 Welcome back to the 21 convention 2019 of Orlando, Florida Our next speaker is a returning alumni speaker to the 21 convention first speaking in 2017 and 2018 And here's our chief patriarch or the first ever special patriarch edition of the 21 convention held earlier this year in Orlando, Florida He's also a frequent host of the red man group patriarchs the founding host of it He's also the founder of the family alpha and co-founder of the fraternity of excellence Without further ado, please let me welcome to the stage the myth the legend hunter fucking drew That was an introduction I'm gonna try to live up to it Before I begin I always start these out with some appreciation None of us get here alone. None of us maintain the standard. We've set alone I'm not on this stage because of something I did I'm on the stage because something was offered to me I was given an opportunity and I took it I Want to start off by thanking a man named Phil Foster sitting right there as we go as we grow as we show ourselves to the world You know you kind of drift away because there's so much happening. You're hitting by so much information That even the rocks need rocks Even the men who are strong cable men need anchors in their lives He was my anchor. I started drifted off getting lost as fucking like this blaze of this modern living He's okay, man. Come back here Come check this out. This is where you belong Pulled it back to Harbor. I was like, hey my ship is strong now I brought back in went to repairs fixed myself And now I'm fucking just delivering Everything I possibly can at the highest level I possibly can and I would have fucking crashed and burned if that man right there Had not let thrown me a rope to dial me in I'd also like to thank Anthony Johnson Not because I have a stage to speak on But because he put his fucking balls in the line for all of us to come together This didn't accidentally happen all these speakers all these presentations all the content creators you see coming together He did that and you're sitting here enjoying it and you're sitting here getting all this information and all these notes You're getting that you can apply to your life or only possible Because one man said fuck you we're doing this my way. I'm not gonna go with the flow I'm gonna try to turn things the direction that I think can fix the issue that men are facing And lastly I would like to thank the men inside the fraternity of excellence because that's my tribe You guys have your own you guys have your clans. That's mine So when things get hard and I need to take take the armor off. I'm like, hey man. What's up? I got to dial myself in that's why go to Every single one of you should have the same thing in your life Every single one of you should have a few men that you go to your inner council Your tribe your clan. I don't care what you want to call it, but it's not your wife It's not your girlfriend. It's not your dad It's your peers Now I was walking down here earlier and I saw a lot of people on their phones a Lot of people just sit and scroll scroll you have an opportunity to grow your tribe now You have an opportunity to network right now. So seeing what's going on on social media Who gives a shit? Immersed in this moment unless what you're doing is productive is an actual product productivity or work get off your phone Pick your heads up. There are a few guys. I wanted to talk to but they're just sitting there flipping on their fucking phone Okay, that's an opportunity to lost on your part You're here for four days That's all you have you paid money to be here as many took time off of work to be here get every Sent worth Every minute you have here should be productive. I don't care if you're tired. I don't care if it's but it's day three guys I get it. You've been going balls out for many of you. This is your first time getting away This is your first time back with the boys maybe away from the family It's the first time you were out with people who wanted to go and do something instead of just sit around and watch Netflix and get fat as fuck So take advantage of that opportunity It's day three. I Get it. You're tired hung over exhausted even forest fed information like from the firehose So what you're a man? Not there's no shortcut to any place worth going. It is hard. You are tired. So what? Keep on going keep on learning keep on talking keep on sharing your stories with people keep on networking Keep on talking to the men that are around you that are living in the same moment that you are in Hey, what did you think about that? Hey, what do you think if we spoke here's my email? Let's talk about this over some steak. You know what after we leave here. We're in the same region Let's meet up next month It's not good enough to show up here spend this time spend this money go home and do nothing That's not why we're doing the 21 convention. That's not why we're having these get-togethers Maintain some accountability by enforcing accountability on yourself get a partner get somebody on here who's gonna be like hey I saw you last week. You said you're gonna do this. Did you do it? I? Can't keep up. I've like I said, I've got my tribe. That's who I speak to what about you Who's holding you accountable? Who's ensuring you're doing the thing you said you were gonna do? We're not here to LARP. We're not here to to to talk about how Fantastic we are and how well I was gonna do this, but I decided to do that Oh, but I didn't do that because I decided to the no finish a fucking goal Set one achieve it then move on