 What's going on you guys welcome to the single guide channel my name is Lloyd here we're giving you practical actionable dating advice That's not some watered-down mainstream bullshit in this video. We're gonna be talking about a question that one of my viewers had And he's basically wondering he brought this girl back home the other night. They were on a date Brought her home had sex with her and he was awesome He's really into her and they were texting a little bit after but the text messages started to get farther and farther apart And that eventually she completely stopped responding to him He's basically wondering, you know, what happened after that and what are some strategies and tips that he can use to be to? Keep a girl around basically after they've slept together Okay well This is actually a pretty common thing that happens to a lot of guys so When you first start going out and you start getting better talking to people you're being charismatic and sometimes you meet a girl that you're really into and you bring her home and you guys have sex and You're really into this girl and then you text her and she doesn't respond and you don't hear from her again Okay, when you're in hookup environments when you're you know going out to bars clubs You know people hook up and then they don't talk to each other. That's that's a lot of times what happens And men are more often the stereotype for doing this but women do this all the time too, man I've been around the block tons of times I slept with a lot of women and this Plenty plenty of women do this and this used to happen to me all the time when I was 22 where I would Sleep with a girl. I mean it even happens to me now sometimes Whereas sleep with a girl and that's all that it is, you know, but if this is happening to you repeatedly where you meet a girl you'll like her and You have sex with her and then she doesn't you don't hear from her again You can't keep her around then there's a problem there You have to look at the common denominator and the problem is probably you however This is happening to you repeatedly then something is up Okay, I would say the first thing the easiest thing to fix and what the problem for me was was make sure your place looks nice Okay, you don't have to be rich. You don't have to have a really like Penthouse suite at the top of the apartment complex. You don't have to have any of that women are looking to see if you take care of yourself Okay If you have just a mattress on the floor and your clothes are all spread around and there's freaking shit everywhere like That's not a good look for you Okay, women are definitely judging you about how you take care of yourself. They really care about that that area Okay, that's how my place was when I was 22 a lot of girls didn't want to call me back Which at the time I didn't really care about I was literally just trying to hook up with anyone that would let me so If this is happening to you a lot make sure your place looks nice because she might still sleep with you And when you bring her home, but later on she's gonna be thinking Oh, you know, I don't really think that you know, that was kind of fun But I'm not really into that guy like he doesn't really take care of himself She's gonna think that she's dating a child. Make sure your bed is like on you know, that has a frame You got curtains. You have a shelf you it there's some organization to it or some some sort of like design Make sure you have that the second thing is needy behavior This is gonna be a little bit tougher to root out, but it is something that can happen over time a lot of guys when they Meet a girl that's really hot. They're really really into them. They Subconsciously will start doing needy things. They'll start texting them all the time. They'll think oh like You know a lot of guys think that the game is over after they slept with a girl They could say or do whatever they want and they got her you know, you don't okay You still have to put in work if you act differently from when you met her to after you had sex with her Then she's gonna act differently to okay, you still have to like you still have to game her, you know Like there's the game doesn't end after that sure sure she's proved that she you know likes you in some way shape or form But that doesn't mean that you have it like in the bag So if you could if you just start texting her a bunch like hey, let's hang out Let's do this like all this stuff. She's gonna be thinking like whoa like this guy is like getting way too clingy I don't even know if I like him yet. You know, that was a fun night, but I don't know if I really want to go down to too deep into this and she's gonna get scared and she's gonna run away So if you meet a girl and you end up sleeping with her and then you think oh, this is the one I've found the one I don't need any of these other girls You cut off all your other girls that you're talking to and then you just focus completely you put all your energy on this one girl You're probably going to scare her off. Okay, because when you met her what she was attracted to she was attracted to a guy That seemed like he had options. She was attracted to a guy who was confident It was who was self-assured and you probably lost a lot of those qualities after you start focusing completely on her Okay, you're not at that point yet. Just because you had sex with her wait, okay? Keep your options open see if you guys work out and then yeah, hopefully you later down the line It does work But it won't if you completely cut everything off and stop your life to go after this one person Just because you've had sex with her and you really like her the next thing and this is related to my first point Which is kind of the opposite side of the spectrum Which is there's guys who are too needy and then there's guys you don't even show enough interest after they have sex with somebody if you slept with a girl and you don't text her for like two or three days I don't care who you are. You're an asshole man. Like that's not chill Even if I don't even think the girl liked me I'll still send her a message or