 How narcissists react to no contact When you go no contact with the narcissist They sense that something is wrong They know that you're on to them They know that you figured them out They know that you know Because up until that point You may have been under their spell They managed to pull the wool over your eyes They had to do that to control you Because they're very insecure They're shame-based people who are doing everything they can to avoid reflecting on their shame But they don't want you to know that Which is why the last thing they want is for you to leave them They have a fear of abandonment Even though they may have mistreated you the entire time You may have thought that they wanted you to leave them Because it may have seemed like they hated you But when you do leave they try to make you feel bad As though you're doing something wrong as though you had no right to leave But when you do leave They know their scheme and deception has been revealed They know that you've discovered their dishonest activity And they may feel disappointed But they're not going to tell you that Instead they're going to turn against you Because their shame is eating away at them It's destroying them But instead of acknowledging it and trying to deal with it They become defensive They try to protect themselves against what they perceive to be an attack on their interests They experience a narcissistic injury Because it causes their childhood trauma to resurface They get very angry and they try to beat you to the punch They try to get you before you get them To make you look like you're bad, wrong or crazy They can't look that way Because image is everything to a narcissist So they have to take you down Which is why they will talk about you to other people They will start a smear campaign They will make false accusations about you And they may even try to drag you for the courts Because if you've got no contact They're now unable to use you to regulate their own emotions Which is why they will come back to threaten you They will enforce their flying monkeys They will spread rumors about you Especially if the immigrant narcissist or a psychopath They will show a strong and unreasoning desire for revenge Because they really hate you But it's not really about you It's a projection of their own self-hatred and shame Which they don't want to deal with Which is why you need to be two steps ahead of them You need to anticipate what they're going to do You need to focus on your health You need to focus on defending yourself against that attack You need to believe in yourself Because you are capable of overcoming this As long as you make the right preparation for it Because they're going to come at you with all sorts of mad and erratic behavior And you need to remain unmoved and unbothered Because they will get supply from that And then you've just got to keep moving Just keep doing what you do Don't let it affect your life Show them that you're still able to do what you need to do You're still able to take care of yourself Don't let it get to you Because that gives them supply They love that And they're always looking for your reaction to the abuse It lets them know that they're safe and secure Because they're actually more afraid of you than you are of them Which is why they have their temper tantrums Because it's meant to intimidate you It's meant to manipulate you into doing what they want Just remember you're better than that You do the right thing even if they're acting childish Even if it's not a ventations to yourself Because you understand that it's not all about you But they just can't get over themselves They can't stop thinking that they're so important They can't stop complaining They can't stop moaning and groaning Because they hold too high an opinion of themselves They focus solely on their own situation And how it affect them then Instead of the bigger picture And that is why they always lose in the game Thank you for watching If you found this video helpful please give it a thumbs up Share your thoughts in the comment section Hit the subscribe button to receive the notifications If you would like to support the channel You can donate at paypal.me-survivor You can book a one-on-one with me on my website It's NARC Survivor, the Cuddy UK Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon