 So Lauren says, my boyfriend taking forever to do any house project, how can I talk to him without he felt I am pushing or not appreciating him? Well, one of the things that you can do is you can do what I call framing. And so I talk a lot about framing in my Love Frames toolkit and some of the videos that we've done before. And basically framing is where you talk about things that you like, you talk about things that turn you on, you talk about things that make you feel womanly or appreciated, you talk about things that make you feel loved, right? And you do these in not in a manipulative way where you're like, you know, I like a man who, you know, does all the housework when I tell him to do the housework, you know, but in a loving way. And especially in a way when he's done something, right? And you're like, oh, man, it's so it's so hot when you like when I you know, you catch him, right? You're he's like, taken out the trash. And you're just like, you're like, oh, man, I feel so like, you know, like, I know this is going to sound so weird to you. But it just like, it's such a turn on seeing you, you know, do things like that for me and for us and for this household, like it's just, I don't know, there's something that I just love about it. And it's just so hot, you know, and you can talk about things in that way, right? And if you frame things enough, and those kinds of ways, it'll eventually either one, he'll start if you're not doing it in a manipulative way, right? If you're not doing it in a way where you're like, you know, obviously coming in, and the only time you ever appreciate him, and, you know, tell him that you find him attractive and that you tell him, you know, things that you like about what he is or what he's doing, if you're just doing it in times where it's clear and obvious that you're trying to manipulate him into doing things, he's he's going to feel like you're manipulating him, right? But if you're doing it a lot, and you're doing it all the time, right? And you're doing it in different senses, not all the time, but like, enough where it's in various different situations where he's doing things, and you're appreciating him, you're appreciating him for being a man, you're appreciating him for the things that he does, you're telling him that, you know, things that he does turns you on, or that you like it, or it makes you feel loved, or it makes you feel womanly, and you're doing it in a variety of different situations, that's a part of how you communicate with him, then it can be a really powerful thing, because you'll start kind of taking note of the different times when you say that, right? And he'll be like, oh, yeah, you know, she like really liked that, I don't, you know, I don't know, I just know that she likes it when I do this, or when I do that, and he'll start doing it more and more and more, you know, if you're doing that on top of the other things that we talk about in the program, if you're doing it, and you're still being needy, and you're doing all these things where you're kind of pushing him away, then he's not gonna want to do it, right? Because he's gonna be like, oh, it's gonna start feeling like a chore to him, and annoying to him that you want him to do these things, or that he has to do these things. But if you're leaning back, and you're creating attraction, and you're allowing the flame to grow, you know, all the things that we talk about, then what's gonna happen is he's going to be attracted to that, and he's gonna want to do that, and he's gonna feel, it's gonna be his choice, it's gonna be coming from a place of him choosing to do these things for you, because he wants you to feel great, he wants you to appreciate him, he wants you to love him more, he wants to please you, right? And that's the space that he needs to be coming from when he's doing those things, not, maybe I just went off on a rant there about all that, but that's how you do it, is one, you do what we talk about in all this stuff that we've been talking about, not just in this video, but some of the other ones, and two, you use framing, and you set up frames to talk about how attractive it is when he does that kind of stuff, and how much you appreciate it, and how much it feels, it makes you feel like you're being taken care of and loved when he does things like that, right? It's a love language, it's a acts of service love language, and so you can talk about it in terms of that.