people are bouncing from topic to topic to topic to goal to goal to goal And nothing is achieved because the next thing you know you're on step two instead of ever making it to step five of anything I want to achieve X. No, I'm just getting why no Z. That's new. That's trending on fucking Twitter. Let's do that What are your goals and who's holding accountable to reaching them? There are a few things I've seen in the man of fear a few things I've seen and I didn't like calling it the man of fear the area that we're in where we're talking about men's rights and men's movements And men's just being men again And the biggest one that drives me absolutely insane is inaction Not doing anything. I Have spoken to so many men at this convention. I'm like, dude. You look fantastic. I can tell you've lost weight I can tell that you've been put look at the confidence These men I've spoken to there's a young man asking a question. I'm seeing young man. I'm fucking 32 There's a man asking a question younger guy. You could hear it in his voice The confidence it was his wavering you guys can hear it Public speaking sucks. I get it. I hate it asking that question is just as bad as being in this stage for many So they never take the action They never they never build themselves to the point of actually having some confidence You never get to the point where we're actually doing the things that help you Stand up and put your shoulders back and say hey good sir I would like to know about this and you say it with irrational confidence but if you don't take action you never hit that point and that's what I'm seeing in our in our space is Men who are not taking action therefore when you meet them online and you're like hey your username You're a fucking tough guy you got all these great comments all these things about what you're doing And I get the greatest workouts, but when I see you you cannot stand up straight. You cannot look me in the eye You are clearly tangibly out of shape Why is typing getting you that fix? Why do you think that's the action you need to take? And it's the first thing I want you guys to step back and look at What action are you willing to take and what action are you going to take from this event? This event itself is not the cure. It's just a match We're just trying to light that little torch of yours to go out into the world. I'm like hey look at me You can see me. I am on fucking fire now. I'm actually doing something. I'm not hiding I'm taking action and all of a sudden you'll find life is a hell of a lot better You'll find success begets success you did that one thing right after 21 convention and you did the next thing right and then it's easier to eat better because you know You don't want to go to the gym with with its shitty fuel inside your body And then you start dressing better because you're proud of the physique you've built and now you're reaching out Ed I want to get into a boxing program Tanner. How do I get my style? You start going to all these men? How do I become a ninja? You know whatever it is you want to do you now are confident enough to reach out to them and they want to help you because there's nothing I speak for every content creator here. I am confident enough to say this right now There is nothing more motivating or more driving for us to help somebody than seeing them helping themselves They're already doing the thing. We're just saying hey, this might help you there. It's not like hey Here's how you do it from step one to step ten. It's like no you're already on step seven You're already doing the work. You just need a little fine tuning. I would love to help you do that Because that's what men do men help men The second thing that is irking me a little bit and this will apply to some of you is the this notion that family men are Tradcons Tradcon being traditional conservative traditional. Yes Running families. You've been doing that for millions of years. Your parents did it. You probably do it My parents were together. I grew up. I ran a family traditional. I understand that but conservative And what fucking world is that a conservative action to take on the life of a woman and young children? Especially in our societal times How the fuck are you being conservative? That's dangerous as shit a lot's riding on that financially personally your reputation There's nothing conservative of running a family and I know there is some of you in here who have been on Whatever show saying oh, yeah, Tradcons family deeds some of you in here like yeah, that's me fuck you There's nothing conservative about these family men putting their fucking balls in the line all the goddamn time trying to lead their children Leave their sons their daughters their wives Themselves that's hard Do you know the family man in here? Do know but for those who don't when you go home or your woman's there like hey I've got dinner all you want to do is just sit and chill. That's all you want to do like fuck Yeah, I love my kids. I love my wife. I've got a lift though I've got a run. I've got to go build something. I've got to create content. I've got to go make a name for myself I've got to go develop myself individually as well as in developing this family as a clan together There's nothing conservative about the family man in here to me those are the guys who are doing it harder than anybody else You want to talk about red pill in hard mode? That's as hard as it gets Every single day my son is looking at me to do the right thing My daughter's looking at to meet at me to set an example of