the group chat and see that's one of the things with these group chats that people do not group chats is when people do these growth the coaching groups and it's a monthly fee if somebody is If somebody cancels Then you want to remove that person from the group chat so that they just not in there You know eating all that good free posting and a good free Lessons and communication that's going on in there because it's not fair to the people who actively In the group and then for the people who then defaulted to still be in there getting all that good and so I had to go clean it up before the new year and Taking a little time Alyssa K. God bless you now ITG. Do you have a core? Thank you for your ministry. God bless you and the family love your new book No, because that Subject matter is something that deals with trauma or Other things that typically a therapist touches on So although that's in my past You know and I had to heal and grow and I can speak to it but not just for liability reasons and Not to be trying to practice as a therapist without a license. I don't touch on or teach on Those things, you know, you're wrong All of those words and ironically them words not even allowed on YouTube They I just saw one of my videos that had got D monetized for some I guess I said something in there. So you have to go in and request a review For them to review it. It's like my goodness. I'm a I'm a author of self-development books who come on YouTube to discuss self-development and they be YouTube talk about all that ain't allowed. You can't talk about all that you got to hey I take that somewhere else this this for the pranks and the ratchet I'm like my goodness. You can't come on here and help people without y'all Trippin Hey Tony, how do I find a guy who is good at conversation? Most men just talk about themselves and I get bored easily. I like a man that I can learn from Well, I think that's a human thing because All humans like talking about themselves So what what we have to be is be comfortable listening to humans talk about themselves because women do it, too You know, so we all got to be in that place Hey, I'm waiting on episode two two the last one was the Wednesday So hopefully by this wins that we have episode which it'll be episode three last week when y'all watch titles if you haven't watched titles the Webisode that I produced that was episode one and two combined So these episodes are only like seven to ten minutes And so that was episode one and two combined the next release will be episode three But wait, I'm waiting on the editor to get it over to me Um, and so what I was saying is is, you know a man if even if he talking about itself That's conversation, but the more man talk that's actually a good thing because the more you learn it the more you picking up And so you got to enjoy that space embrace that space and it also just shows how men don't get to talk You know men don't get to talk men don't get affirmed Men are told to shut up be quiet so you really Want to be able to let a man talk and that's how a man falls in love with the woman who gonna listen So if you bored then that mean that's not the man for you or it mean you selfish or self-centered And so you got to figure out which one it is if you selfish or self-centered Then you got to work on that if you bored at this guy talking about itself Then that mean that's not your husband because that's your husband You want to hear about them and everything about them, you know And so the other thing is you don't really want to get caught up Want no man you can learn from because a man who who you can learn from is also a man who might try to raise you So you got to think about that now That makes sense. Thank you. Do you help with that on one-on-one coaching sessions? Uh, no, I don't help with that on one-on-one either because again, that's a topic for a therapist and so You know, if you're out here doing things that require a treatment plan And you're not a licensed therapist You can get in trouble for that. Not sure what the penalty would be, but you know, I stay in my lane And so that that's therapy now Turning that knowledge into something So let's say you get the knowledge and you understand this man who is a And then you want to write a book about it As a coach as a consultant, I can help you write your book I can help you with your outline. I can help you start your nonprofit organization or your for-profit organization. I can take you through my Coach life coach training so that you could become a coach and you can help Women who healing on the other end of that on the other side of that. So You know, what I do is turn pain into purpose. You know our coaches. We looking forward. We're not diagnosing. We're not labeling We're not prescribing. We're not using treatment plans It's it's shade tree wisdom And it's really just an accountability partner somebody who's listening Who's asking you great questions to get you to really dig deeper and you discover your own answers And then the coach helps you create a plan of action of what you're going to do with this discovery And then the coach holds you accountable along the way So that's what coaching is. It's it's different than therapy And so and some people have both some people do both. Welcome to the new members I mean somebody on here been three months I can't believe God bless you now. God's voice flows through Utoni gas and come right on time every time to silence the enemy. God bless you God bless you That's interesting um Brianna put um hashtag cue in front of your question So I could see it And um the moderators they delete everything in the chat. That's not a question So that it's not, you know, we don't I don't like to turn this into no gossip blog or Nothing like that. No, no You know side shows it just Q&A when I'm doing a Q&A. This ain't really a Q&A But since y'all asking questions, I'm answering I just coming on here just running my mouth Let me see Why do most men smoke? Will they stop for the one? You really don't want a man to stop for you You really don't want a human to give up an addiction for you Because that addiction could come back at any time So what you don't want is somebody to give up an addiction for you And then that addiction kicked back in and you didn't have now you pregnant Or you didn't had a child or two or three or you didn't you know Caught they std and Otherwise you would have lived with them and and been y'all would have been happy with y'all std But now that addition kicked back in now. You're like, oh my goodness now. I got a little with your std and Your addiction so My daddy taught me that, you know, because I would meet young ladies and I'm very conservative My wife get on to me now because I'm real conservative like how I got this gray shirt on I wear gray and black every day And she bought me clothes. I got a little spruce torn And she said you need to start acting like you 67, but I'm an old soul and so If if my wife She dressed conservative too But if she was to put something on that's a love Like I'm not the type of man that could be with Some of these women from instagram that wear all of these super tight clothes super revealing clothes And it's just because in my mind I feel like That's the that's called a private part for a reason and so If it's a private part the private part should not be public And so and then I also just being a man and knowing how men minds work and how men are I also think about that side of it. So I'm like, you know I I wanted I was meeting these women and they were wearing young ladies when I was young and they were in real short shorts and mini skirts and You know thong shawing booty cheeks hanging out the bottom of the shorts and I try to You know influence. I'm like, hey, you know, you don't want to cover up a little bit And my daddy he told him one time he said son don't ever in your life try to change a woman He said find a woman. That's already who you want her to be That's already, you know Dressing the way you are attracted to a woman to be dressing. So you ain't got to change no human And when I learned that lesson I a I stopped doing that and then I met my wife and she was she with her skirt And it wouldn't be super short. It'd be mid-thigh And And she had on jordan's she was some retro some jordan fours You know jordan fives with that little jeans skirt and with that, uh You know t-shirt on little t-shirt And I liked it that because it was it was better than having on a mini skirt to me or where you can't bend over Or something crazy Hey, it's on any advice on how to post daily on youtube and my content is not something I can just talk on But have to show I break but have been struggling with getting daily Videos, you don't have to do daily videos, you know YouTube they'll push you with one video a week Especially with braiding. So if you do one a week, that's good But then sometime of that one Could be broke down into two videos or three videos. So you can also think of it like that And then you also don't it don't have to be a video. You also can go live While you braiding somebody hair braids your niece hair braids your sister hair braids somebody hair you could go live And just so as you working and getting paid you could have a camera on the tripod sitting up the Filming what you're doing if that person okay with it and that live content. That's that's you could be teaching as you're doing it too So don't think it have to be staged and edited and all of that. I don't edit any of my videos I don't edit any of my videos and they work out just fine. I don't do thumbnails. They work out just fine I don't put a description in there at work. I just find So a lot of people do all that and yeah, I could do all that But I don't want YouTube to be no job Because I don't work for nobody So I don't want YouTube to be a job if YouTube got to be a job Then I don't want to be here. I don't want to be doing it. So that's why I don't do custom thumbnails That's why I don't do a description. I don't do tags or keywords And I don't do yet editing I'm gonna do none of that. It's like you finna get this video You finna get this video off this off a cell phone And that's gonna be that And and that if that's too low quality for you, then I'm not that type of guy, you know, I'm not in person for you It's somebody else that do all the glitz and glam and all that editing and all that and all I'm authentic with mine. I ain't cutting out nothing. You getting the real in the raw And if I can't post I just ain't gonna post it BB god blessing my fiance put christmas lights on his ex-wife house He has two small children with her. Am I wrong for being a little upset? Yeah, you're wrong for being a little upset because He didn't put it on his ex-wife house. He put it on his two small children house So you have to understand that if you're gonna get with a man who got a whole ex-wife and a whole Kid kids from her stuff like that gonna come with the territory And if that and if you can't handle that then that means you you're supposed to be with a man Who you equally yoke with meaning? Not the religious part of it, but a man who got your same history biography so to speak Because it's always he always gonna have a tie to her And you don't know if he have feelings for he he may have feelings for still may love her still And so you don't know that so that's a thing that has to be one of your standards When you're dating is if you don't want to deal with trying to figure out if this man is still in love with his ex Ex-wife then It'll be best to date a man who's never been married or a man who doesn't have kids And that's gonna be hard to find so at some point you realize you just have to Because i'm gonna tell you like me personally as a man Like if i'm talking if i if if i had an ex-wife like if my wife was my ex-wife If i'm talking to her I got feelings for her. I I can't understand I wouldn't be able to I can't understand cutting off all feelings Unless she cheated on me or just was horrible But I can't I can't understand cutting off all feelings So I think that's why the bible say to that when people get a divorce and they go remarry that day in adultery I think that's why the bible say that because technically you always tie to a certain degree It's gonna be something there to a certain degree now. Yeah, you can move on. Yeah, you can remarry Yeah, some people say they could cut it off completely And a woman maybe could do that I'm not sure how many men could do that because men love so hard because men love so rarely So I'm not sure how many men could cut off all feelings for their ex-wife. So That's something that you either just got to understand like okay. It's the feelings like He love her In a way that's not romantic. It's love like yeah, he'll still knock somebody out bottle He'll still take a bullet for but he's not trying to sleep with And you got to be you know Comfortable with what somebody coming to the table with or you or you got to Sit at another table Teal god bless it god bless a great god was consistent until his house burned down and his car got stolen in the same time frame He got a new car quickly reached out to take me on a date now I haven't heard from him in a month hard times or games You know, it's it's no telling there's no telling the one thing you can One thing you know for sure is that you ain't heard from in a month Whether it's hard times or whether it's games. It's all the same Because you ain't heard from in a month. So either way you your your response is the same gone about your business Your response is the same gone about your business. Don't don't spend time trying to figure out if it's hard times or games What you have to look at the proof is in the pudding you ain't heard from in a month gone about your business Blue girl god bless you. Hey mr. Gaskins. Mr. Miss gassing any advice for dating when you have a disability Nervous about finding a partner that is understanding and without judgment I wish we had a coach on that on my mentor. I'm not sure if we do we may have we may have one but um That's a that's a valid concern and so What I would say is Sometimes what you have to ask yourself is am I okay being with someone the same disability? And if the answer is yes, then there may be Support groups, you know, there may be a dating site. I'm not A fan of dating sites on condom dating sites. It may be dating groups It may be something on meet up on meet up.com For people with that same disability that you know, you could get to know and and other than that then it's like Just be in a mindset of who approaches you So if you out and a man approach you And he looked put together he looked legitimate and if he can see your disability if it's a disability that could be seen Then that's a sign that he he could be okay with it Some people could try to take advantage old spice. God bless you now. Let me see. I feel like I miss one of them Chats up there. Oh, yeah, I did. La Coy feels I found you And see when y'all send them, um a little turquoise ones Whatever color that is they get to lead it It only lasts up there a little bit and it disappear on me. So if I'm my form So if I'm doing a long answer It'll be gone And remember this a free q and a there's a free chat. So y'all don't have to send those so just in case I miss it I don't want y'all sending them with no question thinking this a paid Q and a there's not a paid q and a so if you send that it got to be sent as a donation Hey, I'm paying you to answer my question because I'm not charging y'all for that q and a If man long distance slow down on communication Is he not interested not necessarily and and again, I say the same thing y'all have to start worrying about The why and pay attention to the what What is happening is that you're not getting Why you're not getting communication? You can't do nothing about that So a lot of times, you know people ask me questions that people would ask a psychic Or profit and so the thing about it is you have to Really ask yourself. What am I worried about and why am I worried about this? Just look at the results the results say you are not getting communication Why you're not getting communication? That could be a million reasons He could have got shot in the mouth He could have got punched in the face. He could be evicted. He could be in the grave He could be in jail His mama could have moved in you see what I mean. It's a million reasons So for one, we can't just assume the worst Because then if you assume the worst and it's not the worst now the next person you go to because you assume the worst With the last person this computer breathing hard And it's like what you breathing hard for I ain't ain't got your own you ain't ain't got you doing no work. Somebody must be trying to tap you Sophia god bless you computer sitting here breathing hard It's a brand new computer. All right, maybe because I got the charger plugged in Got this computer charger plugged into my phone Give me one second. Let me write down this name that I'm on I'm uh Checking my members So