 Hi you guys, I'm back. So I'm gonna wait for a few of you guys to hop on to start this video about Pick Me. Are you a Pick Me chick? What is a Pick Me chick? I know you probably heard it before but don't know what it means. Some of you do, some of you are Pick Me chicks, some of you are former Pick Me chicks. Some of you have not transitioned out of being a Pick Me chick yet. So let's get into it. Hiya. Okay. Pick Me chick. I'm gonna make sure my volume is up. A Pick Me chick is someone who wants to be chosen by a man. Even if he don't have any money, even if, you know, he doesn't really like them and they will go against other women to agree with the man so that he can notice her and then go and inbox her later. Or it could be someone who chases behind a man who doesn't want them and keeps doing all these crazy things so that he can pick her over whoever he's dating and seeing and who he truly wants. Pick Me chicks are not very smart. They're more emotional. They might be smart like book smart but they're not street smart. They're not strategic in their relationships. So they usually get ran over, doormat, you know, and they become a doormat and they get hurt. And after they've been hurt so many times, then they come looking for these videos, you know. Usually they come trying to figure out how to get the man back. But then when they realized the man wasn't doing anything for them anyway, they realized how silly they were and how they need to be upgrading themselves and the type of man that they attract. So they have transformed themselves into higher standards, you know, a higher standard woman and they let the man chase them and get pretty much treated the way that they're supposed to be treated after that. But first you have to realize what you're doing wrong. If you're chasing a man in any way, you're a Pick Me chick, okay? If you're chasing any man for any reason, besides him stealing your purse, you're a Pick Me chick, okay? So if that's what you are and you want to get out of it, cut off trying to chase anybody. You don't need them, they need you, okay? If they don't want you, find someone who does. Because usually men will tell you in a roundabout way, but Pick Me chicks don't hear. They don't hear. The man will tell you, I don't want a commitment. I just got out of a relationship. I don't want to be with you. I'm not in love with you. Pick Me chicks will ignore all those words and they will say, but I know he loves me. I still feel a connection. I still feel that he does. I dream about him. What does this mean? It means you're obsessed and he's moved on and that's all you can do, okay? So for me, I would be like, you know what? Why would you want someone back who threw you in the garbage anyway, okay? If you're garbage to them, why do you want him back? You know? If I threw something in the trash, you know, and that trash jumped out the garbage can and followed me, I wouldn't want him back. I'm like, I threw you away. What you doing? You know? How did this trash come out this garbage? Get in my house, you know? If he throws you away to him, your garbage. That means stop chasing him. You don't want you. And I'm not saying that to be mean. I'm just saying that's how he sees you disposable. You're disposable. Now, if you're chasing someone who thinks that you're disposable, what are you saying about yourself? You know? Wait a minute. I'm not trash. I'm not disposable. But to you, but to them, you are, you know? So, better yourself and prove everything you can improve about yourself before your next relationship so that people don't see you as disposable. You're disposable because you're chasing behind him and the man's supposed to chase behind you, you know? So don't be disposable, anyway. So I get a lot of pygmies, you know, for consultations and I try to help them, but sometimes they just don't want to hear what I have to say and they get upset with me. And I'm not going to lie to them to make them feel better. I'm not going to do it, you know? Why? Because if I lie to them, I'm just as bad as the guy that they're chasing. Okay? So I'm not going to lie to you. I'm just going to tell you straight up, look, I can't help you if you're not listening to me and I cannot help you if you don't realize what you're doing, you know? You got to realize that you're wrong first before I can help you. So example, okay, someone says, tell them example of pygmies, ain't it? Pygmies always say, but he said that he loved me, but he said, but he said, you know, men have zero morals, but you will sit there and believe everything that they tell you, knowing in the back of your mind is a lie, but you're holding on to this, you know? They have no morals and they expect you to sit there and wait for them or expect you to move on, but when you don't move on and you have these high morals while they're out doing whatever, you're the one that's suffering and losing time on youth, you know? So I figure if you're a pygmy, it's going to take a couple of times before someone really hurts you and changes you into a person that's not going to settle for that anymore, you know? And a lot of men will get mad because they say, oh, there's no