 Two Bella you made it in first person Y'all got to forgive me I was Riven a run today, you know all the stores do the little pull-up curbside my son 13th birthday yesterday, so I mean tomorrow so had to go pick up balloons and all that stuff and And so I was still out in about at 7 p.m. So that's why I say I'll go at 9 and My wife been having me working all around the house. We heard the last couple hours so Wanted to pop in for the night shift. I'm gonna try to I kind of can only do about an hour tonight because My phone has been off the charger so It's probably gonna die a Little earlier tonight But for those of you who miss earlier today Want to pop in so my say two times I go two times every Saturday if I'm if I'm able I do two lives on Saturday one for the day shift and one for the night shift just because we got a decent amount of people in the bless tribe and Y'all see how the questions be going. I just can't answer them all in one session If a man says he is depressed and that's why all his relationships Df Okay, I ain't no scene Df Maybe that's maybe you were saying fail And I'll tell you this when any time a man use that type of language Need to help him get a therapist and if he don't want that then you need to move on with your life Because you can't help somebody that don't want to okay fail. Okay. I see can't help somebody that don't want to help themselves so Okay, look he was trying to help y'all with that D up. She's gonna downfall. No, she bit fail Trying to somebody say no ex questions tonight. Ladies. Let's move forward Hey So when my neck y'all stop asking about an ex is I wouldn't mind that at all Can you have a website when you become a life coach? Absolutely Hi, Tony took so tired course and a few others, but how to get over ex who went back with his ex I feel like he never cared about me how to get over the hurt and betrayal Keep doing what you're doing you took the soul to our course That's the course that I took from fifth at all the fire dollar. So that was a good start Now you need to take the real love University it's also a Dating 101 course on there also when to let go course So you're gonna have to keep doing the work until you get the confidence through the new knowledge that you gain Until you get that you won't be able To move forward Dolly God bless you. Is it okay to go to social events by yourself as a woman? Absolutely To make sure you you're looking behind you when you leave Take the long way home been a couple extra corners makes you ain't nobody following you but absolutely Why does it seem like men have more influence over women in relationships? Men are good at I think I wrote about this in a woman's influence Men are good at the poker face. And so a man could see that you have the winning hand as a woman And he'll make you believe you have the losing hand and that he has the winning hand and Women aren't as good at poker. So Because women just more so what you see is what you get women more so honest most of the time a cool God bless you more so honest and Try to do the right thing on average so men come in already looking for that upper hand because men so used to competing and That's how women end up losing a lot of times in relationship How do I not become bitter while? Giving my ex another chance. I Need to make my whole channel about exes dealing with exes and soul ties because that's all y'all be pretty much dealing with but If you are bitter, then that's the sign that you shouldn't be giving your ex another chance You should feel like You should feel like Hey, you know I'm excited to have this love back. I wish I didn't have to let it go I'm excited to be back in this relationship if that's not how you feel Then you doing the wrong thing. You're going the wrong way Wish on the Will you allow coaches on my mentor to buy the t-shirts will there be business cards? We can purchase just signed up Wednesday Now you want me to sell you the business card not a I make it another business But for your business card, you just can go to fiverr Fiverr F I V E R R.com and Get a business card designed for five dollars then go to Vista print and get five Five hundred of them printed up. Now you just gave me another idea another stream of income that I might go and create and as far as the shirts I just bought me about 10 or 20 of these just to wear them every day on my videos But I never intended to sell them I didn't think anybody want to walk around with the website on it But you the second person to ask me today now But I just bought them for myself personally I didn't assume anybody want to walk around with that on the shirt now Maybe now you welcome to go make one and just put the With your whole URL just make it smaller font my mentor dot life for slash your name And when you go back out when the stores open back up people be taking pictures of your shirt to go book you Hey, that's the way to do it now But I just for these shirts I just go right on like T-Spring or one of them one off sites to where you just type the font right on top of the Shirt and then hit print select how many you want. I just do it like that Bless you and your family. Thank you for your service Marie. God bless you Now hold on now y'all hold on now y'all put them questions in there Another ex question my ex that was texting me daily Suddenly stopped communicating. Is it safe to assume that he found another woman or just isn't interested The soul ties sucks just want to be over him already You're not gonna be able to be over him if you talking to him and you want to talk to him you're not gonna be able to get over him and Yes, he has something else going on. We can't say for sure. It's another woman Typically it is but Yeah You just got to know it ain't you it could be a man Could be a job could be something anything Um Then that yeah, look like you gonna need you a code session in that business consulting session For your LLC, that's just a business. It means limited liability company. And so it's just a It's a business that makes you, you know legal to do business and you can get paid to that LLC And then you'll have certain