 Right Whoo, let's see if we're running live See how everybody's doing There we go. We're now live. Hey tally. How you doing? What is up? All right guys? It seems that we're We're we're shooting we're live So if you're on YouTube or periscope land shoot me a comment Let me know you're there Because I'm restreaming this and that's the only way that I I can see y'all Egan, Florida. How are you doing? All right, everyone's coming in Yes, guys Thank you, tell me yeah, I just got one Feel fresh and fine and let me tell you tally We're on lockdown again and So I was happy to be able to grab a Cut yesterday You know, it's funny. I obviously I know that this is not a very conventional styled haircut however, it's an homage to a lot of my heroes and it's it carries with it a certain amount of different styles all in one and What I laugh about When it comes my mom was a hairdresser, so I've never really had a conventional cut really all of my life, so I've gained as a kid I Became accustomed to having some sort of do So even in adulthood at 46, it's like I don't see the reason for it to be Contemporary when I don't have to be contemporary As you know, I'm a huge proponent of self-expression in everything that you do your Communication your dress your hair style It all says something about you now isn't there a an idea of being practical or contemporary or Sending the correct messages Absolutely, but do you But do you really want to be so contemporary? Do you really want to be so practical? That you don't use your own real estate space to say something about yourself that's important and so I have a background in playing music and and Being obsessed with music and that's part of my Personality and makeup of who I am in my former career as well as now. I still enjoy Playing in bands and going to see music. In fact, that's the thing that I miss must miss most about COVID it is not being able to go out and see and support and encourage young bands I to me that form of self-expression is available to anybody and I love the idea about getting in a room with your best bros and being able to Express yourself in a way that is collaborative With the others and you have to there is a certain amount of intimacy when you're playing music with somebody That you are vulnerable and exposed and just putting it out there Sid, how are you doing buddy? Good to see you on making it over to the show Vons Swab welcome and tally. I don't see a gray hair on your head. You got lucky. Well, I can tell you there are Plenty, I guess they're not they're not so much Cluster than the fact that they're going to show up, but yes, there are plenty and I see more and more every day All right, so today I wanted to talk about a couple things number one. It is international New day. Yes, I don't know if you had seen that on Twitter What does that mean? We send nudes. I was gonna show up on here new today But I believe Instagram would have given me a the boot Anyway, if you would like to see some Interesting nudes you can always go to free candies Instagram. She does she does She does pencil drawings of of the the human figure and Anatomy and she's she's quite brilliant. She did a fan art of me Not of my anatomy, but of this picture that you're seeing right now, which I've used to advertise this before Spark as s how are you doing today? Good reading tomorrow to make it over. So yes guys We are in lockdown number two I mentioned what it was at two weeks ago that it seemed like we were heading in that direction and Here's the thing about it. No one should be angry about this outside of the fact that it is frustrating But what have I said from the beginning of this? That it's going to be touch and go that we're going to have to look at this Like an entrepreneur looks at marketing putting a few things out there. See how the audience reacts Make Iterations and pivots and then put it back out there. Well, yeah That's what we're trying to do Open up a few things Have a few phases that open Let people get back to work See how things play out and then if it If it needs to be reeled back, then you will ever you need to make iterations to the phases you will however, the one thing that I don't think Most people were anticipating during all this iterations and Pivoting with this entrepreneurial style of effort to see where we are with COVID is is people that were so Um So so worked up and then it was about You cannot get it right the first time it is a it is a novel situation But we also didn't anticipate at least here in Los Angeles, you know 50,000 people going out into the streets for 10 days straight for protesting like that's not going to help the situation and I mean and So In order to avoid a charge topic I'm not even gonna go into that right now as you guys know if you watch this show, you know How I feel about all that Louise. How are you doing buddy Spanish flies every night? How are you doing? right on So with that brings another opportunity of being in lockdown Which is to do another assessment of where you were From March when this started Did you make plans on? Working out a certain amount of times During the week, did you plan on putting together Certain Working on certain skills while you were in lockdown did Did you open up? Opportunities to reach out to people that you haven't spoken to in a in a while in order to open some doors reconnect and Re-establish those lines of communication. Have you been able to do all those number one? Have you done them to the? To the success and the limits that you wanted to if not what can you do? better for you to hit those moments and Three as as well as for myself. I'm staring at lockdown number two What things do I want to pick up or continue to strengthen as I have this? Opportunity that's what I'm looking at here How about for you guys? What is your? Covid situation like are you back on lockdown? Have you are if things still? At a half go. Are you in phases of opening? I don't know how long this is going to last I know that there's once again, we're at a wait-and-see situation but I just wanted to reiterate is that This is something that I had spoken about multiple times of the gently opening up Getting people back to work and seeing how things go now That's the situation if a 50,000 people run out on the street for 10 days of Protesting well. Yeah, there's going to be spikes. Certainly not going to help everything Eric says phase four in Chicago. How is that looking for you, Eric? What does