 Hey y'all, so I was gonna save this for the end, but technically this is the end of the vlog But I'm gonna put this at the beginning because I know a lot of you guys do not Look at my entire vlogs, which is totally fine. Um, I Want to save this and I'm gonna make it real quick and then we're gonna get into the vlog. Excuse my face I got acne cream on I Think that a lot of times often times those of us who have a lot of people looking to us for support Especially family members and I'm sorry, but sometimes your family can be real draining, right? They don't mean to be with bless a heart They can be especially if you are a parent to multiple children if you are a grandparent if you are a brother sister Hell even a friend and a lot of people come to you And after times you have your own issues that people don't really know about so I'm just here to tell you that you Don't have to have it all together. I think that especially as black women black people We think that we should have it all together. We wear all these different hacks But you don't have to hey everyone look at this hair girl shrinkage shrinkage shrinkage I'm gonna go ahead and do some type of twisted updo Because my ass ain't recording no videos for a good two weeks. Yeah Yeah, I've recorded it up to where I should be good for the next two weeks. Anyway, it is Friday. It's Friday And I'm ready to swing We good this week. Um Um Y'all I need to somehow I'll show them you baby. Hold on. I want them seeing my girls We gotta get ready for school soon boo boo last night my husband and I ate Girl, I cooked eat the opening food And I'm I literally made like five or six dishes and why I was sleeping Y'all while JB was napping and my husband helps me to cook And so with the both of us going hard at it it took two and a half hours to get it done You want to talk about throwing down the ocean again. I'm so sweet We will go to the we will go to the train park and get some ice cream at the train park. Yeah Yeah, baby. Yeah, JB got got in trouble this week at school I ain't gonna I ain't gonna say much because I don't want to embarrass the baby, but we did there. It's okay, JB Look What is that baby part of your leg of? Oh, good morning. Good morning. Good morning. Everyone it is Saturday morning. Can you say hi darlin? Y'all have to excuse our living room So how miss miss teresa wanted to ask you how how you're like in school. Can you say hi to mrs. Rearass? Hi So cute, so um We did have a little issue last week one day They have a system to where green means they they have an agenda. So in the agenda the teacher Marks the colors green means good yellow means we need to slow down and think about some things and red means you need to Send your child to a boarding school in south africa. So JB got a JB unfortunately got a yellow last week, but we talked about it And we're gonna work on he's good, but um We're gonna be going to an indoor playground today y'all. I am losing inches. I think um I The skill is not moving girl at all, but I haven't gained in a way I haven't lost any weight but my clothes are fitting differently like For we went out to dinner for my birthday or for our birthday My pants were way too big and I purchased those pants last year. They fit their way too big I don't think I may be in between a 12 and 14 as far as pants go right now Because like my 14s are way too big for me. Even my workout clothes are fitting big. So that's good So I'm gonna keep doing what I'm doing. Um Sorry, um I lost headspace didn't I say I would stop shopping a couple of a couple of days ago But then I forgot girl I forgot that I was going on my trip or our trip to Texas and I needed some stuff Well, we needed some stuff. So I have literally spent close to $200 On amazon amazon is the devil speaking of amazon and I'll go back to that We were at Whole Foods last week picking up some stuff to cook And at the cashier when they at the record sure. Sorry y'all. He's playing this thing. Let me go in here At the register, they were like, are you with amazon prime? And I'm like, no my ass should be as much as I shop He's like, oh because you get 20 off on on sale products We need to go ahead and do that. No, we don't go to Whole Foods. Sorry y'all Do I look like skin? I'm not trying to look like skin. Anyway Um, I look ashy as hell in this the setting, but it's okay Basically, they give you 20% off at whole paycheck if you have amazon prime and then for certain products that are It's only for stuff on sale for certain items that are on sale. You can get buy one get one free That is a killer deal and that's because I'm sure most of us know by now that amazon actually purchase Whole Foods Um, so anyway, then buy some stuff through amazon girl. I mean All types of random stuff JB is having issues with his sinuses. So I'll buy him another saline rinse I bought him some toys. I know he doesn't need I bought him another set of headphones For our trip. Sorry y'all moving around because he's in there all alone. So um Just buying a bunch of stuff with some some things