write-offs that you Will not have just being paid to your name, you know so that gives you a company and you can write some things off and To start your LLC you can go to a CPA or you can go to a site like LLC.com or a legal zone dot com But all of those things are in the life-code certification So if you if you in a life-code certification those downloads will have all the links that you need All the steps that you need to take So if you have not taken the life-code certification That's what you need to do the net and make sure you use the coupon code my mentor I'm Tony Gaston academy calm. Hey, Tony my ex reached out to me. I said I was healed He said he wasn't he cheated on me and married her Why did he say that? because your ex is not healed and That's why he's talking to you. So Men typically don't do the work that women do on average So a man may never hear the term soul tie. He may not know how to heal how to grow. So that's what Makes a man stuck Is it a way to pay for the life-coach course monthly? I got laid off and it would be easier for me to stretch payments monthly I really want to invest in myself and help others Um, it'll be best if you could just put it to the side Because we don't have a payment plan, you know, that's what that coupon code is for because we just got tired of having to You know chase after people like a unit came got all this content and your card getting declined So we don't do payment plans but if you can put it into a little savings for a few months and then when you got it all together that way if you need to dip into it and Now you got your own savings you could dip into and if you don't need to dip into it then then take the course But yeah, we try not to be bill collectors and keeping up with all of that Um lady god bless you how to co-parent with child's father having trouble with being bitter and angry about him being an irresponsible parent Had a session with you before about him being consistent and responsible keeps losing job What you're gonna have to do lady lady. I don't want anybody to think i'm calling you lady Uh You You're gonna have to shift your mindset. So right now you operating from with 50 50, but what you got to shift to is I'm 100 percent So that's what you got to shift to i'm 100 percent And you got to stop depending on him. You got to stop waiting on him. You got to stop expecting from him Don't get mad at yourself because you chose them But forgive yourself For dealing with that relationship for picking that man. Don't blame yourself. Don't be mad about that and then move on You know with your life Hey, tony Hey, tony, can you help me understand? Oh my god bless you Can you help me understand This you being emotional versus needing to be logical Can you help me understand this you being emotional versus needing to be logical? Uh, when you think about that now and you know, we talk about emotional intelligence sometimes now To paint the picture when you see a woman and you a woman When you see a woman who has been cheated on Her man is like the young lady right before you inconsistent Not showing up And then she's getting angry with his inconsistency and him not showing up That is being emotional because she's letting her emotions get in the way of Her logic where logically you would say when somebody hears a question Everybody knows the answer because the people that are not in it are thinking logically The person that's in it is thinking emotionally. So therefore she's like listen, I'm frustrated. I'm mad, you know, he inconsistent He's not doing this But then everybody listen like try. Please leave him Forget him move on with your life. So it's easy for us on the outside To be logical, but when you right in the middle of it That's when you really have to learn how to be emotionally intelligent Which is essentially stepping outside of yourself and pretending Somebody else asking you the question that you asking yourself and then look at it from the outside looking in and then make a decision with logic over Jesse motion, but there are other times that emotion needs to rule over logic and it's kind of like and that an example of that is Andy Griffin Andy Griffith if you're watching Andy Griffith he was emotional in the sense of he would Rule with his heart and not always by the book So so you got to be able to be fluid and make adjustments depending on the situation Angelica god bless you praying for your strength brother tone. Hey, thank you. I sure need that. I was tired yesterday I had gotten that bed went on the bed. You hit me make sure Got in that bed I was heard y'all hold on commercial break felt like I had some in my eye all right commercial break over You're doing well and helping many of god's daughters. Don't grow weary god blessing. Give you more grace. Thank you That prayer hit me where I needed to hit me you hit me Thank you. I don't like people praying over me in public, but that right now felt that prayer I needed that To car god bless you Tony what you said just hit me My boss was playing competitive with me when he gave me the job I expressed to my director about his consenting ways Coach me through dealing with two white leaders Now Okay, this ain't nc. Wap now nwacp now Now I tell you this right here When when you on your job a lot of people A lot of y'all who work a job. I used to work a job I got often people job but I was 27 so God bless y'all I pray for you But i'ma tell you never be job scared You keep going up the ladder Because one thing them folks scared of is a lawsuit That one thing they scared of and I went to eoc on my old job They didn't want to give me two days off, but I saw him giving other people of other hues In saturation and complexions they days off I went right down to eoc and filed a discrimination suit Got me a little settlement. They told me well We want to give you this hill a little piece of change and you leave I say no get to me and I'm staying I leave when I get ready So keep speak your mind. Don't never be job scared. You do it cool calm and collected You talk to him address him. Then you go to his boss. They don't have you