 Well today we're looking at 1st Peter chapter 3. We're going to look at verses 1 through 6 Now you're going to notice with me as we go through this. I'm going to break this into two sections We're going to look at Verses 1 through 6 together and then next time we're together. We'll look at verse 7 verses 1 through 6 in 1st Peter speak concerning wives and then verse 7 Speaks concerning husbands and there is a reason for that is because women require six Verses whereas men are so perfect. We only needed a mention and that's I mean that's a Bible. Come on now. Don't fight me. I Might not even teach verse 7. I don't think we need to So we'll be looking at verses 1 through 6 today 1st Peter chapter 3 beginning at verse 1 Likewise you wives be submissive to your own husbands that even if some do not obey the word they Without a word may be won by the conduct of their wives When they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear Do not let your beauty be that outward adorning or of arranging the hair of wearing gold or of putting on fine apparel But let it be the hidden person of the heart With the incorruptible ornament of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God For in this manner in former times the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves being submissive to their own husbands as Sarah obeyed Abraham calling him Lord whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror and So as we begin here, we note that Peter is continuing a thought a thought concerning proper submission to authority When you look in chapter 2 at verse 12, you'll note that he had Exorded believers to live honorably before unbelievers and began to instruct them how to do so So in verses 13 through 17, he instructed us concerning submission to government in Verses 18 through 20 he spoke of submission to a master's authority and then in verses 21 through 25 He used Jesus Christ as the greatest example of an individual who properly was in submission And so he's just continuing what he had already begun here in chapter 3 And he's instructing concerning a relationship of husbands and their wives He begins to turn his attention to the Christian community and he does so by by focusing on marriages This is the place that the church really has a genuine interface with the world when it comes to marriages because There are those who don't know the Lord who are married and there are those who do know the Lord who are married Seen that we're as human beings married We have a an interface that we can have in that we can speak concerning what makes our marriage is what they are and When we have good marriages in the Lord, they provide a great testimony to people who might have a question Concerning those things that they see to be resident within us and in our relationships And so he's beginning to speak concerning Christian marriages Now he's been writing concerning submission and he's now making it very practical He knows that a marriage can have a powerful witness And he knows that healthy relationships between husbands and wives is a cement that keeps a family together And therefore he begins by writing to the wife Now he's writing to wives, especially those who became Christians after they had been married You see if their husband was unsaved They would have questions related to remaining married to him because they were undoubtedly aware that believers are not to marry unbelievers remember who the Apostle Peter is writing to he's writing to Jewish people and Jewish people who had come to faith in Christ And so as he's writing concerning that and writing to the diaspora to those who have been scattered abroad He's writing to Jews and the Jews would have a knowledge of what the Old Testament said concerning marriage You see in the Old Testament in various places There are commands related to marriage and and one of the commands that is related to marriage is that that a Jewish individual was not to intermarry with a person who was not of the Jewish faith they were not to be married to unbelievers referred to in scripture as pagans as the heathens Because the Jewish nation had a covenantal relationship with God and it was the Jews Responsibility to be faithful to their God and therefore God says in his word in the Old Testament that the Jews were not to have marriages with unbelievers You can see that in various places one example is Deuteronomy 7 verses 3 and 4 Where it says nor shall you make marriages with them. You shall not give your daughter to their son Nor take their daughter for your son for they will turn your sons away from following me to serve other gods So the anger of the Lord will be aroused against you and destroy you suddenly God had said do not intermarry do not make covenantal relationships with unbelievers because What is going to happen is they will turn your heart from me You see when a believer marries an unbeliever. It's easier for the believer to be influenced by the unbeliever than vice versa and So God in his wisdom gives instructions to Israel and says do not marry Unbelievers why they will turn your heart from me Man in scripture by the name of Solomon is regarded as the wisest man This is the one who when God was speaking to him on one occasion the Lord God speaking to Solomon had said to him asked Make your request can be as high as heaven. What do you desire from me? And I'll do it for you and we all know his answer his answer was well. I'm basically just a child I don't even know how to go in and outside of the of the house without protection I'm just an immature individual you've given to me the relationship with as a king over this great people Give me wisdom and so his request of God was that he might have wisdom so that he might govern God's people And and God said well you didn't ask for victory over your enemies. You didn't ask for wealth You didn't ask for lands and various things like that I'm going to give you wisdom as well as these other things And so he's known as being the wisest man in the Old Testament and yet