that I did purchase I went ahead and purchased the last few products that I wouldn't be doing a review before I Call it quits on these product reviews and that's sold tentacles They have a lot of mixed reviews y'all So I did not buy any cleansing products. I did not buy any deep conditioners I just purchased two of the styling that not sauce and a Twisting type of butter because I don't trust their their washing or cleansing products I should say my soul tentacles. I got that I bought two pairs of shoes, but they were cute. They were like only $15 each. I bought them in different colors I don't like I said, I'll show y'all everything when it comes in. Hold on JB. Don't do that I am ginormous Hey Girl, anyway, um, yes I know I'm all over the place. So today we will be going to love to play But I want to give you guys a tip when it comes to because as you can see by now I do a lot with JB. Uh, we don't stay inside. I think that this is one of the I think that they're We are baby Oh, that's a good idea. I'll do that, baby. I'll do that. He wants y'all to see this I'll have to use yours though because yours is better for that. This one's a little wobbly. So I'll use yours. That's a good idea I'll do that I think one of the uh I think there are a lot of children who are misdiagnosis having ADD No, no, no those kids don't have ADD. They are not The parents aren't doing anything and it's not really necessarily the parents fault. They maybe they don't know I believe that the parents are not doing enough to expose their children and to get that energy out There is no way I'm going to sit in a house with a child All day go check the mail Or let's do something inside but especially for JB. I know my child. He needs to go out the house So we're going to love to play. So this is a tip We go to a lot of different places. We have hit up nearly every indoor playground in phoenix One of the tips that I do is I dress JB in a bright colored top I don't dress. I try to avoid white. I try to avoid black. I do red. I do blue. I do um Uh Orange sorry or yellow. So that way if I need to find him real quick. I know that my babies is in the orange shirt If I do white, I'll be looking for him forever I'll be looking for him forever because there's a lot of kids with white shirts So You know what? I be want JB. I be wanting to snatch him up sometimes you I know we always warn him that he's lucky You gotta You got a mama from the south and a daddy from Africa. You're lucky That we have been snatched you all the way up Hems you all the way I snatched this thing off By now we have all heard of aretha Franklin passing y'all I I got a little teary out there for a minute because I was just watching The got to be real parodies. I know y'all seen them I was just watching that literally two days before she passed. I love got to be real y'all I wish that she would come back um, and they will make those videos because it's so funny Um, I was just watching that and to hear from her When I found out that the parent the family was coming to say goodbye because this is not the first time She's been close to death. I mean, this is like the second or third time in a couple of years But when they said that family were saying goodbyes and hospice was there. It's a wrap Well, I'm surprised that people didn't know that she had cancer. She had cancer Yeah, she it was that rumor came out a while back and she denied it You know, she said she's in good health. Everything's okay, but then she started losing weight very rapidly I'm like, oh gosh, you know, it's her business But one thing that is starting to really bother me not really bother me, but I'm like So disrespectful There have been a couple of videos on youtube about her secret life and the fact that she had children at a young age She got pregnant when she was only 12 And I'm like this stuff has been on Wikipedia for years and why are y'all dragging this woman? That is so disrespectful because You you you never talk about the dead one number two, they can't defend themselves. They're not around to defend themselves. So just disrespectful Hey, y'all we are in excuse the um car because the the ac is on because it's hot is already 97 Supposed to be at 100 degrees. I did a little light beat girl. I don't want to give him a too much She's gonna talk about that in a minute, baby. Hold on But I do a little light being I don't wear makeup a lot. I don't want to give him too much Okay, because I don't need y'all turning around looking that back at me, you know turning into salt like lots wife and family. So Um, but now Hold on, baby. Hold on. Hold on Y'all sorry I got this mortar and sorry about that excuse that dialogue between me and my child But one thing that I cannot stand he's learning do not talk when I don't Don't over talk on me and don't interrupt adults He's really he's got really good about doing that now because y'all can see I could talk to y'all for a while and he'll hush up You are a child and I need for you to hold off and wait until I'm done talking and don't So what you