go over they boss They don't go over they boss you get all the way up there to the top of the ladder I remember I told my job. I said I got over 200 pages Of violations that y'all them committed in this company I ain't had a first page But what it was shaking in they boots don't ever be job scared Simply peak art bless you. How do you support a man who's having a tough time? His spirits are low and it makes it hard to communicate I tell you what A lot of time men have a tough time So here's the thing you could try to talk to him try to support him and Try to speak into his life But if you give a good effort and he doesn't respond to it Then you got to pull back And then you can introduce other things a holy bible into his life a book A audio A video And if he doesn't respond then you just got to start to pull on back and just get on out of the way Because a lot of men will take and milk that situation And doing it for attention Hoping that you say well, do you need some money for your business? Do you need a business investment? A lot of men cry broke cry sad cry depressed and all of that So that they can Get that wallet open or get them legs open one of the others there a lot of most of the time a man wants something open Now hold on i'm looking for y'all now make sure y'all put that hashtag q in front of your question now kishan god bless you Tony, I know you hear this a lot, but I think it's essential that us women. Thank you for your work Hey, god bless you god bless you know, you can't hear it enough because one thing that's louder than anything is the criticism so you know You'll see 99 compliments and then one critique and lose sleep over the critique so I've been focusing on paying more attention to the compliments and the support than the haters our most men Moment people as in the moment they may be all in then change their minds you say that It is game Or i'm not the wife, but could they really be honest in that moment and change um It's possible, but it's not probable So it's kind of like you know And this is what I always try to tell y'all see me and love cars. I was I was I bought me a little old school little 1979 Monte Carlo And i'm gonna take my time and get it fixed up may take about a year And these cars be ugly and these men like these cars and they get the ugly cars and they take time and fix them up now You don't see and the reason why I make comparison to cars because you won't see a man walk up on a dream car And love it in that moment and in the next day I don't like their rave no more Love that rave yesterday But they don't like their rave. Oh, oh love that uh lamborghini yesterday But they don't like that lamborghini or next year on like that lamborghini When a man really likes a woman, he don't stop liking them When he loves when he loves a woman truly loves a woman. He doesn't stop loving So no, it's not that he was genuine and then he had a change of heart unless you changed Now if you started cheating you started lying or something like that Okay, mother's mother p5 twosay. Why not a 70 ss Chevelle? With okay the mother over there Now who raised you now you're gonna donate one Why not because it's a veil called real money The money carlo I got for 45 on the law Mr. Bell But that's in a few calls. I'm gonna do that Chevelle now But I can't show what I'll be doing because I don't be feeling like hitting the haters Oh People spend their last dollar To come to your seminar and this what you want to buy You want to buy your wife gifts? I spent my last 35 dollars I remember I bought my wife a gift and showed my wife gift Hey got my wife a gift and that's what the lady said Oh, I'm not supporting you anymore. I see that's how you spend the harder money I spend with you on a gift for your wife I was like wow So I that's I just got to walk around looking broke I say what people don't want you to have nothing Aaron God bless God bless a high ton. How did you find the right man in regards to faith on God? My children's father also a Floridian like yourself LOL is agnostic So it was always a tug of war in regards to God Now I don't I'm not a Floridian. Okay. I'm a guardian. I don't like nobody to know I live at now. So as I have on Florida hats. I don't live in Florida. I don't live in nobody's state I live with the Lord. I want nobody trying to look for me Trying to find me now I live with the Lord. Okay. You just want to clear that up now This is the thing What you become and who you are you're gonna attract You will attract your man of God. But what you got to realize now Is when you getting ready And you maybe heard me say this when you getting ready to meet destiny You're gonna meet a distraction. So that was your distraction That was the decoy that you got to learn from you got to stay close to your faith And keep moving and see the problem that you had is when you found out he was agnostic Which I barely know what that is. You should have kept on moving You spent too much time dealing with agnostic because see like you say My children father. So see this is the thing, Aaron When you want a man of God You got to really know God So when you say my children father is agnostic That means that you not only met him But you slept with him and not only did you sleep with him you slept with him unprotected So see when you did that you turned your back on God So you can't hear God you can't see God and God cannot send you a man Of God when you are On your back You see what I'm saying? So in order to get you A good man of God You've got to be living the way God tells you to live You can't say I want a man of God if you living in sin Because then you make him lose faith In God because he say y'all old christians is hypocrites y'all fake You talking about God and you want me to believe in God and you Sending all against God every day to the tune of unprotected intercourse and then got A baby you see what I mean Aaron? I see Not I had to speak in tongues They'll not because that that truth right there came out of me from On high and that hurt me to say it to you. I'm gonna tell you the truth Aaron that hurt me to say that I did