according to first Kings chapter 11 verses 1 through 3 But King Solomon loved many foreign women as well as the daughter of Pharaoh Women of the Moabites Ammonites Edomites Sidonians hit tights up tights out of sight cellulites. He married all the ice There areites everywhere He married all these women and it says from the nation of whom the Lord had said to the children of Israel You shall not intermarry with them nor they with you Surely they will turn away your heart after their gods Solomon clung to these in love and he had seven hundred wives. Oh Princesses and three hundred concubines Yeah, and his wives turned away his heart Seven hundred women in his life and his wives turned away his heart So God had warned them. He said do not make Relationships like that with unbelievers white. They will turn your heart from me Solomon's a prime example of that Indeed his heart was turned from the Lord Now this command not to marry unbelievers is not only found in the old. It's also found in the new in Second Corinthians chapter 6 verse 14 Paul said do not be unequally yoked together With unbelievers for what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness What communion has light with darkness? What do you have in common with someone who doesn't love Jesus Christ? What do you find so attractive about them so that they draw you from your walk with Jesus Christ the fact that you're drawn to somebody who doesn't love Christ Reveals more about you than it does about them The fact that you have a desire to be with somebody who doesn't love the Lord and doesn't care about Jesus dying on the cross Says more about my faith than it does about their lack of it and that's why Paul would say that What do you have in common with an unbeliever? What do you have in common with with with somebody who doesn't know the Lord? What what in common does light have with darkness? What in common does God have with Satan? There's nothing in common is the whole point that he's making and so we are forbidden in the old as well as the New to have relationships of such nature with those who don't know the Lord Now the people here that the Apostle Peter is writing to in 1st Peter chapter 3 These are people who are undoubtedly those who became saved after they got married And so similar to the the case with the Corinthians are beginning to wonder what they should do Should they divorce these people that they're married to? You see in 1st Corinthians those who have been with me on Sunday nights will know this in 1st Corinthians chapter 7 The Apostle Paul has begun to answer questions that the Church of Corinth has actually been asking him and one of the questions related to marriage Covenantal relationships of marriage and and they were beginning to think should we divorce our unsaved spouse Seeing that we are now saved and they're unsaved and we're not supposed to be unequally yoke together with them believers Should we get divorced and the Apostle Paul had to answer that question? And he does so in 1st Corinthians 7 12 and 13 when he says to the rest I not the Lord say If any brother has a wife who does not believe and she's willing to live with him Let him not divorce her and a woman who has a husband who does not believe if he is willing to live with her Let her not divorce him So he said no you remain with him if they're willing to remain with you Because in doing so you'll have opportunity to remain together Perhaps win him to faith in Christ and raise your children together So if you're not to divorce him then what should a person do is marry to an unbeliever Well the Apostle Peter as well as the Apostle Paul would have the same answer do your best to influence them for the kingdom of God So he begins in verse 1 here in 1st Peter chapter 3 by saying likewise you wives be submissive to your own husbands Likewise in the same manner be submissive Now he's not speaking of them comparing themselves to slaves He's saying Likewise in that Jesus Christ himself was submitted as a greatest example of submission Likewise, you should be submitted to he's continuing the theme of submission Obviously in in our culture the idea of a woman submitting to her husband is really looked at as being just well It's an idea that's rejected. It's not something that is common to be accepted as a matter of fact It's it's it's rebelled against I mean imagine me standing up in front of the National organization of women in teaching this passage to them Imagine how happy they would be with me if I sit up and said women submit to your husbands Do you think they'd stand up and say oh, yes the voice of a God we shall do that? No after they finished beating me I Mean they would not like that you know that and I know that the world rejects the idea of submission Let alone a woman actually submitting herself to her husband. I Mean in our day and age it's very common for the husbands to be mocked Anyway, husbands are looked at as being really stupid If you don't think so and some would argue that point watch TV watch a commercial You know the guy's sitting there and the wife walks in and says we need to get a new car. He goes, okay What kind should we get? I don't even know where to start though Well, I say we need to start at the starting line and there's the start and he steps out and she's in front This is the car. I want that's what we see today And there are a lot of husbands who resent that and I understand why we don't even know how to fix our own computers Do we we sit there? Oh, well go up to get a new one and she says oh, no, all you got to do is push this button here stupid Oh, whoa, honey. You're a goddess. Yeah, I'm going out with the girls and I and I see these commercials They're so insulting. They're so insulting to men, but it's okay, right? It's okay to insult men and so the idea of Submission is not something that is really Well, it's not looked at as being a great thing. You have to learn that submission is part of the proper order of God and secondly You have to learn the value of your husband's soul