so we got some space in the growth group because a lot of people defaulted The growth group mastermind. We've got a group chat. It's on tonogastonsacademy.com And what we do is uh, we got a group chat where y'all inspire and motivate each other I'm not really in there all that much. But what I do is a monthly Um lesson in q&a And so really it's just I just create a community of like-minded people who can motivate and inspire each other So you'll see the growth group on my mentor T the origin god bless you. What does it mean when a man is in a relationship by liking and hearting pictures of the same women Um, it means that He does not respect his relationship It means that he doesn't respect the woman He's with he don't respect the relationship or the woman And it also means that he's trying to get the attention of the women That he's liking he's hearting their pictures And so what he may do is in hearting those pictures He may Heart the picture so they see him coming And then he slide into the dm. So that's what that means How does one honor parents that are inconsistent emotionally immature Are forgiving past abandonments to please god but struggle with feeling like i'm overlooking my truth Honor essentially means don't curse them So You're not cursing them out. You're not wishing death upon them You're not trying to hurt them Honor means that you're suffering the wrong meaning You could get distance You could stop answering a text you could stop answering a phone calls or take your time getting back to them on text If they disrespecting you and they draining you you could cut them off in the sense of you're not interacting But honor means you're not cursing them. You're not disrespecting them You're not trying to get them in trouble. You're not trying to You know do things like that some people Dishonor their parents by cursing their mama just because their mama may be on drugs or their mama may be Childish or petty So the child will get childish and petty and curse the mama or curse the daddy out That's when you dishonoring your parents and and that's when your days get cut short on the earth um According to the lord tracy and johnson god bless you On christmas vacay my play uncle put me on facetime with his son and my parents Bombarded it Mom asked him if he had a girlfriend and to hurry up and take either me or my sis I'm almost 30. Does he see that as a red flag? I'm not sure if he see that as a red flag, you know, because You know, that's I'm not I'm not I'm not sure on that. I doubt it though I doubt it if I had to take a guess and that's what you asking me for to take a guess I doubt it just because you look like a black woman look like I've seen a black woman Yeah, you're a black woman and so If he a black man, everybody know black people mama play too much and so I he probably won't even take a serious So it's not one of those things that you could You know that you should read into Can you use the gift of prophecy to your advantage? Is that something that god allows? No, you can't use that to your advantage And it's really no advantage to it when you think about it. It's it's not isn't it's no advantage to knowing Or to think you know the future You know, that's not an advantage. That's a burden Because you could be You could be wrong and you speaking stuff on people And then now you speak that on them and they have a self-fulfilling prophecy because you told them something And what you told them was wrong what you told them you heard You thought it was the Holy Spirit But really it was indigestion because the cheese on that cheese pizza was had been sitting a little too long And you thought you heard the Holy Spirit and you really had a stomach ache that was upsetting your brain And so now you telling somebody their future and that in that sense That prophecy would be no difference than a psychic Telling people stuff that's supposed to happen and it ain't never supposed to happen But that psychic want that money and that psychic know how people are so Greedy to know the unknown Or to see the future that they're gonna get that money and then gonna speak something over somebody Knowing that the person just gonna go fulfill it because they might not heard it And it probably one bit much one bit more gonna happen Then the man jump across the moon, but Because you heard it and you believe it now you bring it to pass And so that's the same thing with prophecy. That's not something that You do for money That's not something you do for clout. That's not something you do on demand You know, that's something that you know that that's used in a very very unique and special way, but we we're not really You rarely gonna be in that space Gina god bless your age 45 look younger don't want younger men But men in 40s and 50s seem to want women in 30s Awkward age group any suggestions You just got to keep you got to keep going You got to keep getting out there. You got to keep being creative. You got to you know, join different groups on meetup.com You know, you just got to expand your horizons You got to do more you got to expand your horizons I was in the Maldives with my wife and we met this guy who was from Dubai And he had a wife for I'm guessing it was wife of girlfriend from America And she was just American and she wanted to be but I she went over there for work or for vacation or something And found her a man So that now that's a very drastic example, but it just kind of go to Show you got to expand your horizons when the pool seemed a little Shallow I know To leave when the situation is not good for me It's me having hope that he changes from a grown boy to a grown man And tries it with me again in the future consider having expectations Um, I mean that's consider having hope. I mean you got hope But I feel bad for y'all I really feel bad for y'all and that's why I really I'm I'm not you know That's why I say as a man And y'all hold your question for a little bit y'all hold your question for a little bit as a man It kind of showed me that a man have to really hate women A man got a really disliked women really have some against women To get online and to bash or to belittle or berate Or embarrass women because the all the all the questions I get from women It really made me feel bad for y'all Because men men not asking these same questions men not having these same problems and you know It just uh coach Tish not Tisha Thank you. God bless you. Let me read what coach Tish said. It's over 700 people in the chat Please forgive Tony if he accidentally skip your question Abba y'all bless. Thank you so much kindly Now come on now now that ought to be common sense what mama tish had to tell y'all come on now But see that's the selfishness of humans Oh, you skip my question But what I was saying is the questions I get I really be it made me feel bad for y'all because I'd be like my goodness All right, good to y'all in the struggle So, you know, keep your head up, you know, keep your head up and I'm gonna tell you When they say don't date potential what they really mean is don't date someone who's not producing Everybody you date is potential. Nobody's perfect. But is the potential producing Is the potential progressing is the person progressing If they're stagnant or if they're going backwards, that's when you don't date that person That's when you don't stay married to that person That's when you don't stay with a person who is complacent who is stagnant Who is not growing who is not pushing forward When dating two men how to know which one is my husband both are marriage minded Hey, you got you a good problem to have So there's a lot of women of trade places with you A lot of women can't sniff a good man. I ain't seen a good man with binoculars on with a telescope and you got two two of them and and And hopefully One of them ain't watching this here live. Don't they the world ain't that big now the world's smaller than you think now Hopefully one of them watching this here live What got another man About to get played now, but listen to me It's this thing. It's a thing that men do And I call it the horse race and Men or put women Men of date two or three women at one time And everybody going alone, you know, everybody, you know, you go to date go to date going to date And then it's like they're just comparison. So it's like, okay who first is aesthetics hair lashes body clothes job car, you know, it's superficial stuff and then it goes to You know personality attitude mentality conversation And so the man just lining the women up and it's kind of just checking off He's comparing one woman to the next and so that's why I always tell women like don't be Afraid to date more than one guy Me and dating does not mean sleeping with see our society. We think dating means sleeping with somebody Dating don't even mean kissing somebody They mean you going on a date Meaning you going on a date So it's okay if you go on a date with this person on Monday And you got another date on Wednesday with a different person and you got another date on friday with a different person That's totally fine because each person know where they stand. So if they see you out with somebody else They don't know if that's your brother if that's your cousin that's your co-worker And if they know they nothing to you they know y'all just talking Then they can't be mad about that And so the thing is is you looking at it and you say, okay, they marriage minded So then you say which one is actually a man of god Okay, which one lived the word when I just quote the word but lived the word all right Then you look at their jobs And you look at they you looking at their character Do anybody which one open the door which one pull out the chair Which one let you talk which one communicate the best and so you comparing and you just going Down down your list Of what you want now the thing about it is Is that's extremely hard to do because sometimes The people that's the worst for you do the best at that stuff So whether and that's why I tell women all the time It's like sometimes women put so much stock in little stuff that don't really matter. It may be like Oh, this woman she I mean this this guy he he opened the door And it's like yeah, you want to pay attention to that but pimps open the door play us open the doors Pimps and players pull out chairs pimps and players bring a rose You know players call you every morning call you in the afternoon call you at night So a player know how to play the game Whereas a guy who may be a little socially awkward a guy who hasn't had a lot of women A guy who hasn't really been around too much. Maybe he knows that with three to five women That guy may not know All the little stuff to say and everything to do and that's where your discretion has to be very sharp to where You can look and say oh this Okay I see his heart He ain't doing all the little stuff, but I see his heart And that's what you got to be able to pay attention to like what really matters team of god bless you um Yeah team already already Answer that question already So some of y'all have to realize that if y'all get on the lie you could be late And so you could be looking at some and then some people repose repose repose But I already answer that question. So if you want to know the answer you have to watch back to it But when the young lady asked that question I answer that question Told him and I you waste $20 You know You trying to help somebody else But you got to realize the nature of this here Q&A When you got more than five people on here is not every question going to get answered So don't y'all try to be captain save them and get no question because You know and you spending your money To ask a question like it's more special than any other question You said I mean everybody question going people question going to get missed on here So y'all you know calm calm down Y'all calm down Okay Calm down and now y'all listen to what mama tis telling y'all mama tis now she ain't playing please pay attention She ain't playing god bless you. Thank you for being here. That's the only moderator here tonight mama tis god bless you Now the moderators I have not I think I met one of the moderators in person When I was doing seminars, but um There's just supporters that I see that saw their name all the time Do you think a 28 year old man is too old to play video games? Yes, he has a job in his own place, but he loves his game He also hangs with younger guys. One of them is 21 years old um No, he's not too old to play video games. I mean you play video games anytime the the key is just You know, how long he playing the game and Is it making his life better like if it gives him joy and he's chipper and he happy when he get off that game Then that game is a asset. It's benefiting him Now if he get off that game and when he's not on that game, he's snappy He kind of short with you. He you know, he got gamer brain And what I mean by gamer brain is when you're on the game, your brain is so stimulated That when you get off the game, the rest of the world is so slow That it bores you and you just can't pay attention to nothing because your brain is so accustomed to the stimulation of the The high intensity On the game and that's what's happening to our youth right now My 14 year old and they're on his game and they'll play that game eight hours if you love They'll play that game eight hours and then when they get off that game You realize they can't hardly sit still They can't sit still they can't they can't just chill and watch a movie in the car without Having to be on their phone They can't sit still in class. They can't be quiet for long and it's really from that game Now the game helped a brain or whatever, but That's what so if you see that as an adult and um I never was in the video games For whatever reason, but it's a lot of guys in the video game. So it's kind of It's guys that's not like i'm not in the video games my mentee he 27 i'm 37 my mentee 27 He's not in the video games. I got another mentee. I don't think he in the video games So it's just different breeds of guys like some guys we more into the real world And not a fantasy world not a play play world We more into the real world and like my video game is life And trying to become a billionaire That's enough of a game in itself that I don't have time for a video game Because I got to get out here in this real life and navigate these levels and these Ops and these monsters and these You know stories in real life that I can't ain't got time for no game And so it's and it's some men who they Have reached their goals And so they got time for the game Or they don't really have that many goals and they comfortable like you said he got a good job And that's that's his career. That's what he want to be he didn't hit his goal So he got time for a game But if he trying to take over another level another industry then he's not gonna have time for the game Told him he had to call me every day But he skipped some days and says he tired from work And would rather text some days been talking for a month. Is this a reason to leave? Well, the thing is is you told him that he got to call you every day. That's where you went wrong You'll never you'll never tell a man what to do you watch what he do A man who want to be with you going to call you every day regardless So Instead of telling somebody what to do you got to watch what they do You got to watch who they are So when you told him you got to call me now Now if he called you every day now he Feel like a pump now he feel like a simp But if he just call you every day And if he not calling you every day, then you like, okay, this guy's not that interested He he preoccupied or he got multiple women or He got other priorities then Building a relationship And so you take note of that and then you go on about your business Go on about your business Tammy be god bless you now. What do you think x has no compassion for others? Lives for attention, etc Broke up with him when he started talking about a marriage Friend think i'm wrong because of his career and a good dad to his son One of my mentees single A 27 year old, but I think he's dating himself right now. So i'm not sure he's looking for a relationship And it's hard when people date theyself for too long They it's hard for them to be in a relationship when they go dating theyself for too long All right Get a little tough. So I really I don't see how that You know a tough better man than me. I wasn't able to date myself. I had to be in mere relationship All that taking yourself to the movies and all that I did that in a relationship, but I couldn't do that as single No, you you can't listen to your friend because your friend might be one of them hypergamy Minions One of the people that hypergamy y'all be talking about So she talking about his career and he a good dad to his son Like I don't mean nothing if he don't have compassion and he lied for attention and stuff like that So it's kind of like this, you know remember I told y'all about my site I made when you're in a