not want to say that I'm gonna tell you the truth I wanted to lie to you about that but Lord said news. You want to bring my name in it? Let her get Let her hear the truth from me Um, ash the god bless you do you think you will ever consider doing a woman's convention on the west coast someday in the future Well, I'll tell you ashley, um With the way this uh 19 is looking And they say it could resurface And that just because you get it don't mean you can't get it again I don't know if I'm gonna be going back to conventions. I might be right here on this line And they're doing a woman's convention on live So that I don't come nowhere near that 19 and And I live Remember I say I live with the Lord, but we stay on the other side of the country And it is very expensive out there on the west coast. I don't been out there now Her mark God bless you God that's part of life part of life Tonya just watched your Easter sermon and it truly ministered to me and moved me to tears I can't tell you how much you have been a blessing to me during this time of finding myself and healing life And priceless blessings to you and the queen a god bless that right God Bless me Debbie Bless you By your wife a little something I don't like when y'all say that because when y'all say that I got to do it You know, I got to keep that right there word and go ahead and do that. Okay. What you're blessed with that. Okay. I'mma tell I'm not can I add that to the gift? I just bought it yesterday that ain't give them saving to a mother's day But thank you. God bless you Debbie, that really means a lot. No haters here. We appreciate her sacrifice for sharing her time with us. Thank you. You know what? I'm gonna send that blessing to a lord. Lord. Remember me. So I'm not a liar Remind me lord Speech is speech. God bless you. Wow, Tony. Thank you for the answer to Aaron Speaks volumes can't wait to make more to bless you more keep letting god use you Thank you. God bless. Hey bless you. Bless you Thank you for that. Now y'all hold on right there with your questions now because let me get I'm trying to get the VIPs in the club before 11 So data came up and I'm trying to get them in and then I'm gonna come back um to the chat La crystal god bless you as I'm getting closer to god a lot of men are starting To want to date me. Some of them are carrying lust spirits lust spirits and I know it Should I start dating multiple men to find my husband? Now You're gonna have to consult the lord on that but here's the thing Dating All that mean is just going out to eat Going out to eat Or going out to the movies or going out bowling That's okay to do with more than one guy As long as your spirit is okay with that When you meet a guy if you go on a date and you start to feel Kind of drawn to him And you want to focus there then don't do anything that's not natural for you Because not everybody is built like that. They got to focus on one person at a time So here's the thing as long as you're not On your bike you ain't doing nothing wrong It's it's not It's not a sin or anything like that to go out to eat with people The sin is for an occasion Okay, the bible say don't let the left hand know what the right hand is doing So you don't have to tell that man that you dating around that you dating multiple men They ain't none of his business that between you and the lord If he asked you are you seeing other men you simply could say that's actually none of your business because I'm not asking you that question and I don't expect you to give me an honest answer if I did ask you So, okay, let's let's mind our business And just like that with a smile and he's like, whoa, you mean, whoa, you feisty. That's how you talk to me. Okay Um, y'all put that hashtag cue in front of your question So if you can handle it if you can manage it, then it's nothing wrong with going on dates With more than one guy, but when you tell him y'all exclusive now, you'll be a liar to go on other dates Is it okay to call a man? Tell him thank you For a walk away because you appreciate him not Wasting your time. I really do appreciate it. No, not Denise You ain't got to call him tell him. Thank you for that. You just that's really, you know You appreciate it, but the ego hurting a little bit there too And you just want to get that last word in you want to get that last word in the way you just want to be You know, I just wanted to call you and just say thank you for being a man and for walking away because I really appreciate You walking away you deciding to just get up and leave and walk away out of my life And be honest with me and tell me that I'm not good enough for you. I just wanted to tell you thank you for that So he's gonna hear that and be like Mm-hmm Yeah, you just wonder women that can't let it go. That's what he's gonna say So even though you appreciate it just thank him from a distance and just go on about your business Don't go digging it back up because it's he's gonna read some thirst into it And then he's gonna say well actually I made a mistake Because now he's gonna feel like he could be friends with benefits with you since you had to come back to get that last word in So understand that now A man from my team invited me to join his friend and wife to dinner Sounded like a double date The friend and wife got busy So we had to reschedule and he hasn't followed through since Then 19 what to do. Don't worry about it. Let it go. Let it go. Don't worry about it. Let it go You ain't missing nothing. You ain't missing nothing out of this 19 He'll come back around but that could be lord sparing you right now. Don't don't don't Don't lose no sleep over that Courtney God bless you. Hi, Tony and tribe. Why is it that men think women don't care about them? If you are a logic-minded woman who doesn't operate from irrational emotion um Because men are used to women using irrational emotion And men are used to women operating from their emotions And so when he sees that you can be logical and you can do what's best for you It does throw him for a loop. It does throw him off. And so he may Say some things or use some words