Why would it be important to submit that he may be one for Jesus Christ? You have to value the husband's soul and that's the context by the way, that's what he's dealing with here he's dealing with the fact that this woman is married to an unbeliever and the greatest thing that she should have is not Domination for her rights But how can my husband come to faith in Jesus Christ? How valuable is his soul? And so what he's writing to is he's writing to women who may have it very difficult She's living with what has been called a beloved unbeliever Someone who doesn't have a relationship with God through Jesus Christ And this is a person who doesn't show any interest notice how it says likewise you wives be submissive to your own husband That even if some do not obey the word they without a word may be won by the conduct of the wives So what she's dealing with is a very difficult situation She has a husband who is objecting to her faith in Christ now You need to know that in the context of this during the time of the writing that a Jewish woman For her to change her religion would have been Unthinkable you see if a man came to faith in Christ He simply would take his wife and family to church Because he could do that but a Jewish woman coming to faith in Christ Well, that was an unheard of thing because she was under the Subjection to her husband and therefore for a Jewish woman to actually turn to Christ would have been an amazing thing For the Greek woman well the Greek during the time of the writing The Greek woman was the wife was the woman that the husband had his legitimate children with Very often the Greek man had some women on the side that he enjoyed sexually But but he had his legitimate children with his wife and and what she basically did is she stayed home and made the Home for him while he went out and enjoyed his life The Romans were different in that the women there actually were under the domination of the father So a little girl born into the home had the father who would rule over her in in the Roman society and The father had in her life He had the power of life and death he could actually have her put to death or put her to death with impunity And when she got married he transferred that right to the husband So with that knowledge that the Jewish woman would not would not normally come to faith in Christ because of Jewish religion and the Greeks didn't allow for that neither did the Romans You can see how how courageous and what a miracle it would be For this woman to come to faith in in the Lord Jesus Christ, but now that she has come to faith in Christ How is she going to win her husband to the Lord? Well, he says be submissive to your own husbands Notice he doesn't say well just divorce him He doesn't say argue with him. He doesn't say Preach to him or transform him improve him perfect him He doesn't say that He says submit to him when I used to do premarital counseling. I've shared this before but It bears repetition at this point When I used to do the premarital counseling here in the church I would sit down with the young man and the young woman and I would do several weeks of premarital counseling and I can still remember I would look at the young man Also known as victim. I would look at him and I would say to victim. I would say In every relationship there are certain things about the partner that you begin to observe and realize ought to be changed have you observed anything in your young lady's life that You think ought to change upon marriage or prior to marriage and the guy would kind of sit there looking around the room Kind of like a bobblehead doll, you know No, I Said there's nothing at all about her that you think could change No She's perfect Yep, that's okay honey, I'd say to the young woman and This young man that's about to marry you. Is there anything that you would like to change and she'd pull out this list and just You want it to be alphabetical order or numerically? I Mean she had a list she always did she always had a list always He never had one He's like the ox going to slaughter. No, no, no, I'm gonna have a happy day. No, you're not you're getting your head cut off He didn't have a clue He never did because he just didn't see these things because he's thinking of his marriage night It's all he's saying about a honeymoon And she's thinking you know what? He's gonna have to start picking up his socks He's gonna have to lose 10 pounds. He's got I mean she had a list of things and so I think it's part of human nature. There is just this desire to to perfect and transform to teach instruct. I mean, you know You take him he goes with you shopping You treat him like a little boy if you buy him an ice cream, he'll sit there and eat the ice cream while you shop You know that kind of thing and a lot of women still think that way about their men they do And we have timeout chairs in some of the stores that we go to you guys have been there in the timeout chair I've been there many times. I sit there next to the guy. How long you here for man? What you do? You got to the shoes yet. No, oh man, don't even go there I actually have had some real fun conversations with other victims on the timeout chair Purgatory exists. It's called the mall How are you gonna change your husband? Gonna lecture him into change You're gonna tell him if you don't change this is gonna change You bargain with them argue with them perfect him teach them train them Marie and I were newlyweds within the first few months of our marriage and as Is common I think in just relationship. There are things that she discovered about me that were less than perfect and On one occasion I still remember having a conversation with my newly brought newlywed bride and and I remember some of it I remember saying something like You know, I didn't marry my mom. I Didn't want to marry my mom If I wanted a mom, I wouldn't be married to you. I married a woman I Said and the reason I married a woman is because I'm in love with the woman And I don't want that woman changing