relationship with somebody What's the name of that site? I think it's um But I created a site And you get a You get a credit score I can't remember the name of it though. I think it's relationship That site cost me five or six thousand dollars To have it cold it and I don't even promote it. It's called relationship credit.com Go on relationship credit.com about 50 questions now and you answering the questions of your current relationship or your past relationship Or you answer the questions of your ideal relationship See and at the end it give you a relationship credit score So it's called relationship credit.com I'll put that in the chat for me relationship credit.com and um You just got to put your email in they put your email on a mailing list, but I don't send emails to the mailing list And so right now it's about 10,000 people that and went to the site and did got their Relationship credit because I saw the list about 10,000 people on the email list, but I don't use it I don't use the email list one day. I probably have something to email y'all about but for now. I ain't got nothing to email you about But relationship credit.com you go on there. That's what you have to realize If a man is good with his son It's a million factors that could be why he good with his son That don't have nothing to do with how he's going to treat the next one If a man got a good career that don't have nothing to do with how he's going to treat a woman So if a man is good with his son And let's say we give him 20 points on the credit score And then if he good he got a good career, let's say we give him another 20 points But if he have no compassion, he lose 50 points So now he negative 10 If he lie for attention, he lose another 50 points So now he negative 60. You see what I'm saying? So sometimes you have to weigh things So it's kind of like okay, this man very handy around the house We give him 20 points But then he leave the toilet seat up. Let's say we just knock off one point So now he's still at 19 points Now if a man pull out your chair He get 10 points. He opened the door. He get 10 points He call you every day. He get 20 points But then y'all get y'all get together and he put and he put hands on you Now he lost a hundred points So he opened the door. He paid for the dinner. He do all this and he racked up points But now when he put hands on you that's minus a hundred points And it depends on how you score it. You might say that right there minus a thousand points So you see what I mean? So you've got to understand that right now. How many combos should it take for a co-worker To ask for your number Um, that's like the song how about licking the tootsie roll pop What that a song or what that's a commercial about how many licks you get to the middle of the tootsie roll pop but It just depends on the man So an introvert a really shy man a socially awkward man He might talk to you 10 times before we ask for a number. He might be waiting on you to give him Your number Which I wouldn't recommend But he might be waiting on that because he might be thinking about the me too movement He might be thinking about the hr department He might be thinking about the man that got laid off for that little horizon So he might be like listen. I'm not finna ask for this number And so if you talking to a guy all the time always say, you know, never shoot your shot at a man like and what I really mean by that is Don't walk up to no man. Hey How are you? What's your name? Are you single? Oh, I woman should never do that A woman should never do that to no man And I know it's some guys that say yeah, a woman should do that. Ain't nothing wrong with that But those are lame men. I'm trying to tell you those are lame men A real man do not want no woman walking up to him and shooting her shot Because a real man if he see a woman and he's single and he's emotionally available We as men we see every woman within 180 degrees Some men could see every woman within 360 degrees Because some men every night then just look back Especially if he's from the hood and where they do drive-bys. He's accustomed to looking back So some men see every woman within 360 degrees, but every other man unless he blind See every woman within 180 degrees So if you like a man All you have to do is get in his line of sight All you have to do is walk past him That's all you have to do and if he is a healthy man If he is a ready man If he is a whole man If he is a man that could be the head of a household He will approach you and shoot his shot A woman never have to approach a man Because if you approach a man and you was in front of him That means he saw you and he did not approach you because he taken Or he do not want you point blank period And so that's what you have to rely So now with this man that you're talking to again If he want you He'll ask you for your phone number And he'll get close enough to you comfortable enough With you so that you know, it's not Him doing it in the wrong way Sophia paid god bless her met a guy Talked for two weeks Mostly text and only talk on the phone twice Talked for two weeks told me he was talking to someone for three months Cut him off was I wrong since it was early. He was honest But don't want to compete or come second You weren't wrong. You did the right thing anytime a man tell you Or a woman tell you about another person they talking to go and let them go Because a person only telling you they talking to somebody else for one or two reasons One reason is to make you jealous and make you compete And the other reason is to let you know that they wit somebody And you're going to be getting the bottom of their shoe You're going to be getting the tail end of their time That's the only two reasons somebody would tell you about somebody The other other than that if a person is a non-factor Then he or she is not going to mention whoever else they talk to if that person don't Matter and if they're available When you bring back talks with tony. I miss it um No, not right now Because i'ma tell you them talks with tony They just was so draining They was so draining and and see when you when you listen into questions be answered It's entertaining But when you don't want answering the questions see how red my eyes is right now Because I every day I have to carry everybody else mess I got to carry everybody else drama Everybody I do not want to talk about relationships at all But i'm called to this I don't want to do this I would much rather talk about business much rather talk about something else, but I realized That i'm the only one That could do it On the level that I do it. It's other people who doing it But the the men who doing it some of the other men who doing it I notice if I ever hit them Talk, I only got to listen to two minutes three minutes and I could tell He not cut from the same cloth He talking about it because he think it's popular. He like he think it looked good But he ain't cut from the same cloth and so that's what the lord tell me listen You can't step down from your purpose And so that's the only reason why i'm doing this, but I I have to pick and choose how I do it So that talks with tony It was so draining because the level was so long it'd be so much drama in them It'd be so much going on That I just I took an indefinite break just like with the q&a's I do on instagram store I could do them sometimes for a week two weeks sometimes three weeks in a row and then I gotta take a long break You know, even with this right here this q&a, you know, I wish I could do this Some people go live every day I just but because of the what my lives entail I don't have the energy to do it every day What about if you and because you gotta think about this too answering questions sometimes honestly the question and that's what I'm gonna tell you That's why some of the people you see online men and women Be snapping That's why they be snapping When they go live And when they talking to people they be snapping because the questions and the conversations are very draining And so if you not call to it you're gonna snap You're gonna call people out they name you're gonna berate people you're gonna be little people So you got to think about the level of emotional intelligence it takes to read a question And and not insult somebody based on their question And to not attack somebody and to not belittle somebody to not call somebody out they name to not You know Be rude and nasty And that's why the on the q&a on instagram when I do the written one That's why I look rude sometimes because the answer's so short Because I got a thousand questions in there and I'm trying to get as many as I can And I realized when I get to that point, okay Tony you got to chill because this answer too short and the answer too rude It's gonna come off the wrong way because it's text. They don't have any tone to it And so that's that's why I can't really do you know what I do all the time Hey, Tony and bless try I'm glad to catch it for you live. Hey, God bless you God bless you caused the fight about the past I yelled and broke up with him. He said He needed space now. He's back and he's trying his best to work it out He's calm never yells or treats me bad. Are these Breaks bad Um, some breaks could be good, but if if you have breaks too frequently Then yes, that's bad In a relationship you really should be able to count on one hand how many breaks You're gonna have in the entirety of the relationship And to be honest with you it really shouldn't be more than one or two If you on again off again More than two times You pretty much wasting your time Because as humans we have the ability To adapt And I remember when I was working in the group home the behavior specialists She told me she said Tony the reason why these Individuals are labeled mentally retarded Is because they cannot adapt So she said if I walk you to the edge Of a cliff you're gonna look over And you're gonna back up She said the individuals we serving if you take them to the end of the cliff They're gonna jump off Because they can't adapt and she said that's why they labeled this And when she said that out and she was like so that is why They fly off the handle the way they do So I'm working in the group home and you know even in You tell you ask them to clean a room And they calling you the n word they throwing butter knives after they throwing chairs after and all you said was Hey, can you clean your room before you go to bed? but It was just the brain not fully developed to be able to process Emotions and so that's what we have to realize as humans as Humans who are functioning 100 percent We fully capable If you tell me one time Not to curse at you I know for the rest of my life not to curse at you You don't have to tell me two times or three times or four times because i'm fully functioning If you tell me not to curse at you and I curse at you again. It's because I don't respect you If you tell me not to come in the house after midnight When I get off at 5 p.m And I come in the house after midnight again. It's because I don't respect you If you tell me not to have no other woman texting my phone That's not related to me Or not somebody that you know and have approved of and another woman texts my phone That's because I don't respect you. So what we have to realize is in relationships A lot of this stuff is it's just a lack of respect And now some of it it could be just something in the brain Something with something in the brain like I've asked my wife one million times, baby, please Stop yelling so much at the soccer game And going on 15 years of marriage. She's still doing So it let me know that that is Something in her brain Because when her daddy come to the game He is the same way And he is a patent attorney So I know how smart he is His other daughter his one daughter is a lawyer the other daughter a doctor My wife was going to school to be a doctor They are geniuses. They're super smart, but they cannot Be emotionally intelligent at a game They're facing to go off If you want to fight they're ready to fight And I and so I have come to realize some things it's in the brain And something it's just a choice Something it's just a it's just a choice And so what you got to look at is when you dealing with somebody and you dating them and you telling them You know, hey don't do this And they keep doing it a second third fourth time And it's something that's you know easily understood. Then that's when you know It just disrespect. It ain't got nothing to do with nothing When you ever go back on the breakfast club, I saw your last interview and I always wondered if that's why you don't do interviews anymore Because they were super childish towards you Um, honestly, I didn't feel like they were childish, you know, I I didn't feel like they were childish But the breakfast club is like the biggest show in the in the world right now So it's not something you just could go back on, you know, you got to That take like a publicist and you know, I had just released a book But um That's um, you know, that's just how it is. It's not it's not a talk show to where you really trying to go deep It's it's entertainment. It's on the radio people driving people working. So they got to be kind of You know on the edge It ain't it ain't no sit down with Oprah to where you finna cry have a heart to heart So, you know, it actually was a real good interview and they honestly was very respectful You know, they were very respectful. I expected a whole lot worse. I expected to be A mess, but they was really respectful and and just and their energy was like complete respect Because I expected a lot worse from Charlemagne, but he he literally really respected me and he was real you know No, he cracked his little jokes or whatever, but that's just him just He almost felt nervous, you know, he didn't feel like What I saw of him or what I expected from him You know Do you have any upcoming interview on another channel? Not that I know of um I've done a couple of like sit downs But I don't know you never know if an interview gonna get air, you know, I mean if somebody gonna put it Put it out there. And so sometimes stuff It could be an interview I did a year ago That still ain't got air for whatever reason or or put out So you just you never know when somebody what if you sit down with somebody what they schedule is Some people might be six months out. Some people might be a year out So I'm not really sure Of a date should I continue dating this man who loves and cares for me But I don't feel spark or chemistry. We're compatible But not enough spark Now listen to him a spark a kid not A spark a kid. You're not the wrong kind of spark. You see you got to think about this If you pump gas and you get a spark It's oslo vista baby So you see what I mean When it comes to relationships, we got to be careful with that spark You got to be very careful with that spark and you got to make sure That you're not waiting on something that's gonna You know bring you to life and charge you up, you know It shouldn't be nothing that you feeling like you slobbing out your mouth and you ready to jump on somebody's bones You know jump the bones. They got to be A genuine connection. You got to be real. It shouldn't be because he Lust burns Love warms See lust is the microwave Love is the oven so When it when you build in love when it's a genuine connection, you're not going to be Like head over heels so to speak You're going to like the person you're going to be attracted to the person But it's going to be manageable It's not going to give you anxiety You may feel nervous. You may get the butterflies a little bit, but it's not going to be Overwhelming hold on one now What the day Monday? Oh, I thought my son game was tomorrow. I see the coach texting by the game Winston Met a guy at work in august. I think he knows I'm interested, but I'm not sure if he's interested We talked chat text often on a on a two-hour convo. He opened up about a personal situation He's going through He emphasized that we need to talk outside of the workplace Assuming he been in person because he also emphasized he's single living alone and no kids, but he hasn't asked me out Well, you got to take your time on that You got to take your time on that, you know, and you keep talking to him Until he asked you out, you know keep talking to him till you ask you out If you don't ask you out then you could either just decide to be platonic friends with him or Keep him in the background so he ain't blocking another man But if you meet another man tomorrow And this guy ain't made no move Don't turn down the next man now because this guy might the guy you talking to might like men And and a lot of people don't like paying a clinician or a professional For their services So a lot of people will find them a friend that they could talk to and will use you as a therapist Or a life coach But they get in free therapy or free life coaching. That's what a lot of people do So when somebody talking to you and they available and they're not making a move