what a man is My wife is looking at me to keep our relationship interesting. You just heard texts. There's no way I can make a conversation more interesting So this speech fucking just just hang on because this guy the fucking photos every I got Doris. He's got tits That's fucking this is not even fair But that man has found a way and that inspires the shit out of me Because he's been doing it that long like I said I'm 32 years old and to know that I can keep that joy and keep that passion But that burden is on me the burden of performance does fall on men now our women have a role to play They are a part of our lives. They're a beautiful part of our lives. I love my wife I love my kids, but they are a part of it and it's on me If I take my foot off the gas if any family man takes his foot off the gas the family slows down The whole family stops because you're driving They're in the passenger seat. None of them have access to that pedal. That's on you. I had a third point I forgot it was oh It's the best one the infinite The I call the infinitesimal analysis of what true red pill is The true red pill I literally saw a grown man. I read a grown man's tweet Say check this show out. We spent three hours breaking down whether this was truly the red pill You spent three hours of your life. What the fuck are you doing? What what who is watching this? What are you guys consuming? I this is not about theory. I want to be very clear about that This is not I'm not giving you theory here. I'm telling you you've got to take actionable actions You've got to take the words you're hearing and apply them and do things with them It's not enough to say hey, I watched this show for three hours. That did nothing for your life That did nothing for you. I Read 4500 blog posts this year Okay How many times do you go in the gym? How many times did you confidently speak to another man? How many times you go out with men only how much money? Did you put towards developing yourself or your craft? I? Don't care how many blog posts you read How much work have you done? Those are two different things There's a place for reading that is not the message if you get that from this conversation You're you're intentionally trying to dodge what I'm saying to you and I'm saying it to every single one of you I'm trying to make eye contact even though I can't see any of your faces Listen, you have to do work When I end this speech and I walk off here I would love to have a conversation with every single one of you over a meal in the hallway out there doing whatever walking The streets I don't sleep. I will see you at some point if you can hang But you if you're sitting there on your phone wondering. Oh, hey, babe. Oh, yeah, it's good Oh, hey, check the check this blog post out Guys you have an opportunity here to change your life in the literal sense not in the the woo-woo. Hey You know, this is a great hallmark card. You can literally change your life from this moment moving forward You understand that this could be your crucible For many of you just showing up here and speaking to the man to your left and right. That's the hard part Showing up is the hard part. It's not even the work. You might be fucking jacked You might be shredded. You might be mr. Confident But everybody has that little flaw. You're not social. You don't know how to work well with others You're the guy who doesn't understand how to make a friendship or maintain a friendship because as young men coming up after high school Who has friends? But I left the military. I lost my brotherhood. I Was like, well, I thought that's how it worked You just snapped your finger saying I'm having a cookout before the dude showed up because that's how it worked And you're in when I was out. I was like, no It's hard to get three dudes in the same room to do the same thing Some of you are fortunate. Some of you have great friends that show up all the time for the rest of you This is the hardest thing you've done because you forgot how to be a man with men You forgot how to hold yourself accountable You forgot how to engage where you listen instead of waiting for your turn to talk There's a difference there when you speak with men and you listen to what they have to say You can learn something and in that something you've got a better picture of life Because you've got your perspective and the person you actually listen to but if you're waiting for your turn to talk You never get to see it through their eyes So you don't know what's going on over there. All you know is your little narrow window because you've got those blinders on Again when I walk through here I expect everybody like fucking hooting hollering like doing their thing walking out there all these guys Hey, we're gonna go out to eat. Hey, we're gonna have this good time. Hey, you know, let's get together Hey, I'm gonna let me get your number. Let's do all this shit and instead It's just like like a blankets on like there's no fucking governor here. That's the whole point of coming here Again the time and money you spent to get to this point in your life. You need to take advantage of Learn how to hit level 10 Learn how to let loose learn how to have a good time Learn how to laugh out loud and know though everybody's gonna look at you and don't hide from people paying attention to you Learn how to walk into a room and command some presents Learn how to pull out a chair sit down and have the men look at you one-on-one. Hey, how are you doing? It's great to see you you good to see you again I'm glad you came back all