more good women left in the world and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, but a lot of times it's because of how men treat women, that there's no more good women left in the world. There's some good women left in the world, they're just not going to be good to you because you're not, you know, deserving of it, you know? But pygmy chicks are the type of chicks that men don't want unless they need something from you, you know? They're not the kind of chicks that men will chase after, run after, do nice things for, you know? These are the type of chicks that pay for people's meals, dates, buy cars for men. These are the type of chicks that take men shopping. These are the type of chicks that are just happy they have a man, so they'll do and put up with anything and let them cheat. They'll have, you know, they'll do all these things to try to keep this man and it never works out, you know? Because if you have to do all of that, that means he really doesn't want you. And then at the end of the day, you're upset and mad because you did all this stuff and you can't believe he did this to you. Well, if you're a doormat and you're laying on the ground, you know, and you get mad when somebody steps on you, that's your fault, you know? Don't be a doormat. That's what you're for. That's what you're for. When you act like that, that man puts you in a category. I can get ABCD off of her, out of her. She'll pay my bills. I don't even have to buy me shoes. I don't even have to buy her a birthday present and she'll stay with me. You know, I don't have to even take her out to eat and she'll stay with me. I could do whatever I want and she'll stay with me because she thinks she's lucky to have me and until I find someone better, I'll stay with her. But when I get an upgrade, I'm gone. So some men like to marry pickly women so they can do what they want to do on the side, you know? That wife will never leave. That wife won't do anything. It's been, even if he's broke, she'll go out and work two jobs, like he stay home. That's a pick me. Please don't be a pick me and don't train your children to be pick me, okay? It's not too late. You can get out of being a pick me. I would rather be single than be a pick me. I would rather be single mom and at least have the opportunity or the chance to upgrade myself and do better, you know? So I'm not really saying, oh, you know, dump whoever you're with. I'm just saying, expect more out of yourself and, you know, make sure that you're respected in any relationship. You can flip the script and if they don't like you, the new you, then they wanted you for the wrong reason. You know, I'm sorry, I'm thirsty. I know a lot of pick me chicks and some of them are good people, you know? Some of them you know, some of them are your family members, but you understand and they understand that there's a difference. There's a difference on how you get treated if you're not a pick me versus how they get treated. Their man will cuss them out in public and still asking for money in the same sentence. Your man will give you money and you will cuss them out in public, okay? So there's a difference. So when you see a pick me chick, don't act like you're ignoring it. Just like, make them feel bad about it because if you make them feel bad about it, they'll know it's wrong. You know? Just like, oh, you let him talk to you like that? How much money did you just give him? He ain't got no job? You know, call it out because if you don't call it out, they're gonna be the first to call you out. Oh, you a gold digger. Oh, you only date man for money. Oh, is that true love? Because they'll be the first to call you out. You gotta call them out on their pick me is them. If you don't call them out, they'll call you out because they are already insecure. Just be like, look, you know, and then a lot of times they'll feel like you're jealous. Like, oh, you're just jealous because I have a man and, you know, we've been together for 18 years. I said, yeah, if I was your man, I'd stay with you too. You giving me money like, you know, I've been with my man this long and he gives me money. You know, so, you know, you want to stay in a relationship where you were you giving out money? That's great. True love has no boundaries. You're right. You know, I would just start making fun of him low key like, yep, well, I know who to come to when I need to borrow some money. Same. You know, so anyways, don't be a pick me chick. If you're a pick me chick, stop being a pick me chick and take your power back because, you know, you're being duped, your youth is being stolen and you're going to regret it later on anyway. You don't have anything else to show after, like, when the relationship is over. What would you say about men who curse their women out in public? They better be a millionaire because I ain't taking that. If he ain't rich, you're paying every bill and buying me luxury items and, you know, endless bank accounts. He can cuss me out all he want public because if he's a millionaire, I'm not with him because I have feelings for him anyway, it's for his money, so I won't take it personal. But if he's supposed to be in love