want to tell me about baby? The nightmare was actually spreading on my hands. Oh my and that you know, like I was singing something in my brain when I was like Oh My word. All right, y'all we are on our way to the We are done with love to play I stopped by McDonald's to get JB. Um something to eat y'all. I don't eat McDonald's, but I will drink your drinks. Um Oh, this has been child. Let me get they used to serve sale Our turtle macchiato they would give Starbucks to run for their money. Hold on. Let me drink some of this down They float it up too high Let me hush up. We got some errands to run We have to go to Walmart because we're going to a birthday party next week. Um I already I already ordered the little girl's birthday present, but I need to order I need to pick up The bag and tissue now normally I go to the Dollar Tree But the last time I went to the Dollar Tree to get a gift bag it broke like I'm gonna go now. Let me go ahead and spend a dollar an extra dollar and get something of quality And then I gotta pick up some stuff and then we gotta go to Staples But well, I don't need you acting crazy. I need to go to Staples and to um Make copies of his vaccination records for his school and that's it y'all be going home I'm really excited. I will ride on the car No, you ain't doing that. Oh, you're gonna get a first first hand spanking Um, I'm excited about what I'm cooking later on something new something something carb friendly And um, because yeah, I had a pizza for lunch a little individual pizza But still and then I'm having this sugary drink. So the next time I eat it needs to be pretty good That's what I'm really learning you guys is Thank you. He said pizza's not good for you. I know that So one of the things I'm really learning is that if you want to eat something if you really want to eat something Eat it before one o'clock Eat it earlier in the day. Don't eat it around five six seven god forbid seven eight o'clock. Don't eat it that late I had that pizza around 11 No, so later on today I have a recipe I came up with So y'all I'm gonna make something really really new It's a lot of stuff out here. I know I know this is not an official cooking video because this is an original recipe Basically, I'm gonna be making a cart friendly Asian style nachos now I've seen people do this with ground turkey beef to where they basically use these little mini peppers As opposed to tortilla chips for nachos. So this is what I'm thinking y'all. I got some ground chicken here I'm gonna season it up with stuff like turmeric garlic powder onion powder salt some coriander I have a little bit of orange sauce here. I have some Chili paste. I have some orange juice. Oh girl, this is I'm gonna I'm gonna put the orange juice in here too with the orange sauce But this is this is awesome. I'm gonna make me some emotions girl I'm gonna do a little bit of honey to offset the heat I'm gonna do some cabbage the cabbage is gonna wilt it away. This is that coleslaw I already sliced up with some carrots. I'm gonna do some of that. I'm gonna do some green onions I'm gonna do some purple onions. I'm gonna do some jalapenos bell peppers ginger then I'm gonna do some Sweet corn I haven't done that before but since this is Mexican inspired slash Chinese. I know girl. We're gonna do that then I have some What are these water chestnuts? I'm gonna do a side of cauliflower. I think and then over here We have I like to have crunchy stuff when I'm eating stuff. Hold on baby. So I'm gonna slice up some cucumbers Now for my husband Then what I'm going to do is I'm gonna spoon the chicken on top of a salad So we have some romaine romaine lettuce here Slice up some carrots some tomatoes and then I'm gonna do wonton strips. So yeah, that's gonna be Yeah, this is not an official cooking video. We're gonna make it work and I'm go ahead and fix my drink All right, y'all so Capos let me turn off my car just for a hot minute because the camera of course is now there we go Miss capos. I had to do a little something y'all. I keep makeup y'all My nickname in college was and this isn't really it doesn't mean what you think it is but it was pretty puss Miss pretty puss. I was your stereotypical southern bill Makeup for gods Hair big I was so funny and I I Stayed with that up until I had a child and then went out the door But there were only a few people who actually saw me without my makeup I was like dolly part and you ain't gonna see me without my hair big and my makeup beat my face beat I mean, so yeah, there is only a few people who had ever seen me without any makeup now About 16,000 of you helpers have seen So now I'm like it is what it is, baby. It's hot y'all hold on. Let me I don't have to turn on this or something what you see in the back is My neighbor was putting some stuff out and I was like, uh, excuse me time My neighbor's name's Tom. I said, uh I'm gonna need that so I think I'm gonna use some of this 4jb's costume Yeah, I know what to do I know exactly what I'm gonna be using it for y'all. I am tired. I am tired So we