 D&A X Assalamualaikum Hello guys Hello Today I meet Dina again Cause last time I did handshake with you right? But there was a comment You can't touch Muslim girls You didn't say that? You cannot touch Muslim girls It was not that offended Okay But there was a comment So I was curious Really that people cannot touch girls Because in Korea Cheykhans It's okay So I was curious Is it really offended? So I wanna add some question today So Are you ready? I'm ready You're ready? I'm ready Okay, let's go So first question is Is it true that men cannot touch women In Muslim culture? Yes and no For men and women That are not in the same family Should not be having skinship So they should not be touching So like my brother I can hug my brother My dad or my uncle Yeah, family is okay Or if I'm married Then I would be like with your husband Obviously you can hold hands or something When you're outside of family Then in Islam It's a no Like that's the rule say They shouldn't be touching Like men and women shouldn't be touching But again This is like pro-practice You know Not everyone practices that And so you'll find a lot of people Do still like shake hands or something For me I come from a Western country And so I'm just used to automatically It's like an automatic reflex I'm like Wait, wait, wait What am I doing? It's like Without thinking I'm just like Oh, wait, wait What are you doing? Stop So You have lived in America So you're used to in American culture too You shake hands And in Bosnia You hug people And then you like kiss them on the cheek Like kind of on the side Like not like Like muah But like on the side Like muah muah Like friends Like friends Like friends Yeah, yeah, yeah Not strangers But if you're close Usually in Bosnia If it's a guy and a girl If you're close friends Sometimes you greet each other with a hug Or like a kiss Or you say bye I don't I personally don't I don't In Bosnia they do That's interesting I get really shy If someone like wants to hug me I'm like, what are you doing? Okay, I got it So if family is okay But if it's stranger Or other people Then yeah It's not alone Basically Yeah Yeah, okay I got it So the next question is Maybe it can be a loop question But I'm really curious So why do you think it's not allowed? Why it's not? Yeah Because I'm not a scholar But like I feel like I need to say this I'm not a professional I'm not like I don't know everything But like In Islam Like family relationships are very important You know what? And marriage is very important And admitting You know what adultery is? What is adultery? Adultery Adultery is when you Have sexual relations Outside of marriage And so that is a big no In Islam Like So you're not allowed to have sexual relations Outside of marriage In Islam And so A lot of people think like Oh, it's just a handshake Oh, it's just a hug But those things Don't always Like can lead to more So we can start with a handshake Oh, it's just holding hands Oh, it's just a hug Oh, it's just a kiss And then you know You go down the journey And so Islam Like that doesn't always happen obviously Not everyone hands If you shake someone's hand That doesn't mean you're gonna Kiss them Or something Oh But That would be funny Of course, yes But Islam is where like We don't even want to Open that door Like It's just like Okay, we're gonna Stop everything We don't even want to go there I don't know So Islam's like Very Don't even go there I think it's kind of Yebang What is it? Ah, Yebang is in English Yebang I don't know either I think so Just be careful Yeah, be careful It's like Like a nuclear Like if something's like a nuclear You don't like Ah, I'm just gonna touch it a little You're like No, no, no Stay away, stay away That's the rules But people don't always practice like that So yeah, you'll see Like different people's cultures Or personalities People don't always follow the rules So yeah, you'll see Muslim people Still hold hands Or hug and stuff Even if they're not married They just don't follow the rules The best But that's okay I mean, everyone has their problems there I'm sure they're working on getting better I think it's like Kind of seatbelt Yeah, it's like the seatbelt Yeah, yeah, yeah There's a little but Not everyone Followed a little Hmm From the last video Which you can watch Which I'm sure Jay will put somewhere up here I'm curious that Muslim people can go abroad And they can live another culture Like you But in another culture They can try to shake your hands like me Or try to skinship That's possible So if they do that Then how How do you deal with it? Yeah, how do you deal with that? For me personally Because America has more skinship than in Korea I think Because Korea, people usually bow Yeah, we're like Yeah, you're gonna be like Don't touch me Bow Yeah In America, it's almost like Hand shake Look you in the eye Hand shake All right And so I think it's harder in America But I think Really, it's like a personal thing For me personally When I was in America Every time like If I remember Sometimes I don't Like if I don't think I just automatically shake hands I have If I don't make I just like Automatic reaction on me So I have to like stop and think I'm like, oh no Don't wait Stop be the stop So