with me, ain't got no job and cuss me out in the public, I'll cuss him right back out and ask if anybody has a job for him. Okay. So no, I don't deal with guys like that unless there's no feelings attached. Well, I never did anyways. So yeah, if you cuss me out and I don't say nothing back, I just like, look at you like, you must be rich. Okay. Because I'm not taking it personal. I'm just like, look, you got stress, you got issues, you know, more money, more problems. You know, give me some more money. Okay. But if he's broke and he's borrowing money from you and cussing you out, you need to slap him. Anyways, I'm not, I'm not, that's funny though. There are some guys that do cuss their wives out in public or talk about them in public and stuff. And I see that and I'm like, I hope you pay all the bills. I hope she don't work because if she do, she don't. Yeah, I'm not going to be on here long because I have a consultation at two, my time. And yes, so I just popped on. I wanted to kind of talk about, okay, so I know a lot of you guys probably have heard of this role, whatever her name is lady that does wife school. And you know, I used to be cool with her back in the back in the day until like she posted something and then she blocked me because I was telling the truth. And I'm not trying to start no beef with her. I'm just, I'm just someone asked me to address the topic of wife school. If you have to pay to go to wife school, you're not wife material. You need to save that money and fix what's really wrong with you. Okay. Because, you know, it's a scale. People will scam you to pay for anything. Okay. I didn't go to wife school and I'm a wife. In fact, I'm the opposite of what she teaches in the wife school. But I'm a wife. Why? Um, because all that stuff that she teaches, that's not how you get a husband. You know what I'm saying? If you get married, then your husband pays for you to go to wife school. So you can learn all that stuff great. But that's not going to help you get no husband if you don't have a husband. You know what I'm saying? So yes, there is a, there is this lady who says wife school come, come to my school and I'll teach you how to get, be a wife and your chances of marriage is higher. But all she's teaching them is like stuff you're going to watch on YouTube for free. Like how to be feminine, how to cook and stuff like that. Just basic boring and stupid stuff. But also, she teaches you to like, and I think she was talking about in one of her posts that she was like, if the man doesn't make a lot of money, you need to downsize and let him take care of you. You know, you need downsize your wants and needs. Like if he only makes 45,000 a year, you need to give up other things and do them, you know, do them at home or, you know, live in an apartment or drive a lesser car or buy worse Walmart clothes or something, you know. And that's when me and her had our falling out because I was like, what? So I'm going to pay all this money. No, I wasn't interested in white school because I was already married. But I was like, so you're going to charge someone to go to white school, pay all this money and then tell them to hook up with a dusty. I said, I'm sorry. I can't do it. I don't understand. Why would you settle? Well, then she was like saying I was causing confusion and stuff like that. I'm like, I'm not causing confusion. I was like, why would you take these women's money, have them pay for white school and then tell them to get with a broke man? I was like, you guys might as well stay single and save their money. You know, I was like, I'm not paying, I'm not paying anything to end up with somebody broke and downsize and live in an apartment. Okay. I'm sorry. But I still wouldn't do it. Like, and then she was saying, well, you know, that's the problem with black women today. You don't know how to support your man and help him and nurture him and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I was like, didn't you just say man and nurture in the same Senate? Okay. Well, he's grown. He's supposed to be there already. I should not have to nurture him. He should be off the booby by now. Okay. He's his mom and daddy should have taught him how to get it by now. I was like, she was mad. So she blocked me and I'm like, okay. Well, good luck with that. Ain't nobody paying for white school to marry a dusty. I'm sorry. You know, I could teach you how to get a dusty in my sleep. Okay. That's easy. All you got to do is go out and pay for their stuff. That's it. That's all you got to do. Oh, they'll marry you then and you'll probably be able to out earn them. So yeah, she had some good points though. Like a lot of things that she said I did agree with in the beginning, but then she started going crazy about, you know, supporting a broke man. And I can't do that. I can't, I don't sign up for that. That was when we went like this, like by Felicia, like you can have your broke man. I'll be over here. But, um, yeah, and then like she would post pictures and stuff of the women in white school and I know why they're there. I mean, most of them weren't, like I don't mean to be rude, but most of the women who signed up for