me because she doesn't think that I'm doing what she wants and therefore we're at an impasse here And we're gonna have a talk Because I don't play that If you want me to change talk to me But don't try and change me because that's God's work That's what God does And I'm willing to change For you But don't change me because I didn't marry my mom. I married you. I don't want to be babied I want to be treated with respect. That's how it works. And you know what my wife after I woke up said that's okay She put that board away and she learned her lesson When I got out of that hospital, I showed her who was a blast We did have a conversation that was like that and It was a very important one because the fact of the matter is ladies if you want your husband to change Then the one who changes is you and if I want my wife to change then I change Because my wife responds to me See she responds to me and see because I'm a husband who wants to love my wife and I want to do the right thing Then I have a tendency of responding to the changes So when God is working in her life makes me want to be a godly man Makes me want to be more in the word. It makes me want to be more prayerful It makes me want to be the kind of man that she should have But if she started lecturing me saying you don't read to me and you don't pray with me and you don't do devotions with the kids Yeah, I'm still obstinate enough to say, you know, is that important? Yeah Well, okay, I understand that but that doesn't mean that I'm gonna do what you want on your timetable We're gonna have a problem here and so a long time ago We learned that if we want change we change ourselves and the Apostle Peter is simply saying ladies He is saying they can be Opsonately opposed to the things of the gospel when he says and I want you to notice this that even some in verse 1 Do not obey the word. He is speaking of aggressive disobedience here This is the husband who says I don't like the changes I've seen in you I don't like the fact that you get up on Sunday go to church and then you want to go back Sunday night I don't like the idea of you being in a woman's group And I don't like the idea of you going on Wednesday night. Come on We got married to be together and now you don't want to be with me anymore. What's up with this and I don't like this and he's aggressively disobedient. You used to be a lot of fun We used to go to Vegas we used to go out and dance we used to go to bars We used to do all these things and now you're not wanting to do that anymore. You're not the woman I'm married. I don't like he's aggressively disobedient to the word. He doesn't want that He wants you the way you used to be is what the apostle Peter speaking about. He's aggressively disobedient. I do not like that I don't like the things that you're doing. I don't like how you've changed Now the woman has gone to church. He hears Bible studies. She sees other couples there in church She she wants her husband to be with her. She comes home. She begins to share with them She begins to minister to him. She wants him to get saved She goes into his car and puts all the presets on 107.9 She makes him a sandwich for lunch and he opens up the sandwich begins to eat He tastes something moves the bread and finds a piece of paper. Maren does not live by bread alone He says he's crazy. What happened to this woman? He's aggressively disobedient. He doesn't like what she's become How does that work? How do you how do you bring change? What can be done? Well, he says without a word they may be won by the conduct of the wife You can use your influence for good When he says without a word may be one that word one is a term that is used in missions It speaks of winning them to favor winning them to the Lord So what can possibly be done to win them to the Lord? He says verse 2 they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear They they watch you that word observes a very strong Greek word It's what we would today call instant replay. It would be an instant replay kind of Observation when you're looking very intensely at the screen So he watches you because husbands will watch the wife And they can learn the wife not by what she says But by what she is What she is If my wife is saying to me I love you, but she's always Disrespecting me then I think she doesn't understand what the word love means If my wife saying I'm being patient with you as she's yelling at me I don't think she understands what the word patience means And so I observe her because I've told Marie many times I appreciate the fact that she'll tell me that she loves me and I do Appreciate hearing that and as a human being I I need to hear those words. I love you That means a lot to me But I've told my own wife more than once over the years Don't just tell me show me I want to see what love is. I want to know what it is in your activities not in your words because talk is cheap But activities different and that's basically what he's saying They observe you and they're looking for two things one is for your modesty your chaste conduct and the others your reverence or your fear So there are two things he's looking at he's saying he's looking at Your modest behavior the way that you live he's seen your character revealed in your activity And he's seen your reverence for God that is acted out in your respect for him your genuine admiration and These are the things that draws his heart to the woman Not just her outward beauty. That's why he says in verse 3 do not let your beauty be that outward adorning of range in the hair Or wearing gold or putting on fine apparel But let it be the hidden person of the heart with the incorruptible ornament of a gentle and quiet spirit Which is very precious in the sight of God So he's saying it's not just the outward attractiveness and thank God for the outward attractiveness, of course And you see your wife and you find her beautiful and you're attractive to attractive to her. That's a good thing When you see the girl that you eventually begin to date and