 How does the narcissist feel when you're not around? The narcissist will act like they don't need you. They will act like you're not anything of a significance or importance to them because they have to be absorbed in themselves. They are driven to maintain and enhance favorable views on themselves. They have an inflated opinion of their own personal features and importance. It can seem like they are very confident, but they're actually overcompensating for their own fears and insecurities. They tend to be very pretentious and arrogant. They are so consumed by their ego that their entire view of the world and everyone in it is twisted. Their ego exceeds their intelligence and their capacity to see beyond their own personal interests. So they will act like they don't need you. They will act like you're not anything of a significance or importance to them because they can't get past their own ego. They can't let go of their pride and arrogance. They can't just admit that they need you, but when you're not around them, they are miserable. They don't know what to do with their lives. They don't know how to be happy without you. The narcissist is miserable when you're not around. The narcissist is energetically attached to you. They cannot live their lives when you're not around. They live vicariously through you. They live in a way that is experienced in their imagination through your actions. They gain an experience by watching you do something. Whenever you are around, they plug into you so that they can get to know and receive information about you so that they can be involved in your experience. And that is why whenever they come around you, they can seem so directly and closely involved. They can seem so attuned or enthusiastic about something because they are connected to your experience. And it is very overwhelming for them. It's like they can finally experience what life is supposed to be like. But this has an effect on you. It makes you feel drained and lifeless because your connection to yourself is now lagging. You feel like you are moving and advancing so slowly that you are behind other people because they're hogging your connection to yourself. They're using up all your bandwidth. They're using up your energy and mental capacity to deal with their own psychological problems because they would rather tap into you than tap it to themselves. Life is so much more fulfilling when they live through you because they have no power of their own. They have no energy. They gave that away a long time ago when they abandoned their true identity. They chose to be narcissistic because life was too difficult for them to deal with. So now they have to hop onto your frequency and hold you down. They have to live vicariously through you. And even when you are not around them, you can feel them pulling on your energy because they're constantly thinking about you. They're constantly wondering what you're doing because they need you. They need your soul. It gives them life. It makes them feel alive. And they love how it makes them feel. You spark their imagination. You spark their interest, hope and curiosity. You make them feel something. They feel very enthusiastic about life whenever they are around you. It distracts them from all of their problems. And suddenly everything in the world seems perfect. But when you're not around, they don't know how to live. They have no vision. They have no purpose or meaning. They act like they've got so much going on. But really, they were just going through the motions until you came along. You gave their lives meaning. You gave them a purpose. And that is why they need you around. Because you make them feel alive. You make them feel like they've got a purpose in life. They feel lost without you. Which is why they always need you around whenever they go somewhere. It feels different when you're not around. You make them feel good about themselves. You make them feel attractive. They have low self-esteem. They're very insecure. But when they're around you, they feel like they're more in control of their lives. Because your confidence rubs off on them. It's like when they're around you, they can finally believe in themselves. They want to be like you. They want to be around you. But they're never going to tell you this. Because they have too much pride and arrogance. They're not going to tell you that you make them feel better about themselves. They don't want you to know that. They don't want to give you the satisfaction. Because they feel like that takes something away from them. Narcissists are conceited, arrogant, and they have a need to feel superior. They are self-centered. And this selfish pride often destroys the very thing that they want. It destroys their relationships. It turns people away from them. Because the opposite of loving someone. Is not hate. It's being self-centered. Focusing too much on your feelings or needs. Without considering the other person. They need you so much that they will often cause problems for you. They will deliberately cause chaos and drama. They will gossip to you about other people. They will resurface all of your problems. All of your flaws and imperfections. They will do anything to get your attention. They will do anything to get you thinking of them. To get you attached to them. They can't deal with you having your own separate thoughts without them. They can't deal with you living your own separate life. Because they need you. They need your energy. They need your soul. Which is why they always have to irritate you. They always have to make you angry or upset. Because then it transfers your energy to them. It makes them feel better about themselves. They are very insecure. They cannot stand to see you living and being happy without them. They feel like they're missing out when they don't have your attention. So they will try to control you by creating drama and chaos. By putting all of their negative energy onto you. Because they're miserable when you're not around. They're watching everything you do. They're always keeping tabs on you. They live their life for you. They work their life around you. Because you are more important to them than anything else in their lives. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonated with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. If you would like to donate by paypal link is in the video description. Coaching inquiries. You can email me at coaching.naxviver.uk. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.