 Is the analytic process the only way of coming to terms with the shadow or becoming aware of it? Are there other ways for individual people to become aware? I don't know if it is the only way but it's the only way I know because to see one's own shadow is such a painful thing that you will never do it honestly in a gulp. You can't admit such painful little secrets so all the official confessions people make in groups oh I am jealous or I am childish are just words, they cover up when it comes to the really painful spots even the analyst has to be very tactful and very trading on dangerous ground and looking out of the window because the other is wincing under his realization of his inferiority and so he needs a man to human being to human being situation to help the other to become aware of his shadow and you can't do it in a big sweep It's the individual connection though The individual connection which is decisive because you can't stand your shadow when you are alone you just collapse you need a human being to hold your hand when you go into that dangerous area and if there's a group you slide out you slide out or you make gender you know like in the Oxford groups everybody said I'm greedy of money, I drink too much and they didn't mean it it's in the personal relationship that it becomes so awkward and then you are pinpointed and then it becomes an indelible shock to see your own shadow and then you have it, then you really know it you can't forget it again the next morning Well, doesn't that also happen in long-term friendships or marriages that you're kind of up against the wall All close relationships are in a way analytical relationships it is a, because it simply means a relationship in which both partners try to become conscious by exchanging with each other sharing each other's...