 This is why the narcissist is about to come back. That is what we're going to be talking about in this video. So for many of you, the narcissist may have come back already or they may be on their way about to come back. And there is a reason for that. There is a reason why they're having to come back. So let's talk about it now. At some point they were very unfair to you. They weren't treating you right. It was like they just didn't care about you anymore. And the reason for that is because they had someone else on the side. And that may have been someone that you were not aware of. And that's it. When they get someone on the side, they become very arrogant, very careless and reckless and they just put you down. Because they feel like they've got the power in that relationship if they can just go and do all of these things to you and there's nothing you can do about it. And they don't really care about what happens because it's like they've got a backup option. They've got something else there ready for when you go down. There's someone else there to take your place. Which is why they just get worse and worse. There's all of these arguments. They keep disrespecting you because they've got this new person. So they feel like they don't need to worry about you anymore because there's nothing you can do to them. They can just move on and forget about you. So they don't really care what happens. They might have been hiding it before but now it's out in the open. You can see exactly what they're like and they are not afraid to show you because in their minds there's nothing you can do about it anyway. So they're doing it right in front of you because they think that this new person is better than you. They think they have a better deal with them and they're planning to leave you anyway. So why do they have to care? They don't care about the consequences of their actions because they're not planning to stick around longer to have to deal with those consequences. That's going to be all in you. You're going to be the one who has to deal with that, not them. So that's why they don't care. And this new person makes them feel very confident in themselves. Confident enough to betray you. But here's the weird thing. They're doing all of this and yet they seem to go back and forth. They might leave you one minute but then they come back again. And you may be wondering why do they keep coming back? I'm such a bad person. If there's all of these things wrong with me and I can't do anything right, I can't do enough of them. They don't want to be around me. Then why keep coming back? Why keep watching me? Why keep checking in? That is how you should already know that everything they said is a lie. They have just made up some issue to do with you. There's something wrong with you. So then they have a reason to move on with someone else. Because remember, they care a lot about their image. They want to look like good people. So that's why they need this excuse. They need to say that you've done something and that is why they have to move on. They're not moving on because they're looking for something better or because they have issues with relationships. Nothing to do with that is what they want you to think. It's because of something you've done. When in reality they were just looking for the next shiny new toy and now they've found something that they think is good enough. Something that they think is better than you. So that's why they have to mess everything up. They have to confuse you. They have to blame you so that they can get rid of you because that gives them the reason to move on. And maybe this other person they're with is making them leave you too. That could be another reason. So they get rid of you because they think things are going to be better and when they move on, yeah. Maybe in the beginning things are a little bit better for them with this new person because all these problems they don't have to deal with that anymore. Now they get a fresh start with someone else. There's no responsibility. They don't have to worry about anything and all of this that they should have been giving to you while they were with you, they give that to someone else. So of course it's going to get better with the new person in the beginning. Of course it is. When they're giving them everything and they gave you nothing, of course it is. But that's only because this new person doesn't even know what they're dealing with and maybe the narcissist doesn't know this new person well enough too. So there's no problem in the beginning only because nothing has gone wrong and of course that is why narcissists always leave. They always find someone else. They always start again because they have an addiction. They love the beginning of a relationship when a person doesn't know who they are, what they're about. Then they can just do whatever they want and they don't have to be held accountable. They don't have to think about the things they've done in the past. They can just forget about all of that. That's why they're always looking for new sources. But because of that, they don't appreciate anything they've got. They don't appreciate anyone who already knows them. And that is why they were never satisfied with you. No matter what you did, it was never enough. It was never good enough for them. But it's not because what you're doing isn't enough. It's not enough for them because they can't be satisfied. They need constant entertainment and one person can never be enough for them. They always get bored. So it wasn't exciting for them anymore but that has nothing to do with you. That doesn't mean you're not exciting. That doesn't mean you're boring. It doesn't say