to see if it's gonna work on you To see if you'll take it to heart and if you'll you know, take it personal and Some women do when a man says oh you mean or oh you did some women will actually hear that and they've been doing good and that critique That put down that dig will make a woman change her approach and she'll start being not uh gullible and naive How about put them together nullable? That's a day. That's a word. Yeah. Now. I'm gonna start using that nullable that when I went from going for it When I say nullable that mean naive and gullible The lord gave me that right there. So we're gonna take that and that'll save me some breath The glow needs to God bless you live in LA And the last time a man approached me was a year ago. But the timing was off I get compliments from people all the time. But now that I'm ready. Nothing is happening. Why? Okay, the glow needs to uh your shirt about the same color as your skin. So I was trying to wonder What that was there you had on I'll tell you this now You got to learn how to be Hungry and content And so what that means is to be hungry and content It means to to be content does not mean that you don't want more It means that you're grateful for what you have And you are still pursuing more So what that means is when your energy shifts to Gratitude and gratefulness for where you are in your life You're gonna send off a different vibe But see where you are you're not given enough gratitude there and you're thinking about what you want So the fact that you're thinking about what you want when you're out and about the vibe coming off as a little Needy a little desperate and it's actually repelling instead of attracting Not but see that's all start here. And a lot of times we don't realize that the power of of what we're telling ourselves Our phoenix foul god bless her god bless her pope Been doing good so far on my growth journey Focusing on me and doing the work However, I'm feeling like I'm starting to lose my momentum. How do I keep my motivation and not fall off? Well, you may have to do something different. So if you just watching videos And that's your growth work You reading books now. It may be time to visit my mentor dot life and work with a human Work with somebody who can give you live feedback And if you're doing that then it may be More videos more books. So you may have to just switch. You know how like when you're working out And you're doing the same workout eventually your body gonna get what it can from that workout And it's going to plateau and then you got to start doing new movements and different types of exercises To work your muscles in a different way. That's the same way with the growth Mentally sometimes you got to shift your approach and what you're consuming and how you're consuming it or who you're consuming it With you know, maybe accountability partner or a coach And that god bless you And that god bless you six months this time I went to see him And found out he smoked cigs I mentioned it and he said everything isn't for me to know Seeing him in his environment is eye-opening. Thank you for your teaching. Hey god bless you. Okay If you don't smoke cigs then let that be the last time you see him in his environment Erica cruel god bless you pull out in her life or Uh D love you came in right on time. I see you here Tony. I'm 31 single I desire a husband and kids, but I don't want the responsibility Of being in a relationship Marrying and raising kids is that wrong? Now D love who sent you? Who sent you? Okay, somebody sent you over here troll me So now you say You wanna Let me read what you said I desire A husband and kids, but I don't want the responsibility Of being in a relationship Marrying and raising kids. Is that wrong? God Lord Give me the strength Now I tell you what That's a lot Let me find the next question You might need coaching for that now. Okay Because you it really Sound like somebody sent you on here to play with me now And and I know it was a serious question But what I'm telling you is the fact that it sounded like somebody sent you on here to troll me Let you know What kind of question that is okay? So now I want you to read that question a few times and think about it So really what that is that's what I tell people is you falling in love with the idea of love But not the reality of love. That's what that means So what it means is you're not ready. It means you ain't ready. You 31 when may when you get 38 40 That's when you really gonna start to be ready Today is some women not ready till 43 You know, that's when you really gonna start to be ready now You may need to hang around married women or Mothers and talk to them who some people who love it and enjoy people women like my wife Absolutely love motherhood and wifehood And that may help you High Tony, I moved to a new city to build my business for three years now Business is growing booming I'm now financially stable, but I am missing my family and lonely. Should I move back home? Um You know, that is a personal choice But if you move to build your business What you can do is allow your business to boom And build up enough savings to where if you move back you still can have The same or similar lifestyle and build your business where you come from, you know, you could build business almost anywhere Unless you really live in poll dunk middle of nowhere Where y'all don't have a population and nobody to you know support your business, but It's okay to move To be happy and and have love windy god bless you I just found out the guy I've been dating for five months has a dating profile We started off on the wrong foot and now we're trying to get closer to god together Then I found that what do I do talk to him about it talk to him windy god bless you Sit down and talk to him see every time when you're dealing with a man Every single thing you catch everything that you catch now now the first question is gonna be is How do you know I got a dating profile if you don't have a dating profile? What were you doing on the dating app? I got a profile on there, but I used to use that profile. I haven't