like For me when I was in America I would put my hands by here And I'm like, oh nice to meet you And people like They have their hand out And they're like Oh, that's okay Yeah So sometimes I have to like explain Sometimes like it I'm sorry because I'm Muslim I don't want to shake hands With men outside of my family I hope you can understand that Usually that was like I didn't really shake hands with people Outside of like Maybe like a business meeting Because when you just Like if you meet a friend Like if I met you For the first time in America People don't usually go Hey, nice to meet you Shake hands Yeah, it's not bad Yeah But really it's like Only for like Business meeting And so I would explain Like in the Like just a mini If we're gonna do something in business Like if it's an interview Or something Potentially getting into business with Should understand Why? But yeah If you just say it nicely Then people usually understand In Korea People really They don't try to touch Yeah People Adumas touch me Yeah, yeah, right, right But like Jim's a fang Yeah Yeah Yeah Yeah Jim's a fang Oh my god Yeah Adumas They just like They like to grab my wrist And go Wow Hi, I'm sick And I'm like I met this Adumas Like two weeks ago She was trying to set me up with her son You know what that means She's like Oh, I have a son you're a She's going to school This Hotali is Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah And I'm just like With Korean? Yeah, yeah It was just a random Korean And I'm just like I just I'm just here to To like wash my hair and leave I'm not here to get married I'm just I'm just gonna go now Korean Adumas are too friendly And thank you so much I want you to be part of my family Wait, what was the question? Did I even answer the question? I forgot How do I How do I deal with people shaking my hand? Me mentally God is the most forgiving So if you accidentally do it Even if you purposely do it You ask for forgiveness And then try to stop I think it's okay Oh Especially if it's an accident And you're like Oh, okay Let me try and remember You know, don't do that Oh, okay, I got it I think it can be a sensitive question I heard that in Islamic country I heard that they even cannot date before marriage Is that true? Is that true? Islamic country I don't know But Islam Yeah, in Islam Not allowed to technically touch before marriage But like For me personally I'm like If I'm just talking If we're just talking Usually when people like Usually people who are like Really strong in their faith Like if it's like a guy and a girl around the date But then there's like a chaperone Like a third person Like you come with your mom Or with your dad or something Or maybe a friend And so that you can get to know each other You mainly just talk And get to know each other Like who are you Like what are your goals But usually you just talk To get to know the other person But like you're not like kissing And doing all of that other stuff It's more like hanging out like friends in a way But like you talk more about serious stuff Usually Many Islamic cultures They usually get straight to the point Like if you're like Hey Let's like I'm interested in marrying you or something And usually people You know you ask important questions Like do you want kids How many kids like Are we If your parents get old Like when your parents get old Are they gonna live with us Like Like you Like normally you know when you're going to date It's not really the first question you ask right? Yeah right So it's usually in Islam It's more like People are like I like you I want to marry you And usually they go They want to meet your parents Usually they want to meet your dad Or if you don't have a dad They want to meet your mom So that they can Meet your parents The parents You And stuff like that Usually that's how it goes But that doesn't It's not always how it goes Some people still secretly date I wouldn't recommend it But I mean Your life I guess I think Like you're kissing And like touching and stuff like that That's not allowed in Islam I don't know why I keep doing this I think it depends on How define the date Maybe Yeah how you define Like what you do during the day You're just getting to know each other That's okay Yeah yeah yeah About like Yeah like Exchanging the saliva DNA exchange Yeah yeah yeah So today I Asked about Skinship culture In slim So it was really Informated for me Because I didn't know about Islamic Skinship culture I'm sorry I got caught I'm sorry I'm sorry So yeah So I'm sorry about that I tried to Shake hands Last time Because I really didn't know about The culture thing It might fall too Because I shook his hand back So I was gonna be careful more And I It was really informative Comments Because I know New Facts About Them So I think it's Kind of List number two Because I agree that If you start Skinship At first Then it Can grow up And Yeah you can't be mistake Thank you for Answering me About your opinion And I hope that Not to offended her opinion Because her Your opinion is your opinion So Yeah my opinion My opinion And if you think differently Then just comment Then I can learn about that too So Different perspective So Thank you Today Bye-bye Okay bye-bye That's gonna look weird