You could be a free therapist and so That's why you can't Shut down your options. Hello. Good evening Everybody we have over one k people in the chat could we give Mr. Gaskins a like it's free Maria god bless you Oh, yeah, look look at that Maria told it and Maria told the truth now I'll always forget to say that kind of you know stuff about the likes and all that but Look at Maria Maria say come on now y'all sitting on here getting your free information y'all sitting on here. They're sitting here looking and they hit no button That's the nature of the world. Oh right there Maria that show you that's that's the nature of that's the nature of people That's how we that's why I don't even waste my breath like like youtube is big big Get lights up. Hey, everybody hit the like button. That's all you waste my breath because I just know the nature of humans We we're gonna sit there and receive and Unless it's god bless you I'll just finish your course for coaching. I could not Stand social media, but I literally set up facebook twitter and instagram I'm so overwhelmed with all three sites don't want to get in this courage any advice Only do one Only do one you don't do all three You do one at a time You know you do one at a time and you master one. So I've had this youtube page since 2011 I would post like one video a month all them years some months. I do two or three And then I tried to do like I would post some audio videos and then I tried to do some video, but in 2019 is when I truly started posting regularly on youtube But I had got over 300,000 people on twitter And then I got on facebook business page the facebook page And I got over 1.8 million people over there And then I got on instagram and I got over 900,000 people over there And then I come to youtube in 2019 And I have 50,000 people here and now it's over 300,000, but I just do one at a time I do one at a time And so, you know, because I I do not like social media at all. I'm like you I do not like it More pressure than rude high tonic thoughts on interrace black woman indian man I think he's interested. He mentioned going out, but no dates set yet. I'm tempted Do say a few tests prior to see if he's serious thoughts I wouldn't go to trying to test if you ain't no if you ain't no expert at that I wouldn't be trying to test nobody because I'm test might be boy And test might ruin you so I would just just take your time just feeling my One thing you have to realize when it's interracial Is that especially when the man when it's of the man A lot of men like Variety men we we are we like variety Men we like a lot of different things And so sometimes if a man sees you as different Or he traditionally would date indian women and you not indian and You know, he sees you as a black woman. He may say Taste of chocolate piece of chocolate that rainbow and that's and that could be all it is And I could be more but you'll know that rather quickly if it is On the kind of God blessing Catherine. I'm guessing you asked a question What is the name of your website for relationship credit score again relationship credit So relationship credit calm Relationship credit calm Hey, Tony, I'm reading I find that my kid grandmother on dad's side Is in competition with me when I've been welcoming says things like He got no wife. Just a mom rule always entitled and over steps Um Yes, he ruled, you know, that's that's a that's a Um, that's her grandbaby, you know, some people just raised like that. So when you did it with somebody like that That's somebody who was most likely um Taking advantage of as a child And so and you could take that in your head where you want to take that because it could be any form of that advantage And that's somebody who hands have been put on her by a man That's somebody whose heart has been broken That's somebody who have been used who have been abused who have been mistreated So when you have a a grown woman who is a grandma And she nasty and rude to you for no reason All it is is just a sign of her pain It's just a sign of her pain. It's just she comes somewhere She comes from somewhere or from a life that's so cold She don't know how to be warm And that could be people who rich That could be people of any race. It just depends on what happened to her in her life She honestly could be treating you the way A man she dated Mama treated her And just think that this is a rite of passage to make sure this woman is is serious about my grandson I met a nice guy who's out of prison For eight months now after An 18 year sentence. He's 44 two grown kids works two jobs and getting his bachelors I'm 45 degree professional with no kids thoughts Um How long he been out Well for one um for him You'll catch for him. You'll catch You know, he wouldn't expect anybody like you to like him He would expect you to look down on him. He would expect you to judge him So if you talking to him and you giving him the time of day You know that that's that's flattering to him and you'll catch But the state of desperation of women today It's not that uncommon now because women marrying men who in prison that they've You know never got to touch they behind a glass Women talking to men women keeping money on the man books who they met in prison through their brother or their cousin So the level of desperation that women are exhibiting today. I'm pretty sure he not that you know flabbergasted and flattered but With a situation like that, you got to be very careful because when somebody didn't did alone Be it. I saw this with one of my family members a man did 17 years And my family member she talked to this man Every day wrote him every week went to visit him every week Just carried this man his last couple years of his sentence And just was there for him all kind of money That man got out of prison came touched the meaning Light down with him in that bed a few times And then spread his wings are still a vista baby That that man were gone so fast all that time My family member hadn't gave that man and I saw this happen to two family members Two of my female family members this happened to Charity men on this sentence And so the thing about it is when the man had done that long For one, you don't know if it's taste changing now And when I say taste change meaning For one, you don't know if it's taste changing now and then two After coming out that after being in that so long he wanted to see the He wanted to pick up a little He wanted to get the best he possibly can get so he gonna be So the thing is with a guy like that, you got to keep your legs closed. You got to take your time You really can't make no definitive decisions inside of 12 months Yas, uh, Yaslyn. I'm 24. He is 34 calls me daily Lots of chemistry. He's in another state came to visit once and didn't sleep together. He's a gentleman He has a hot-headed ex-wife plus two kids Um, just hearing it sound like you wasting your time to me Because for one he's 10 years older than you If you can avoid it, you should never be with a man more than five years older than you Because the older a man is than you the more he gonna feel like he can raise you Because you got to realize some guys having their first child at 13 14 years old today So a man who's 10 years older than you He now about your daddy classmate You know, he he he he old enough for your daddy to be friends with him Because if your daddy 20 years older than you he just 10 years younger than your daddy My mentee 10 years younger than me So you see what I'm saying? So When a lot of y'all y'all won't be older men, but that ain't always a good thing because Men we already think we know it all We'd be driving backwards and won't take directions We'd be tying a car up and call ourself fixing it And won't look in the manual We take a toy out the box With 50 pieces and we finish put that toy together without looking at that paper Because we happen to see some chinese writing on there and didn't realize that the other part of the english writing But we finna just try to piece that thing together the way it makes sense Okay, I think this right here go right here. Okay Get the whole thing together and realize we got one of the pieces on there backwards Oh, you finna ride this like this because I get back to it next week and that's how men are so the older a man is The more he gonna see you like you immature Like you don't know what you're talking about Like you can't tell him nothing And that's and that's why a lot of women who got older men more than five years older They they just treated like a child in their relationship Nine out of ten cases it ain't it's gonna be exceptions to the rule but nine out of ten cases Women getting treated like a child My ex-mother-in-law Brought gifts For her son's new kids and his new girlfriend But nothing for my son or daughter my daughter was hurt What is that all about? Well He going off she going off what your what her son telling her She going off what your son telling her So it really You know have less to do with your kids and more to do with you and her son relationship and so If her son going to her to cry and complain And see the thing about it is it's humans. We don't mind taking advantage of somebody So he could be going to her and be like Man mama, uh Man, you know I want to do this But you got $300 like a bar because I gave $300 I gave $300 To Pamela And instead of her taking care of the kids I see her at the hookah lounge Every time I see her she got a new pair of shoes on So he could be telling his mama anything and so his mama feel a type of way about you And that's why she ain't by your kids no gifts And they got the other kids some gifts And then also too If not that then mama could be trying to help secure His new relationship because she want him to have somebody and being that he done lost you She might not have enough money for all them kids So if it's an innocent side of it to where he not talking bad about you then it's because she just ain't have enough money So she going to where? The money need to secure something for her son. So he ain't got to be singling lonely Inherited right around $50,000. What is the best way in your opinion to invest it so I can Live to make even more The sweet shop bakery Now i'ma tell you now if you got you a bakery Already Then get you some flyers get you a little radio commercial get you a tv commercial If you don't have your bakery Then you might need to get you Start cooking you some cupcakes and some cakes and get you some flyers passing around your apartment complex or your neighborhood if you're in a house And every Friday is your day to deliver that stuff right there Invest in you i'ma tell you invest in you because nothing else can be trusted You could invest in stocks and they could crash tomorrow You could invest in cryptocurrency it could crash tomorrow You can't really You could get into investing in real estate with $50,000 But a lot of people don't tell you about the ugly side of real estate Because a lot that go in real estate. I got a real estate investment company is not as sweet as the youtube was trying to make it Look And $5,000 ain't gonna be enough You're gonna need more than that. So if I had $5,000, I invest in myself Invest in your natural gifts and that's how you flip it So the video you've seen me do that say it's time to bet on yourself listen to that video again You ain't listen to the whole video listen to the whole video. I tell you my story how I bet on myself And ran that up But it ain't no return in the world and and I invest in stocks I invest in crypto. I invest in real estate. I invest in everything all the traditional investment You know avenues that we're taught to invest in I'm in all of them But I it is no return that has compared to the investment in myself Ain't no return compared to that So that's that's honestly why I recommend starting Hold on. I heard something dating a man consistently Nine months straight Let's close my family loves him And my son he has asked me about marriage. Is it too early to consider? We are both financially stable Nine months. No, it's not too early Oh No, it's not too early to consider But you don't want to marry a man before 12 months You really need to see 12 months and then y'all financially stable. That's a good thing And so You know, but you you you want to make sure you take at least 12 months before you marry somebody And if your heart ain't all the way there yet, then you do go to 15 months If your heart ain't all the way there yet, then you go to 18 months Go to all the way there Then you go to 24 months If at 24 months, you're not ready to marry him. He's not the one He's not the one It's all something about 2022 and motivation where you got deleted the I'm doing a live seminar on sunday january 2nd To sign up for it. Go to tonigasenacademy.com Caramel kids, can you put tonigasenacademy.com in the chat for me if you don't mind um tonigasenacademy.com is called this is my year 2022 Now it's going to house the seven videos that i'm teaching on on the live seminar. They also in video format That's going to be in the academy, but I'm doing the seminar with a q&a on sunday January 2nd at noon eastern time and to sign up for that you got to uh Sign up on tonigasenacademy.com. I was gonna cap it But i'm gonna see how many people in there right now So i'm gonna have to close it soon I I was supposed to cap it, but I hadn't got to get back in there So i'm about to check right now since you didn't ask me It's gonna tell me how many people in there somebody gonna sign me out because I ain't signed up Yeah, so what they've been doing They've been at me. They've been trying to hype me every which way They trying but hey, you can't stop what the lord doing now You can't stop what the lord doing Let me see. Let me check real quick and see how many people in the Lock don't sign up for the live zoom seminar It's called this is my year 2022 So let enrolled in oh man I ain't know that I was supposed to cap it at 200. So right now that's 274 people in there For the live seminar, but I know everybody's not gonna make it on the live Some people just buying it for the videos and for the replay because I'm gonna put the replay in there That's 274 people in there right now I'm gonna get the spot on in there All right Tony what six years make any difference between ages or is it Or is that exception to the rule um Yeah, it's gonna make a difference And like I say five years or less But it's it goes different ways. So if you're a woman You don't want to be with a man more than five years older than you or three years younger than you on average Now six years and five years It's not that big of a deal seven years and five years not that big of a deal Is you really start to get into some some issues when the man is 10 years to 15 10 years or more Older than you that's when you really having some issues My buddha starting to hurt this chair and I'm a wife about my new chair I got to put it together. It's a kilo nil chair, but that's a kilo nil That man got a deal with everything. He got a chair come out of Costco or somewhere that hold up to 400 pounds that chair look comfortable White body for me for Christmas. I got to put that thing together. This is the thing of my buddha bone her Camel kissing god bless you. She posting all my stuff. Come here, buddy Going night night I hit the crib for John Kripp was John everybody. How you going on the bed? You got to play on your game a little bit what you got tomorrow that tomorrow Your football game Wednesday to relax tomorrow one more day smell good though I love you and the dark said women need to put in work And compete for men. Do you think influences like his are really Affecting the dating scene today. I know men personally that listen to him Yeah, it's I was telling I was coaching a couple of the day And the young lady was you know saying that she Want to be with the man she want to You know work On the relationship to be with the man for her child And I say you can't want to be there for the child. You got to want to be there for you And I say because of the way the world going with people You know like the individual you mentioned And there's several others out there guys who got podcasts and guys who got youtube channels There's so many toxic men and a lady wrote in yesterday on the email She said tonic can you help us understand why the devil is so loud and why god is so quiet And what she was talking about is why aren't there more people of god Who got a positive uplifting message making more noise than it is people Who working for dark forces making all this noise and getting all this You know clout and that's just the way of the world You know when when jesus got ready to leave when he was going back to be about sit by his father He said i'm turning this world over To he who owns it he was talking about the devil And who it was given to but i'm he i'm gonna be in your heart if you call me i'm i'm coming i'm hill The spirit gonna be with you the holy spirit gonna be with you i'm gonna be gone in the physical but the holy spirit