 I think a good relational skill to develop, to age well relationally I've found, is to know you never ever look good, trying to make others look bad. I think it's a mark of great relational integrity to refuse to do that. It doesn't mean you can't be critical and you can't make observations and you can't have insights about other people, which may not be great. It doesn't mean I'm not talking about living in unreality, but I think there's a way to talk about someone else's failings or mistakes or shortcomings. There's a way to talk about that, that doesn't have the energy or doesn't have the tone of it being at their expense. It doesn't come across arrogant and prideful and finishes it where you're really trying to make yourself look smart and good and cool and better at their expense. It's that that I think relationally takes its toll on you as you age.