 Like he was cooking and she tries to come and she holds him and he pushes her back. I know. I know. Is it on now? Welcome back to Spoonsville. Welcome. Today we're covering... Oof. Take this waltz. Yes. Yes. It's Canadian film. It is a Canadian film. It's my turn to do the 20-second video we're getting. Stop, stop, stop for them while I get it all set up. I don't want to do. Okay. Breed synopsis 20 seconds to explain the movie just for a refresher or for people that haven't seen it but don't care to get things spoiled. There, you know? Yeah. Okay. So then they're on. There we go. All right. And go. The movie is about a couple. The wife is... She wants things and the husband doesn't give the... I can't. It's like six seconds. Okay. Give me... I'll take a shot. Okay. The movie follows a married couple. The wife is unhappy, basically. They are in love but she wants certain things. Intimacy, something. But like, she doesn't actually express what it is that she wants. We have an idea of what she wants. So basically, yeah, she's not completely happy in their relationship anymore. Four seconds left. And then there's a guy that comes into the picture and... That's fine. Over a thought. There's a guy next door. She meets while she's working and she writes for tourist websites. She's a writer for tourist websites and she's doing a story. She's traveled to some part of Canada. This is a Canadian film. And she meets this guy and they're interested in each other instantly. Sparks fly. And then the entire movie just basically follows them trying... toying with the idea of being together or trying not to go through with their feelings, what they feel, or act on their feelings for each other, which are very clear. She's married. She doesn't want to cheat. She doesn't want to leave the husband. She's going to... She's worried about hurting him. And so, as they interact, she keeps like... Going back to the husband and trying to reignite the sparks that she feels are missing in their relationship. In the hopes of not cheating and in the hopes of her, like, if maybe the sparks she manages to reignite the sparks with the husband, then maybe she'll forget about the guy. But the husband, it doesn't take the bait. And she does end up cheating, basically. In fact, does she cheat? She actually ends up... She doesn't cheat but leaves the husband, ultimately. Depends on what you can consider cheating. I guess it depends on what you consider cheating. Yeah, it depends on what you consider cheating. But it is so much. I never heard anything about it, unfortunately. Like a lot of Canadian movies. They just fly... There's no big radar. Completely slips under the giant radar. Which is interesting because Seth Rogen is in it. Yeah. And he's big. Michelle Williams is in there. Yeah. And that guy, what's his name? Well, who's that guy? Luke? I haven't actually seen him in a lot of movies, but he probably is. Probably in something. We should put a picture of him there and his name, too. Put it. Yeah. So it is... You would have... I don't know. Like, maybe it was big. Who knows? I don't know. It is an old movie. Yeah. Maybe at the time it was big? I'm not sure. Yeah. So good. Yeah, it is. It's a good movie. I feel like this movie is just one of those movies that a lot of people are going to have extremely conflicting views because we talked about how, you know, well, okay, what is cheating, right? Right. Because they never kiss before she's married, before she leaves, Lou. Yeah. I mean, the husband whose name I can't... It is Lou. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. And yeah, like they never get intimate. However, there is that longing. There's that pining. There is fantasizing verbally to tell them about what could be said. There's lying involved, too. There's almost physical intimacy and, you know, there is that connection that they both entertain. Yeah. So that could also be cheating, isn't it? But at the same time, there's that effort on her end to try not to. Yeah. That recognition that she made a commitment and to her as her husband who she cares about and doesn't want to hurt. Yeah. And there's also... It's really tricky, right? Because, Lou's sister in the end is like, you know, life is hard, basically, something like life is hard. You just don't like up and leave it and, okay, well, if you don't like this little slice of life, this bit, this section of or this chapter of your life when it doesn't go as much as the way that you wanted to, doesn't mean you leave. Yeah. You know, you have an entire... There's a book, yes. You know, and the chapters change, basically, which I totally understand. Yeah. Although then one could say, but it's kind of unfair to lay the complete blame of the marriage ending on her alone. Yeah. And I say this because truly, she made... She tried. She did? She tried like crazy. And they showed that. They really tried to show it. They showed that. Yeah. She tried like crazy throughout the relationship to ignite the sparks, to even talk to him about, you know, like, hey, let's say something. They went out for the anniversary dinner, remember? And nothing was happening. They were just literally there just quiet, not saying anything. And