these conversations you can be having those men if you're paying attention But if you're trying to hide in the corner You're losing the opportunity to make that connection to make that network and when you leave here You leave here with nothing you leave here with less time You leave here with less money and you leave here with less self-respect than you have when you first showed up And that's not the point of the 21 convention Indeed the 21 convention is the opposite You learn how to make more money how to be more confident how to engage and grow your network This is a fucking business opportunity for many of you. You have these ideas Let's do some work and turn them into actual products Let's do some actual work and make some actual connections to where what we do matters So when we leave the 21 convention, what are the three a year? What are you doing? You're the 362 days Track on family guys You got to do more There's got to be more than just just going online along these forums and thinking that's being a man Talking about masculinity all the time. I don't talk about masculinity and think that's what makes me a man It's showing up. It's leading my family It's those actions that I then talk about to try to share my perspective on life That helps you become a better man That helps you find some self-respect in your life because that's what many of you are lacking And that's why when you ask the questions, you don't stand up straight because you don't think you're a man deserving of it Because you've not done the thing Which is why you're here. That's okay. I'm not gonna sit here and shit on people who've had some rough upbringings Or have not been exposed to these things. That's why you're here, but you're gonna miss the lesson if you're not paying attention and engaging You're gonna miss the whole point to this whole damn thing I hate coming up here and and seeing a guy, you know a year later, and he's heavier Or he's still you know trying to hide his physique like why why do you keep doing this? Why do you keep showing up like you're not Going to the 21 convention is not what makes you a man But like I said, it could be the crucible that leads to you helping yourself create a man Now that leads me to something else the family alpha is my blog and the motto is act a non-verbal deeds not words And that's a ways perfectly into this But I'm not talking about this I'm talking about this We live in a country Where you have every opportunity to do whatever it is you want to do and for many of you that's scary as fuck We live in the United States of America Society things are a little crazy Check I'm with you Roger hundred percent But the opportunity That's real and for many of you being able to do anything you want stops you from doing anything at all. I Could do dropshipping. I could do e-commerce. I could there is no Limit to what you could do in your life and therefore you choose to stagnate Recognize that You need to find a path You need to find a goal. You need to find a topic that when people start speaking about it. You can't shut the fuck up Because you're like nah, I really like this. I'm really into it. That's how I ended up with the family's niche I was talking about sex. That's cool. Let's talk about, you know Being a veteran that was cool. You know, it's talking about man stuff. That was cool You know, but it all started coming back. I really really like being a father I really think that that's gonna make a change in our society and I think bringing men together to push that message That's my angle. That's why I'm on the stage. That's my pitch to you Because I talked about it. I couldn't shut the fuck up when people go father and unnecessary No, excuse me I have something to say and I would speak that would not stop speaking and then I found myself You know what? This is my calling. This is my passion. What is that for you? I left that gap intentionally because something should have just popped in your head and if nothing did let's talk about it Let's have a meal. Let's talk about how you find your passion. Let's talk about how you find your mission Let's talk about how you find a purpose you find something to wake up for you Find a reason for you to get out of your bed and go forth and do great things. I would love to talk to you about that What I would love more is for you to talk to each other about that. I would love if you'd make a decision today But you know what? I'm gonna figure something out. I'm not gonna simply exist I'm actually gonna go out and do a thing I'm actually gonna go make a little dent in this world. I'm gonna be that stone even if you're just a piece of sand It costs is a ripple, right? so go ahead make a little ripple and Then do it again, but you're a bigger rock this time because you've done more and you're more confident And then do it again when you're a fucking bolder and it's a giant splash and guess what people will start paying attention It's not about getting Donald Trump to retweet you. It's about getting another man to make a change in his life That is what I want from this. That is why I am here There are consequences to the choices that we make The reason I labeled my speech the consequence of choice Because I think some people have forgotten that I Think people think I can say I'm gonna do this, but they never do it and there's no consequence to that. I Can do this thing not gonna be held accountable I'm gonna I'm gonna state this one of the dude under a pen name I'm a guy with the pen name and I smashed people pen names because they just