that and tell is that feeling good everyone getting back at it is a noticeable difference? Louise says I'm doing great. Man, Arkansas has not been taking covid Seriously, the only time Arkansas went into restrictions Is when the president made an announcement of restrictions? Ah, I'm a Spanish 75 79 says I'm an essential worker in my daily Weekday routine hasn't changed that might sense of sorry. Well that good for you standard 79 I'm having that shift in responsibilities and habits is definitely tough Well with that Depending on your situation Like for myself, I have another more opportunity to continue just working on things as The my social realm is it going to open up open back up We have been awfully busy at AOC as a lot of you guys know And Our programs are running as usual spark of sass Portland continues to continues protests makes contact tracing impossible well Portland spark of sass, I don't I don't know what information that everyone else is getting on Portland however, I follow the situation there rather closely and I'm seeing a lot of Stuff on Twitter from actual footage and it does not look like a place that I want to move to it looks a little bit It looks and Incredibly chaotic at the moment Eric to It's working out so far Restaurants and gyms are open now in cases have been stable. So you have to go back to the office labor day Right on there isn't a huge spike before that. Yeah Well, let's let's hope This is a thing you the Papers in the media and everyone else you cannot listen to any of these people this idea that 50,000 people in the streets for 10 days Is not spreading the the? Flu the the coven It's just ridiculous Reno from Michigan life is giving us a chance to go inside Face it or face it or not sometimes we don't like to look at it But this is a time to connect with our emotions and see how strong we get 100% Reno know Nova. I agree. He'd be the hills. How are you doing? Here's the thing? I had saw this tweet from a friend earlier when COVID started about Lockdowns and for any and he stated that that many people were having a Difficult time being in lockdown with somebody that they don't know and I my first thought was well What do you mean by that? Don't people know their significant other or their? Housemates no, that's not what he was referring to what he was referring to Was being locked in doors with yourself for the first time and having so much time That you begin to start asking yourself questions you begin to start getting in touch with yourself or You begin We're having issues over in YouTube lands today With all of that time by yourself and alone. I'm just gonna leave that It only opens up The opportunity of getting to know yourself and for some of us for the very first time Because you have all of this distraction Around yourself video games and entertainment and Netflix So why would you check in with yourself and when you ask hard questions of yourself? It demands the mind to find answers So if you begin to start asking yourself questions, you might not like the answers Did the other thing is? You have to commit to an answer You have to say yes, this bothers me or no, this doesn't bother me or somewhere in the middle For a lot of us We don't really know how we feel about a lot of things because we have numbed ourselves to our daily experience through Escapism you don't have to answer those hard questions When you have a new Netflix series to binge on you don't have to ask yourself those hard questions When you have a new video game to play a new hobby to dump yourself into This is why in today's Connected world we have to take time out To ask and answer those questions so that so that we can feel good about ourselves this is And this is what leads me into what I wanted to speak about today, which is a mindset shift for being a high value person because You were not born a high value person and your brain is not Programmed to look at things from a high value Perspective you are programmed to view yourself in the world of getting as much Resources as possible and also Not only the resources but looking for ways to allow yourself to feel good We allow ourselves to feel good by getting attention approval and acceptance for ourselves It allows us to feel Accepted connected and this is what allows us to feel good Eric John says idle time is definitely uncomfortable But self-development is supposed to be uncomfortable. It's a boring job. Definitely affects me more Well, I don't have as many distractions. I Cannot agree with you More Eric and here's the thing about it. It's uncomfortable because once you start asking yourself questions And if you don't like the answers or you're not You don't enjoy the truth of how you answered it you now have to take responsibility to then choose it you have that opportunity in In order to change How you feel about something you're now going to need to step outside of your comfort zone Which is always difficult But you can learn to enjoy the process so that you seek it out or You can learn to shut that process down So that you can become numb to the experience So your program for survival and you're also programmed to get attention approval and acceptance for yourself The more attention approval and acceptance that you go to get for yourself the better you feel or at least Your program to feel that if you get attention approval acceptance that you're going to feel good. We seek it out It's in our nature when you get attention approval and acceptance for yourself You get a hit a dopamine You get flushed with dopamine as a feel-good That you feel safe you feel connected and this allows you To feel good for the time being which leads you to seek it out more. We're all Drug addicts. We like to feel good dopamine serotonin Are the drugs that we produce that allow us to feel like that? This is why cocaine and methamphetamine is so addictive now You are programmed to seek attention approval and acceptance out Your program to seek it out your program to look for it You have four Presets in how you go about getting attention approval and acceptance for yourself Low-value people chase attention approval and acceptance So if I was going into a networking event or a social engagement I am going to look for opportunities that would put attention approval and acceptance Towards me So I can either Be gregarious be very outward going I can bully people I can Look to play the victim and get sympathy Which is a will be a form of attention approval