something. Okay, the fact is you had an intimate moment with this person and by you not doing that She's gonna feel used. She's gonna feel like she was you know, just treated like a piece of garbage She's not gonna want to hang out with you Okay, if she has any self-respect and even if she does hang out with you after that That's probably not a girl that you want to spend time with honestly So after you don't have to go you have to drop all your life and pursue this one person But you do have to show interest, you know If you like this girl, let her know that let her know that that night was fun And then maybe try and plan something later on don't be like, hey, let's hang out today Let's hang out the next day. No, no, no, no, no, okay. Wait. Take your time. Be patient She's thinking the same thing too. She's wondering if she's really gelling with you if she really likes you But you don't want to give her nothing you don't want to act aloof and act like you don't care about her That strategy doesn't work either. I would say this is probably the biggest fear of most guys But it's probably the one that's you know, the the least relevant and that's you being good in bed Okay, this does happen if you don't perform sexually for her well enough to her liking There's a chance that she might not want to see you again Okay, I Would say the reason for this is because not so much your performance, but how you react to it So I'll give you an example like let's say you you go out You guys party together and you get too drunk and then you come back and you can't get it up a Lot of guys will say oh, well, I couldn't get it up and that's why she doesn't want to be with me but normally I talked to them about how it went down and Normally they just like I can see how awkward it is When like they couldn't get it up. They feel bad. They feel ashamed. They're like oh, I suck and then the girl feels like shit too because she either blames herself or she thinks the guy's a pussy and Neither one of those things makes her feel good It's a fucking awkward situation and she just wants to get out of it as quickly as possible And she does not want to have that happen to her at any cost So she's obviously not gonna call you back at that point If you think me going out all the time and sleeping with as many women as I slept with There's been times where I haven't come back too drunk and I couldn't get it up. I mean, you're sorely mistaken Okay, that's happened to me. That's happened to me several times actually But when it's happened to me when I'm too drunk or whatever I make a joke out of it. Like I think it's hilarious. I'm like well, sweetheart Like this is what's happening and then maybe I'll use my hands in my tongue or something like that But I'm not going to like put like pressure on her make her feel bad I still keep the good vibes going like it's still a great time Even though we couldn't you know, I couldn't stick it in like we're still having we're still hanging out We're still enjoying each other and I think that's still a win in my book And so because I feel like it's a win she feels like it's a win too I've actually never lost a girl because of that, you know And it's because of the mentality that you have to have behind it And then obviously like, you know, maybe if she stays over that I'm good to go in the morning or something like that So something like that's happening to you if you bring her back or you make her feel bad about sleeping with you Or bad about the sex that happened like you came too quickly or something like that That's another one that a lot of guys get down on if you turn it into like some awkward weird situation Then yeah, she's definitely not gonna call you back But if you keep the good vibes going and you if it's okay with you then chances are it's gonna be okay with her too All right in the last point that I'm gonna make about this you guys is that this part of the puzzle is something that a lot of guys You start having success early on when they learn social skills They learned to be charismatic confident have game talk to women be able to seduce them They forget about the final piece of the puzzle and sometimes this is the most important and that's your lifestyle Okay, women are going to judge you on your lifestyle and they should judge you on your lifestyle So if you sleep with a girl and your lifestyle is not on point Yeah, sure. She might think it would be fun right then but she's gonna be thinking longer term She's gonna be thinking off. I hang out with this guy again Am I gonna be sleeping on his lumpy mattress in the middle of his dirty floor, you know You know, is he gonna be acting needy towards me? Is he like not gonna show enough interest or just throw me to the side? Okay, she wants to be with a guy who has his lifestyle on point Okay, and if you're one of these guys that's only worked on your seductive your your ability to socialize those kinds of skills Then you're missing out on a huge chunk of the puzzle and you're going to be having these problems Repeatedly so my advice to you guys is make sure your lifestyle is on point a big part about guys that they get wrong Is if you're not on your purpose if you're not going after something if you don't have something Better to do than one than the one girl that you slept with then you're not a good option for her So make sure that you have a purpose make sure that you have some ambition You're going after things you're doing you're working on yourself make that the number one thing and that will come across and you're gonna be you'll see that a lot with a Lot of women once they do get to see who you really are They're gonna be really really into you as opposed to just think that you're a fun guy that they can hook up with when they're drunk Okay, so if you want to be that guy make sure your lifestyle is on point So thanks a lot you guys if you made it to the end consider subscribing I come up with videos like this every single week if you have anything that you've seen that Women will get repulsed by after they've had sex with you. 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