 Hello family, welcome to another Narc Survival Live video, in this one I'm going to be talking about how narcissists only pretend to move on, because they can make it look like they're moving on, they can leave you, they can stop communication with you, they can act like they've got this new life, they've got this new source, they've got all of these new things going on that aren't of any concern to you, and you're not a part of it, you're not involved, so they make it look like they've just forgotten about you and they have moved on, when the truth is, narcissists never move on, they only pretend to move on, because although they may not be an active participant in your life, they are still lurking in the shadows, they are watching you from behind the scenes, and this may be in person, or they may have one of their family members or fly monkeys, to be watching you, observing you at every move, or they may even be stalking you on social media, because the priority is that once you've been a narcissist source of supply, they see it as though that's it for life, as though you are this object that exists to serve them and meet their needs, because they are heavily dependent on you, they're a parasite, a leech, a bottom feeder, and they need you in order for them to survive, yes, as crazy as it sounds, this is exactly what happens, the narcissist you're dealing with could be going into their thirties, their fifties, even their sixties, sometimes even older than that, and they are still heavily dependent on you, as though they are this parasite and you are their host, and they're just sucking the life out of you, they're sucking your blood, they're draining you for everything you have, it's like they've placed you into this parental role, and you become this caretaker to them, to where you're meant to take care of them, you're meant to support them emotionally, and sometimes even financially, so it could be a case where they're saying that they want to move on, they want nothing to do with you, they want you out of their life, they've discarded you, but then at the same time, you or they are filed for divorce, and then they filed for alimony, or maybe you have children together and they filed for child support, and these types of things it's just meant to be so that the other person can get back in their feet until they get back to work, but when you're dealing with narcissists, they will try to have it so that they are set up financially for life, at your expense of course, and other than that it may just be that they are watching you, on your social media, we've been following you around in person, they're stalking and harassing you, they're watching everything you're doing, and you may be thinking this person acts like they don't want anything to do with me, so why won't they just leave me alone? I mean here's the thing, if you really think that someone is that bad, you dislike all of these things about a person, you don't agree with who they are, you don't agree with what they're doing, then why don't you just leave it alone and forget about it, instead of just pretending to move on? Why not cut it off completely? Because I don't know about you, but if I really believe that someone or something is bad, and I don't agree with what they do, I wouldn't be watching them, and I wouldn't want anything from them or anything to do with them, I mean if a person really believes that someone is bad, you're not going to want to see or hear anything to do with them ever again, you're not going to want anything from them, you're just gonna leave them alone, you're just gonna forget about them, I mean of course it's a different matter, as I can see there, Natalie Freed has mentioned, he's stolen from my mother and my inheritance, that's a completely different thing, if someone is stolen something from you, such as money, then of course you may not want to let go, and you just want that money back, that's rightfully yours, it belongs to you, you earned it, so when you get your money back, then you can move on, but that's not what we're talking about here, because as you mentioned, yes, narcissists will steal your money, they will see it as though your possessions are rightfully yours, even though you worked for it and you earned it because they're arrogant, and they have a strong sense of entitlement, they view you as an object that exists to meet their needs, they view you as an extension of them, so they believe that you exist to serve them, and this is really what it is, they view you as an extension of them, as a component or part, as something that is attached to them for life, and they are attached to you, like a parasite attaches itself to its host, but here's the crazy thing, because even though it's like they're deriving these nutrients from you, they're sucking your blood, they're getting all of this stuff out of you, but meanwhile everything they're getting from you just seems to make them even more angry, even more sick, I mean it's kind of like if you go to a restaurant and you don't like the food that they're serving there, or you don't like the service, then why would you go back to that restaurant again only to complain, to say that you don't like it, you don't like how they do it, why would you even waste your time, or another example is if you're watching a TV show, maybe you're watching the Kardashians, I don't really like the Kardashians myself, but even I can say this, if you're making the choice to use your remote and turn on the television and switch on to the Kardashians just so you can bitch and complain about them, then who's at fault, is it the Kardashians or is it you, because you could quite easily change the channel, or you could switch off the television and do something else, so notice a pattern here, as an example with the restaurant or the television show, I mean one possibility may be you can't find another restaurant in your area, so you have no choice but to go back to that one, or maybe you've got nothing else to do, nothing else to watch, just switch on the Kardashians, maybe it's that you lack purpose, maybe what you should be doing is instead of just sitting down watching TV, you should be working or you should have a side hustle, you should have a purpose in your life, so this is part of the problem with these narcissists who constantly return to things that they say they don't like or agree with, they haven't got anything else to do, they haven't got any other options, they haven't got a purpose in their life, their lives have no meaning, because trust me if they had anything better in their lives, anything better than you, they would leave you alone very quickly, because they say that they hate you, they say