and acceptance but in a supplicative manner I could be combative in the way where I can bully people in order to get attention approval and acceptance I can compete for it where I look for opportunities to show up other people in order to get me attention approval and acceptance now all three of The ways I suggested to do that are low-value behaviors They are three effective ways to get attention approval and acceptance But carry with it low-value connotations For they Not only do they get attention approval and acceptance or at least in some Manor it also pushes others away Why? Because you're taking attention approval and acceptance from others through a way that pushes others away So if you're playing the victim card and I give you the attention that you're craving That only reinforces that behavior so you continue to do it There's only so much of you playing a victim that I can understand before either a you need to change your behaviors because being a victim is not going to help you or It's going to repel me rather than attracting me. This is why when it comes to courtship playing the victim It's not a good strategy So what is the mindset shift? That you would need in order to get attention approval and acceptance for yourself But it you're attracting it rather than chasing it Because things that you chase tend to run They run away you ever grown up with a with a I grew up with Yorkies And if you chase the dog outside, he would take off running When you chase attention approval and acceptance it tends to elude you So there are mindsets that produce behaviors that attract attention approval and acceptance in a positive mindset Rather than repelling it. So what is the mindset shift? That allows for different behaviors that attract attention approval acceptance rather than repelling. Well, it is rather than supplicative behaviors, which tend to be playing a victim Supply combative ways, which is bullying people Come competitive mindsets, which puts you in a frame of always looking for Competitions or ways to show that you're better than others Lastly is a cooperative behavior where you look to give value So rather than seeking value You're looking to give value So when you give value to any human being which is a basic need of attention approval and acceptance You're filling a void that everyone is looking to fill When you would do that effectively you're now Putting people in a position to chase the drug The dopamine hit that you are able to give them by the services and the value that you are providing To those people you have flipped the script Once you understand how to do that and once the mindset gets shifted Then you the game now becomes a law of averages where you become a high value person and You reap the rewards of being a high value person You're now have flipped a script from being somebody who is in chase mode to somebody who is now Being a high value person where others are now chasing you That is the is the mindset shift that flips the script that puts you from From the from the person doing the chasing to the person being chase now Is that a Shift that or a switch that you can just turn on? No, that is a set of skills Mindsets and behaviors that are cultivated Over a set amount of time. How did this work for myself? Well? as I had gotten into my older 20s and into my later 20s I Had begun I had begun to get tired of the mindsets and behaviors that weren't leading me to the results That I was looking for in my own life. I was getting frustrated. I felt trapped I felt defeated frustrated that everything that I did on a daily basis felt That I was struggling it felt difficult. It seemed like a lot of work I was going to bed every evening exhausted and Frustrating not wanting to have to deal with the next day because the amount of work that I was going to have to put in Didn't show up in the results that I was getting for any young person You have a choice in that matter of whether you're going to elevate yourself to get better results or Accept the status quo When I looked at the situation in my late 20s and realizing that I wasn't happy with those results I was going to I was not happy with the status quo and that I was going to Do what it takes I was going to do what it would take to change those results. Well, then then became the slow transition from a Low-value mindset to a high-value mindset and this begins an opportunity a journey and a road of Unlocking your x-factor and That's life once you make that shift Once you flip that switch Each day becomes increasingly better than last Why because the train isn't barreling down the wrong way down the tracks It is now moving in the right direction But much like a train a locomotive it needs to build up momentum So each day that you practice these skills mindsets and behaviors You continue to get better each day Becomes more enjoyable than the last this is why people in self-development tend to be Optimists because they They are Continually building a skill set that allows them to reap rewards on a daily basis. It becomes fun That's what developing your x-factor is all about so With that guys, I'm on a lockdown number two here in Los Angeles. I will be moving to Vegas hopefully soon next month and But I will be continuing the show I'm definitely due for a change of scenery and I appreciate you guys all being here I was having issues in re-stream today. So I have to check that out. I want to thank you guys for all coming in Dan Andrews from Knoxville. How are you doing? Miss bad Rodin, how are you doing? Welcome good to see you. Thank you Eric for your comments Matthew hippie the hills tally good to see you guys. All right guys I get ahead out if you are interested in our Year-long mentorship program to bring out your x-factor All you got to do is shoot me a text x-factor or mentorship and You'll well You'll get a calendar invite and we'll have a chat outside of that If you wanted if you enjoy what I had to say and you want to learn more check out the art of charm communication accelerator the link is in the link tree of Instagram and Twitter it has all the best bits from our live training programs of online classes over the last 15 years an expert guess in connection persuasion influence and Networking all right guys. I will see you all here tomorrow 830. Thank you Louise for showing up. It's awesome to see you. Thank you Spanish flag and Reno All right guys and Dan Andrews you guys take care. I will talk to you all soon