 Whoo, what's going on you guys? My name's Lloyd. I am super white right now. Okay, so today today We're gonna talk about a situation that happened on The group the group that I have going my Facebook group a guy posted a situation that happened between him and a girl Where he went on a date with this girl. I think it was their third date It seems like they get along really really well, you know, they can talk for hours on end They have similar interests. She seems really comfortable with him She's been out on three dates with him and you know, they hang out a lot They're very close and by the end of it He decided that he was gonna try and kiss her on this dates a third date, you know Probably about time we started doing stuff like that So he pulls her into kisser and right when they were about to kiss she kind of pulls back and says yeah I just I feel like we're better off as friends. Like I feel like there's no chemistry between us Or she feels like there's not enough chemistry between us. What one of those things basically she says There's not enough chemistry for them to date and he was pretty distraught over this I mean, he felt like he didn't do anything wrong. He felt like he wasn't needy He felt like he made her feel comfortable. He didn't scare off or do any of that sort of stuff He play in the dates. He just felt like he's like Lloyd like what did I do wrong in this particular situation? Okay, well, dude, I don't think this guy did anything wrong I think it's more what he didn't do rather than what he did do that made the girl do what she did So in this video what I'm gonna be talking about is I'm gonna be talking about what a girl actually means When she says there's no chemistry between us because when you translate that into guy language Doesn't mean the same thing so I'm gonna talk about what that means and I'm gonna talk about how to prevent any girl from saying that For the rest of your life, okay? If you watch this video and you apply these principles You're not gonna have this problem anymore because I'll tell you what dude I used to have this problem a lot I mean I would meet a girl that we would get along you would click super well And I would feel like whatever the chemistry would be we had it, man, you know, we got along super well And obviously I was really attracted to these girls So it hurt a lot when they said hey, you know, I just feel like there's no chemistry between us And it would confuse the hell out of me too because it's like well, what the fuck does that mean, right? So don't worry in this video I'm gonna cover exactly that and how to avoid this in the future But before I do if guys if you're wondering how to get trained by me in person I have some open spots for my I've one open spot for my San Francisco training happening this weekend So if you want that reach out to me And I also have a couple open spots for in a couple weeks for my live training in Toronto I'll be there January 10th to the 12th So if you're in Toronto and you want to get trained by me in person meet for me to be your personal wingman That's the time to hit me up the single guy 2017 at GMO comm shoot me an email shoot me a DM Whatever and I'll get back to you. Okay, cool So what do women mean when they say we don't have any chemistry well They really mean is and they're not saying what they actually mean because they're trying to be nice to you So they're gonna say something that's gonna More confuse you than make you upset because what they really mean is something that's a little bit more Personal and something that would probably offend a lot of guys if they heard it and that's she doesn't desire you She doesn't want to sleep with you man Okay, and that's a tougher thing for I guess for men to hear But I almost think it would be better if some woman said it that way the guy could actually fix what he's doing and improve So the real question becomes how do you get a woman? How do you get a woman to want to fuck you? Okay, that's really what's going on here And the truth is is that when you have a lot of similarities with a girl when you guys get along with you when you Click really well. That's great. That makes for a great friend But it doesn't necessarily make for a girl to want to have sex with you Okay, those things are actually separate and hopefully you find a girl that wants to have sex with you who you also click I mean, that's you know, that's that's the golden thing right there. It's usually What people get into a relationship with you know, or if you're like me you see her for a while But really it's separate okay creating desire and cultivating desire is she wants a man She doesn't want someone who's exactly like her so having shared interest having a similar circumstances her a lot of those things Actually can you know not just not contribute to it, but also hurt your chances of her desiring you Okay, I mean how many times have you said no to this girl? How many times have you disagree with her? How many times have you actually led and have her follow? You know You have to think of it as like this Okay, so I've said this again and again on my channel Okay, the man-to-woman interaction is the man leads and the woman follows So it's like you're the captain of a ship She's like a person who's on shore But you're the captain of the ship and she can decide if she wants to jump on board your boat But if she jumps on board your boat, you're the captain you're the person who's steering the ship You're not a captain doesn't be like hey, so where do you guys want to go? Do you want to go over there? Are you sure we can go anywhere you want? If you're that kind of captain, she's gonna be like this captain doesn't know where he's going I'm jumping off this boat. Okay, that's what creates real desire is a guy who knows what he wants and is going for it Who is on his path if you want to read books about this? I would recommend reading the way of the superior man No more Mr. Nice guy would help too because I think there's a lot of nice guy tendencies as well for this But you add you have to be a man a man leads a man goes after what he wants And if people don't want to jump on board, that's fine, dude He's still gonna go after what he wants the problem with a lot of these guys is because they're so worried about Losing the girl that they're afraid to say no they're afraid to disagree with her They're afraid to lead and have her not follow They always want to ask and make sure that she likes everything because when we grow up in life We're constantly seeking the approval of women whether it's our teacher whether it's our mother who I don't know whatever in your life We're taught to do this and that makes for you know That's good for not getting in trouble a lot or sometimes it does honestly overall. I'd say probably not the best strategy But it definitely for sure does not get women to desire you what gets women to desire you is you not giving a shit if They like follow you or not like that kind of that kind of attitude is what women really desire and if you're afraid about Disappointing her about upsetting her that kills her desire like that. That's needy approval seeking behavior and people do it Subconsciously like I didn't mention a few of these things that he was doing on the date But if you delve into what this guy was saying was a lot of the times He was kind of waiting around and wondering what she wanted to do during the date. That just doesn't matter Okay, that just doesn't work. That doesn't get her to want her to desire She's like dude like you're the guy make the decision, you know Figure out what we're gonna do So I put myself in positions all the time where I'm talking to women and I'm inviting them to come jump on my ship To come jump on my path and if they want to jump on great if they don't that's not a big deal either too I'm gonna find a girl who will jump on and a lot of the girls that didn't jump on at the beginning when they first saw Me saw me see me later going doing my thing being on my path And then they're like, you know what I think I'm gonna jump on this ship now Okay, but you will never ever get the girl to jump on the ship by waiting at the dock and hoping she'll jump on and saying nice things To her complimenting her and like trying to make her happy in the moment Okay, you have to sacrifice temporary comfort for a long-term desire That is what really gets women to want to sleep with you with the problem is too many of these nice guys They fall into traps where they're constantly seeking their temporary approval It's a really low-value thing to do. Okay, and it's actually quite deceptive So I think that you should be going after what you want leading planning the dates doing the things that you want to do Sure compromise every now and then is fine But at the end of the day if you're constantly doing it to make her like you She is never going to want to sleep with you and so that's my conclusion to this video is that's what women mean When they say we have no chemistry, okay, and they're trying to be nice and ultimately if you ask women like why what they mean By no chemistry they will never tell you the truth probably because they don't really understand their own feelings themselves And they don't really know what it means to be a man They do because it's not their experience dude They're used to dealing with other stuff like the guys who they actually desire, you know screwing them over like that That's the sort of stuff they worry about they don't worry about nice guys string them over they That's just not in there. This is not in their DNA to worry about so you're not gonna get a straight answer from them But you will get a straight answer for me guys If you have any more questions about this put them in the comment section below again If you're wondering how to do this and get mentored by me in person or get mentored by me in general I have forms in the description below fill them out or shoot me an email shoot me a DM whatever Thanks for watching you guys if you've made it to the end consider subscribing I come up with videos like this every single week. Good luck out there