her classes weren't appealing. You know what I mean? They weren't appealing. Like, of course they're going to white school because they can't get attention from anyone else. And they think, oh, if I try this one thing, let me go to white school, you know, to be more appealing. Now some of them went because they were getting ready to get married. Now that's a different story. But if you're going and you don't have any prospects, it's because something else is wrong. You need to fix that first. You know what I'm saying? If you, you know, you got to fix yourself first before you try to go prepare yourself for another man. Like, okay, you're going to go learn how to cook and be feminine and stuff like that, but you can't control your emotions and, you know, you're jealous and you're clingy and extra needy and, you know, you have your bipolar. You got all that problem going on, but you're sitting here learning how to cook and greet your man when he comes home with a drink, but you ain't got no man. That's crazy. Oh, and then she says, oh, someone says that she advises women not to wear makeup or weave and be themselves or fix themselves up. Yeah, because if you wear makeup and weave, then you're going to feel like you can do better than the dusty that she's trying to hook you up with, you know? Because if you, if you don't, okay. I was talking to my friend today while we was out and about and we were talking about makeup. The equivalent of women wearing hair and makeup is the equivalent of a man driving a nice car. Okay. If a woman is dressed nice, looks good, hair done. That's the same thing as a man driving a Porsche convertible and, you know, whatever, top down. Same thing. Men are insecure that other men are going to look at you or that your self-esteem and confidence will be so high you don't want to deal with them no more. You know what I'm saying? So you put on your makeup, you do your hair or you put your weave on or your wig on or whatever. And all of a sudden you get this, I'm better than you. You need to pay for me. You know, when you don't have no makeup on, your wig off, your hair sticking up, you pay for him, right? Oh, I'll pay for you because I'm ugly and nobody's going to look at me like this or I'll expect less. Oh, I'll go to Applebee's. You put on your makeup. You're like, you better take me out to a good restaurant. You know? So of course they don't want you to wear a weave and makeup because your standards will go higher, you know? So don't listen to those guys. They're just trying to keep you low profile. Like, if your husband all of a sudden or your boyfriend all of a sudden get this Ferrari, you ain't going to let him go out driving it alone. You'll be like, ooh, drive the other car. Leave this at home. You don't need to drive this every day, you know? Because you know what women like. They're going to be like, ooh, you got a Ferrari. Just like men know what other men like. Ooh, look at her. She looks beautiful today. I'm going to go talk to her. You know, if you don't have all no makeup, you just look busted. So I feel like, yeah, there's natural beauty, but you enhance it and guess what? You got more attention and now they have to compete and your confidence is so high that they have to impress you because you feel like you can go out and get somebody better. So if anyone's telling you not to wear makeup and weave, it's because they want you to attract somebody who's dusty, okay? You don't have to do it if you don't want to. You don't have to wear a weave. You don't have to wear makeup. It's your choice. But if someone is specifically telling you not to do it, you got to wonder why. Like, I can't do it sometimes. I can't do it on the weekend. What? Why can't I do that? You know? So moving on from that, someone says, okay, so I dated a semi-celebrity keyword, semi. And he told me we can't advance our relationship until I took out my weave. Men are so confusing. If I was dating a semi-celebrity and he asked me to take out my weave, I would be asking him for some money, okay? Because you can't direct me what to do unless you're paying me, okay? You might be rich. You might have money. But if you have not given me any of that money, your semi-celebrityism don't even matter. Okay? If my bank account don't look good, I don't care what you think, you know? That's the thing about a lot of women. They will say, oh, I dated this person. I dated that person. But do you have anything to show for it? You know? The only thing about dating a celebrity is that it ups your status for the next ban you meet. You can say, oh, I used to date such and such. And they'll be like, oh, cool, you know? But if you're not benefiting from it, I wouldn't even listen to them. I'd be like, oh, just treat them like a normal person because if they're not giving you anything or you're not benefiting from it, their opinion don't even matter still. Like, for example, my husband, like... My husband, he say, I don't need makeup. I don't need weaves. But when I put it on, he's... You know? Ooh, you look good today. But he says I don't need it. I say, I know I don't need it. You don't need that car outside either. We don't need this