 Going through my comments, I've seen quite a few comments that believe Eugenia Cuny is actually lying about going and getting help and this is actually a really important topic that we need to talk about. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel, my channel is all about mental health and what I'd like to do is pull different topics from the YouTube community to try to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional well-being so if you're into that stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and do not forget this Saturday, yes this Saturday I am doing a charity live stream at 10 am where we are raising money for the organization that that Taylor is donating to to help give women you know beauty supplies and hygiene products and all that who are less fortunate so I will be on stream doing myself up to look all pretty and all donations will be going over to that Taylor and her the organization that she's supporting but anyways yeah let's talk about this thing going on where people think Eugenia Cuny is lying about getting help so I do want to start out this video with something that I often say you know this video is not for Eugenia Cuny like at the end of the day at the end of the day and don't get it twisted I am of no delusion like this is none of our business none of my business what she is doing right like yes we can want to help yes we could do that but at the end of the day she's going to be doing her thing but I wanted to discuss this because this is actually something that I've struggled with in the past and I know it's something that many of you have probably struggled with or you have a loved one who is struggling with this and this is two different topics one of them is lying about getting help and the other one is just getting help to get people off your back so those of you who aren't caught up to speed you know to give you some context Eugenia Cuny you know allegedly is struggling with an eating disorder even though she hasn't come out and said it anyways about a week ago on Twitter she said hey I'm gonna go see a doctor and all this and myself as well as Crimson Studios we did a collab discussing this Ryan from Crimson Studios he's in recovery from an eating disorder I highly recommend you go check out his videos if you are somebody struggling with an eating disorder or you're in recovery like go check out his videos they are amazing I love that dude he's doing awesome but anyways like I mentioned in the comment section there are people who think that she might be lying about this so like yeah this is something that that does happen with people and you might have done this or you know you might know somebody who's done this so I'll try to talk about both aspects of it but for me personally as many of you know I am a drug addict and alcoholic in recovery I've been clean for about six and a half years and there were times when I was lying about getting help so like for example when I was put into a sober living home when I first got clean like we it was mandatory that we went to five 12-step meetings a week and I was like this is stupid this is dumb I don't want to go up in these meetings have people talk about their problems and whining complain or like try to tell me all these things like you know and it was part of my illness and there's part of a lot of mental illnesses where that that illness talks to you and says you don't need help and it wants to separate you from people so what I was doing was I wasn't going to meetings and I would forge signatures right but here's the thing at the end of the day like at the end of the day the only person I was hurting was myself and like the reason I was just like ah was because man this is something I try to teach people like some of us have like that defiance in us like where we want to be like I'm gonna do my own thing no matter what and here's the thing at the end of the day the only person we are hurting is ourselves so in the context of Eugenia Cooney let's say let's say hypothetically she was lying about this like that doesn't affect us right it would be on her and this is something that I came to realize so for example I had a sponsor who I was you know I had to call every single day and then I didn't call him and all that stuff and then eventually like I ended up calling him and I felt terrible and all these other things and he was fine and that's what I realized I'm like oh this is only hurting me it's not hurting him so trust me trust me like I like I talk about on the podcast that Matt and I do unsolicited advice like I don't lose any sleep over this stuff like you guys I am just here to provide you with tools and resources tell you to go get therapy go see a doctor join support groups whatever it is right but like if you don't do those things if you don't take the help that I'm offering you or the help that other people are offering you that is on you alright something that I had to come to terms with was if I wasn't getting help I am choosing to stay in misery like so many people so many people struggling with different disorders like our stubbornness and our ego is our biggest freaking enemy and I know you could probably relate like think about your own stubbornness right now think about how your ego gets involved and tells you you don't need help you don't need to listen to anybody you don't need to listen to this dumb idiot on YouTube telling you to go get help right like think about that and ask yourself is this helping you or is it hurting you right because when I sat back and I analyzed what was going on with me I realized that it was just hurting me all right so while it is a scenario that nobody can confirm like her friend dirty Dan I think it is I just checked out his video he says that she is getting help and all of that but here's something that I didn't talk about in my other video about should we still be worried about Eugenia Cooney and that is just getting help to get people off your back and this is something that I did and again it was only hurting me like the first time I got sober the first time I got sober basically I called up my kids mom because she had left and was staying at my mom's house because she was sick and tired of me and threatening to move back to Las Vegas with my son we were living in California at the time finally I called her up and I said listen if it will shut you up I will go get help right so all the only reason I was getting help was to get her off my back and guess what happened three months later I relapsed all right because I was I was doing it with the wrong intentions and sometimes we do that and like and even this last time that I got sober six and a half years ago I was just doing it to shut people up I was like fine I'll do it like I had no intention on staying sober no intention at all so I was gonna get the heat off me and then whenever I felt like or whenever I felt like the coast was clear I was gonna go back to slowly killing myself again it was only hurting me and this is why I preach you know personal accountability and all of that you know what I mean so a couple things like what's the solution to all this what is the solution so one of one of them is for all of us like we need to get better because we want to this is one of the trickiest parts about mental illness is that we cannot stay better unless we want to okay and like this this doesn't matter if it's addiction if it's an eating disorder if it's depression if it's an anxiety like disorder like what do you want to do do you want to get better are you sick and tired of living the way that you're living like do you want things to get better do you believe that things can get better if you don't believe things can get better watch my other video about the ego and the plus-minus equals technique right like find other people who have gotten better right and just like look to them and use their hope for a little while like that's what I had to do now don't get me wrong as somebody who has struggled with depression for many years there were many days when I didn't want to get better for me and on those days because we do this thing one day at a time we work on our addiction our eating disorder our depression our anxiety our PTSD or whatever we work on it one day at a time and on what uncertain days when I didn't want to get better for me because I hated myself I looked at a picture of my son or I looked at my friends I looked at my family I was like you know what today I'm gonna stay better for you sometimes even doing this YouTube channel I'm staying well for all of you guys I have to work on my mental health because I know some of you need to hear a message of hope all right but the other solution to this is especially if you have a loved one who you feel is not getting well for the right reasons or whatever it is do not lose hope do not lose hope like I said like when I share my story I did not want to get better I did not want to I was ready to die okay and by just keep like I kept going and kept going and kept going and then something clicked and then something clicked so even in Eugenia Cooney's case let's say again a hypothetical because I don't freaking know Eugenia but a hypothetical let's say she was just doing this to get people to shut up and get off her back for a while maybe maybe she's going to hear something that just clicks and she's gonna want to stay well right so if you have a loved one who was getting help or they're in treatment right now or seeing a therapist or whatever it is just like do your best to have a little bit of faith because I've seen it so many times and I'm living proof I'm living proof about some of somebody who didn't want to get better but then something happened and I decided that I wanted to stay better and now I live this amazing life today so if you don't have faith in yourself or you don't believe in yourself and you don't have hope in yourself just know that I do I know I know through years of working with people who have had far worse experiences than me right I know for a fact that there was no such thing as a hopeless case alright but anyways anyways let me know down in the comments below if you're somebody in recovery from anxiety depression eating disorder addiction whatever it is like was there ever a point where you decided to just like go see a therapist just to shut everybody up or go get help just to shut everybody up and then what happened to motivate you to continue working on yourself or or that could be another question what what inspires you what motivates you to get better and keep working on yourself are you doing it for yourself are you doing it for others by the way I'm not saying doing for others is wrong it's just sometimes that's not sustainable that's how I'm saying all right anyways let's have a conversation down in the comments below anyways if you liked this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and make sure you're here Saturday at 10 a.m. and I do my makeup and we raise 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