 The next one is not every man who wants to sleep with you will want to date or be in a relationship with you and this is I think this one's really important especially in kind of the age of Tinder because there's a lot of women who they they like match with this dude and they're like oh my god he's so amazing and then they go and they they keep kind of getting into these hookup situations and falling in love with these players and stuff and it's like you know maybe you should be looking for some of the other things that are going on there right there's there's a saying out there that goes just because he makes a good date doesn't mean that he makes a good mate right and you want to make sure that I mean you know like players they're really good at making you feel good right like players can can make you feel really really good about yourself narcissists do this as well right and it's one of those things where it's like you know if you're just looking at how does he make me feel right now in the moment and not looking at is this guy a good person for me to actually be with long term then you might end up getting yourself into a lot of trouble