so frequently Don't jive with who they really are You look at hunter drew you find me no difference in my life outside of the letters of my name But if I find your username and everything you're saying What would the consequences be if I actually put your real name on that? This goes back to the point of accountability and The need for men to come together because that is the gap. That's missing That's what holds you accountable and that's what brings consequences to the choices you make good or bad There can be good consequences When those men show up you and you hit that milestone to one of the hit. Yeah, man fist bump. Let's go Are you show up? Oh, I really missed the mark. All right. What are you gonna do to adjust till you hit it next time? You don't get the opportunity to say oh, well too bad No, the men that you have coordinated that worked with the men that you have coordinated these goals with they say no Here's how you're gonna hit that goal if it's weight loss if it's strength Whatever it is for you if it's launching that business if it's running that clothing line if it's creating that course Whatever it is You have to have a tribe you have to have an accountability partner You've got to have somebody who gives a shit that you exist in this world and that's another sad fact Is that a lot of single men find themselves and some dating men find themselves without anybody who cares that they exist? And I'm not saying this is big towel. I'm not saying anything like that what I'm saying is One by one the friends left One by one those co-workers, you know, you didn't want to hang out anymore. You felt insecure So you never showed up you didn't go to the softball game So that was a missed opportunity they stopped calling they stopped texting they stopped asking and now it's you by yourself Reading all those fucking blog posts and watching all those fucking movies and For what to be amazing alone, but I say light your torch It's for the world to see you but for also you to see You need to go out and you need to see you need to connect You need to find others who are making a name for themselves They're like a lighthouse for those men who are alone who don't think there's a reason to go on who find themselves existing not living You're their lighthouse every man in here by choosing to show up you put yourself into the arena Again, I get is day three. You're like fuck. You got a lot going on. We got a dinner tonight We got all sorts of stuff going on So what? You're learning what it's like to be in the arena. You're relearning what it feels like to like fuck Hunter's actually telling me to do something Yeah, that's the accountability, but I'm one dude. I can't keep track of all of you Start keeping track of yourselves with others and then watch how one random person is gonna reach out to you Hey, man. I saw you doing this thing. Why do you do it that way? Oh, I decided to change this behavior and now that man's life has changed and now that man goes out and his life has changed Many of you know that I coach my son's baseball team By going out there and running around with them and not being the one who's just fat yelling at them that they suck You know the hat on all that shit I'm showing other fathers. What right looks like get involved. I might be doing it I might be totally fucked up in my approach, but I'm out there I'm speaking. I'm engaging and I have had father's come to me and say whoa I Never even thought that when I come home from work. I shouldn't relax. I should actually go play catch with my child. I Thought it was enough. They've got food They've got electronics They've got a roof over their head That's me talking to fathers about giving presents in their children's life. What about you giving presents in your fellow man's life? When you think about that and you flip the script you see the responsibility that's on each of your shoulders. I Didn't tell you to come here You made that decision because there was something that you had to come here This is this is something you needed whether it's the brotherhood of saying you're a 21 con alumni Whether it's the content creators. I mean, I'm fan boys of half these dudes Like yeah, what's up? Let's go hang out because they're awesome. They're doing cool things. Maybe that's what brought you here Whatever it is. You're here. You took an action now. Let's follow it up with the next action when you get here You have this little window to do something that's gonna have an impact on People that you don't even know You're gonna learn a little bit here You're gonna meet the content creators shake their hands and when you go home You're gonna stand a little bit taller and you're gonna walk a little bit straighter and you're gonna say hey I'm doing things a little bit differently and now your neighbor is too and now your neighbor is with this kid And guess what that kid's life went that high to the fucking moon because you decided to stand up and speak and show some actual Presence and another man's life and there's power in that. I want you guys to know something. I Want you to know that there are consequences even negative when you try to do the right thing I Was two days late to this thing because I was in a wedding. I am I was my brother's best man We finished that yesterday Had a great night Had like two hours of sleep Flu came here schedule got shifted. I'm on the stage my family right now all That flew out to that wedding. They're on my son's game Again a Gameland on 21 con. I gotta start working with Anthony down this He took the mound