gonna be here but this world gonna be Run amok And so that's why salvation exists So when you got guys like that right there that's you know sitting up there You got to look at it People speak from where they are People speak from where they are so if you got somebody that's not married And not happy And have had failed marriages That obviously gonna leave bitterness It's gonna leave some soreness that need to be addressed in therapy And so a person gonna speak from where they are And if a person if a man doesn't have failed marriages and That failure stings Because no man want to fail So now it's going to be some bitterness towards those ex-wives Which is going to be bitterness toward women in general Which then is going to be Going to set something up to where if you got somebody who they could be in a relationship But if they're not married and if it's not public And the person is public, but they marriage or their relationship not public that mean they single If the person is public, especially if they speaking and advising on relationships So what happens is sometimes two Men and women will start to coach their suitors So What i notice with the men who Are publicly single, but they address relationships They may speak to They may say stuff that's telling the women who want them what to do and how to work for them And what they want. So I I remember seeing a guy say A woman if she if she's saving herself till marriage that she needs to tell the man that on the first day What I realized the only reason why he would say that is so that he so that the women in his DM And the women who he was trying to get at That they would tell him so he wouldn't waste his time with them But when a man don't want to sleep with a woman when a man don't have any games to play Then a man don't care if a woman is saving herself until marriage and don't want to say that or put that on her forehead That's her business. That's between her and god and so Because that's her walk with god But when a man is playing a game he want a woman to show her hands so You know as a woman You never should compete for a man and a man should never compete for a woman Because what's for you going to be for you. So if somebody going to put you into a competition That's not the person for you And so and when I say competition meaning you know about it It's different if you go on a date you go on a date you go on a date You're not in a relationship. You're not in a relationship But if you Are in a relationship and then you talk into somebody else Now you got people competing and you nasty for that Now if you're just going on dates until you see oh, this is the one and then you cut off the other people And you lock in on that one now you're not asking nobody to compete And so, you know and then also at the same time we have to take what people say Included myself with a grain of salt because we just talking Meaning we talking off the top of our head. You're gonna have a misstep You're gonna say some stuff wrong and stuff when we it took out of contact. So, you know, we also got to understand that too Brit cue started dating a guy and he hasn't been asking questions about myself Is that a red flag feel like he doesn't care to get to know me Yes, that is a that's a red flag. It is a red flag Because it's you know That's a red flag for all of the obvious reasons. That's a red flag Killa Humphrey God bless you. Hey, Tony. We were watching a movie and his ex texted I watched him respond then got my stuff and immediately left says they are friends Am I wrong for telling him i'm gone if he won't cut her off? No, you're not wrong. That's your standard You never wrong for you sticking and standing on your standards What the first Word and standard is stand You got to stand on your standards So you never wrong for that, but you got to be willing to live by dot by So what that mean is if you're gonna walk away for stuff In that leave you alone You got to be okay being alone Until you meet that man that has no ties with his ex and it's not friends with his ex And you don't know when that's gonna be but you got to be okay with that But you're not wrong at all not in in in the least D. R. God bless you. Mr. Gaston you and your family are such an inspiration God bless you and your wife and your children your wisdom intelligence Insight and servitude have inspired me tremendously. Hey god bless. I really appreciate that You rarely hear messages like that, you know publicly I get emails, but I appreciate I appreciate that blessing I have worked in human services since the age of 18 as a counselor case manager, etc With all the population I'm in my 40s now and want to find a new purpose Where should I start? Um to be honest with you It's a it's it's a lot of resources out there Being that you here on my page and you asking me I have a a course called entrepreneurship with purpose And I created it for that specific reason right now. I think it's 150 dollars off for the holiday sale So it's only 97 dollars And the reason why I created that course is because I want to live a life of purpose And I want my business to be purposeful No offense, but I do not feel like selling products on amazon Or fulfilled by amazon Is is purposeful if you're not selling stuff that's going to change somebody's life. No offense to those that's doing that No offense. I do not feel like 90 percent of these multi-level marketing companies serve a purpose You know, I always talk about that that that eliminate that um that company sold the raspberry lemonade that they were selling And and the women who nurses they drunk that raspberry lemonade is like diet tea And it had they tested positive for thc, which is a chemical found in That meridane and they lost their job And so and I used to tell people like listen how y'all selling this stuff And you not in the lab where it's getting made at But you got your people Digesting this into their system I don't feel like that's purposeful. I don't feel like that's purposeful So what I what I do my business Is centered and rooted in purpose I want what come out my mouth to make somebody life better And so that's why I created that course entrepreneurship with purpose And do you know it is a man By the name of patrick flinn And this how these people do because see what y'all got to understand is the lord has blessed me But being a black man who is country And who does not have a college degree and who is not industry affiliated. Do you know that man patrick flinn Who got a podcast with millions of downloads called entrepreneurship on fire and he might have changed it Do you know that man I had that course entrepreneurship with purpose put on you to me And they'll sell your course for nine dollars and ninety nine cents Do you know I saw that man patrick flinn teach my Method that I teach in entrepreneurship with purpose that I made up off the top of my head On how to identify purpose This man taught this thing word for word But he did it in like a sales video like a sample video. I say wow But that's how they do you boy That's how they do you because like oh, it's a black guy. He's got a different audience I still this here this here intellectual property That man stole my stuff Now he better be glad I hadn't changed my life because I would have slid on him now But I I ain't even say nothing to him. I say man, that's just that's a compliment to me But that let me know with this man having millions of listeners on his podcast And I think he showed a chart what he was making because I was listening to his podcast I think he showed a chart with his podcast. He was making 250 grand a month I'm like for this man to be at that level and to be stealing my stuff Oh, I got to be hitting on something So in that course entrepreneurship with purpose I break down how you identify your purpose and how you turn that into You know you doing what you call to do for your living instead of just Pushing pencils for somebody else and believe it or not a lot of people don't believe this But the quote if you don't build your dream someone will hire you to help them build theirs. That's my quote It's actually the in the title of my book called the dream chaser Which I didn't title the book the dream chaser, but they put that quote as the subtitle And um, which I wouldn't have tried to title the book the dream chaser because that meet me on them But that that what the publisher title and they got final say so when you go through a major publishing company But the subtitle is my quote And that quote went all around the world People tried to get to somebody else But I remember I wrote that quote sitting in my wife c 240 In front of the group home before I got out the car to go work in the group home I wrote that quote I tweeted it and it went viral and A page with millions of followers on instagram the other day Posted the quote when you could search that quote and see it to attach to my name all over the internet And I know it's called internet I call it internet Just like the way to sound better And on the title of them on the cover of my book That's published with a publisher A traditional publisher my book was in all the Barnes and Nobles On the shelf of Barnes and Nobles with my quote on the cover and then instagram page They're gonna steal the quote they're gonna put it out there Not put my name with it. I say boy, that's how they'll do you So that's another thing when you step into your purpose, you got to be ready for people to Take your hard work And call it they own You got to be ready for that Thank you Mama Tish Hey, Tony. I've been in relationship for a guy for one month Is it too early to ask him to delete old photos of his exes on social media? He says he has no ties Um, yeah too early because I mean it's one month. You don't even know a middle name probably but it's been one month and and honestly And you say exes so if he got pictures with multiple of multiple exes He a hot mess now if he got pictures of one ex And they still on his page then that's a red flag because what that means is he's not over her Or he's still talking to her Or he waiting on her to come back Or he's ashamed to delete him because he wants people to think they're still together Or he ain't told everybody that they're not together That's all that's the only reason he gonna have Somebody gonna keep pictures of their ex on their page Especially if they active on there now if he haven't posted in six months then okay He's just not active on there. He really don't use it But if he posts every week and he still got pictures of his ex on there That means he's not ready to move on. He's not ready for something new he's not ready for a relationship And you really shouldn't deal with anybody that still got any ties of any sort Of their ex no pictures on their page. No pictures in their house The ex still texting them unless they got kissed with that person They shouldn't have any communication Not know are we friends no no because that ain't they ain't how it worked me and women can't be friends like that Can't be friends if you'd have been loved been actively during the work During the work for a year, but sometimes I feel low When facing new knowledge, I realized I was very naive. How can I continue to grow without being so hard on myself? You know, you got to be hard on yourself Because that's how you feel it When you hard on yourself you driving the lesson home You can't just be like will it nearly oh, it don't matter. Oh, I meant it was like so what doesn't matter No, you need to feel it. You know, you got to sit there and you got to feel it and you got to be like, man How did I not know that man? How did I do that? You know what? I'm never gonna do that again I'm gonna learn this lesson now. See the more that lesson sting the more likely You won't repeat it But if you just run from it and you don't really feel it Then you can't heal it. So you got to feel it so you can, you know, really get that How do I elevate the type of guys that I attract good character and morals To be honest with you, there's kind of an answer that Don't make sense and the answer that you really don't want to hear but it's When men read women It's a whole lot of data that goes into that read So when a man reads a woman, he's he's comparing you to other women He's comparing you to the media. He's comparing you to the past. So it's kind of like I've seen women who had on many skirts or many dresses And I thought that they was loose and come to find out they was virgins And they were overexpressing they were showing all of that because of that Just being pent up being that just not having been expressed in that way So they want to have a a outfit that shows that appeal And it was shocking to find out that these women Was actually virgins and then you might see a woman who done slept with 50 men And she might be in the store with sweatpants on all the time But she really gets it in and so Men I said to say a lot of times when a man reading you he could be reading you wrong Because he could be reading you all wrong But he's reading you so If your outfit looked like an outfit. Michelle Obama has wore then You're gonna you're gonna attract a certain type of man because a A dope boy, you know a scammer He really don't feel on your level He don't feel worthy of you because you got on a blazer with jeans and heels And But now if you got on a body con dress He see that dress so much in the club when he's spending his money off his scamming or as dope That he feel like you on his level So he approaching you because he see your outfit. He see your hairstyle So often he feel like y'all on the same level But when you elevate and you switch it up And you got a different kind of look Then it's like oh, okay Hmm. That's all right. That's something different So a blazer with jeans might match a man who got on a blazer with some khakis A blazer with jeans really not going to attract the man who got on you know, um some robbing jeans or some sagging True religions or Balmain or whatever they win today, you know on what the boy went But is he gonna be like a kind of outfit i'm used to standing next to And the same with the hairstyle So it's like if you got in Purple streaks or red streaks or blue streaks This guy who got no morals who come from the trenches out the bottom? He used to send these kind of hairstyles All up through through his neighborhood all at the club If your hair done differently, he's like Okay, that's how I take that that's that style right there. Take a little more time I know that costs a little more money I don't know if we compatible so he so sometimes it's something that simple That and so this what you have to do when you're thinking about who's approaching you You have to ask yourself. Who are your influences? Because see a lot of women follow The the gangster rappers girlfriends on instagram And a lot of women follow The the reality tv women on instagram And so they set the trends for you So you do their hairstyles You do their outfits their dresses their clothes Or or the budget friendly version of them and then but when you look at they men You end up attracting they kind of men reality tv Or like that type of person and there are exceptions to the rule and it you know it go out there, but um You know it but it's just a rule of thumb We attract When I say attract it ain't just who approaches you who walks up to you You know because you could be a a fresh cooked steak and you're gonna get a fly You're gonna get a buzzer It ain't just somebody in a man in a suit gonna walk up to sit down and eat your medium rare A buzzer gonna want you a fly gonna want you a knack's gonna want you and you're a nice old piece of state So it ain't who approaches you is who you settle for So sometimes when you attract any kind of men that just could be your city That just could be your area you could be dressing right you could be doing everything right, but it's just your city That's just your area. That's just the timing that just where are you at? So you have to look at all the factors Um I can't really It's a little too late for me to be Reading the question without spacing in it Will you someday do a video about what type of men are attracted to certain types of women? I find that I keep attracting men like my ex or older men Some things is not really a science You know some things it just it just happens stands, you know, some things is not really you know men attracted to everything and if There is such thing as looks compatibility So A lot of men you attract could be like your ex because that's your level of compatibility And that's their level level of comfortability So you have to look and you have to say, okay What do I need to change? What do I need to work on? What could I change? You might not have anything to change But it's like this right here If if I make twenty thousand dollars a year And I'm five foot ten It's a certain type of woman that's gonna want me and if I'm Not in shape. It's a certain type of woman that's gonna want me Now if I make a hundred thousand dollars a