 who is she? We don't even know her age. We don't know anything about her before she became a Muslim, very different from the others. Nobody knows. Why? That's something for you to remember because nobody will remember you unless you do something different. And that's why no one talked about her until she came to give allegiance to Rasul alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam. So this is about 1,430 plus years. So Rasul alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam was told in Makkah. She was from Medina. She was Ansari as they call it. So she was born raised in Medina from Benu Najjar. But nobody knows anything about her at that point. And then Rasul alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam sent the first ambassador in Islam. Who was that? You all should know the name. There's only one. The first ambassador in Islam, who was he? Who he was? Rasul alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam sent him to Medina. No. Mu'ad el-Rujival was sent to Yemen. I heard it. Yes, Sayyidina Mus'ab Nuhameer was the first ambassador who Rasul alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam wanted to see if he will migrate to Medina. Will that be a good place? Planning, investigating, researching, searching. So he did. And Sayyidina Mus'ab Nuhameer did an amazing job. What happened afterward? You should all know this. But I don't want to talk about the Seerah. I want to talk about points that should impact you and me as a woman. 74 people from Medina decided to come to Mecca and meet Rasul alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam. 74. How many women among them? How many women? Only two. What's the ratio? It doesn't matter the number. It doesn't. What matters is what did you do? So Um Mu'amara and Asmaam, both of them. They didn't jump over Rasul alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam and I'm coming and I have to do this. You can be very powerful and impactful, but in the right way. You don't even have to raise your voice. You don't have to go and write and do the right thing. So what did they do? They wanted to give allegiance to Rasul alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam. This is Bayatul Aqaba, second one. She left Medina. She came with her husband and two of her sons and her sister came coming to Rasul alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam. But they didn't go to him and says, I want to do it. She sent the husband of Asmaam. Rasul alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam. And he said, Ya Rasul Allah, the woman wants to give you the allegiance, like the man. And what did he say? You need to know this because there's a hukum here. There's a fiqh, ruling we're going to learn. What did he say? What did he say? You're close, but what did he say? He said, that's fine. Let them come and give the allegiance, but I will not shake their hands. Because normally, how do you give allegiance to someone? You put your hand on top of their hand. He said, I will not. Did they get offended? Why me? Discrimination? Because I'm a woman. You know my point? Again, I'll say this every time I speak to women. Don't fall in that trap. Focus on the goal. They came because they want to make a statement. What was the statement that Nusayb did on that day? That the woman's faith is as strong as the man's faith. And whatever it will take to show this faith, she'll do it. So she came, gave the allegiance to Rasul alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam, went back to Medina. Nobody knows much now. Till when? Till when? Where do we know her? Ahud, exactly. How many years? At least five, right? At least five or six. Ahud after bedr. What happened here? Women always, when they go for expeditions with the Rasul alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam, what do they do? They usually, in the back, serve the fighters or, or, or take care of the wounded. And that's what she did. Now, if you learn the rest, you will say, anybody else in this day, no, no, no. I don't want to stay in the back. No. I am as strong as them. I want to be in the front. Are you getting my point? She didn't. She was in the back. When did she come to the front? And this is a lesson for all of you. Wait till Allah use you. Don't jump to it. She didn't go out to make a statement. And so history will talk about her. And Rasul alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam said this famous, more than one statement about her. That's not her purpose. She went to serve Allah. She went to serve Allah the way usually, women serves Allah. But Allah had another plan for her. And what happened? What happened? Come on. It's Ahud. So as long as the Muslims were winning, she was in the back. Now what happened? You all know the story. Now things turned around. And what happened to the Muslim? The fighters, companions, what happened? They ran away. And this is how it's described. And if you read, you will find the same description. Very few people, they said, less than 10 companions, Sahaba ran away. Very few, less than 10 stayed shielding Rasul alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam. Who was it? One of them was she and her son. She and her son. She didn't go for that. But when the opportunity comes in to serve Allah, to do something most don't do, she was there. And what happened? She did not go out as a fighter. So she doesn't even have a shield. She ran with only her sword and bear nothing. And the Rasul alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam is behind her. The fighters were running and the Rasul alaihi s-salatu wa s-salam looked at one. There's no name. And he had a shield. And he said, if you are not fighting, give me the shield. He gave him the shield and he gave the shield to Sayyid al-Nusayibah. You know what is this? Again, when Allah wants to use you, He creates the opportunity for you. And He facilitated, and He facilitated, facilitated in a way perfection. Don't do it. Don't do it with yourself, meaning ask Him to use you. But don't put orders to Allah, as I say this to myself. I want it this way or that way. I want to serve you, Ya Rabbi. You want me to serve you as a speaker? I'm here. You want me to serve you as the person who cooked the food, to serve the people who attend the conference? I'm there. You know what I'm saying? Don't pick and choose. This is the Deen of Allah. He chooses where He wants you and where He's going to use you. And the result is the same. So her son comes in, she had two. Both of them died, but not in Uhul. Habib and Abdullah. So Habib was running and he had a wound in his arm, bleeding. And