you want to get married Many times we men the first thing we notice is her beauty and we do notice outward beauty and there's nothing wrong with that See there are some there are some denominations some churches that teach that Peter is saying that a woman shouldn't do her hair. She shouldn't wear jewelry She shouldn't wear makeup and all in and and I've said this before I thank God for makeup Makeups a good thing on women when I see men with makeup, but women with makeup. That's a good thing The barn needs painting, you know That's another wrong with that I'm gonna get run out of town on a rail. I know that I'm treading thin ice But the bottom line is is he is not forbidding a woman to have herself made beautiful, but remember your beauty This is something that will help you. I'm I know Ladies your beauty is reserved for God and your husband That's who your beauty is reserved for It's not reserved for some other man on the job. It certainly isn't reserved for one of the neighbors It is not reserved to compete with other women who are beautiful Your beauty is reserved for your husband That's what's reserved for and that's why he can safely trust in you because your beauty is for him The reason that you get dressed the way that you do and all of that is so that you might be attractive to him Many years ago. I learned that lesson through my wife we would go shopping like we did yesterday and She would put on something and walk out like she did yesterday and will say How do I look in this and? I'm a man and I'd look at her and I'd say Let's go It looks fine She said no, is it's nice? This is the truth. I Would say I Don't care. I'm not wearing it Often no No, I'm not gonna wait and that's what I'd say. I'd say honey. I don't care. Let's get out of here. You know I'm feeling awkward I'm sitting here and I can see women in these dressing rooms and I see dresses and pants falling on the ground I don't want to see that I want to get out of here. So just buy it and The Lord had to speak to me about that He said because I tell her what does it matter? Look at when I go to buy jeans. I don't walk and put on how do I look? I don't even try them on Yeah, give me those let's get out of here. I don't do that You know I I don't do that you walk in you have to try 14 dresses on and then we leave in none of them It drives me crazy and then you buy one in you bring it back. Why? Why do you do that? Me I grab the jeans and and that's just the way it is. We'll put these things on later on Let's get out of here, right? That's just is that your right size. You want to try a different shirt on? No, I don't even want to I don't want to try this one on. I just want to get it Let's get out of here. I don't like this. I'm in hell. Don't you see the Lord spoke to me? He said her beauty is reserved for you and She's putting that on so that you can approve it Because it's your vote that matters So I learned that the first thing she puts on is the most beautiful thing I've ever seen in my life Nothing can top that you've just hit a home run bases loaded We won the game She got two home runs yesterday Your beauty is reserved for your husband Not for the women you're competing with Not with For the guy on the job Not for somebody it's for your husband if you're married. That's who your beauty is reserved When you're single your beauty is an expression of your heart and It can be an act of worship to your God But it doesn't have to be so that you feel good about yourself Because of the way you're looking because after all how I feel about me is the most important thing in the universe Because unfortunately and we all understand and know this Because women know that men see and so they dress so that we will see them They will wear all kinds of things that can move from just nice to the immodest and I've noticed and it's the summer, but I've noticed that Some of the things that women are wearing today, especially the younger women And then the older ones who think they're young which is very sad indeed You've heard of the mushroom, right? They put on pants and they're They look like a mushroom that is not pretty That should not be outside. I'm just telling you Don't do it man But some of these young ladies are wearing running pants that are looking I thought there were underwear They're running in their calcones. They're running in their underwear Very immodest and then they're pushing their tops ups, you know when they're running they're getting black eyes It's just dangerous. It's just dangerous. Don't run like that. It should be illegal Dress modestly. You're more than your figure you're more than Than the outward appearance. That's what the apostle is saying the apostle Paul in 1st Timothy 2 9 and 10 said like this Said it like this He said I want women to be modest in their appearance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and Not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes For women who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the good things they do So it's not the outer appearance at all You see during the time of the writing the Greek women had nothing to do at home So they played dress up all day long they adorned their hair they put on the costly jewelry and they played house and He's saying you're acting as if you have nothing more important to do than just to adorn your outside You're much more than you're outside. You are a child of God You're beautiful from the inside out and not only that it's like what it says in in the book of Proverbs 31 10 It speaks of a man being attracted to the beauty of your heart when it says in verse 10 in Proverbs 31 Who can find a virtuous woman her price is far above rubies and then in verse 30 of the same chapter goes on to say favor Is deceitful beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord she shall be praised And that's how it works the beauty. I didn't even notice that my wife Marie is a beautiful woman I didn't even notice that for a long time Because what I saw with her was her heart It was her heart