ain't gonna be doing hardly anything today. I did told you be able to take them to raisin cane Girl that child, you know kids at this age they could eat the same thing over and over So we will take raisin cane and go to Panera bread Okay, because I want to have a salad and that's it. Oh y'all sorry I want to talk about yeah, I'm trying to catch I don't know why but y'all know is that how you put that to her name? Y'all y'all know fix my life. She makes me laugh y'all. She makes me laugh But sometimes when I'm looking at her The videos I think of the got to be real parody So I have to stop doing that But I caught bits and pieces of the lats of neffy and Shelby those you don't know Neffy, I don't know her real name. I think her real name is beautiful by the way. It's almost like nepheteria But they call her neffy. She is the sister of kisha coal I need to catch the second season of the second episode. So I watch Y'all when I tell you neffy needs to get her shit together, which is why she's on the show, right? I watched the first 15 minutes and I had to stop watching it because the woman confessed to wanting to have oral sex with someone other than her husband I'm like you hood rat hooker I Wow So you need you you feel the need to have some type of validation from a other man other than your husband Some type of intimacy I get But you went ask for to admit on national tv that you wanted to perform oral sex. I'm like, oh you Let's just open up our books to timothy and pray for this sister Wow, I couldn't watch it. I may I may watch it later on but at that when she admitted to that Let me let me catch this later on but then the most recent episode episode is Of a woman who I think she's in her 30s And she admitted to having six kids by five different men Now I know the episode is about to hurt a lot of women's feelings a lot of folks But this is the thing you guys I feel like nowadays having children out of wedlock and and going even a step further Having children by multiple men. It's acceptable now. It's accepted. It's okay It's almost like a badge of honor I just had my baby because quite as it kept when I had my child Excuse me when I told my family I was pregnant. I was embarrassed. I didn't want to tell them But don't you know, there were a couple of family members who was like about time And I'm like, but I'm not married, you know And I was 30 34 33 at the time and I was legitimately embarrassed because I'm now pregnant and I'm not I'm not married And they were like, well by time we were waiting on you to have a baby No, no, it is not, you know, things happen, you know You're you know, either you're married and you get a divorce and then you have a child by another man It's happened. It's happened to couple of my friends. But at what point does it become a problem in our honesty fourth child fifth child You know as a certain point you would think that You would close up shut look it only took one time One time for me to be like, okay, this is no We ain't gonna be having no more kids But like I said, you know, everyone has their own story, but at a certain point you need to So I need to catch that episode and like I said, I know it's gonna ruffle some feathers and a couple of you Probably don't agree with what I'm saying right now, but Like I said society has accepted this it used to be hell when when my mom was pregnant with me It was an embarrassment. My mom was not married. She got pregnant at 17 My grandfather sent her away to live with her older sisters until she had me I was born in Ohio Then my parents got married later on but in the 80s, you couldn't be walking around it happened. Let's just be real It happened But they didn't walk around with their bellies. Well, like, yeah girl my baby daddy went no baby daddy's, you know That time is new If from what I understand in the 50s and 60s When women got pregnant out of wetlock You definitely first of all you if you got pregnant you definitely want to get married or that baby was going up for adoption who was that I know some weird stuff like Ted Bundy's mom got Yeah, I know I went from that to serial killer, but this is just an example Ted Bundy's mom the famous serial killer his mom had him out of wetlock But she went to a home especially for women who weren't married to have that baby and then gave him up for adoption And I'm not trying to get graphic when something You are allowing a man's seed to be in you multiple men But I think that this young woman a few times she was actually rich Like I said, everyone's different But when you make a conscious decision to have Unprotected sex and I'm I'm talking to adults here. So this claimer 18 and over You made a conscious decision decision to have unprotected sex with multiple men Their seed is now implanted in that seed comes with a life force Y'all you want to talk about soul ties off of my my stool here and let me go print out this stuff But you know, I'm not trying to ruffle any feathers myself, but we got to get it together family It's dark. I don't think they could see you that well