big house either. We could be in a smaller apartment too. We don't need it. But guess what? It makes us look good. So he'll just laugh and say, yeah. And then, like, you know... If he wants to take me out somewhere fancy and I come out and he'll say, oh, you gonna go get ready? And I don't have no makeup on? Or you're gonna go get ready? Oh, yeah. That means go put on some makeup and we can go somewhere nice. So they really do like it. They just don't like it when they're not around you. And see, like, I talk to him like, you know... I'm a lot younger than him, but, you know, if I did not wear makeup and things like that, it would be... The dynamic of the relationship would be a little bit different. You know, if I'm all the time looking busted and, you know, that's... It's harder to get what you want. So, you know, not gonna listen to that. And pygmies are always trying to do what the man says instead of realizing what he is trying to say in between the lines. Like, oh, my man said he liked me with no makeup and messed up here. Or in my jogging pants or in my sweats. He says he likes me like that. So then you start looking like that every day. Okay? Meanwhile, whenever someone else walks by looking way better because they have on makeup, nice clothes, hair, and he's gonna break his neck looking. Okay? Don't listen to what they say. Watch what they do. Because it's not... It's not 100% true. Pygmies will always make excuses for their men. If you got more excuses than things to brag about, you're a pygmy, you know... Sometimes when I talk to people and they start telling me about who they're with, the pygmies always start out with excuses. The women who are with men that they really like being with start off bragging. Oh, my man is this. Oh, my man is that. My man is this. My man is that. Pygmies like, well, my man is nice. Or my man is cool. But right now he's unemployed or right now he's paying child support to his crazy ex-baby mama. Or, you know, they got like a string of excuses as to why they're... You know, they can't go out to eat with you because their baby daddy or their husband or their boyfriend took all their money for the week because he had to pay child support and didn't have any gas to get to work. So those are pygmy chicks, okay? Excuses versus bragging pygmy chicks. Okay? Talking more about being in love than when they talk a lot about being in love and he's the one and he's my boo and this, this and that and they can't brag on anything else about him. Like, oh, he just got a promotion. Oh, he's taking me here. Oh, he bought me this for my birthday. Or, oh, you know, he's playing this great date and took me out and surprised me or, you know, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. If they keep harping on the love thing and, you know, connection, that means they don't have anything else to brag about, you know. So keep that in mind. And don't, if you're not a pygmy chick, don't talk about what you're doing with other guys and how you're dating this man, you know, who's buying you all this stuff to her because she's gonna get mad. And then she's gonna say bad things about you because she doesn't have what you have, you know. And she has to sit there and make excuses for her man while you're out being spoiled. So don't talk to your pygmy friends about what you're doing. That's rule number one because they'll always, they'll secretly hate on you because they can't do it. I mean, they could do it, but they don't want to do it. So, yeah, the moral to the story is if you're a pygmy chick, chicks stop being a pygmy chick. Take your power back. If you enjoy being a pygmy chick, great. You know, men need help too. I should say boys. Can you help me? I broke many hearts when I was young and now men are breaking my heart. You don't get emotionally attached to men. That's easy. Use them for what you can use them for and then move on. You won't ever get heartbroken. And if you do, it's your fault for falling for them. Okay? I don't get heartbroken because, like, you know, you're in control of your emotions, not them. What do I say if a man asks what he gets for giving me gifts? Tell him a smile and a thank you. A smile and a thank you and maybe a chance to see me again. You know, you have to know your worth. You know, you have to know your worth because if you don't like them anymore and you mad because he asked them that, just say the same thing your mom gets. A hug and a thank you. The reason why you get heartbroken is because you invest your emotions. Stop investing your emotions. You don't get heartbroken, okay? A man has an agenda as soon as he meets you, okay? So, if you don't fall for it, then you don't get heartbroken, okay? Stop falling for men and getting emotionally attached. Have a goal. Focus on the goal. Don't get emotionally attached. Let them get emotionally attached to you. That's how you keep the power, okay? So, stop being... You don't care about them. Stop caring about them, okay? I don't know how to explain this. Like, okay, for example, how to not care about someone. Have a goal, okay? The goal is not love. It's something else. Until you reach that goal, you can't care about