At four o'clock. He's pitching right now when I first started this speech He was still pitching they were winning seven to nothing. He's pitching a perfect game He's killing it. He's doing well. I'm very proud of him. I'm not with my family though I am the head coach of that team and I'm on this stage talking to you There are consequences to that will he have an issue if they win that game. No If they lose that game Or were you dead? Sometimes you have to choose To me. This is my calling and there will be consequences to that I play say a great emphasis on Family I place all these things But here I am Choosing you Over my own child Who's pitching in a playoff game, which is a big deal obviously damn That puts the standard an expectation from me to you so much higher Because if I'm willing to sacrifice time with my child for you You had fucking better be ready to take advantage of that and even if nothing I say sticks with you Maybe it helps you realize the thing that one of them said make that pop out. I'm here for you It is your job to not waste my time to not have that moment be lost They better win that damn game because it's gonna be it's gonna suck if they don't but if they do I mean, hey, man What could proud what did you do? How was it? Did you do well? He's gonna have all this confidence going on a brag Why because dad gives a shit? What are your kids doing? What are your friends doing? Have you even asked? Inside the fraternity of excellence men are always doing so many things and I sometimes I feel like I can't even keep up Because they're just going and going going But I ask a few I try to make sure I hit as many as I can. Hey, did you do this? Did you do that? Do the same send out those text messages send out the phone call do the same Reach out to somebody and say hey you said you're gonna do this. How did it go? Good job. I know I was taking care of myself and I might have missed that But I want you to know I give a shit you exist You have no idea how many people would love to hear that or we'd love to know that somebody was thinking about them It's easy to get caught up in these the little online Things we have going it's very very easy to be like oh blue pill red pill purple Man's fear. It's fucking awesome. I mean because it's so easy to type the words and set them out You know, it's different actually making an impact in somebody's life Actually making a phone call instead of a text What are you up to? Break that barrier. Hey, let's hang out. Hey, let's meet for a burger. Let's get some steak. Let's go lift Let's do a Spartan race You guys should all right now be formulating what it is you're gonna do or else. I'm just wasting my breath also There are a few things that that kind of stand out to me. One is what the 21 convention is doing I stand by the 21 convention with my reputation and everything it is I am as a man Because I've seen what it does in men's lives. It is a part of the solution It is a part of what right looks like this is men coming together to do that So when the line is drawn That is where I stand. That is why I my son is at home pitching why I'm not there with the whole family because that this matters That much because it's changing that many lives. I Stand for men those men who need help. There's a reason that my DMs are always open my emails are ridiculous a lot of them This isn't a business. It's just hey, I'll respond to your email You do that I do that as many times as I can Because men need to know hey if I ask for help I will get help somebody out there actually cares What do you care about enough To respond to an email what you care about enough to answer the phone What do you care about when the lines drawn to say I will not back down from this I will stand up to this Trying to fall off the stage You go all the way to the toe you skirt that line. You're like you will not push me back You have to go through me and that's not gonna happen Do you have anything you care about that much in your life? Because that should be another little bullet point you write down What do you care about enough that you're gonna stand up to it and this is different than just talking about something? I like to talk about all sorts of things. I'm not gonna leave my family for all sorts of things Turn one con And look around you. Where else do you find men coming together to be better men in all facets of being a man? You've seen the speakers It's not a stereotype. It's not like a cookie cutter that he's pulling from we're all different Half of us argue about certain topics all the time What we're doing is giving you a well-rounded image and a well-rounded picture of what it is that it takes to become a productive Confident joyous man in this day and age where everybody just stuck to their fucking phone and they don't even know how to feel There's nothing that gets them speaking loudly or nothing that gets them actually feeling an emotion even if it's anger Have it be productive rage Get mad about something sometimes. It's okay. You get pissed off. Good. You felt something It's different than the apathetic living you see in so many lives feel Express that go into it dive into those fucking emotions. It's fucked up the first time you do it. You're like, holy shit I really got unfucked my life You do it again. They need you again. They need you again, and you're like, you know what I'm okay Like if you think I'm an asshole I'm an asshole sometimes I'm mad sometimes I'm sad sometimes I'm happy right now I'm kind of a blend of all those but it is just it is what it is