 into my video today that is titled girl just wear the damn shorts and I do not hardly ever cuss you guys know on this channel very rarely sometimes I'll slip I am a trucker's wife and I am a cowboy's daughter so occasionally it does come out but I wanted to specifically emphatically say wear the damn shorts because I think that we as women talk ourselves out of having a very fun time being very easy about what we do and wear and how we decorate our bodies how we decorate our faces how we wear our hair we listen to the trends of course we want to keep trendy but when it comes to the end of the day number one are you making yourself happy with what you wear number two are you miserable with what you wear number three are you comfortable are is it easy to wear are you overly warm you know we're in menopause that can be a really big struggle do you feel pretty do you feel happy does it bring you joy those are the things you want out of what you wear and how you look and how you feel and I really feel like for me and everything that I've been through this year and if you don't know my story I had gastric bypass surgery four years ago and yes that was very controversial and a lot of people got a lot of negative feedback but got an overwhelming amount of positive feedback from you all I lost 125 pounds and then I was left with all this hanging skin and infections getting in the folds and all of this junk going on and so I made the decision to have skin skin removal surgery around my middle which I did in January and honestly even though it was the very best decision I could have ever done for myself and a great confidence booster it was truly the hardest thing I've ever been through harder than either even labor and I labored with my oldest son for 24 hours before they finally took him to Caesarean just so you know I know what pain is like so many of you have followed me along that journey and I just want to say thank you but guess what I am constantly talking to myself in my head and saying you know what those legs are still disgusting they still have tons of cellulite and ripply and you can't wear that you can't pull that off you can't do that I am done with that mess there are people that I see out in public that I'm like oh my goodness but again they are entitled to decorate themselves the way they want to if they want to wear what they're wearing that is their choice and none of my business and I feel like if we stay in our own lane and make ourselves happy we are going to be a lot happier internally as well instead of worrying about what the other person is doing so the guidelines that you get from me or that you get from any other fashion person they're just guidelines they're not really hard and fast rules they're just things that have worked for us personally and we want to share them with you and bring them to you so I'm bringing you three outfits today the last one really does cover up the legs completely but it's got a short detail to it which I think is absolutely adorable I'm going to show you this particular top and the shorts that I do have on now I will say before we get into the first outfit because it's not going to be this one but I will say that what is interesting about this video is I still can't wear even mid thigh shorts I just don't have the legs for it and I don't feel comfortable and that's okay and the same thing goes for you if you don't feel comfortable I you know for me it's like I'm to the point to wear yeah just wear the damn shorts because life is too short and you need it to do what makes you happy so I've been buying a few Bermuda shorts here and there and yes putting them on and wearing them a little bit even with all of the Ripley Den Police on my butt and on my legs so you're going to see these couple of outfits first and then we're going to talk at the very end just for a couple of minutes so let's get into these few outfits okay so the first outfit is just a very classic pair of Bermuda shorts with frayed edges on the hem right there which I think is so much fun we wore our shorts like this all the time we wore them cut off and the edges would get frayed and that's how we were all summer because it was what we wore to school and we because it's what we wore to school they got holes in the knees and we cut them off and we made our shorts so I love these I think they're so fun they're not distressed anywhere else they do have the pockets on the rear a little bit faded you know down at the middle of the thigh and down at the back of the thigh so I love that and then I just paired it with a white blouse this is such a soft t-shirt and I just love it it does have a little bit of a pedal sleeve right here I think it's so pretty these are the kind of t-shirts that I love super soft super easy to wear super easy to wash and go hopefully you'll be able to see this I paired it with just a square gold hoop I love these geometrical designs and then I also paired them with some black flat sandals that I've shown to you before but I will take one off and I will show you again and there's the sandal with all kinds of pretty bling on it and so that is outfit number one and we're gonna go on to outfit number two but maybe you are not as comfortable wearing the maybe you're not as come maybe you're not that comfortable wearing shorts at all I understand I have a hard time with them too because my legs I swear they have been through the ringer and it's really hard number one you are going to want to try to do some self tanning brown skin on leg if the legs aren't perfectly smooth they are kind of you know 54 and counting it can really do a lot to hide them if you have on some self tanner and I will list below what my favorite self tanners are at the drugstore and high-end also I do have some new leg makeup that I've been trying out I do like one from Sally Hansen but I think I might like this one a little bit more I'm gonna continue to try that out but here's the outfit that I have on I actually wore this top in a video last year last summer and you guys completely sold it out it comes in so many pretty prints I love how loose and airy it is I love that it's off the shoulder it is so cute it is one of my very favorites to wear and it makes me feel really pretty and I just paired it with a pair of these for muted shorts that have a cuff on them actually you have several pairs of these Bermuda ones these ones are the hot pink ones and they do have all kinds all different colors and I plan on picking a couple more up because these are easy to wear and yes even though you can see my ripples in my legs down there it is hidden a little bit because these are a little bit longer and a little bit more of the Bermuda short style so maybe you aren't super duper comfortable wearing the regular shorts this is a very dressy very nice summer dress but guess what underneath it has the shorts built in so you're not actually wearing a dress you're wearing a romper kind of underneath the lace I love this and I don't care who says a word about it I went for matchy matchy I even wore a wedge sandal that came in blue which I will show you fairly close up and I even broke out my blue little satchel crossbody which I absolutely love let me show you both of these up fairly close I'm just gonna squat down this is such a cute purse it is small though and so don't try to overstuff it if you're somebody that has to have a bigger handbag I do have several of those that are in blue on my Amazon storefront but this one is pretty small it does have the crossbody strap that you can use if you want to have it as a crossbody purse but how cute is that with the flap over and all the gold detailing on it and then I'm gonna take off the shoe and show you the shoe isn't it cute it's just got like a one or two inch wedge heel and these are super comfortable super easy for me to wear this is my last choice maybe you are just somebody that just can't bare your legs I get it I have a hard time showing my bare legs too but maybe this is just the perfect thing for you and I wanted to include it in this video as the third outfit option for just wear the damn shorts alright so there is the video for you I hope that you did enjoy seeing all three outfits and how much fun I did have bringing them to you and I'm going to choose for me what makes me happy I don't care what weight I'm at I don't care what weight you're at if you're making yourself happy you feel comfortable in your own skin then that is all that matters and I hope that that's what this video brought to you a little bit hope that you did enjoy seeing all three of my outfits thanks so much for spending a bit of your time with me please stay happy stay healthy and I'll catch you in my next video take care goodbye my friends