that person, okay? Like, if your goal is getting engaged, don't emotionally invest in that person until you're engaged. If your goal is moving in with the person, don't emotionally invest until you get what you want. If your goal is for a man to take you on a trip somewhere, don't get emotionally invested until you get that trip, okay? If a man says, oh, it promises you a lot of things that never follows through and you're already emotionally attached, that's your fault. Unless, until you have what you want in your hand and you're good to go either way, you don't get emotionally attached. So, for example, if you get something out of the man that you really want and then he dumps you, you got something in your hand and you're still good and you're happy and you don't care because you got what you came for, okay? If you get emotionally attached and you leave with nothing in your hand, then that's your fault, okay? If you're not compensated and all you leave with is a broken heart, that's your fault, okay? You got to learn to be just like them, okay? You got to learn to not commit or emotionally invest until you get what you want. And then you still don't have to emotionally invest and keep getting more, you know? The one who falls in love first is the one who loses, okay? So, yeah, you keep falling in love over and over, that's your mistake. You need to have a goal, not love. After you reach your goal and you feel like, oh, he'll stick around, he's cool, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, maybe I can start to like him a little bit because now I have what I want and he's invested in me and if he left me, he would be stupid because look at all this money he's spent on me, look at all this time he's spent on me, he would actually lose out, not me, you know? So, you got to get it like that. If you give him too much and call him and text him too much, fall in love with him before he even, you know, introduces you to any friends or family member, you doing that to yourself, you know? That's called being too needy. For me, I would not fall in love with anybody unless I was secured, you know what I'm saying? It took me a long time to fall in love with my own husband. Why? Because I knew exactly what I wanted. I'm like, look, this is what I want. Can you do it? Yes or no? The more he did, the more I feel. The more he invested, the harder it was to leave. Okay? So, you give too much and he gives nothing and you get heartbroken. That's called bad business. Okay? Okay. You don't go into a business deal like that. Okay? You don't tell everybody your secrets. You don't give somebody your all unless they're giving you something. Unless you're doing volunteer work. And then, for volunteer work, you should not expect anything in return. Okay? A lot of women are doing volunteer work and don't even know it. So, unless they're... And a lot of women go after the wrong type of guys. Guys that don't really like them unless they can get something out of them. If you're going for the wrong type of guy and you're always getting heartbroken, that's probably why go for someone who will worship you. Go for someone who would love to be in your presence. Stop going for these guys that see you as disposable. You know? You think I'm going to go after somebody that looks better to me? Nope. Who can do better than me? Nope. Not going after none of that. I'm not even interested. If they walk up to me, I'm like, oh, thanks. Thanks for the drink. That's it. That's as far as it's going. I'm not interested in you because you're not going to worship me. So, why would I be interested in you? Right? That's right. Go out in the weekday about three times. Yeah. If you want to meet people, don't go out on the weekend. That's like couple's days. So, I should focus on gold. I hate you. You can control your own emotions. That's up to you. Go for a guy who is not someone you would fall in love with. A lot of women make this mistake. Go for a man that you would not fall in love with. Go for a man who is going to be a challenge to fall in love with. Go for somebody you have nothing in common with. Go for somebody that has to work for your attention and affection. You know what I'm saying? You won't fall in love at all. Let me get this Louis Vuitton. Get out of the way. Let me get this free trip and get out of the way. If you just happen to fall in love, he'll probably fall in love with you first and worship you. You don't have to worry about it. If you're trying to find the perfect prince charming man, handsome, sexy, rich, whatever, whatever, and you keep getting heartbroken, understand what you're doing is setting yourself up for failure. So, it could be the type of man you're choosing. You fall for them too quick because they're something that you really like. If you like the man more than you, it's never going to work. Go find somebody that likes you more than them. Stop getting emotionally invested. You'll learn when you get older do all women deserve a wealthy or a rich man. If they feel they do, if you feel like you deserve to be treated and to have a man that can at least support you, then yes. If you don't feel like you deserve it, then you