And that's who I am and we get rid of the freaking mic take off the jacket We sit down and go anywhere This is what it is because I like to talk about these things. That's how I feel and I let that out Men are more stoic by nature. That doesn't mean you're a fucking robot. So let those vibes out Feel good feel confident walk around talk to people yell laugh One of the days in my program 31 DTM is called primal release And all you do is just fucking yell go to a field Just fucking let it out You know, yes, like guys like I gotta shake it off feel good Let the soul out because you haven't done that since you were probably on a sports team You got to like yellow chain or something. Why do you think sport races are so fucking popular? Because you get to go out and play in the mud again You get to go out and you get to have that fun again You get to feel those good vibes of climbing and running and pushing yourself physically. That's a good feeling You should be feeling that every day. That's what it should be like to go to work That's what it should be like to fuck. I'm not saying a life is like no Sometimes the fucking shit show going to work. You're tired. You're fucking cranky. The commute sucks Turn the radio off Windows down fucking yell All right, cool. Let's go back to it. It's not that bad My life is all right because I'm still fucking breathing and I get to make it a fun time In the Navy It's really really shitty and then it's really really boring but in those like shitty moments You're most alive when like shit's hitting the fan. You're like Let's go that's awesome. Whether it's the adrenaline whether it's some I don't know the chemical reaction that are going on But you're feeling good because like it's intense and you're being challenged When Anthony told me I was gonna be speaking now instead of tomorrow. I was like nice Not not he's like you good at that But great with that. Let's go. I'm always fucking ready. I'm always fucking on as should you be I Should be able to interchange any of you. Hey come up here. I need you to talk about this go Okay, that's gonna suck, but let's go and you go and do it and you fucking feel good And it sucks and it's fucking it's pushing you to your edge and it kind of stresses you out But you feel good because you're feeling something again So how do you implement that in your life? What steps can you take to kind of make your life a little more interesting? Your emotions actually feel some things if you to be a man who could actually do some work I said I'm trying to hide or no one away with alcohol or or anything You know you're smoking pot because I just want to chill. What are you chilling from? Oh, I'm coming home from work. You got to relax your child only sees relaxed you. What are you relaxing from? It's not that bad Get up get out there that man when I said earlier Phil Foster. He's in the construction That's some hard fucking labor. I have a few family members in construction hard fucking labor They'll work out at work doing their job Cracking concrete carrying heavy shit whatever it is then they'll work out then they'll train with their kids Yeah, it fucking sucks good feel that embrace that it's supposed to be hard Meeting people supposed to be hard being a man It's supposed to be hard and you find you embrace that you find the word comfort inside discomfort. I Get that it says discomfort, but you're comfortable with it. You're fine with that because you're not a pussy Like at some point you just have to stop complaining and you gotta stop whining about it and just fucking go to work Like how many times can you say? Oh women don't like me How many times can you say I really you should lose weight go do it? But nobody's gonna do it for you. Nobody's gonna hold your hand. You cannot expect change to occur if you're not willing to change Let that really sink in if you're not willing to do the work Nothing at all will change in your life, and you don't deserve the life you think you deserve And for many that sucks. I deserve this. Why you didn't do the work to get it. You just want it It's not okay. It's unacceptable Especially as men looking to become better men Especially as men have come together spent time spent money spent hours spent energy trying to say I want to be a better man Then do it That is your call to action start changing your life Start proving where it is you're at and where it is you're going when people look at what a right life is They say get married have kids That's the right life Or they say have girlfriends and then don't ever bundle yourself down. That's the right life Or they say just stay out of the game entirely do your thing. That's the right life There's no manual as to what a right life is You decide the terms you decide what right looks like you make that happen There is no manual for raising a child right. I have no idea all I know is if my kids can grow up and be functional adults I did okay every now and then there are little moments every now and then my son will say Please thank you somebody will compliment them whatever it is and I'll be like boom right there in that little instant. We got it right Do not Tell others what right looks like you don't have a pamphlet. You don't get to play God in their world They decide that you can help them if they are struggling, but you do not tell them what right looks like I Have friends who will never have kids I'm cool fist bump. That's your life. That's what right looks like. You're killing it. Good on you I'm not gonna project myself on you because of my life choices