anything about you. If they're bored of you and they need someone else, that says everything about them. Why can't they function in a normal relationship like everyone else? Why? Because there's something wrong with them. It's not you. You gave them everything you got. You tried everything you could. What more can you do? What more can you do? But yeah, that's what they do. They look somewhere else for someone else because they cannot function in a normal environment, a healthy environment. So they always have to have something new and in the beginning, when they first move on to someone else, it can be quite fun for them in the beginning because that's what they like. They like the start of the relationship as we all do, but we need to mature and appreciate the person that we're building with because that's really what our relationship is about. And recognizing that the value of what you have built with this person and no matter how small what you've built with them may be, that has so much more value than anything else outside of the relationship which is new. At least that's how you should see it. But as we know, that is not how the narcissist looks at it. That's why they can move on so easily and just forget about you. So yeah, that's why they just move on because they think they've got a better deal with someone else. They think things are better for them but they're not. And soon enough, they do begin to realize that after some time, the excitement wears off just like it does with anything. I think someone said in the comments there about a new car. It's like when you buy a new car, it's great in the beginning, give it a couple of weeks, it gets boring. And that's the same with the narcissist as well as objects. And that's when you see them start to slide back in again. Suddenly, they're liking your posts on social media. Maybe they're leaving a comment. You see they're still watching you. They want to see what you're doing. They want to see if things are getting better for you. Because they already know what they've done to you. They know they've affected you. They know they've brought you down. Pick back up after that. Because things aren't going well for them in their new situation. And then they want to come back. They want to come back because they have failed with someone else. That is why they want to come back. Because things aren't going well for them. Which is funny, because after everything they told you about this new person doesn't do this or that and they're so much better. And then they want to come back to you. So it doesn't really add up their narrative. But yeah, they will come back because they can't deal with the consequences of their own actions. That's what they're running away from. And they just need something to make them feel better about themselves. They need someone to make them feel wanted. And you may not know, but it's quite possible that a new person they're with that could have been a narcissist too. And maybe they got rid of the narcissist. Maybe they left them for someone else. And now the narcissist wants to get revenge. They want to show that of the person that they're not a fool so they come back to you. Because they re-idealise you. They start to see you as being better than the new person. That's just what they do. Eventually, things go wrong with whoever they're with. And when that happens, sometimes they do go back to their ex. And they come back apologising. They come back with all of these lies, all of these fake stories, false epiphanies. And if they have to, they will even bring in their family members, their friends to make you think that this time is going to be different. This time they have changed. And they will come up with all of these lies. They will say that I was never really with anyone. I only saw them one or two times. I didn't cheat on you. I didn't really leave you. I just needed some space. They will tell you whatever they think you want to hear, whatever they think you need to hear, whatever they think will get them back in. Back into your good graces again. But it doesn't mean it's true. Whatever they say, it's all a lie. They just keep lying. They just keep trying to get away from whatever they think is not going to be favourable for them. So if they have to lie to get away from that, that is what they're going to do. It's as simple as that. But all of these things they're saying about how much they care about you, how much they want to be back with you again, how much they appreciate you, it's all lies. They just want to see if they can manipulate you again. And that's really all it is. And some of you may be surprised to find that if you do let them back in, you may see that they are still talking to the other person again. The person that they left you for, and then they come back to you, they are still talking to them. You may find it in the messages, maybe a missed phone call. You will find that they are still talking to them. While they're telling you that things are going to be better, things are going to be different, truth is, as long as they think that they can take advantage of someone, they're always going to keep that person in their life. They're always going to keep them there if they think they can use them for something. Because that's all we are, it's just objects, we're tools. It's just things to be used. It doesn't mean that they care about us. That's why they come back just to hurt us even more. Just to do the same thing again, the same thing that caused the problem in the first place. They do that again. And that's never going to change because they are quite comfortable with how things are. They don't mind laying in their own filth. So they