she's like, ooh, you know, which was... She's kind of like making a play on that kind of stuff that people say when this is... The conversation is a little bit weird. And then she's like, well, you know, we're not really talking and it's our anniversary. We're out, you know? And she's like, well, what am I going to talk to you about? I know everything about you. I live with you. There's nothing new. And then she's like, why are we out? Well, just for the food and being out somewhere nice. And I'm like, that is a concern. Yeah. But that's the thing. And that's why it's so well done is you can understand if he finds himself in this rut. That's where you're going to think. You're like, well, I mean, realistically, I'm just being honest here. We could have this conversation anytime we do. We have it all over. So why does... Just because we're out, it's our anniversary that we have to now talk and force conversations. Like, I don't want to just force conversation just so that we can have conversation. But at the same time, you can understand where she'd be frustrated because she's like, well, you know, that's... We can still talk just because you know everything about me. Like, there's still things we can talk about. There's still reasons to engage with each other. Exactly. And that, yeah, that would be very refreshing. I love movies like that where you can understand everyone's situation. Yeah. And I feel like I was completely annoyed with Lou, the husband, because this girl tried so hard. She tried so hard to be intimate with him. And also she tried to... She initiated, right? You know how sometimes guys will be like, oh, girls, a lot of times they don't initiate. And there are lots of societal reasons that that happens where women don't kind of maybe struggle a little bit to initiate things. But of course, it also does have to do with the dynamics of the relationship. Sometimes people, I think, even if they love each other, you do have relate people that are in relationships where they still don't feel comfortable enough to be vulnerable and ask for what they need. Add that to like anything sexual, then it comes even harder. She says that. And she says that. Like, she tries for a while. She keeps trying repeatedly. And she gets to a point where she's like, do you have any idea how much courage it takes for me to try to make the move, like to make the first move or, you know... And then each time you keep proving me right that I shouldn't be or that I don't have enough that it's not working. Yeah, exactly. And so basically each time you keep knocking me down and she's like what, and he's like, what courage do you need courage to do that with your husband? Right, yeah. You know, so he knocks her down each time. There's no conversation. If, you know, like if a husband or a wife expresses that it takes courage for me to ask you for stuff, this is when you sit down and say, honey, like why? Why does it... What is it that I'm doing that makes you feel afraid to approach me? This is your wife. Your... The hope is that a marriage is going to be that kind of platform where everybody feels safe enough and secure enough and that they're in a space of non-judgment where they can actually express their needs and wants and be as vulnerable as they want and should be without any kind of negative repercussions, right? That's the point, I think. That's really the most... What you want in a marriage. And he doesn't facilitate that. He has this idea that, well, we're married, therefore, you should already, you know, like, no. Yeah. Yeah, which... And so they do a good job of not making him too dickish where you're like, oh yeah, leave him, get out of there. You're making the right choice because they're still overall, you know, like he's really sweet to everybody, all their friends and family, and he's really good to her, but still just not... There's some important things he's struggling with providing her, you know, and then you've got the other guy who's able to fill those parts that she needs, but then, you know, again, you see that part, and I think that's where sometimes people get tempted or long, you know, they make a choice like that because they think, oh, you know, because they kind of want to take everything that works with this one situation and be like, that person also would do the cute, fun stuff with me as well, but then they could also give me that other thing I need, you know, it's a totally different person, you know, but it's easy to make that assumption, and then like the great scene, we're talking about the shower, not only is it just like, I liked how they were willing to, full on nudity, you know, old, old big ladies. Oh yeah, the shower scene after the pool exercise. Yeah, where she peed in the pool, turned blue, I guess that's what chlorine does or something like that, and it was great. It was a very funny movie. And then, yeah, they're talking about, and then they're basically discussing kind of the theme of the movie, which is, you know, do you, are you, do you just accept and be satisfied with whatever kind of is your life, or do you want to change and how much do you sacrifice or change for something that you need or feel it? Yeah, like