that you make them mad or you can see that they're angry, so quite clearly they don't really want to be involved with you, but they can't find anything better, anything better to do, they can't move on, because they've got to have something that's supplying them, something that they see as being bad or wrong, something that they can use to make them feel better about themselves when they constantly bitch or complain, and that's really the crazy thing because it's like they're constantly complaining about you, they've got all of these bad things to say about you, and yet at the same time, they've got all of these demands, they want all of these things from you, they can't leave you alone, they won't just move on and find someone else like a normal person might do, no instead they're constantly on your case, they won't leave you alone, and yet sometimes they may pretend like they've moved on, but you can see it, they haven't, and you can see them stalking you on social media, you can see them watching you out in public or maybe a friend or family member say something to you, and you know that they're just looking for information to give back to the narcissist, and the narcissist may also pop up themselves and they're making these demands, they're expecting something from you, I mean if you don't like what someone does, you don't like them, you don't approve of them, you don't agree with them, why would you want anything to do with them or anything from them, that just doesn't make any sense, it doesn't add up at all, it's like they want to devalue you, they want to make you feel small, make you feel less than them, but when you look at it, you're doing far more for them than they've ever done for you, you're more of service to them than they are to you, so you're providing more value, and that's what this really is, despite what they may say to you, if they're constantly returning to you expecting something from you and they're making these demands, quite clearly you are more of value than they are to you, which means that they are a low value person, and you are a high value person, even though they may never tell you that, they don't have to tell you that, just look at their behaviors, just look at what you're given to them and look at what you've received from them, the odds are you've received little or nothing and you have given them everything, as I've said before, if you want to know who the narcissist is in any relationship, the narcissist is the one who comes in with practically nothing and leaves with everything, or with a lot more than what they had before they met you, the victim is typically the one who comes into the relationship with a lot, and then they leave with a lot less than what they came in with, and this could be money, this could be their energy, some of the resources, it could be their possessions, and not only that but it's just a waste of time, because in the beginning they manipulated you, they lied to you, they future faked, they made all of these false promises about the future, which never came into fruition, it never manifested into reality, it was all just talk, all talk no walk, because that's the thing with narcissists, they can talk the talk but they can't walk the walk, if a narcissist walked the walk over a long period of time and they did that consistently, well that just couldn't even be a narcissist to begin with, because a narcissist would never do that, and yet it's funny because when they discard you at the end they're always the ones who blame you, and I've done that a video on that already, what narcissists will always do in the end in every relationship, they will always blame the victim, the person that they did all of these things to, even though you're the one who is always doing everything for them, and they did nothing for you, they will always twist it around, they will project it all onto you, they will shift the blame onto you, and that's the thing with projection, typically whatever they were doing to you, they will blame you for that, and they will go around and they will tell everyone that that's what you did, even though you may have all of the evidence in the world to prove that that's what they did to you, they're very good at brainwashing people and pulling them into this false reality, narcissists are in denial, so they want everyone else to be in denial as well, because that's the only way that they can live, it's the only way that they can survive, they have a false character, they manipulate people, they showcase this for sards, they pretend to be something they're not, but really you've got to look at it like this, just look at this person and think, what have you ever achieved in your entire life, other than manipulating other people, manipulating other people, pulling them into your false reality, making them believe that you're something you're not, with lies, manipulation, gaslighting, this person has never achieved anything, now look at yourself, look at your life, look at what you have achieved, look at everything you are, everything you were, especially before you met them, you were doing far better than they were, you achieved far more than they ever achieved in their entire lives, I guess some of the narcissists they will act like, they were on a higher level than you, but they came into your life because they just wanted to help you, because they're so nice, they're so kind, they're this good Samaritan, for a start, if that's really who they are, if they actually care, where are they now, why aren't they with you now, why are you alone, they always act like they care to get in but then you did something wrong and that's why they don't care about you anymore, but here's the thing, it's really funny, because they act like they were doing better before they met you, but you never see any actual evidence of that, it's all just their words, well as for you, they have seen actual evidence that you were better off before you met them, now how funny is that? because this is how it happens every time with narcissists, I've heard it so many times they act like they were better off before they met you, but you never see any actual evidence of that, you never do, you never do, and yet they see all of the evidence in the world that you were far better off before you met them, and the irony is just like they drain you of everything you have, they take everything that you've got, and then they've got the nerve to turn around and point the finger at you as though you've done something wrong, when they're actually or they should be indebted to you, you're the one who is indebted to them at the end when they should be the ones who are indebted to you, because they're in denial, they