don't really want things to change. They don't care if they have to go again, that's fine for them. But just know that whatever it was, the person, the reason why they left, clearly that didn't work out for them, that's why they want to come back. And do you really want to accept them back now knowing that reason, knowing that they tried to replace you for something they thought was better and they moved on to find out that it wasn't better. So now they want to come back to you. Now they want to come back to you. But I know it's hard. You look back through your old pictures and videos together on your phone, the things you used to do, the memories you shared. Remember that time when you were holding hands, walking on the beach. Maybe it was a really sunny day maybe the moon was shining late at night and it just seemed like everything was perfect in the world. Like there was no problem. Like the only thing that mattered right then was you and them. And there were times when you felt like you were opening up to them and they were opening up to you and you would just laugh and joke about silly things. Yeah, these things bring back memories. Makes you think about how things would have been, could have been. But the truth is that, yes, as Amy says there in the comments, fakey days. The truth is that none of that was real. None of that was real. The person you thought you knew never existed. That was a false character that they gave to you that they were not attached to and that's why it's so easy for them to pull away. They abandoned you along with a character that they have created for you. And how do you know? How do you know that that character was not real? How do you know that that wasn't really them? It's quite simple actually. Because if they were real, if they were really that kind, caring person that you thought they were, that you hoped they were, if they were really that person, where are they now? Where are they now? While you're watching my video, where are they? Are they with you? Do you know where they are? Are they in someone else's bed right now? Are they kissing someone else? Are they on a date with someone else? If that person was real, they would be with you right now. They would be by your side, supporting you, taking care of you just as you took care of them. They wouldn't have left you. They wouldn't have entertained someone else. They wouldn't have let you go through everything that you went through while they were gone. All of those nights you spent alone and I was driving you mad. You were thinking, where are they right now? What are they doing? Who are they with? You were laying in bed alone at night, thinking in your mind, are they in bed with someone else right now? Maybe you were crying yourself to sleep. And how many nights did you have to go through that? And they didn't care. If they weren't doing nothing, all they had to do was just send you a text message, video call. Put your mind at ease, they could tell you. Don't worry, I'm still here. No, no. The narcissist doesn't do that because the character was fake. All they really want to do is hurt you. That's all they want to do. You may feel for them, but they do not feel that same way about you. It doesn't matter what they said. It doesn't matter what you would do for them. They would not do the same for you. If they would, then they would have done that by now. Just look at how much time has passed. Why aren't they there for you? If they care about you, why aren't they there for you? It's time to wake up. Just don't let these memories dominate your mind because that's what it does. You start remembering the good times and it affects you. It makes you want that again. But none of that was real. I respect that it may have seemed real for you in that moment. But it wasn't real for them. Just look at how they're behaving now. That's how you know it wasn't real for them. And they're never going to have anything real like that. You can. You can move on with someone else. You can experience something real. Everything you thought you had with them, you can have that. But they are never going to have that. They're never going to experience a deep, meaningful connection. And the reason why is because they only care about themselves. All they care about is getting what they want at your expense. Or at somebody else's. And that is never going to change. It doesn't matter how bad you want it to change. It's not going to make a difference. If you take them back, I can promise you they're just going to do the same thing again. The same things that caused the problem the first time, they're going to do that again. Because now they know that it hurts you. They know that it gets under your skin. Whatever they think you want, that's what they would hold from you. Whatever they think you don't want, that's what they're going to keep doing. You may feel lonely right now. You may feel like you don't have anyone. And they understand that it's normal. It is normal for you to feel that way. When you consider what you have been through, of course you're going to remember the good times. And even just silly things as well. Maybe you were just watching a funny movie together, sitting on the couch. Or even the times when you just lay on the bed and you just... You're not even doing anything. Maybe you're not even talking and you're just laying there doing nothing. At the time it just seemed so peaceful. And you may have wondered, why can't every day be like that with them? Or even just five or six days out of the week, then everything will be fine. But you need to understand that none of it was real. That's why they always come back to who they really are. You can try and be something