they're talking about things getting old, like they're talking about their relationship, basically, their marriages, these girls are talking about their marriages, and yeah, it's kind of boring, or it's not as exciting anymore. And then the one of the older ladies, also showering mentions, you know, everything gets old. Yeah, yeah. Or like new things get old too. Yeah, so don't be fooled. Don't be thinking, oh, okay, I'm gonna turn my life around because, you know, here's this other new shiny, new shiny thing. I think there are lots of themes in this movie that new things get old thing is one of them. So it's like, okay, fine, you are in a relationship, you're in a marriage, and now it's getting old, it's not as exciting as it used to be. I'm going to break up with, I'm going to divorce my husband, I'm going to find someone new, right? So the point, then if you reply that notion of new things get old, that means that relationship too is going to get old, and it's not going to be as exciting too. I think that is such a narrow minded way, first of all, of assessing relational dynamics or marriage in general. I think people have this idea of marriage or relationships where it's supposed to be that euphoria that you feel like the honeymoon phase has to last forever. And once that honeymoon phase ends, then it's not working anymore, then it's not working anymore, there are problems, or okay, well, it's that time again, or it's that time. Now we're in that old phase where we are just friends, we don't really even talk anymore, we're just married, you know what I mean? And oh, it's my wife. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, I think people just, and then a lot of people accept it. It's not even that they cheat or anything. It seems to me that people think the romance ends once you get married, and then once you get married, it's over. This movie reminded me of The Course of Love, Alan the Baton. This book, you got to read this book. Not getting paid for motion, it's just good. It's just good, we just love Alan the Baton. In the book, he talks about how everybody always asks, how did you meet? And that's the only thing that people are interested in in terms of their relationship. The romance ends once you get married, all the good stuff. You get married, okay, the good stuff is over. They don't care. No one asks, how's your marriage going? And so there's never any learning. And that's why he said, we were listening to this talk he gives about the book. He talks about how he said, no one ever talks about what comes after marriage. After the happily ever after. Yeah, after the happily ever after. What does that look like? And also people have this idea that romance ends in courtship, right? And that's the only time we have to focus on that. And then he also talks about how people have this, they romanticize what marriage is supposed to look like. And so if it doesn't look that way, then they're not happy that they're in a bad marriage, you know. So all of the things that you watch like the movies, it's oh my God, sparks are flying all the time. And then they don't think about things like people have issues, you know, people smell or people chew a certain way. And it's so annoying. Or people watch stuff that you hate. And it's annoying. Or people come with issues like trauma and stuff. And maybe they might be upset with you. And you don't know why, but it's probably because you triggered something from the past that that person hadn't dealt with. But you don't know it. So then in that moment, be sensitive to the fact that this person probably has a past and say, okay, honey, I wasn't trying to hurt you here. And then maybe try and work through it, right? And but at the same time, it's for you as a person, like to figure out what it is that you're bringing to the table, that kind of stuff. The idea of things getting old is problematic to me. You know, like I think in terms of relationships, life in general, relationships, life in life in general, should never be getting old. You grow all the time. That is the entire point of life. I think there are transitions, your relationship starts a certain way, and then it transition and progresses. If you're a certain person, I don't think you're static. I think there's always going to be changes. And you can appreciate things in a new way. Yeah, you appreciate it in a new way. In a new way. And, and I think there's what? You had a great run. You had a great run. Take a pause, reflect, regroup. Let the next bus go by and just rest. It's kind of dependent to on like what you value. Like the whole point is that you have the one guy, if you're more into just having a best friend who you can make laugh and they can make you laugh and you can be totally yourself with, then generally you're going to lean on the set character. And then if you're more into a guy that's honest and just wrought, like he can just express himself in very visceral, sexual ways or artistic ways, you know, and he's not about a lot of the kind of the traditional ways of looking at things and whatever. He seems like a free spirit. He runs at dawn with his rickshaw by the beach or whatever. You know, then you could be like, you know, this