 just friends with and interact with is to live a better overall life. As we just settle down in the room, just because, we'll wait till everybody kind of takes their seats. Let me just talk about David Tien, PhD. I actually first heard about David from the academic world. I had friends who are, I mean like, just tremendously, tremendously intelligent guys. But then I heard about him in the dating world, here, here, here and there, and he was on the other side of the world in Singapore, and it just kind of grew and grew and grew. And after a while, you start to get these clients who are just like, no man, no this guy. And I'm like, is he a professor or something like that? Anyway, it turns out that he went from professor to being this amazing dating coach. He has a radio show. He's kind of like the source of so much going on in all of Asia when it comes to dating and seduction and lifestyle. And what I see from this guy is living a good, clean life, a solid message. I really respect him for that. I've talked to him on the phone and interacted with him. We've just shared different friendships and stuff like that. It's great to finally meet him and shake his hand just a couple hours ago. Let's bring him on to the stage. Welcome, David Tien. Thank you, thank you. Awesome, man. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Take it away, man. Thank you. It is an honor to be here, really fluent from Singapore and really pumped up to be speaking in front of you. I remember back in the day when the 21 convention was just starting up and seeing the videos on YouTube and thinking, wow, this is an amazing opportunity. And the fact that Anthony was putting up these videos for free back then was without any charge. There's no like 9.99 for the first week and at two months later, you can cancel it. All that stuff, it was just free. And now I'm really honored to be part of that lineup and to contribute to that. So great to meet Steve and Anthony. I wanna thank them both for the invitation and great to see them finally in person. Now, being out in Singapore, I'm sort of isolated from all my mentors. So a lot of my training and coaching was over Skype. I flew in about once every year or so back to North America to do my check-in with my professors for my research as well as to hook up with my mentors. And that was it. I get my once a year thing. So a lot of what I did was just based on a few Skype calls here and there, a bunch of emails, but really a lot of it out of my own experience. And what I'm giving you today is a talk called honesty as a cornerstone of attraction. And I found that for myself, when I discovered the power of honesty and being genuine, it really took my social life to the next level. And I hope to show you how that came about. What I'm gonna show you today is also inspired by my own study. My PhD was in Asian cultures at University of Michigan and I was in Beijing for four years before I moved to Singapore. All of that was in research in East Asian religion, East Asian philosophy. And what I'm showing you today actually resonates very closely with over thousands of years of East Asian philosophy, religion, including Confucianism, Neo-Confucianism, Taoism, Buddhism. I'm not sure how you guys feel about that, but I think it's pretty cool that a lot of what I'm covering today has been thought and taught by very wise men throughout the ages, as well as in the Christian tradition through spiritual cultivation and specifically in the Jesuit tradition. So a lot of this is not PUA. I mean, my background was pickup, I guess. That's where I came out of it in 2005 after being separated from my wife at that time and then getting a divorce and having to just pick up the pieces as a 30-year-old Asian dude in a town of 100,000 people, mainly white, where all the hot girls were 20-year-old sorority girls who didn't go to clubs because they weren't of age and you had to break into the frat. And the frat houses were worse than clubs because in a club you could just flash your black Amex or pay some money, buy a table. But in a frat, they don't really care how much money you have. So it was really working from the ground up. And so what I'm teaching you today is a lot of it is gonna be based on what inspired me through over 15 years of university study and then going on to be a professor at the National University of Singapore teaching Asian philosophy. So although it's coming out of this pickup world, most of this is really not having anything to do with the POA and it's been three or four years since I've been in that community. So it's refreshing today actually on this panel to be a sandwich between two fitness talks. It makes me feel very decreepified as a result of that. So as I'm showing you, there's honesty and there are two parts. We're gonna look at the inner and the outer. Very simple, inner and outer. We're gonna start with the inner. The inner part of using honesty is basically, I'm gonna use the example of overcoming limiting beliefs. Your limiting belief could take any form. It could be you're too short, you're too tall, you're too fat, you're too thin, you're too black, you're too white, whatever it is that you are, you could just change that into limiting beliefs. It's amazing how many limiting beliefs there are out there. So let's take a limiting belief. So you're gonna use honesty to overcome limiting beliefs. And there are many ways actually to overcome limiting beliefs. You could use NLP and hypnosis and I've used those to good effects in the past. But that takes specialized training and specialized skills and knowledge that maybe you don't have. So what I'm gonna show you today, the method of basically psychological archeology is something that you can use without any specialized skill or training. And probably you've already been using it to a limited extent. You just need to do more of it. So take a limiting belief. You start off by asking, is it true or false? So on the handout, I have it just written out in linear form, just horizontally. On this whiteboard here, I'm gonna use it. I'm gonna show it like a tree. And if you like truth trees or decision trees, it'll be from top down. Okay, true or false? Let's take a belief, I don't know, let's say I'm too old to get girls I like, right? Let's take old age, right? All right, you feel that one? Okay, so let's say you're, I don't know. I hear this from my clients who are in their 40s and they like girls who are in the 20s. So they're thinking, oh, I'm 20 years older than that girl. It's a limiting, this is gonna limit my opportunities in dating, what can I do? Well, the first thing you're gonna do is, you're gonna reflect, reflect. Okay, and along with reflection is research, reflect, research. Okay, so that's the first. So you notice under inner, I had R and R. R and R, which is when you have a limiting belief at the aura dating academy would say you need some R and R. So it's reflecting and reframing. So the first is reflecting. If it's, first with reflecting you ask yourself, is it true that women will not like a man who is older? Then you just do some research. Go on Google, go look through the psychology journals, the science journals, go ask them some experts. And it turns out that the research shows that women actually prefer men who are older. The minimum of two years, but up to five years in many cases, and that as women age, they actually prefer men who are even older. So a woman in her 30s will prefer a man in his 40s. A woman in her 40s will date a man in his 60s. And that's because as you age, your life experiences tend to be less different. Versus 18 and 21. So you do the research and you find out, hey, actually being older is an advantage in dating. So then you say, well, then it must be false that women don't like me because I'm old. So that limiting belief is false. But if it's a deep-seated limiting belief, just learning that first surface level of it won't destroy the limiting belief. You're like, yeah, okay, I know rationally that I shouldn't feel this way, but I still do, right? And then you need to condition your mind. Condition, you do mental, emotional conditioning. So this idea of research then conditioning is gonna be repeated on the rest of the truth tree. I'll just show you very briefly how you can do conditioning on old age. So let's say you're an older guy, you're in the 40s, you wanna get a day to grow in the 20s. One easy way of conditioning it is looking at images or seeing videos or meeting people in real life, guys who are older dating younger women. And the world is replete with these. Take an example, Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones, she's 20 years as junior, right? You can just, instead of having Justin Bieber photos like you probably do all over your wall, you wanna take those down and replace them with representations of the ideal you, of the life that you wanna lead, of the reality that you wanna have as your own, right? So we have these ideas, these limiting beliefs that come to us through various means. They could be through the media, they could be through society, through our parents or our peers. What you need to do is cut out all of the negative sources that are giving you these limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering sources that support the belief.