 When the narcissist realises you've had enough When they realize you're not going to do it anymore You're not going to cave into their demands You're not going to let them mold you into what they want you to be You're not going to be their puppet The narcissist wants to control you. They are arrogant and entitled They feel like they have the right to tell you how you're supposed to be They feel like they have the right to dominate and control you and as long as you let them do that They will continue to do it Which is why you have to set strong boundaries with narcissists you have to draw a line With what you are willing to tolerate Instead of letting them mold you into what they want you to be they will make all sorts of demands They will tell you what to do Which demonstrates that they think they should be in control of you They will guilt-trip to you into doing what they want you to do They will use force and make threats Because they know that it's worked on you in the past Or maybe it's worked for them with other people So they expect it to work on you now, but what if you decide that you're not going to do it anymore What if you decide that you've had enough? You can let them think that they can control you They can think whatever they want But you can choose to not be their puppet anymore When you've had enough of the narcissist It's not going to change their behavior They're not going to praise or encourage you They're not going to support your decision. They will say that you're rebellious They will say that you're selfish They will say that you lack consideration for other people and you only care about yourself Which is actually just a projection Because that's exactly what they do They just don't like it when you don't conform Because they want to lock you under their control They don't want you to be free to make your own choices and decisions They don't want you to live your own life They want you to live for them They see you as an object that exists to meet their needs And when you break out of the box that they put you in They will want to take revenge on you They will want to punish you They will put you in a position Where you feel like you have to justify your decisions As though you have done something wrong by trying to escape their control It may leave you trying to hide your desire for freedom Where you're just looking for opportunities to be yourself whenever they're not looking It leaves you walking on eggshells It leaves you to become extremely cautious of your words and actions Because you're afraid of how they might react You have to decide that you've had enough Of being who they want you to be Think about the things that you value and believe in And go in that direction The narcissist is not going to cooperate with you You should actually be very cautious when you do find your freedom Because it may cause a narcissistic injury It may make them angry They may try to intimidate you Because they want to make you regret your decision They want to make you feel like you're doing something wrong Because what you're doing is unfavorable for them They benefit from controlling you It provides them with a sense of stability and security It allows them to get their needs met It gives them a narcissistic supply So when they realize you've had enough They will push harder They will start arguments over petty things In an attempt to wear you down And make you crawl back into the box that they've created for you They will complain about you to people you know They will try to make you look like a bad person Because they want to shame you They want to make you feel bad about yourself They want to make you feel like you have done something foolish or wrong They will bring up faults and mistakes that you have made in the past They will lie They will say they are crazy They will get very angry Or they will be passive aggressive Or they will give you the silent treatment But they will not admit to anything that they have done The focus always has to be on you And whatever they don't like or want to change about you But whenever you see these behaviors It should only validate your decision It should only remind you why you've had enough It should only remind you why you don't want them to control you The narcissist will try to shame you Into thinking you're doing something wrong But you have the right to decide when you have had enough Why should you lose yourself? To someone who only cares about themselves To someone who is only concerned with their own feelings and needs How is that going to benefit you in any way Which is why you've had enough of the narcissist Because you realize that they are not good for you And that's where they get so angry when you finally find your freedom Because it reflects back to them That they are not good for you Thank you for watching I hope this video resonates with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link Is in the video description Coaching inquiries You can email me at question.nag.survivor.uk Thank you for watching And I'll talk to you soon