year Same five foot ten It's another type of woman that's gonna want me If I don't have a degree It's a certain type of woman on paper that's gonna want me If I get a degree It's a certain type of woman that's gonna want me if I get a master's if I get a doctor With everything we change or we tweak we attract a different type of person On average Some of it's still going to be mixed in another same. So That's the thing. So when I say You know, we attract what we are It's like if a woman looked like a runway model That means she looked expensive That means she looked like it cost a lot for her hair for her makeup for her shoes For her skincare So a man with no money is not going to approach her Now a man who's sitting on him a bag He's gonna look and say If she want to sit down Because she's had our child I can afford her hair her makeup her nails Because he got that money so the man with money going Approach her and that's why you see men with money Typically they women is all in the same vein And then you see men who are out of shape they women typically all in the same vein Men who are short they women typically all in the same vein And it's just because of looks compatibility It's just because of comfort ability so And then the the exceptions would be if somebody is a gold digger somebody is an opportunist You know, so you may see a man who looked like Rick Ross in real life in regular life And his woman looked nothing like Rick Ross girlfriends And the difference is Rick Ross money And then you might see a man who looked like You know Michael B. Jordan in real life And His woman might look like A version of Michael B. Jordan woman And it's looks compatibility and so It just sometimes it's money that's separated sometimes it's it's degrees. It's status. It's connections It's it's your pet where you the family you come from All of that play into who is attracted to you who gonna approach you And so, you know, you got to pay attention to that Yes, I appreciate you putting that question in there with a few spaces in there Was together two months found out he had girlfriend in five years Lied never let me leave before that Blocked him self-respect back um You really ain't lost no self-respect Because you together two months So don't let something two months hold you down Don't let something two months hold you back. That's that's that one. It don't even count on your record if it ain't last three months So don't don't even don't don't waste no brain energy on that right there. You ain't you ain't lost nothing, you know You ain't you ain't do nothing Now, okay, y'all slept together. So now you're gonna drop that on him Okay, yeah, yeah, you're gonna have to do some work get that self-respect bite Now do some work get that self-respect bite because for one For those of y'all who are fornicators And i'm not judging you. God bless you. I was a fornicator But in this day and age if you're gonna be committed to fornication You should not fornicate with somebody inside of six months Now of course on the beliefs that I believe on I believe you should save yourself now And the reason why I believe that is because I don't saw the damage that it does When we jumping into that bed before we got a real commitment Before we got a lifelong commitment. It's just it's a lot being passed around It's a lot of lives being lost. It's a lot of soul ties being created And so I believe that we ought to be dating intentionally today To wear a you want marriage? I want marriage. We get along. It's it's working. Then y'all Between 12 and 24 months y'all walking down the aisle are you standing on the arches at the courthouse? okay So, you know, you got to understand that but So what I'll say is you lose no self-worth. It's just you just got to learn you got to learn next time Don't get nobody your body that you don't even know Like you need to know it's going to take you six months to know a man And to really know what he got going on and watch how he moved watch how he do Because a man could be married a man could be in a whole relationship and hide that for two months three months four months But the longer you stretch You get six months and i'ma tell y'all and it's the crazy thing that a lot of women don't want to hear but I heard the rapper say that his woman that he went And this man so in love he promote her cosmetics When he doing a feature on another rapper song But this man say his woman told him I ain't really in got no time right now I want to date and kick him to the curb and that's what made him. He said, oh, she don't want Now that could have been the case And she didn't have no time Or it could have been a play that she knew this gonna work Tack that ego kick him to the curb and just see if he come back You don't know which one it was don't nobody know but her and god and and her friend her best friend other than that don't nobody know Oh lord, it's just not where it need to be. I ain't not comfortable so listen to them That's what you got to realize And I remember I talked to NBA player and um You know, he he he's my og And he said he said brahman. I tell you this he's not a relationship coach. He ain't no relationship coach. He don't do what I do He said brahman tell you this don't ever in your life be with or stay with a woman that sleep with you inside of two weeks And that was just over his rule of thumb He said, you know how long my my wife made me wait six months So That is on average How men going to judge the situation like it or hate it Fair or not that just on average how men gonna judge the situation if you jump into that bed And this man know you don't know him Although he jumped into that bed with you He's still gonna judge you the world ain't that fair I know we say oh a man shouldn't be able to judge a woman if he doing the same thing you right But the world life ain't fair All is fair in love and war So that man not gonna give you the benefit of the doubt if you let him take you down to that bed Anything That said Or anything you say Can and will Be held against you in the court of law Okay, Miranda right now Tony right Anything you say or do can and will be held against you in the court of love So the thing what I realized in this here world Is that people want a fairytale Men want a woman to tell him if she's saving herself to marriage or not Women want a man to tell her If he's serious or not Nobody finna come to you And hand you they playbook You got to have your Standards and what you willing won't do what you willing won't put up with And you got the stand On your standards And let what come May Jamilis jamilis god bless you High tone of my name is Laney sub for well over a year and watch countless hours of you But recently been able to join As 28 year old virgin you helped me a lot Got a ways to go but have grown. Thanks. God bless you. God bless you Hang on in there now stay in a good fight Mr. K. God blessing my ex for 12 years Bought a ring and was going to propose for my b-day But he accused me of talking to someone in the bathroom when I wasn't I thought self sabotage. He said he wouldn't buy a ring or get my name tattoo If he wasn't serious Now I'ma tell you what now Now who you now? I thought you were talking to somebody in the bathroom now But that's kind of interesting was you in there making noise if you had your little toy Like I'm just gonna have where he heard the voice is coming from the bathroom So now this is what I'm gonna tell you. Yeah if it wasn't was Was your booty talking meaning he he he held something he heard And he thought it was a voice carrying You know, so you have to get to this understanding like okay And see sometimes what you have to do Is you got to make people feel stupid Sometimes you have to make people feel stupid So so hold on so hold on so so so so You're telling me That you Heard me talking to someone in the bathroom So so I couldn't talk to them outside. I couldn't talk to them in my car on the way to work On the way home on my lunch break You telling me that you think I'm going to talk to somebody In the bathroom that carries and echoes When you sitting outside of the bathroom um I got the mama to do it. Um, well, you mind taking your temperature You see what I'm saying sometimes you have to make somebody feel stupid so that they could hear they sell And the stuff what he said I used to be like that too I used to be like that with my wife and what I'm gonna tell you is is that scary because I used to be like that When somebody make up stuff in their head It's dangerous So I had to pray and I have to pray daily still to this day I have to pray because When somebody to do that and I see I had a lot of concussions. I played college football Now if this guy played football If this guy did mlma boxing If this guy had any head trauma not I understand it But I'ma tell you that's scary for a man to just create a whole narrative in his head And boy listen hill. I used to do that But my wife made me feel so stupid I cut that out I was just like man, you know what? That's the dumbest thing in the oh my goodness And so you have to really You know get people to a process. I have no idea. I must have been talking to myself. I was just using it real quick Number one. I wasn't on my phone at all Now you have to remember now you don't remember if you were talking to yourself or not It sounded like you might be lying on this question now because some people ask a question to be lying You know the screenshot and show they show they person But you ought to remember if you were talking to yourself or not Now because if you talk to yourself, then you know, you talk to yourself now me first. I talk to myself all the time You know, I talk to myself all the time. So my wife She a conversation good Having a good conversation Yeah, you know, she'll bother me about it, but I don't know sister. That's a tough one because either Either he crazed or or you was talking to yourself or talking to somebody else Well cheating over the course Of years calls you to think your new partner is always cheating Will it cause a person to have a guilty conscience and accuse them of things that person thinks they're doing? Absolutely 100% 100% It's it's a guilty conscience. It absolutely will do that because you just You know when you was a when you was a cheater You know, I met my wife when I was 21 But before 21, you know, you dating as an adult from 18 to 21 No cheating was it was normal. It was something every guy did you really didn't know of a faithful guy I met one faithful guy in my life, you know, and it was a white guy and He had a girlfriend back home, but he took and he went on a date with another girl. So I'm like man, that's cheating That's still cheating and and whatever else he did I don't know. He ain't like he's gonna tell all this business. He a pastor today Not here pastor But it's like even him who was supposed to be faithful had to get a little rocks off and go on the date Taking women on dates and he had a girlfriend at home And I'm like, bro, that's still cheating So I had never met a faithful man. It was just the norm and I played football 95 guys in the locker room It's nobody bragging about being faithful. Nobody was known to be faithful And so one thing I realized from living that lifestyle Even though, you know, you're young and you you know, you're teenager 18 19 dan 20, you know, you're not a teenager anymore But it's still mess with your head because you know what you was able to do with your free time So when you get with somebody and they got some free time But they doing this and that you know when you used to be able to get that text off To your little side piece, you know, when you went to the store, you was able to pop into your little Somebody how uh-uh Well, thank you ma'am be on out of there literally in and out in five ten minutes And just got you a little something just for the thrill of it and then be heading on back to the apartment and the Person you're dealing with don't even know And so it was so easy and it's so fast that that does mess your head up so Sometimes you could be with somebody and they just know what they have done just like this young lady right here who um Spent all her check on the super chats asking the question Um, who the Lord I've been in the chair too long for her This guy that asking her what she told somebody in the bathroom He could have them talked to another woman in the bathroom before And that got his guilty conscience going As the God bless you just wanted to say thank you I've met the husband that God has for me wet in 2022 I encourage women to do the work Keep your led clothes and don't compromise your standard healing self and submit to God's will for your life a God blessing Now i'ma tell you that blonde that uh ice blonde House style and that bone straight coming like this right here might have had something to do with that husband Because sometimes just one little tweak right there And now you jump you walk around you jump it off the page So the man see it Where's the woman who you know Got black hair brown house. She might have blended in with the wallpaper You know God bless you though. That's that's the real good though And I know you just got to have done, you know, you ain't have nothing to do with i'm just saying No, sir not lying as God in heaven as my witness. I was so caught off guard. This was over a year ago I was 100 faithful to him. I do talk to myself often lol. Thank you for your time. Okay, so over a year ago Now see that's the thing right there about women That y'all be really getting me This is to ask me a question about a year ago And I ain't gonna tell you no lie. I have people hired me for coaching To talk about a breakup from three years ago five years ago women not women Not me and I'll be like lord Just give y'all peace. I'll be that's why I be trying to bring peace because I see the turmoil I see the stress. I see what it do to you And that's why I don't want to come online and be berating and beating up and I'm a tough love. I'm tell you the truth truth gonna hurt Sometimes but I want to be I want to say it in law because I get to see the other side of it I'm dating a man that loves me more than I love him. We're both financially stable I'm 28. He's 31 Very compatible But medium level attraction can attraction slash chemistry I know you mean grow over time. Um Yes, it can technically it can technically But uh And it is good You know be dealing with a man that love you more than you love him Not necessarily like more than you love him But like love you in a different way or show it in a different way That's a good thing. But um I wouldn't recommend trying to force something with somebody you're not attracted to Just because it's If that's a hole if that's a void You may eventually feel it with another man You may meet a man who is everything that you won't looks wise And because you don't have that with that guy You could find yourself cheating And it mess you up and so, you know Got to think about that What to say not actually I had pink hair previously You had recommended in another chat that I should consider My outside Influences for style needless to say It worked Hey, God bless you now. I can't really see your face on here But I can see I can see you have a little bit. I can't really see your face but um See I had a actually and see I had told actually you need to consider her outside influence with that pink hair I ain't one trying to be rude. No, I'm just The truth in love brotherly love Um, but she the middle husband God blessing Hey, y'all say that on my testimonials now somebody say they come on my channel And was listening and was implementing and to met them a husband. So people come Can you tell me what's your success rate? And how many people that got married And I'm like, I don't I don't count wins. Just like I don't count losses. I just do the work I just do the work. I can't keep up with Everybody who watch a video and who finna go get married and all of that and Because I also understand me If a man coming to a woman life and she's sitting there listening to another man videos when he come into her life He might listen Yes, you're gonna have to stop listening to your little boyfriend on youtube all the time because listen All that right there and try to hear all that because I'm living right doing the right thing and trying to hear all that And then because she won't love She from loud. All right Control delete. Okay What's that, baby? Just like that right there. So I won't so I rarely get to hear the testimonials because when people get in their relationship It's just like how you lose your best friend when they get booed up So what you think they finna do with me on the internet? Ain't nobody finna be Studying me coming back telling me What didn't happen in their life from them implementing? So I appreciate asking for sharing that How to make peace with allowing friends and family to go who refuse to grow but always wants to make But always wants to make me go back to doing what they are doing talks it ways Well, you'll make peace