 Hi this is Helena Hart from commitmentconnection.com and in this video I wanted to answer a question I received from a woman in our community who asks if she stops chasing the man that she's been dating will he notice and will it work to reattract him and bring him closer since he's been acting distant and pulling away. This is such a fantastic question. I know I get versions of this question all the time from women so hopefully this will be really helpful for you but first if you're looking to attract the man you want and bring him closer than ever or if you're with a man and you want to deepen the connection and strengthen your relationship be sure to click the button to subscribe to our youtube channel to stay up to date on all of our latest videos and information. So if she stops chasing this man will he notice and will it work to reattract him? The short answer to this question is yes in my opinion if he is the right man for you and he's really interested in you and he wants to pursue you if he's a masculine energy man who enjoys pursuing the woman that he's interested in absolutely if you stop chasing him typically he will notice and he will start coming back towards you depending on how long you've been seeing each other and some other factors so this really all goes back to masculine and feminine energy like so many of the principles I teach so I'm sure you're familiar with masculine and feminine energy but in case you're not really quick masculine energy is the part of us that's about doing things and solving problems and planning and making decisions anything that looks like leaning forward or trying to figure something out or get something done and feminine energy is the opposite it's the part of us that's really about being in the moment feeling experiencing receiving and expressing also trusting and allowing and responding are also very feminine energy quality so anything that looks like leaning back and just experiencing the moment rather than trying to make something happen constantly with a man or in a relationship so we all have both masculine and feminine energy men and women have both and they both play a really important role in our lives the problem happens is you know when we take all of that masculine energy we have and rather than using it in work or in other areas of our life we turn it on to a man oh and this is Leo Leo's been sleeping next to me while I've been making videos today and he just woke up so he's helping me out um so typically you know when when a man starts acting distant or pulling away and we're really interested in him we will start chasing inadvertently even on accident you know we can accidentally push men away like that we will start you know calling him more or texting him or setting up plans it's like we don't want him to slip through our fingers right that's why at auctions you know people end up with all kinds of things they don't really want it's that instinct in us as humans to not want something to slip through our fingers so typically if a man starts pulling away it's just the natural energy exchange we start chasing him down even in very subtle ways like trying to convince him that he should take us out this weekend or trying to show him of what a great woman we are what a great relationship partner we would be and all of these things just push him further and further away especially if he's a masculine energy man because it takes us out of our feminine energy which is where all our power is when it comes to attracting a man and really inspiring him to pursue us and lock us down for a real committed relationship so if we start chasing a guy he can't help it he has to back up and take some space for himself typically so if you stop doing all of those things that push a man away one of two things will happen either you know if he's not interested if he's really not the right man for you or not serious about you know pursuing you for a real relationship he will probably just back off and fizzle out and that's a great thing in my opinion because it's just he's making room or creating the space for an even better man for you to step in and really step up and pursue you the way you want to be pursued and deserve to be right um that may happen if he's not interested the second thing that might happen if he is truly into you and he wants a relationship with you he will absolutely come back towards you on his own it might take a little while depending on how long you've been chasing him how long you've been leaning forward or maybe pushing him away sometimes it takes men a little while to sort of recalibrate and get used to the old relationship dynamic but in general I will say men can recover quickly and relationships can recover quickly if he's truly right for you and he really wants to be with you absolutely if you stop chasing him and just watch what happens sort of watch what he does a little more dispassionately he's going to start to feel safe to come close and come back towards you all on his own without any sort of prompting or pushing or pursuing on your end so that's what I have for today I would love to hear how this goes for you just to recap in general if you stop chasing a man one of two things will happen either he will just fizzle out and fade away because he wasn't interested or he's not a masculine energy man who's really capable of stepping up and doing relationship or if he is interested if he does really believe that you could be the right woman for him he will typically come back towards you you'll notice him getting in contact with you more often he may ask to see you and things should typically shift right back to the way they were before you started chasing him or leaning forward or pushing him away so I hope that answered your question I would love to hear your thoughts and 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