Too many say oh, I'm all for men doing their own thing as long as it's what I'm doing Because people want you to do well, but never better than themselves and they also want you to validate their life decisions You do not need validation You also need to remove resentment do not resent other men for doing their own thing You do not get to play God in their world You do not get to define the terms and the rules as to which happiness occurs in that man's life You do it in your own and for many of you. You're not even doing that You're not even the God of your own world that you've created inside you You've been with you every single day since you were born since the first second you came into this world You've been inside your head and you know how to justify everything you don't do It's that guy's fault that this is happening is that guys fault that this is happening that little voice does not want to look In a mirror What does right look like? What are the fuck you want it to look like live it though and own it? It's yours you should Decide the terms you decide if you want to date or not date you decide if you want to have kids or not have kids Mary not Mary, but don't let some fucking random person online. Tell you what right looks like and you feel bad about yourself Because they said marriage is for cucks Marriage is for those who want to be married to the state the government is now in your relationship Oh, I can't get married You know what the you know what the the angry usernames come after you are you really willing to give up that agency of your Self are you really willing to allow a random? Individual who has no impact you're like whatsoever to have that kind of power over you Many say no many more are living that They want the internet to like them They want to get the cool points and they're willing to sacrifice everything to get those And at the end of the day when the computer goes off They fucking hate themselves because as soon as that black screen comes up You're looking at yourself and you're fucking ashamed because you know you're not even living your own life You know you're not even charged of who you are what you've become When we talk up here at 21 convention we give you the tools for you to use and to apply at The 21 convention in the fraternity of excellence and many of the other groups that are out there There is a sense of you own you you're a part of us But you're a king coming to this table it is not the hunter show it is not the Craig James show You show up and you are at a round table This is a meeting of kings and every single one of you are kings understand that that's why you're here You're carrying your banner. You're leading your flag now. Listen. I've given you an awesome speech So I'm gonna I'm gonna leave you with this. I gave the speech. I did my job. I did my thing I engaged every single one of you what actions are you gonna take? answer that Fucking have a good afternoon. Thank you. Does anybody have any questions? Good One of your most passionate topics is little league and I love this Many of the boys Won't see any proper masculinity throughout their day They're not gonna see it at school with their teachers or at home if there's a dad in the home Aside from your son How has this masculine energy? Translated to the other team members and to the other parents Especially of those dads on the sideline our children. I say this a lot that children follow your example not your advice So do other men They see what you do and they do it those young boys see success come from being proud I got muscles my beard's coming in. Hey, I got a mustache all these things that are very masculine traits these young boys I Don't I don't see what the whole world is seeing and I might be living in a nutshell or a bubble I'm from Rhode Island My my town is smaller the single moms that are on the team are put together They take care of those young men. They teach the manners. They're very well Great families and I see all this stuff online about single moms these young boys. I see this huge push on young boys You know, they're all effeminate not mine The young boys in this team and it's possible because I'm with them. So I've had an impact I don't see the other teams, but I know with my team. It's contagious and It's not some he-man woman-hater club. It's not some mr. Machismo It's just teaching them a be confident and when you go up to the plate You swing because as long as you can swing you can win That's how you get a hit or when you run you run fast You're really strong go forward with that you teach them to have that confidence itself and guess what at least a competence in Self they're now able to do the thing because they believe they could do the thing And then their friends start doing the thing because they saw him do the thing and it spreads throughout the team And then the dad start getting involved I'm at the point now where I've got to tell dad's not to help out Because they're all like I want to jump on because you've got a great program and we're winning and people like that So obviously there's that aspect of it, but the bigger aspect is those fathers now involved so the way I've seen it it's spreading very positively and again the doom and gloom I'm not living that and It possible because I've looked those torches or just because of where I'm growing up But it's spreading and I think if every man in here were to set that example we'd see that across the country Any more questions? All right, it's all time we have give it up one more time for Hunter Drew