with it when you see your results So I had to do that and it was tough You know cutting off my homeboys when I had to change my life and get out of the streets And um, I stopped hustling I was 23 years old And I had wrote a book at 22, but I went back to hustling after that And when I stopped hustling I got out of the street. I called him I called my homeboy that I've been friends with since kindergarten And I say bra ain't gonna be out there no more man. I you know, I got to focus on my wife and my child And I call my cudd. I'm like, hey cudd man. You ain't gonna see me no more man I got off that last little bit of work, but I ain't gonna be ringing up So what cudd how you been the door cudd how you been the door? All right. Hey But then when my life started to elevate And I saw the results. That's how I made peace with it And guess what they made peace with it too They came back around later and they started to work on themselves and change their life And I was able to help them out because they saw me make that change. So When you get that distance It'll change for you Why would a guy deliberately not like pictures of his girlfriend on social media? But like pictures of other girls is he deliberately trying to make his girlfriend jealous Now see this the thing it ain't one size fits all and a lot of guys do a lot of things for a lot of reasons That what I say may not be right, but now what I'm gonna tell you Y'all gotta forgive us all the entire guy got about to get ready to go now But I hear my wife's still rumbling. She's been cleaning up. So she's been cleaning up all day from christmas So when she'd be cleaning on I try to stay out the way You know, because she don't like me being in her way and uh, and then she let me Do this right here. Now listen, I ain't got I just been sitting now. I had a coach two clients Y'all got forgive me. Give me one second. Let me stand up a little second I had a coach two clients. So I'm sitting on these booty bones And uh, I need some more Cushing in this chair But uh, I had a coach two clients back to back So that's two hours and then I got on here. So I done been on here for Two hours. So that's four hours. I've been talking. Let me tell you I feel it too. So now listen to me Y'all see my wife got her beach headphones on when she got the beach headphones in she in the zone So I might as well stay where I'm at what I'm doing because she got when she got them headphones in That mean that that serial killer podcast plan And she locked in and she she she she's doing what she do. So I just stay on out the way Help me something to do I don't forgot now when you say we deliverally do this listen A lot of time people try to make social media look like it's not real Social media is very real social media is very real social media is Social media changing people lives So listen social media making us who use social media is making us millionaires And this is people from all walks of life all races Everything is everybody now Who is a millionaire? Who don't come from a family of millionaires? Or didn't play pro sports or make millions in corporate or whatever Everybody else is who have made a million dollars Pretty much did it because of social media Did it because of facebook ads or instagram ads or they did it because of the following So I remember when I watched the young lady that I mentioned the other day She made a million dollars in 30 minutes. It's just selling makeup And who bought it? It wasn't it wasn't people offline It was the people who follow her on instagram that bought all that makeup and made her them Million dollars in 30 minutes So that's how real social media is so when somebody come and say oh, it's just social media It's just it's just liking a picture See social media liking a picture is equivalent to walking up to somebody and introducing yourself So if your person that you with male or female because women do it too But if the person you dating is not liking your pictures, but they're going and liking other people pictures Of your same gender That's that's deliberate and that's disrespectful And that's them and listen not a way men do this the way men use social media a like Is an attention grab And that's why men do it because men also pay attention to it I remember talking to a guy and I said hey, so how you met the girlfriend? How you met this girlfriend? He said She was watching my stories So I'm like wow, so you so I thought in my head like man, so he clicking To see who watching his stories And I have done that about five times because you gotta you gotta realize when I do a Q&A on the story I may answer a hundred questions So I have clicked a story And I could see people faces And so I could count on one hand how many times I have done that But I realized some people do that every day if they do a story they click to see who watching So now instead of social media just still in the time that it took them to post Now social media is still in the time that it Take for them to see who watching them And If you got instagram, you probably do this and you need to stop doing that You need to stop doing that That's not a good behavior And that's how this stuff controlled in our life And so the stuff so real now hold on now. I'm a little sleep thing just came on. I'm hoping I'm gonna cut my phone off So it's late, huh It's 1155 and never is late. Have So listen to me So it's so real that when this man going like that woman picture Me personally Me personally, that's a break-upable offense That's a relationship ending offense If it happened more than one time if I see it And I check that that and I check that right there. Hey Now why you like that man picture with that shirt off? showing the albs and the pecs Oh, I just I just like the picture. I just this has never happened in my life This has never happened in my relationship and I don't do that either I don't do it now one time I was talking about a young lady And I showed my wife My wife holding my phone We talking About the young lady My wife the little thong rests And it say follow right there my wife the the light the picture and follow up the woman And that is when in this particular woman I Mean, you know, she I don't know what she was. I don't know. She was an instagram model. I don't know what she was But she was dating a celebrity That's when instagram used to show Everybody you that follow you What you just did If you like this picture if you follow that person my wife did that I lost a thousand followers Immediately because people was because I didn't follow anybody but my wife So when the second person I follow is like a reality star or instagram model Everybody was like what the world I say, baby I went to him. I got my phone and I clicked I was just clicking A little bit later and I clicked to my profile and I see him following two people my heart had dropped I clicked the two people if the lady I just showed my wife I said, babe, you don't like the one picture And do you know I lost a I lost followers because of that because people seen that and do you know when one of these idiots That cheated on their wife one of these relationship coaches cheated on their wife I've seen a post on reading the comments somebody in the comments Oh And and Tony Gaskin's next Because I've seen him liking women pictures. I say, oh my goodness And do you know that happened more than one time with my wife because she just she just She just go to talking and don't be thanking and just and you sitting in your thumb just rest on the phone She'd be in a like the person picture And so my wife would tell you she didn't have me looking bad and people took that series from liking that picture And so I say that to say if a man like a picture That's intentional Me or not unless it was accident like that But now when it's happening this woman picture that woman picture you seeing this one again this picture getting like All the time He either in her DM or he getting ready to be in her DM Or he trying to get her attention so that she getting his DM That that's not that's not innocent And any man that's saying it is and this is how I hate to have to blow up the spot like this But I want to see relationships be honest And be healthy and we need to stop playing each other If I go like a woman picture that she's showing somebody But she you see I'm saying now if it's a client if it's my client and it's something healthy like She feeding the homeless or you know, it's a celebration of business accomplishment I like that post But if I see somebody On instagram and it's a woman. It's just a selfie Or it's a bathing suit or it's some leggings. She doing some squats trying to show booty cheeks I ain't going nothing with that Got to keep going got to keep scrolling And if it's real out of pocket, I click them three dots in the corner And then select that see fewer posts like these just so that when my wife on my phone She don't think that I'm sitting there looking at booty Because whatever you look at that's what it's going to serve you up So if I see something out the way on my discover page, I'm clicking to getting up out of there So with my son on my phone my wife on my phone, they know I'm on their reading sports stuff And looking at comedy stuff And clean stuff that I ain't only looking at that So we have to start taking social media more serious because People lives getting taken from social media People getting scammed through social media People meeting their husband or their wife through social media People becoming millionaires through social media social media is not fake It's not fake Why would my ex constantly tell me Intimidate and threaten with contempt that I need to let him visit his daughter Then when it's time he never sees her Well, he he doing that for Screenshots he doing it for screenshots. He doing it to make the woman he dealing with think that you crazy so that she'll have more sympathy for him And he doing it to make her think he's a good dad that's trying to be in his child's life So that she won't look at him like a bomb in a dead beat And that all lets me know that is because when you give him the opportunity to see his child He don't follow through Because if he really was about that and he really wanted to see his child he will move Sun moon and earth to see his child If he really want to see his child He's not going to let anything stand in the way of him seeing his child. And so Example I told my son and my nephew I'll take them to the game room today. I had stuff to do. I had skipped my work out today I had had them in the game room. It cost me nine hundred dollars Because I wanted them to be able to play for a long time. So I got a hundred dollar car It was seven of us Then we had lunch and then we had another little snike a couple hours later a few hours later That thing at that game room cost me nine hundred dollars a day And I had to leave out of there How my sister come meet me up then I had to go sit in my sprinter and do a coaching call And then get on the road to get home the coach my next two clients I had three coaching calls today and driving up to the game room I had to do a call about a film that I'm about to produce and Or a short film I'm going to produce and I say that to say this was for the kids So that I could keep my word to them kids I had to move sun moon and earth And had to be on the phone doing stuff while I'm out and about moving and shaking So I say that to say when a man want to be in his child's life He's not going to let anything stand in the way, especially if you give him the opportunity But the but the thing is is men love Less often and so it's a lot of men And it's some women, but it's a lot of men that don't love their child Because one thing that women don't understand about men Is that most men don't fall in love instantaneously Some men if they have a hole in their heart if they have if their father wasn't in the home Some men could love their child immediately as they child born But for most men it take them some time to fall in love with their child And that's why we have such a thing as a dead beat dad Because all of those men do not love their child. They're not in love with their child. They may Have feelings for the child. They may would harm somebody if for that child But it ain't like a real Sacrificial love and the reason being is because most men keep their our guards up and we don't let our guards down And I experienced this even with myself and a lot of women could never fathom that And the reason why a lot of women came fathom it is because your body Changed for that child You carried that child you suffered for that child You went through pain for that child It's no possible way you would think that you can't love a child And it's still some women who put the child in the dumpster who leave the child on a dope step After carrying the baby for nine to ten months So imagine What that connection is like for a man who all he did the only thing he did Is shoot some sperm into the woman. That's the only The only heavy lifting he had to do is if he had to lift her In the out If he lifted her that's the only lifting he did From the time he got that good feeling and the thing about it is is the man experiences It's the woman who got the back pains It's the woman who got the cramps. It's the one who can't sleep It's the woman who got to push that child a lot or get her stomach slit open. It's the woman who Chests finna drop. It's the woman who get the stretch marks The man don't get stretch marks the man chest on draw The man ain't got to get his stomach cut open And this is what we have to realize and a lot of time men will look at this and they'll say, okay You know Tony why you why you on the woman side? Why you I'm not on the woman side I'm just using my brain to assess What the other human has to go through that I don't have to go through It ain't about picking sides. It's just calling calling a spade a spade And so, you know, you have to Think about that right now. So if all the man did Was shoot some out of him to have that child Then and I mean to get the child into the woman Then after that, it's on put hashtag q in front of your question for those y'all who knew put hashtag q in front of your question Because let's try you know the moderator might delete you If you ain't got the hashtag q with them, they'd be following them rules and I Shoot It's like I need to hire them in my real company They'd be on it And so listen to me So that's the thing is That's why and that's why a lot of women say how can he not love his child? How can he not be there for his child? How can he not show up? He really don't have a connection to the child All he did was have a moment of pleasure with you And then you did everything else with that child The only other thing a man do is provide money And money ain't no connection because He provide money for his transvestites he provide money for his Mistresses he provide money for scribbles. He provide money for his prostitute So money don't mean a connection a man have to Really a man got to sit down And he got to lock in and he have to choose and decide that he gonna love that child It don't happen automatically although it makes absolutely no sense That and that's how Adam Abraham Was able to put his son on that altar getting ready to kill him because a man relationship with a child is different God probably couldn't ask no woman to do that Because that woman carried that child but Abraham He probably like Hey What I got to do Lord give me a count on a thousand hill Lord could destroy me in a moment notice. Hey son, you got to go He's been taking son life and and then God showed me around in the bush God say because of your faithfulness Let me see now. Why can't I get past three days without getting dumped? I don't know sister I don't know my girl's father stopped paying child support because he found out I was in a relationship What is my relationship status how to do with his responsibilities again? That's that that described that depicts what I just was talking about He don't have a relationship with those kids. He got a relationship with you He wasn't giving money for The kids he was giving money for access to you Because if it was for the kids it'll have You could do anything in the world you do Ain't gonna stop that money for them kids if he got to go buy it If he got to go buy it And bring it and put it there so that you don't get the squander the money if he thinks you're gonna squander the money Then that's what he'll do So hey, man, we don't been on here. I ain't never been on here this long not having I know I miss a lot of questions. I try to can you speak on having job problems and or money problems in a relationship For women and men and how stressful it can be be supportive and encouraging vice versa Uh, yes, that is that is very very especially now For a man and I imagine for a woman too, but I'm a man So I can't really understand or depict the woman's feelings. But for a man when our money funny We funny When our money funny We funny I remember this