else, but you're always going to go back to who you are. And that's what they always do, no matter how many times you try and lift them up. Or try and show them a better way. They just keep going back to who they are. But you may remember the good times. And you may wonder, they could just move on when things were so good. It's like you just don't understand what was so bad about me. Don't understand what you did wrong. You thought you were doing everything right. You thought you were doing everything that they wanted you to do. And then you're left alone and confused. You're waiting. Days go by, weeks, maybe once. And then, oh, here they are. They pop up back again. And then you think things are going to be different. You think things are going to get better. After they just left you alone for all of that time, they didn't give a shit about you. They didn't even give a damn enough to tell you where they are, what they're doing, who they're with. When they're coming back, and you think that things are going to get better. No, they're not going to get better. They're going to get a whole lot worse. And they're not coming back because they miss you. They're not coming back because they're sorry. As I said, the reason why they come back is because it didn't work out with someone else. And they're just using you to pick themselves back up. They're using you to free themselves from what is hurting them. You're just a tool to make them feel better. And you're never going to know the truth. You're never really going to know where they were, what they were doing, who they were with. You're never going to know any of that. They're never going to tell you the real reason why they left. They're just going to come back with excuses, lies. They always have some reason, or they will just come back. Like they never did anything wrong. Like nothing happened. Like they just went to the shop and now they're back. And that's how you should know that they really don't care. They really don't care about you at all. Because a normal person, if you have empathy, I feel it myself. You know, when I walk in the street and I see homeless people, I can see they're going through something. I feel their pain. I just want to help. I just want to do anything I can to make them feel better. Because I can't feel better unless they do. And even if I see a cat, a straight cat on the street, many of you may know, if you follow me on Instagram, my Instagram is Nax5 on YouTube, you may know that if I have some of Nala's food in the car, I will go and give some to the cats on the street. This is normal. This is what we do because we have this... I don't know what it is. It's just like some kind of feeling in our stomachs, in our chest. It's like a sinking feeling. You feel like something is not right. And it compels you to take action. This is empathy. Unfortunately, that's something they don't have. It's quite complicated. The reasons how we learned it, we developed it, but they didn't. The truth is, when they look at you, and you're going through it, they really don't care. They don't feel anything. And you need to know that. You need to remember that. They might feel a little something, but they override it. Because what they want... Remember, these are very selfish people. What they want is more important to them than how you feel. Even though they may have a little bit of empathy, they may have a full range of emotions that just don't pay attention to it. That's the difference. We've been trained. We've been taught from a young age. Remember all those times when you were a kid? And maybe you were just sitting at home with your parents. I don't know, maybe your parents were divorced. Did you just constantly hear your mum complaining about your dad? She's always crying or shouting about something. And then you go to your dad's, and your dad's always complaining about your mum. You might be a kid, but you feel like... You're like their personal therapist. Constantly listening to all of their problems. And it's like it trains you. You become hypersensitive to everyone's issues. And it's like it's your duty to help. Sometimes I guess that's why I do this. Because I do feel like it's my duty to help people. Maybe that's why I had to go through everything that I did. It's about at least something good comes out of it. When I can put this information out there. But you know, it's really their loss. You know, these people, they only care about themselves. They only think about themselves. That's no way to live. When I look back at my experiences and my life, there's no better feeling than when you care about someone. When you have that unconditional love. And I think that's also what helps us to appreciate these moments. Like these beautiful views. Connection. It's very important. Narcissists may get ahead of us in some ways, but you really can't put a price on that connection. It's everything. And I do believe that it's normal and it's essential to our survival as a species. Because I think that people must have cared about each other if we made it this far. If everyone was just going ahead on their own and it's just every man for himself, I probably wouldn't be too many of us left. Just rambling on. Just these random thoughts on my head. But I think some of you like it when I do this. I don't really like to open up to too many people. I mean, I don't think people really want to hear it in my actual life. So I guess that's why it's so easy for me when I come on here. I'm able to express myself to the fullest. Okay, I'm getting hungry now, so I'm going to go out and get something to eat. I hope you enjoyed this video. 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