is someone that's living every second in the moment, right? So if you consider that more, so, you know, they do like to give both kind of sides of, you know, yeah. I think this movie for me, what it illuminated or highlighted was the importance of communication. The relationship wouldn't have broken down if both the wife and husband actually talked. It really frustrated me because I'm like, first of all, it takes two to tango in a relationship. If a relationship breaks down, or waltz in this case, to waltz, it takes two to waltz. If a relationship is good or bad, it depends on two people. If the relationship is bad and maybe one person is trying really hard and the best communicator, super available emotionally, all of these things and the relationship continues to be bad. It's still his or her fault, that good person, because he's staying in that relationship. He's not getting anything from it. Do you understand what I mean? Oh, I feel good. Yeah. Talk. I can't really communicate. If I say I need courage to be able to go with you, what is it? What did we do? What's missing? And don't push me away when you're cooking. Like, he was cooking and she tries to cook, she holds him and pushes her back. I know. I feel like her emotional cup was not filled. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. Maybe just kind of like the last bit of coffee that people leave and they can't be bothered to finish it, so grindy and grindy. That's how much it filled her cup, probably. Yeah, what were you saying? I'm sorry. Reciprocity in a relationship is so important. Relationships are fueled. Like, the foundation of relationship, I think, is emotional connectedness. And if it is not there, you know, there is no replenishment. You aren't feeling refreshed every time you're hanging out with a person. You don't feel rejuvenated. You don't feel just, oh. Yeah. I loved how it was all the really creative shots. The one time when she was just lying in bed and they're making the time pass and just look really cool how they did that, the music choice. Anyway, now I'm just going about random stuff. I really like, but. Definitely feel like the wife tried a lot and she just kept getting knocked down. Yeah. And so maybe, you know, sometimes she didn't perhaps didn't have that confidence to keep trying. Yeah. And maybe she would have tried even a few more things had there not already been this allure across the street. For me right now, I'm still, I'm looking at this movie voyeuristically. Is that a word voyeuristically as a as a voyeur, right? Like you in that way in that in that sense of looking into someone else's life, right? Yeah. I feel like I definitely might, you know, like I'm feeling a little bit tender about what happened in this marriage. You know, so I'm not looking at this as a movie. I'm more like my feelings right now are based on me looking at this as a voyeur. So, so, so I'm struggling to say, okay, 10 out of that. Right, right. But I should just give it a 10 out of that. I mean, I do just because really separating my feelings. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Again, like I love the acting, the humor, how it was put together, the story over relatable. Yeah. I just loved all like really so the scenes were just a lot of creativity, a lot of great dialogue and stuff that again that, you know, we're just talking about she was walking with her like niece and the niece just gets really upset overseeing like a shadow or was like, I can't remember or something. And then she's like, you know, I could, I kind of just wonder if it was the kid coming face to face with kind of life and how sometimes just the idea of life can just make you cry basically, you know, paraphrasing stuff like that. It's just a lot of beautiful stuff. No theatrics. No theatrics, no deception. It's just so much more realistic. You know, I, as of course, I think we've said before we do like movies that depict life or imitate life because art at the end of the day, I feel for me like the best art is the kind of art that that depicts life, especially because a lot of us, we are afraid to share what really happens behind closed doors, isn't it? And so if we're afraid to share, it is nice to have art because then art can you can learn from it. And it's just that kind of things that help you dissect your life and change. I loved this movie for that. I loved it for the fact how of how it was a very simple movie, but it just felt like so real. And I like the things that they did, you know, like the relationship where he's like, they're both putting their mouths on their eyes. Those are the cute things that we're talking. Yeah, yeah, like each of them putting their mouths around their eyes, what each other's eyes. And then stuff like that, you know, it's stuff that people in relationships do like or saying, yeah, you know, such good relationship, pillow talk stuff. Like maybe some of the best I've seen in a movie. 10 out of 10 for me too. I'm just, yeah, just watched it, still upset with the fact that they didn't sort out the marriage. You clearly were invested. I was invested, yeah. Yeah, it's a good sign. So yeah, 10 out of 10. 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