 Good day mate. Forty-year looking at world famous Bondi beach so one of the qualities of being Narcissist is that you want to attach to people your God is powerful So that you can get power by kind of attaching to them and so I've always had a whole bunch of heroes and power figures Always had people I looked up to and not really understanding the dynamics of narcissism But I was looking for power right It's looking for power by trying to connect with powerful people the narcissist feels like if he can just Connect himself to powerful people and And he'll be okay, then he'll have power and people will respect him Yeah, it's kind of creepy, but That's reality now My Dennis Prager stage. I guess I'd listening to him 1988 when I was at UCLA I I took many of his maxim seriously. I Took him very seriously. I remember my stepmother once said somebody should tell Dennis Prager that Luke will one day betray him like he does everybody else and So Dennis would talk about, you know, what a waste of time it is to watch TV and so Dennis would suggest these various questions to ask women when you go on a date such as like how much TV do you watch and So I would do this like I took many of his prescriptions very seriously and they are often terrible So one of his prescriptions was you know, ask a woman a date how much TV she watches I met this very spicy Persian like very sarcastic I love sarcastic women. Most women aren't really into sarcasm Thank God she was And she was adorable. She was so cute and so smart and so fast with her wet So I was chatting with her one evening. So like a good Dennis Prager Appalachda asked her Then how much TV do you watch a day? She said oh eight hours She was I realized now she was just being sarcastic. She was just like teasing me and I took it serious and I said, oh I can't date someone like this It was ridiculous. Like she was absolutely adorable woman And I took Dennis Prager a little too seriously And I forgot that most people don't really mean what they say And she was just teasing me, but I took it literally because I was so lazy. I couldn't handle nuance. I was so insecure Couldn't handle nuance inside a deal with a complicated world I would you know, try to apply the maxims of Dennis Prager I guess so and he's got a successful life by adopt practices and attitudes of Dennis Prager and I'll be successful too And didn't work out that way like many of his maxims were just terrible Because people usually don't mean what they say people almost never mean what they say So Dennis also recommends that when you've got problems in a relationship, you should now write them out and send them in an email To me is terrible advice. This is never worked out Well, I just made things worse but when you are Inflexible when you're narcissistic when you're looking for power I'm trying to attach yourself to power. Here's a powerful intellectual person. I want to be like this person And let me follow in his footsteps with me practices maximum for me do what he says and I can be like him I kind of have a rulebook for life And then apply it flexibly to people forgetting that people must never mean what they say Surprise surprise doesn't tend to work out very well