logged in that profile in months So what are you doing on there that you saw my dating profile? Oh really your friend told you oh, oh, and I'm supposed to believe that I'm supposed to believe your friend told you What is your friend doing on there? So that's what you want me to believe you see that's what he's gonna flip it on you So see that's what you got to realize is it even worth bringing up? If you ain't got a real reason or how you found him on that dating profile And if you got a dating profile and you was on there still looking at your options Then you met your match. You got what you deserve Y'all Meant for each other because both for your line and playing games. So see you got to think about that And see this is the thing if you plan to stay with a person And you innocent And they wrong then you confront them about the wrong to nip it in the bud If you feel like it's something that is not a deal breaker if you don't Believe that it truly can work that y'all meant to be Then it's not even worth bringing it up. Just see what you need to see and respond move on with your life Hope for soul god bless you. Do you offer premarital counseling to couples premarital coaching? I'm a coach, you know, not a counselor. So counseling is a little different, but premarital coaching Yes, I like to discuss hot button issues before marriage and I think bringing it up during Coaching is the best way to do it without making the guy nervous He's gonna be nervous either way and what I recommend is doing your own sessions first Because you need to be able to get the whole story out without him and be able to say the stuff that you don't necessarily want him to hear So do one or two sessions yourself first Then based on the coach's Feedback decide if you want to do it with him Or you may get a plan of action from the coach that allows you to go to him And deal with it on your own and talk about those things on your own because a lot of men They're just gonna be totally different. They're not gonna do well in coaching or counseling So you kind of need to get a game plan before you just come throwing him in there, you know Right off the bat Now when I go in here to the chat, I'm gonna scroll up to the last question Tony, what is emotional intelligence? It's really What it exactly what it says making an intelligent decision From your emotion. So being able to control your emotions. So somebody make you mad in traffic You may feel like pulling out the little tool Taking their tires out well emotional intelligence will tell you the person may be Have a blind spot The person may be in a rush The person may be trying to rush and get his wife to the doctor because she in labor See emotional intelligence will help you seek to understand Then be understood and make a better decision and that's how we can use that in relationships as well um Hey, I'm Lilo. God bless you for another life Hi, Tony. How does one not become emotionally attached too soon in a new relationship? The way it's it's it's extremely hard if you ready for love It's extremely hard if you ready for love, but what you have to realize is You can't give a person credit For the time that they haven't earned So what that means is Yes, my book's on audible. Just type in tony gas because I got a couple on there. Not all of them What that means is if if you talking to somebody for an hour Then that's when you think about them when you're not on the phone with them You need to be watching your show watching your video working on your business Writing in your journal you need to be working on you see a lot of times What happens is the way you fall is you talk to a person for an hour But then you're thinking about them for the next three hours And now you falling because you're giving them credit that they have not earned To me, God bless you. My child is 14 This likes her father's fiance been around since child was three Daughter says she's very negative and never has anything nice to say to her Spoke to her dad about it. No change. What to do me personally. I keep my child from over there I won't be I wouldn't be letting old stanky booty negative woman Speak down to my child because your daughter 14. So she ain't got no reason to lie to you So The old nasty woman she'll have to hear from me if I was you Hey, listen, my daughter told me that you're very negative and you never have anything nice to say and that is very despicable Find whatever words you can find in there now and you're going to check her if Her sorry daddy won't check her ain't nowhere in the world. I'm gonna be a man And letting old new booty talk to even though she ain't new He obviously don't love her because she been around he didn't have the woman around for 11 years And ain't married. She the fiance so he obviously don't love her And so why are you gonna let a woman you don't even love Be negative with your daughter and but see that's the thing. That's why the woman negative because Your daughter's daddy dog in the eye So we might tell y'all about the kick the cat syndrome When the boss yell at the man then the man go yell at his wife Then the wife go yell at the child in the child go kick the cat That's what's happening. Your ex dog and her got her fiance. She a fiance and been with the man watching his dirty draw for 11 years And that's why she's going off on your daughter because your daughter reminds her of you And she feel like he still got a soul tied with you And that's why he married her so she taken it out on your daughter. Listen to me. My daughter wouldn't be over there He'll have to take me to court and then when he take me to court, I tell the judge Exactly what's going on Your honor, he got this whole loose booty nasty mouth woman over there talking to a minor like she ain't got no sense So what's she gonna do about this your honor? Because if you can't protect my daughter, I'll be in contempt of court your honor Um, I've come to realize I don't see a name on you but um bless you right there for that blessing I've come to realize my ex has been suffering from addiction I've come back to jesus for healing of my soul and to