have a false character and they live in a false reality, and even when you confront them on this, when you become aware of it, of course they're just going to discredit you, even if you try to drag them to therapy, you can sit them down in a therapist's office and they will discredit the therapist as well, they will discredit anyone, it doesn't matter who it is, anyone who questions them, anyone who says that they're wrong, when I don't know about you but if someone said that I was wrong, I would be like okay what can I do to make it right, what can I do to be better, but of course with narcissists there is nothing that you can do, you can't fix things, you can't make it better, all the narcissists is ever going to want and expect from you is more, they're going to want more of your time, more of your energy, more of your money, just more of your life, it doesn't matter what you've given to them already, and this is why they can't move on, they are leeches, they are parasites, they cannot live without you, they're like children, they're emotionally underdeveloped, they can't take care of themselves, they need a parent, they need a caretaker and this isn't just for a short amount of time to help them to get back on their feet, they need a caretaker for life, they need someone to always be there for them, to always take care of them, it doesn't matter if they're 30, 40, 50 years old, the narcissist you were with, they might be 30 years old right now, you really think when they're 40 years old they're going to move on and forget about you, of course not, they're still going to be dependent on you emotionally and even financially, they're still not going to be able to take care of themselves, they're still going to need you, even while they may still be attacking you, talking about you behind your back, saying all of these bad things about you, and why do they do this, because deep down they know that they need you far more than you need them, and in fact you actually don't even need them at all, you never needed them, you would have been far better off if you never met them, if they never came into your life and they know that, they were always the ones who needed you, and if you look back you will realise that that is the only way that they even gained access into your life, because you felt bad for them, you're an empath, you were sympathetic, you were compassionate, and this is how we get stuck in these situations, they give us a sob story, they tell us all, my ex did this, my parents did this to me, and then we feel bad, they already know exactly how it's going to affect us, because they know that we're empaths, they know that we're going to feel bad, they know that we're going to take them in, but a narcissist is the type of person who could be stuck in a ditch, and you might give them your hand and pull them out of that ditch, and then they will turn around and push you in there, that's the type of person a narcissist is, but the type of person who always wants to have the power and be in control, they want to be in an authoritative role, so they want to be the captain of the ship, but then when the ship goes down, they don't want to go down with that ship, in fact just as that ship is about to go down, they'll be like okay, you can be responsible now, you can be the leader, you can be in charge, you can steer the ship, just as it's about to go down, and then they'll jump off and they'll watch you go down with it, they'll watch you drown, yes that's the type of person a narcissist is, that is exactly what they do, and I'm sure many of you who are watching this right now, you know that this is true, you've experienced it yourself, and if you have, you can show your support down below, give it a thumbs up, I see there's 307 live viewers and only 27 thumbs ups, so with that thumbs up button down below right now, let's help to get this message out there to other people who are going through this, because a lot of people do not talk about this, but people need to know that they're not alone, they need to know that there are other people who have been through this as well, because yes this is exactly what narcissists do, they want to be the captain of the ship, it's like you could have bought a brand new boat, you bought a brand new boat, and you assume okay I just bought this boat, I own it, I should be steering it, and then the narcissist comes along, they've got a high jacket, they want to be the captain, they want to have all the authority, all of the power and control, without any of the responsibility, so of course they go and crash the ship, or something goes wrong with it, they ruin it, and then you're in the middle of the ocean, just as the ship is about to go down, they're like all right, you want to have the authority, here you go, you take the wheel, you're responsible for it now, after I've just ruined everything, I've damaged it, now you can steer it, and then they jump off the ship, and then they go and tell everyone you made it crash, and then everyone just has to watch you drown, they have to watch you go down with the ship, yes that's exactly how it is with these narcissists, they come into your life, in the beginning they manipulate you, they love bomb you, they act like they're just there to help you, they're there to support you, that's all they're there for, they don't need anything from you, meanwhile they could be living in your home, driving your car, spending all of your money, but no they don't need anything from you, they're just there to help you, that's all that there is, even though you're not getting anything out of it, you're getting nothing back in return, they're there for you, and then time goes by and they demand more and more authority, they're taking over your home, driving your car all of the time so that they can do the things that they want, you're stuck in the house, you've never got any time for yourself to go out and do what you want to do, you've never got any money to buy the things that you want to buy, even though you're the one who's working, and maybe all of your money and yet you've got no money to spend on yourself, you can't even take care of yourself, maybe you need new clothes, you can't even buy new clothes, maybe you can't even go out and get something to eat, while you're working and you're making money, you can't even get something to eat, you can't even buy new clothes, before you can even think about spoiling yourself or treating yourself to something luxury, you can't even think about that, meanwhile that's exactly what the narcissist is doing, while they're lying and pretending or so they're just there to help you, and then they demand more and more power and authority, they've