 Hello, how are you? What do you got for me? I'm 33. So I'm considered in this danger danger zone First and foremost, I want you to know I am very much a supporter But I just want to know like For the few or the small percentage of women who had odds stacked against them And now we have become in this danger zone how do we Like accelerate our process of potentially getting married Well, let's start with a few things Do you have any children? I do. That's one of the eyes that was stacked against me. How many do you have just one? She's 13 All right Obviously want to get married. What kind of man do you look were you married to her father? Oh God, that was a huge I start against me. Um, no to answer your question. No, all right. So why do you want to get married? Um, I feel like I I am marriage material First or secondly, I'm in the military. I'm currently in Korea So that's another odd that's been stacked against me with this whole being placed in the danger zone because I've moved around so much Why you want to be married? I believe in completeness and wholeness and so For me, that's what marriage means completeness and wholeness. Um, it's very important for me to put my daughter in a home with a family so That's I guess those are you Christian? I am Um, you know, I was you need to look at what marriage purpose of marriage is do you want to have more children? Just one Okay, so ma'am you got a lot going on um And I got to be honest at 36 with a 13 year old in the middle. No, no, I'm 33 33 33 33 the 13 year old weren't married to her father in Korea Um And if a man does marry you he only's going to get one child out of it Christian Christian Christianity adds a different element to ma'am To be a help meet to a man So everything you said was about you which was basically I'm looking for Security in some and someplace to raise my daughter, which is fine But what you didn't say is what a man's going to get or what or what help e would be the atom And this is often right This is oftentimes what happens Far too often with military women Really are not so You got to slow down and understand what the purpose of a a man is And the purpose of a woman is and what and how you can be benefit How you can be a benefit to a man that would would choose to be a stepfather to your daughter That's how which question you got to answer What can I do to be a benefit to a man that would be stepfather to my daughter And that's the biggest question you have to answer because that's what men are asking because effectively You're not looking for a husband. You're looking for stepfather And and the reality is your daughter while you may love her To death is not an asset to another man Yes, I've heard you say that many many times so Without being able to answer those questions How do you effectively put yourself out in front of men to be selected as wife So I haven't had any issues like with dating. Um, I've like I've just watched one of your previous videos and you would Ma'am ladies understand something. Please stop doing this Dating and marriage are two different things. You don't have issues. You are issues with dating as a single mother Of course, you're not because guys know you're sexually active and we have sex Sex and dating is not marriage We we put women in two categories wives and everything else And dating is everything else Guys don't date wives guys go marry wives You have to date first though, right? No, I would No, all right. I've told that's new to me. Well, I get it because you've done things out of order right So, you know, you've got it all out of order and I would ask you where's your dad at Never met him don't know him see so what you got to do is you got to stop this because your daughter's Going to likely learn and model what you're doing And see the unfortunate thing is single mothers raise daughters who don't have dads typically don't even understand what a man is for We're there for resources and sex And we're more than that so Um You got a lot going on. I mean, I would say that and until you really kind of get It clear on what value you could be to a man who would be a stepfather to your child You'll be able to date That is dating and marriage are two different things I understand it. I'm actually dating potentially probably going to get married, but Whoa No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, wait a minute What do you mean you're dating or potentially probably going to get married? How do you decide whether or not you get married? Because we talk about it. Well, I don't decide. It's not my right. It's not my decision, but um, we always talk about it It's always in conversation. Right. How long you've been dating this person? For a year for a year, right And Oh Jesus Stop talking stop talking about stop having sex and see how long this marriage conversation goes on I'm already in that seven months. So a bit. All right. Well, then y'all should already be married He's not here. I'm in korea. He's in the united states He was here Okay, I gotta move on ma'am. This is too much a long distance relation How many people think this guy is not having sex? Ma'am Yes, this is unrealistic And this is nothing you ladies got to get real You think a man is actually not having sex? I never didn't I was not I didn't say that I'm doing this for me celibacy is for me. What he's doing. All right. I gotta move. All right. All right So now you're gonna go don't get defiant. I'm just saying for me You're you're all twisted around and you think this is a reality and what you said is well We're talking about marriage ma'am Let me let me back it down You're 33, but it feels like i'm talking to a teenager Not a 33 year old And marriage and life is serious And this is a this is the problem we got in our community. We need to grow up in mature I gotta move on to the next call. Thank you. Thank you the best