Rasulullah SAW told him, tie it and come to your mom. You need to feel this. It was a fiasca. It was a mess. They were losing and running. He comes in. What is she doing now? Now this is the mother. This is her son. Now this is the fighter. Look how many hats she was wearing. Now she's the nurse. She pulled her son. She had around her tied some bands because she was going out for nursing. She take one band, tie her son wound, bleeding. And what does she say? Go back and fight. Look at me and you. Go back and fight. What did he tell her, Ali SAW? No one can do what you just did. This is one of the statements he said about her. No one can do that. Your son and everybody is being killed in the mess, bleeding. Anybody else will say, you know, he's bleeding. Go home. My baby. Not Umma Amara, not Musaibah. Allah knows you and me, what would have done. And then she sees a warrior coming to kill the Rasul. She has nothing. She's not a fighter. But when you have the faith, when you really love Allah, when he puts you in the place where he wants you to defend, I'm there. And then he comes in and they were all on horses. She was not riding. They were all standing. And that man comes in and he missed her, then turned and then she hit the horse and the horse fell and the man fell. And then she killed him. Musaibah. That's why he said, that's a woman, one, only. And then at that point she said to Rasul Ali SAW, what did she say? Pray for me and my family in the middle of the battle. Pray for me and my family that we are with you in Jannah. And of course, you prayed for her. Did you see the point? In the middle of whatever the focus is, what is the Akhirah? Jannah. Where I am going. What do I want to do? It's not this life. It's the way I look. What I have, where is my child that's going? The focus is the Akhirah, including how I use my children. Because that's why she told her child, go, done. I took care of it. Go back. Subhan Allah. Is this is done? Do you think the only landmark of Sayyid An-Usaibah is because of her courage? Then you don't know that well the Seerah. There's a verse in the Qur'an that was revealed because of her. There's a different opinion about whether it was Musaibah or Nusaybah. Sayyid An-Usaibah. What was this verse? Or what did she come and say? She came to Rasul Ali SAW and said, everything in the Qur'an is for the men. Now equality. Now I want my rights. But what rights she was looking for? She said, Ya Rasul Allah, all the rewards go to the men. The rewards go to the men. What about us? And then Allah revealed. It's in Surat al-Ahzab, which most of you, insha'Allah, you know the verse, and then muslimina or muslimat or mu'minina or mu'minat or qanitina or qanitat or sadaqina or sadaqat or sabirina or sabirat or khashi'ina or khashi'at or mu'tasaddiqina or mu'tasaddiqat or sa'imina or sa'imat or hafizina furujahum or hafizat or dhakirina Allaha kathira or dhakirat. And this is one of the few verses where Allah divided the gender. You're a muslim, she or he. A believer, she or he. Submitting to Allah, he or she, or she and he. He started with he and she. That's what I ask for my rights. That's what I want to be equal, if not in the front run. It's not everything. That's a Sayyidina or Sayyiba. The other thing, her son, Abdullah, was the only Sahabi who described the wudu of Rasulullah. What an honor. All this Sahaba, it's her son, described. Third thing for her, another hukum. So I want you to know, it's not about courage only. What she has that we all need, especially this day and age, they are the certainty. The unshakable faith, I call it. This is who she was. Unshakeable faith. I am a servant to Allah, wherever Allah you put me. So Rasulah A.S. came to visit her. What was she doing? She was fasting. He was not. A.S. She served him food. And he said, why you are not eating, Ya Nuseyiba? Said, I'm fasting, Ya Rasulullah. What did he tell her? Anybody knows? Yes. He said to her, the angels pray for the house that the owner is fasting and he serves food to people. What a faith, practicing faith, courage. Ahud was not the only one. She was involved in one of the most unique allegiance to Rasulah A.S. That's what they say. If you read about her, they tell you she is one of those who Allah said, I'm pleased with her. Can you claim this? Can I claim this? How dare I am? But this one is not a claim. It's true. It's a fact. Allah swt said, Let's translate. Allah said, Allah is pleased. The believers, the believers, but who are they? Which one? Not everybody. This is specific. Those who gave you allegiance under the tree, she was there. Second. And this which allegiance is when Sayyidina Uthman went to Makkah and the news came in that he was killed and our Rasul A.S. said, Who is going to give me allegiance? Will be with me and we will get our revenge for Sayyidina Uthman. It was a rumor. She was there. I was reading this, writing and preparing this. I took a pause and I said, Can I say, can I claim it? Do I even have the audacity to say it? Of course she said and of course she can say it with full confidence. Why? Because Allah said it. Allah said it. Her son. So now she's a mother. Her son, Rasul A.S., sent him to talk to Musaylama al-Kadab. Musaylama, the one who claimed prophethood. And Musaylama stood in front of him, her son, Habib, and he said, Do you bear witness? That Muhammad is Rasulullah. He said, I do. And he said, Do you bear witness that I am a messenger? And he says no. Every time he asked him this question, the answer is no. He chopped one part of his body, a hand, an arm. Every part till he died. Later on in the Yamama, in the Battle of Yamama, after the death of Rasul A.S., she was there fighting with her other son. And she saw him dead. And she said the meaning of Alhamdulillah, that Allah made my heart in peace because he was killed. Sayyidna Abu Bakr and Sayyidna Umar, the giants. Men, they used to go and visit her specifically. You want your right? You want to be identified? You want to be special? It's not words. It's action. It's action. And it's a hard one. And somebody, most people don't do it, but you will do it, not to impress anyone other than Allah. Not looking for any praise other than his praise. Not wanting anything of this dunya, other than the pleasure of Allah SWT. She died 13 years of Hijrah. They said that she died at the time of Sayyidna Umar. No one talked about how she looks like. This is what I want to end. No one said about her skin color, or how long her hair, or what was her weight, or how tall, or what did she dress, or where she bought. But everyone talks about her courage, sacrifice, faith, certainty. How much we have of this?