don't deserve it. It's up to you. I've seen women who don't feel like they deserve anything. Beautiful women and picnics. I deserve it all. I deserve it all because that's how I feel about myself. When you feel a certain way about yourself, so do other people. They're like, oh, she really is into herself. She values herself. She has high standards. I can't come to her with this crap. Either they don't approach or they approach correctly. But if they see that you have high standards about yourself, they're not even going to bother you if they can't upgrade you or help you or impress you. If you feel like you deserve it, you deserve it. If you don't feel like you deserve it, then you treat yourself. If I was always No. Oh, no. I don't know. They would see me and be like, oh, a victim. I can totally take advantage of her and she looks good. She doesn't even know it. She feels lucky to have me. I can get away with cheating with her. I can use her credit. I can have a place to live for free. She'll let me move in. But if I'm over here like this... Yes. Okay. Anything else? They're like, oh, man. I'm not impressing her. I've got to come harder. Look at her. She values herself. She's not listening to my crap. Everything I'm saying is going in one ear at the other. She doesn't care. She probably wants to know what kind of car I'm driving if I have a good job. I'm saying to myself is how men and other people are going to treat you. Okay? You walk around like you own the world. They're going to treat you the same way. I just told a guy that I like a man who invests in me and he said I was a prostitute because men will want something in return. I roasted him. What was your answer? I was like, well, you know, there's a difference between me and a prostitute. The prostitute you know, my man is just for me and I am just for my man. Okay? So if you like community, P, great. But I'm not that way. I'm privately owned. You know, it's like, and I have high standards and a man with real money would already expect a woman on my level to expect more than just Applebee's. I might seem like a prostitute to you because you don't have the type of money that it takes to impress a woman like me. Okay? So don't even come up to me and approach me if you don't even understand how this works. Because broke men, yes, I'm a prostitute. Rich men, that's just how it is. You know, you can't date someone on this you know, that looks like this this many years younger if you don't offer them something. Okay? That's just like, okay, would you date some old woman with gray hair and she wouldn't do anything for you she wouldn't try to help you get your credit score up or she wouldn't pay in your car note or would you date an older lady if they weren't doing anything for you? No. You know? So I would just look at him like, really? You think, you know investing in a woman is prostitution? Wow. Okay, well good luck with that. You know, I wouldn't even address it. I was like, you know, nobody else seems to have a problem with it but I guess they just make a lot more money than you so it's not a big deal. I would just insult him like, something's wrong with him. How do you go from sugar baby to girlfriend? I gotta go because I do have a consultation but I'll tell you this before I'm gone. Make sure that they're on the same page and they actually like spending time with you. The more time they spend with you the more that they will become attached to you. So try to aim for time. Okay? Try to aim for time and try to be in places where people will look at you guys and see him as like all that. He'll get used to that feeling when he's with you. You know? And make him invest more time. That's how you do it with time. You might have to be like lying to him a lot too. I would be with you even if we were poor. Blah blah blah blah blah. You know? You might have to lie. So anyways you might have to like find a lot of stuff that you are like. See, you're gonna have to find like a lot of stuff that's meaningful. Like, oh, you know, this is our song or I know all your favorite colors. You gotta know all the stuff that they like. You gotta know them like the back of your head. You gotta know all the stuff that they like the stuff that they don't like. You have to study them. Okay? You gotta be able to predict them, study them. Make them believe that you're truly in love with them and not just in love with their money. That's how you go from Sugar Baby to Girlfriend because you're not gonna you know, when they try to leave or when you try to leave it's gonna be too sad for them and they're not gonna be able to focus on anything else because everywhere they look, they're gonna be reminded of you. Okay? So, time a lot, you know creating stuff to have in common you know, getting attached that's how you get there. Okay? And lying. Okay. So y'all, I gotta go. Thank you so much. And if you're new, subscribe. If you're not new, share the video to somebody who needs to hear this maybe you'll pick me, friend. And yeah, okay people get mad at me because I say lying stuff. What man do you know that doesn't lie? Hmm? Hmm? Okay. So why are you so upset about it? I'm gonna see y'all later. Bye.