release him To jesus christ god bless you a bless you bless you So it's in the blessing of Shall praise report What's the best way to meet new people in this 19 season In this season right here is the best time to meet yourself You know in this time right here if you single stay single This is the time to meet yourself This is the time to get to know you because 9 out of 10 people don't even know themselves 9 out of 10 people Have not had a real plan to work on their dreams To build their business to build a job to create a job. I've been telling people forever Create a job that you can't be fired from it's so many people out of work right now So take this time to start building your dream Take this time, you know, I I left the workforce at 27 years old and I started building my own at 22 and it took me from 22 really 23 to 27 To get to a place the way I had my own this the time right now To work on you My ex-husband was physical with me while pregnant and his parents Have nothing nice to say About But now want to be in my baby's life Well, that's their grandchild and But I'll tell you this If he if the daddy got the lose out then they got the lose out too They're point blank period because they raised them they raised Oh, sorry man that put hands on a woman Period but then more so than that put hands on a woman while she carrying his child He's supposed to be under the jailhouse. So if they raise that You raise your son like this and you was talking nasty about me. Guess what? My child and come nowhere near y'all y'all be over there plucking my child toenails off With um pliers, you know calling yourself punishing them. So listen Everybody in this chat protect your children from these folks that don't love them and care for them the way that you do protect them Oh, god bless you. Hi. I just ordered your book single is not a curse and the dream chaser So you got both of them books, huh? The next book I buy will be a woman's influence Thank you for your advice. It has helped me tremendously. Oh, god bless. God bless and I and thank you for Checking out, you know the older books as well Veronica god bless you my 14 year old daughter has too many Boyfriends i'm concerned. She doesn't want to talk about it um Veronica listen Now I wish my wife was in here Ain't nobody In my house under the age of 18 Gonna do nothing Without my permission If you got to if if you my daughter and you got too many boyfriends You ain't got no cell phone. You ain't got no tv We we riding up the work in a jalopy in the school in the jalapeno pulling right up in the front dropping y'all in the raggedy car You ain't got no food Okay, you can't let no 14 year old run your house. She's doing what you letting her do She got too many boyfriend because she ain't got enough mom friend. See you got to sit down with you got talk to a look One hell no next meal We're gonna talk about this You want to eat you want a roof over your head? Okay, this was meant to go down And and you got the you got the You spat a rod you spoiled a child. You can't you can't let nobody in your house that you paying eight bills Do what they want to do And that's the thing and I'm gonna tell you with with awesome I'm trying to get my wife to write a parenting book. We don't have no problem. My son turned 13 tomorrow If he think about something He better go in their brain and apologize We don't have no problems because we raised the children The children the problem today is We let y'all ain't gonna say we I got I know I'm gonna say we but I'm gonna say y'all y'all let the child raise y'all You let child tell you what what they what they gonna do Willam won't do she needs god bless her she needs to be showing up and showing our blessing Lord bless you bless you Tony Lord bless you bless you so you got to switch that now You got to switch that My son the other day Said something trying to Oh, he knocked the vacuum over the vacuum my wife bought this vacuum and stand up against the wall he knocked it over and She said hey, what you doing? You didn't see that vacuum be careful And he said tating did it yesterday Start telling on his little brother. She said come here. She said come here. Sooner he got over the She had to fold them up so quick his life flashed before his eye He came up tears in the eye She said boy in your life. Don't you ever ever think about talking back to me And that's how my wife handle him. That's how she handle him I was sitting in here probably on the video. I said, okay, what's going on? I tell My my my son got two daddies and one mama But they let me know that even if I wasn't here They'll still be in line because she on play. You hear me? She handle them right up And I told about it. I say listen if you don't have him in order when he gets 16 He's gonna be trying and I'm talking about that boy them been up against that wall you hit me boyfriend told me His son mother loves him and wants Because she saw his wants him because she saw his growth. He told her he loves her But not in love. Should I be worried? Uh Yeah, you're gonna have some problems especially when he's telling you all that but the reason why he's telling you all that He's telling you all that to keep you on edge So it's a it's a abuse tactic to keep you on edge to keep you insecure to keep you in worry to make you want to to make you want to uh Serve him cater to him And work for him compete for him. That's why he's telling you that a man who loves you He wants you to be at ease But see a man who want to control you a man who want to have the upper hand on you He wants you to be uneasy. Remember I did a video the other day called grown boy tactics Search grown boy tactics tony gaskins and watch that video. That's what that is. That's a grown boy tactic. He's trying to Have you uneasy and worried about her so that you will be You know That's what he won't Chanel monique god bless you. Hey tony. Do you see it fit? To become a life coach when you are still in Though more than halfway through the process of healing up your own life Take your time take your time to when you ready now understand you're never going to be 