when I met Marie and She sat down and spoke to me. I said there's something different about this young lady. There's something different about her She is just immediate immediately likeable There's something about her that is very attractive She just had that general sense when she came to faith in Christ. It just exploded we got married and It took me I think two or three years until I finally started actually realizing that not only was my wife Beautiful from her heart But my wife is a beautiful woman and and I never even realized that because she warned me by her conduct She warned me by the way. She is I could trust this woman here She I could I could give her my heart and she won't break it See I had other relationships not many but others and I that they didn't do well, you know And it was mostly my fault It's just a fact but when I finally got the courage to tell this this young woman. I Love you. I still remember how I did it. I I Held my hands out like this and I said Marie. I'm gonna tell you something and I said in I said for a moment Think about it in my hands is my heart. I'm handing my heart to you and I said It breaks very easily has been broken before and I went like this and I said I'm giving it to you Please don't break my heart Please I still remember that and I said I love you and that's when I finally broke down and said to her I love you and I have never taken that heart back because she's been worthy of that love That's how it works and it isn't the outside It's been the heart and that's what he's speaking about and he finally says Four in verse five and six in this manner in former times the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves being submissive to their own Husbands as Sarah obeyed Abraham calling him Lord whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror So Marie and I were dating we're on a drive It's gonna take us a couple hours to get to where we're going. I say to her we ought to read the Bible She said that'd be good. I she says anything in particular. I said first Peter chapter 3 She says okay She opens it begins to read she gets the verse 6 and it reads out loud as Sarah obeyed Abraham calling him Lord And I said wait, what did that say? She said as Sarah obeyed Abraham calling him Lord. I said that is so good. That's Bible I said Lord David sounds very very good to me So from now on you can call me Lord She didn't she's rebellious Lord she showed him reverence and respect now remember for a moment that Sarah is not her original name her originally Mr. I Say our AI sir. I sir. I was married to a man named Abram and so the Lord God appears to Abram begins to give him these Incredible promises of how he's going to multiply his seed if you number the the grains of sand or you can count the stars That's how many are going to call you father and and all of that But over time nothing happens and finally Sarai approaches her husband and says why don't you just go into my handmade? Hagar and and She'll conceive through you and you can bring she can bring forth the child and and that child will be mine Because she's my she's my handmade and she'll be your concubine and and legally I can raise a child as mine It'll be called mine and therefore just do that. So Abram has relations with Hagar she gives birth to Ishmael and He thinks that the promise has been fulfilled in Ishmael So later on the Lord begins to minister to Abram again And and Abram says to him may Ishmael live before you and God says I'm not blessing you through it Ishmael No, no, it's through Sarah Sarai that that my promise will be fulfilled And Sarai is doing something other women wouldn't do they'd never think of it They're she's in the tent listening in on the conversation her husband's having with God and other women wouldn't do that They'd be busy straightening up the tent and all of that, but there she is What's going on and she's listening and she laughs I'm 90 years old There's no way I'm gonna get pregnant And God says to Abram why did Sarah Sarai laugh and and and his wife begins to answer God I didn't laugh she's saying that from the tent. I didn't laugh. Yes, you did You did laugh I heard you laugh But just so that you know I'm capable of keeping my promises This time next year you're gonna have a child 90 years old You're gonna have a child and you're gonna name them Isaac Isaac means laughter So when you have laughter and you call laughter you will remember Nothing's too hard for the Lord nothing and so Later on God changes Abram's name to Abraham father of many nations and God changes Sarai's name to Sarah Sarai means Dominate of Sarah means princess Abram means exalted high father Abraham means father of many nations What's interesting is the changing of the name just requires a letter the letter H Sarai is changed to Sarah when you pronounce it properly the H has a sound Sir, ah and neighbor. It has that those of you who've been to Israel when you hear Hebrew spoken you'll hear that sound and That is a breathe a breathing that takes place when you pronounce the word sir. Ah is a breathing The word breath in Hebrew is Ruach Because the sound Ruach Ruach is a breath It can also be spoken of as the spirit of God or the breath of God the thing that made Sarah Sarai Sarah is the breath of God When God breathes on this woman and made her a princess how can you influence your husband by walking in the spirit of God and Learning that it's not the inside Rather the outside it's the inside that matters and God can breathe on you and move you from being one way By his spirit into being another way He can transform you and that's why she was able to say of her husband You are my Lord not that you're my God, but that you have authority in my life I she could say who has been a dominator and now Submitted to the man God is using in my life that I can be the kind of wife Sarah would say That you need to have in your life How does that take place ladies by the breathing of the Holy Spirit in your life to transform you? from one person to the other