time my wife would be like, why is like you? Why are you looking at me like you don't like me? Why are you it didn't have nothing to do with her It had to do with financial stress of me taking care of my whole family And it had nothing to do with her And she'll think that it's something to do with her and that I don't like her or that I'm mad with her It ain't got nothing to do with her So that that come with a lot of stress. You got to understand that you got to speak life. You got to You know tread lightly take it easy. It don't cost too much Is it okay to ghost a man if you're not interested? Um, I mean, it's not necessary to ghost anyone. You got to realize what go around come around now So if you don't want a man to ghost you in the future that don't ghost him You be better off Would I say we need to be an adult? And say, hey, I don't think this is a good fit. I don't want to waste your time So I think we suggest, you know, go our separate ways just like that. It could be said in a text message You don't have to be in person over no dinner The way you could get strangled you could get followed You know, you could get anything it could be right Over text message Hey, I think I don't got you know majority ease and y'all know They ain't popping it now But hey, I I try to get it minutes. I could you know, God bless you this thing say 160 Minutes, I'm trying to know what is 160 minutes 60 120 2,040 minutes Hey, God bless y'all Now, hold on now I said, hey, I'm finna go ahead and get on off of here and y'all told me back on Talking to an NBA player for months consistently found out he has a girlfriend long term trying to move on, but it's hard Hell All right, now you better move on for something else be moving you Because I want me to get a hands on you. You're gonna be you're gonna be don't wish you to move on So I'm gonna tell you what you better move on Because it is that you can have a hard head or a soft behind And so if you don't understand that one listen Hard head or a soft behind You're gonna get put on your behind So if you and you find out that a man is taking Gone by your business and do not look back And no matter how hard it is one thing that it won't be too hard for It won't stop you from breathing As long as you can do this Then you are right. It ain't it ain't hard enough When you can't do this That's when you know some hard because you're in the ground, but as long as we could do this here It ain't hard enough So gonna do it got to get done gonna do it got to be done And don't give you no self-excuse because it ain't the man that you want It's the NBA money that you want Because there ain't nothing to track about a man who lied to you and led you on and got a girlfriend That's grounds for hate So if it's hard to move on that means you's a gold digger. Now that's hard to heal now That's hard to heal that mean you listen to these hypergamy pages Hypergamy That's hard to heal now But hey, you got the head got to get that gold dig at you You got to get that gold dig at you Because under any circumstance if that man want no NBA player If that man was a garbage truck worker if that man was a school teacher That man who led you long led you along and you find out he got a girlfriend It'll be easy to tell him to kick rocks with open-toed sounders on But because of them three letters Three letters got you to question it NBA Nose rings send the wrong message Yeah, it could I mean it could me personally. I would not if I was a single man. I would not Day to one with a nose ring If I was a single man just because you know, I think my niece got a nose ring But she also have you know, she was a natural hal with the curls and She got a belly button ring and she wore mid drift shirts And she would you know bag of jeans with holes in them. So it's like a style type thing and That's so it's just a look. It's a It's it's a acquired taste. So for me, I always look at what's the meaning behind stuff and I know in some cultures The nose ring meant You're a slave and others that meant you're rich and others that meant you're beautiful You know for me, it's just kind of A lot of times I look like a book in your nose And so just me personally I never was a fan of nose rings. And so it's always going to be a A strand of people that feel the same way. However, you feel it's a million people that feel just like you So when I say I'm not a fan of nose rings It's a million men who just like me And men have the ability to be picky So the first thing he sees your face So if you got a nose ring and that nose ring really don't mean nothing You got it just because it's a trend Then you could be walking past your husband because your husband could be a pastor And he might not be in the church that Won't nose rings He could be a senator. He could be a congressman. You know, he could be All this right here And so it just could send a message like Wild child Rich taker Dare taker Loose booty Attention seeker It could say a whole lot. It's just like That nose ring could be equivalent to a man having a gold tooth And so you see that gold tooth. He might be a great person, but that gold tooth might say Stank breath Hood bugger Bro trying to look like he got money. So he put gold in his mouth It could say stuff to you that where you like But it really don't mean nothing like a man having an earring. You see what I mean? So when we do stuff, that's a deviation We got to ask ourselves. What does this mean to me? Because it's gonna change the way we are perceived Hey, Tony, I just want to thank you for your time and encouragement. I've gotten in two whole workouts During this lie. God bless you and your family. God bless you I've been with a man for eight years and his family still don't care for me. What should I do? His family don't care for you because he don't care for you And so You say you've been with a man now rachanda is you married to the man? Is that your husband? Because see your husband that's a husband. He's gonna protect you So I don't know how my my mama and my sister and my daddy feel about my wife Because they're not gonna tell me nothing negative that they feel because they know they'll get cut off And they're not gonna disrespect my wife because they know they'll get cut off. Okay You answered your question eight years and that's not your husband Yes This is time now You need to be listen to some fantasia song. So somebody old fantasia get that parka book Beyonce to the left to the left So stop listen that ain't your husband. They ain't your husband a man. They're gonna have you waiting on eight years And then his family don't care for you. They don't care for you because he ain't married in eight years Come on now, sister. This man blocking your blessings. You got this man blocking your blessing You could leave that man get some healing And meet a man in three months in a week in six months in a year and that be your husband I'm trying to tell you now I'm trying to tell you You got to go on about your business Street guy that was caught up in the life also had substance abuse problems. I wasn't aware Of we became the best of friends and fell in love If I meant so much why didn't he change sooner? Man listen It don't matter how much you mean you ain't gonna beat no addiction Substance abuse you ain't gonna beat no addiction People can't get off that stuff for their own children How you think a man gonna get off of it for you It's addicts That's having children And raising children and cannot stop With their substances So ain't no man been changed for you He got to want to change for him On the mba player been seeing each other for six months I'm not from here. I didn't know anything about that lifestyle We've been laying down Unprotected and he has been reckless hard to move on. I fell for him. I didn't talk about Tristan Thompson Now what you got to realize a lot of mba players follow me because I work for the mba Since 2010 as a speaker So I'm I'm a mentor. I don't talk to over 300 mba players So now I hope the man you talk about it. Don't be watching these videos. He's probably gonna watch this far in now, but you know, hey A lot of people don't know that though because I don't broadcast everything because I don't do what I do for clout What I've been working with the mba 2010 till I got hired by team full to be their life team life coach Oh, my son's my oldest son's still up. They'll come out the shower Looking at me Mugging me like he paid a bill And so listen to me now sister Go on about your business And I and now sister don't come and I listen it ain't it ain't I know you ain't from here, but then I'm not from Africa. I know what ruck be is You see I'm saying I'm not from the islands. I know what cricket is So listen mba hard to find And nine out of ten times he tall as a tree So, you know something rather quickly and then so if you're not from here And that ain't got nothing to do with laying down unprotected. So now come on now come on now It's time to do some work. It's time to do some work What what this what do the saying say? Um ignorant saying the absence of the law or something like that Ignorance ain't the absence of the law Asia god bless you I appreciate you. I am exhausted, but my wife's still working and my son's still up so If I ain't gonna be doing them but sitting down on tv Because I can't go to bed to my wife go to bed I always say that she's like boy, please You be knocked out snoring while I be moving around and uh But listen Jesus was exhausted And that's who I work for when you're doing a good work. You got to be exhausted. You gonna be exhausted and don't rest for the weary I would say study the ant the ant don't sleep So the work got to be done lives on the line lives on the line So listen to me. So now listen to me. So this this is what I'm talking to everybody. It come to a time That where we got to stop making excuses for our ignorance Because there's too much knowledge out here So we can't lay down with somebody and say oh, I ain't no Cons exist Oh, I ain't know you post you're not supposed to lay down with nobody on protected. Oh, I ain't know this person This I ain't know this person that you know, listen ignorant saying Don't absolve you from the law You see you still got to pay the price now And so the thing is if you ain't caught a disease if you're not pregnant If his girlfriend ain't Found you out and coming drug you When I say drug it don't mean I mean drag you By your health because I'm a little I'ma tell you If she built like the one I married drag you across the street So listen get out of there while you can get out there while you can Hey, let me see. I like um I got seven more minutes and I come this far. I might as well round it on off I might as well round it on off seven more minutes. I know you said Stop watching people who watch you and I'm working on that But how can this guy continue to watch my story? But hasn't text me back He's at work. But if you're on social media then Uh well If we assume he watching your story, but he's not texting you back Either he don't know much about social media and don't know that you could see him looking at it Or he does know and he want to mess with you Because of men like the man who sit in the dark And got me and with a battery in their back and they want to run you through they want to stress you out They want to make your work. And so you got to stop Looking to see who watching your story And so realize that I know someone that is your mentee that I also dated before and I feel like I'm only being approached by men In that field. How do I get out of and I listen? Now first you need to ask me Is he my mentee? Because a lot of guys be claiming me for clout Because they see the life I live so they say, oh, yeah, Tony guys. Oh, yeah, let me give him a call. Hey, Tony. What's up? And I'll be on a line like why her when you're three years Hey, I want you to meet my uh lady friend Oh, uh-huh So you're trying to act like you get good knowledge in your life and you you live like I live and all of that So you need to ask me is he my mentee because I might not know Like that. I might have talked to the boy one time So listen to me get your life, right? It's your life, right? Okay, aprons see you from arvindale Now i'ma tell you now something now I'm one of the things about those of us who when we make it out. We don't like to be Always we don't like to be reminded You know how people be I ain't from them But no, I yeah, but not also that I just don't I don't be talking about all that just because When you out here and you you got a following People out here you come from the lifestyle I transition to a lifestyle that things could get dangerous. So I try not to Leave too many footprints Because you just never know who watching and what somebody want to do and what somebody could do to your family and stuff like that so I don't really be Speaking on my whereabouts people be telling you live in los angeles. You live in alana You live in don't worry about where I live And when people see me where I live They don't even know I live there. They'd be like tony. What you doing here? You got a speaking engagement. Yeah, just passing through Just passing through Hey for moments. I got to go Considered in the current tech era at you want to bet Considered in the current tech era and effective social media marketing strategies. Do you think postcard? Slash flyer marketing is basically obsolete. No No form of marketing is ever obsolete because everybody's gonna everybody's reached different ways. So Flyer and all of that It's a whole lot of it's a large customer base that don't do social media That will never buy anything on social media because they don't trust the internet. They don't trust putting a credit card online you know so Or if they put it online, but they they old school marketing So me I buy from postcards Stuff in the mail Stuff on email stuff on instagram stuff on facebook Stuff on commercials. I buy from every form of marketing word of mouth Somebody walking up to me and telling me about their stuff Is it possible for a 50-year-old male to be in a serious relationship with a 26 year old? Don't let me lie to you Don't let me lie to you If you ask me the answer is no But I don't know which one of them got the most problems the 26 year old or the 50 Because for me, I can't If I'm 37 and I can't be attracted to a woman in her 20s Like seared like if I was a single man at 37 years old I wouldn't be able to talk to a woman under 33 my wife 35 and sometimes Sometimes that get to me because she want to give me a wedgie and Want to yank my drawers up my behind and try to twist them in the back And she just be the key kid and having a good old time and I'll be like man. He's too young man And she 35 I'm 37 so And then at 26 that sound like one of them hypergamics On the hypergamy babies That she want her a man because there ain't no way in the world. No 26 year old young vibrant woman Won't her no 50 year old man. Ain't no way in the world She wants stability She won't find out your stability That's what she won't joy, you know That's because you are old soul You're old soul. You're not out here looking, you know Loose and all out here. You ain't your own dress and carry yourself Like women in their 20s And so that's why the the mold whip of snapples. They want they want to They want to take care of you come on young young thing He never had you no man with no money They want to take care of that SSI The little check they get for that for that injury that knee injury they got in the in the service in the army They want to spend that whole check on you So that's all that is but hey god bless y'all. I got to go. I am tired. I am drained and I've been on here Three hours. I just wanted to go on here and hit that round off and to be honest with you I'm gonna tell you what it is. I saw it was 1100 and some people on here So I said, okay, I'm gonna get off when it goes to a thousand and it never did. So the the retention So I'm like man I'll be on here doing a 24 hour marathon because people keep coming on because people late and People coming from different time zones. So then I realized okay. I'm trapping myself on here If I'm waiting for it to go to a thousand because people on different schedules So hey god bless y'all. I really appreciate you to those y'all who sent the blessing in God bless you. I appreciate you and Going over tony gas an academy for the Zoom seminar you'll see it is called. This is my year 2022. That's that's january second We're gonna be going in now. It's gonna. It's gonna be some real stuff You're gonna have to make some changes in your life for this 2022 now when you're doing them fake resolutions and um And then all the other All the course right now is 50 to 70 off just for the holiday season and I'm gonna leave it that way Until january 7th So god bless you. We'll talk soon Okay Oh, the young lady said y'all need to hit the like button And it's almost as many likes as the many people watching. Yeah, I never really seen that on alive So hey god bless y'all appreciate you