100% okay I just ate me a uh deep dish pizza full of swine from um BJ's And when I tell you that swine know it was hidden where it need to hit at And people think that because i'm a life coach that i'm vegan Or something like that. No, I tell me some swine up you hit me and I hit me a piece of pop out of chicken once a month So I still ain't all the way where I need to be so I say that to say When you helping others it actually helped you It helps you I wasn't a perfect husband When I started doing relationship coaching and when I was telling Women what they man need to be doing it was convicting my spirit And one time my wife she never called a town hall meeting but she always let me hear what she needs me to hear On t johnson god bless almost almost miss you right there t johnson god bless one time she said to me She said you you coaching by the but you ain't living it just like that She ain't she ain't exacerbate the situation. She ain't sit me down. She ain't had no deep conversation She just said a real slick and just were gone by the business you coaching but you ain't living it whoo I probably was 24 25 What that thing hit me it was like a dagger and I said wow She right I got to do better. I wasn't Uh cheating or nothing, but I just wasn't being as loving as I could have been I wasn't Serving the way I could have been serving so me coaching and like what I'm doing here. This holds me accountable So this made me the best husband in the world I really don't believe it's a better husband in the world and me and the reason why because I'm always coaching other people On their relationship. So it's holding me accountable because I really want to be better So if you want to be better when you start helping others, it's going to make you better Now you got snakes out here that don't care nothing about being better And they could talk about it and not be about it because they just focus on money And not actually having a good heart and growing Chosen by god god 10 months relationship He used to call me every morning And or texts, but now it's sporadic. He does call me every single night At 11 p.m. And we talk until we fall asleep one day. He says marry me the next day It's like we will see where this goes I'll tell you what Chosen by god, you got two more months that you can give You got two more months that you can give By the end of them two months, which would be 12 months if you don't have Really a you know Real conviction in your heart about this relationship that you feel that it's real and and y'all ready And he's going to take it all the way then let it go let it go. But see the thing about it is um The fact that he calling you at 11 p.m You haven't set boundaries because unless y'all work the night shift and y'all at work and still in time off the clock You he really cutting into your circadian rhythm. He really you really missing your melatonin release being on the phone at late So he need to be up at round. He need to be calling you round eight 9 p.m. At the latest so unless y'all got a weird working schedule, you know something like that That that's the issue right there. And then the other thing is When men start doing unrealistic stuff like calling at You know every morning Knowing that they're not going to be able to keep that up. You can't really expect that stuff You know, you can't really get caught up on that stuff every time I wake up My wife already be out of bed and I text every morning and I say hey love or hey baby or hey Boo or something like that and she'll say hey, then I'll say I love you and she'll say I love you too I say I miss you and We we was in the bed all night But I just see the first thing on my mind when I wake up I could maintain that not to get on the phone The caller with morning breath knowing that she just in the gym or in the kitchen then I ain't gonna be able to maintain that You know, because someone in You ain't gonna feel it. So he started something that he couldn't keep up anyways um Alex God bless you Am I supposed to push and encourage him to communicate effectively? I ask him real-life questions and he answers evasively um The way you push them. Yes, you are But the way you do it is you may have to Change your approach, you know, so you can't just You can't just keep hitting the same way You may have to have a different environment, you know a different setting a different time of day You may have to learn how to phrase your questions differently. You may have to do it over Over a card game over if y'all drink you a little brew skill some red wine You may have to shift your approach on that and um That'll change now hold on somebody had the 299 question. I just saw that down there. I was looking Let me see if somebody had one of those Because those right there just show up in the chat Okay, no, no, that's Chanel with the 499 No, I ain't see no 299 T Johnson sent my blessing Hey y'all lowest Hey y'all God bless you God bless. I'm finna get on up off of him I plan to be on here an hour tonight. My phone gonna die, but I really really appreciate y'all um Not a mar night. I don't know if I'll be able to come on here tomorrow night to do our normal 9 p.m Because Uh, if somebody had a dollar 99 or 299 question, I miss you Put your question in there right now if that was you say, hey, you miss me Put your question in there. I might see it or might not see it depending on how many people talking but um Tomorrow my son 13th birthday So we probably might still be part of the night away at 9 p.m. Where I normally come on So, uh, y'all Forgive me on that and I try to make it up Monday night or Tuesday night But uh, God bless you and appreciate y'all for coming on here and thank you To earlier somebody signed up for the life coach certification And guess what use the coupon code the right way that right there bless my heart that bless my heart So to the new coach Um coaches that signed up God bless you and remember if you go to sign up on tonigas and academy make sure you use the coupon code the right way It's my mentor Samantha. Hey appreciate you with that buzzer beater. God bless you. We'll talk soon