 What's up YouTube? We're about to go emcee an entertainment forum for the scouts We're really excited about we're gonna show you that next week But before that we want you to check out five tips on how to talk to anybody that we pulled straight from our boot camp Concept that I think is most important. You have any amazing conversations. This is idea of conversational hooks We talked about this yesterday This idea that conversational hooks are opportunities for us to add to the conversation with these hooks What we want to do is layer them into our responses so that we're sharing more It doesn't have to be crazy vulnerability but we want to be sharing more within the start of that conversation to make it engaging and We also want to be listening for other people's emotional hooks And this is a concept we've covered here on the show emotional bids for anyone who wants to get better at anything the first place that they have to look first is themselves and Every time that I hear that my conversations fall flat or I'm not able to get out of small talk to me It's always like well, then what are you doing wrong? And when we start paying better attention in conversation We're gonna start hearing other people's conversational hooks and their emotional bids Their attempts at connection. Now. These are both verbal and non-verbal so you can imagine prolonged eye contact touching you Having great energy and adding that smile to the conversation are all emotional bids The other person's trying to connect with you and a lot of times when we're focused on ourselves or focused on our own body language We're not reading these signals the conversation can fall flat when it comes to conversations There is one topic we can all discuss for days months years It is ourselves. So a good question is about the other person It is picking their favorite conversational time What are you? How are you? Why are you the how and why questions are deeper these how and why questions are my? Conversation resuscitator when you feel the conversation is done Maybe because you were distracted you weren't present you weren't fully listening You don't know what else to say you run out of everything you know about that residential property About that real estate venture and now you're just like what do I do next how and why are like those paddles that the paramedic has Bring us back to life. How do I questions will resuscitate a conversation? I'm listening with my eyes and my ears when I'm talking to someone This is key a lot of us don't realize That when we are making eye contact with someone we're talking not only how we hold in their attention But we can pick up on their emotional state before they respond. So Matt, I asked you Hey, what are you drinking? And you go Or I ask you hey, what are you drinking you go? I haven't said anything But those are two entirely different responses You couldn't pick up on those responses unless you were making eye contact We feel that other people don't think we're listening or don't think we care Unless we're fully facing them fully committed to the interaction This is positive body language when you're fully facing one another torso to torso This creates tension. This is neutral body language when you're actually shoulder to shoulder The best way to view this is by looking at your feet You should notice that your feet are pointing in the same direction as the person you're talking to instead of Directly facing each other positive body language causes tension often leading to us crossing our arms because we don't feel comfortable We often don't realize when our body language is making someone else feel uncomfortable Touch is punctuation touch should never distract from what you're saying you catching this you digging this Touch builds trust and typically the first person to touch is the most assertive The leader so we want to initiate touch All right, I hope you guys all learned something these are the techniques that we've been using in teaching at the artichoke And if you want to brush up on your social skills and amplify all of those Conversations check us out. We run boot camps in Hollywood to help you with just that go ahead and click the link in the top Right corner up above to get some more information. We're gonna head back to the event now to put some of those skills to work You