got to be in control of everything, but then when things go wrong, then they take a step back and it's like, no I never had anything to do with that, this was all to do with you, you ruined it, you did this to me, you see how they switch it around, they do this little bait and switch, they pull you into something and then they switch it up on you, they turn it around, and then they make it out as though you were at fault, you were the problem, but if you look back you did everything that you could, you worked hard, you gave them everything, there was nothing more that you could have done, and yet they still turned against you, they drained the life out of you, they caused all of these problems for you in your life, and at the end, as narcissists do, they still blamed you, they always blamed the victim in the end, of course they're going to blame the victim in the end, what else are they going to do, they're not just going to stand up and be like, yes okay, it was all my fault, I manipulated you, I lied to you, I future faked, I made these false promises about the future that I never followed up with, and then in the end, I justified that by blaming you, and telling everything to other people, all of these things that you were meant to have done, but actually they did that to you, no narcissist at the end of a relationship is going to stand up and say, yes okay, that was all my fault, no narcissist is going to say that, of course they're going to blame the victim, that's all they ever do, and that's how you know exactly what you're dealing with, because they're really not that smart, they're actually very stupid, they expose themselves in the end, and that is why they typically want nothing to do with you after that, because they've just gone and used you for everything you have, and despite that they've then blamed you for everything, I mean if that isn't a red flag for a narcissist, I don't know what is, because in a normal relationship, people don't do that, they don't just turn around and blame this person for everything, especially someone who's given them a roof over their heads, they've done everything for them, they've paid all of the bills, they've given them money, they've given them a life, a normal person would never just turn around and blame that person for everything, that's something a narcissist is going to do, so that's how you know exactly what you were dealing with, and that's how you know that they're only going to pretend to move on, they're still going to be watching you from behind the scenes, they're going to be stalking you, potentially for the rest of their lives, they're never going to forget about you, they're always going to be bitter, angry, and resentful, they're always going to feel like it was unfair, no matter what you did for them, no matter how great you were, even if there was a perfect person walking the earth, even that person would not be enough for a narcissist, you cannot please this unpleasable person, it doesn't matter who you are, it doesn't matter what you do, nothing you do is ever going to be enough, you could give them the world, you could give them millions of dollars, it's not going to make a difference, give it a few months, if you're lucky give it a few years, they will be back after they've spent it all, lost it all, they will be back again, because they cannot take care of themselves, they're like big babies, they need you there to feed them, to burp them, to change their nappies, they can't take care of themselves, they just can't, and when that around you, you won't be able to take care of yourself, because all of your energy and resources, they will be using all of that for themselves, until eventually it gets to the point where your health begins to decline, you get sick, you can't work, you just can't do anything anymore, you become depressed, and then they go and they blame you, which is like kicking a horse when it's down, as sick as that sounds that's exactly what they do, and that's all they're ever going to do, because they're narcissists, and you should not expect a narcissist to operate in any other way, of course that's what they're going to do, it's just like if you're around a wild animal, maybe a wild dog, you shouldn't be surprised if they chase after you and they bite you, if they attack you, because that's a wild animal that's what it's going to do, it's the same thing with narcissists, they're wild and they're impulsive, they're predators, they only think about themselves and you are their prey, they consume you, so you should be expecting them to do that, and then prepare for it and protect yourself, because they lack empathy, they don't care about you, they only care about themselves, people are just objects to narcissists, they don't even see you as a real person, if they did they would have empathy and compassion for you, but they don't and that should tell you everything that you need to know, they're going to continue to watch and observe you, they're always going to be there, they're always going to be expecting something from you, because they view you as this tool, this appliance, this object that exists to serve them and meet their needs, and this is why there's so many videos on this topic, there's so many billions of views on YouTube, because they operate in this way, they do these things, they come into your life, they abuse you, they lie to you, they future fake, they make all of these false promises about the future, never following up with action, meanwhile they're living for free in your home, while you're paying the bills, they're using your electricity, they're eating the food that you bought, they're driving your car that you pay for, and they're never even thinking of paying you back, but they'll tell you that they will, they will lie, they will future fake, and in the end you're left scratching your head wondering what just happened, what is going on, how can someone even do that and not feel bad about it, and not feel compelled to correct it or make it right, yeah that's why there's so many videos on here about this, that's why I have over 170,000 subscribers, that's why I have over 40 million views, that's why I have over 18,000 followers on tech talk, that's why I've had qualified psychologists and psychotherapists, even those who have their own practice, who have booked coaching sessions with me, because they've been in relationships like this, or they've had narcissists, narcissists, business partners, and they just don't understand, it doesn't add up, it doesn't make any sense, they don't understand how someone could be like that, so yes it's not because you lack intelligence, because I've even had qualified psychologists and psychotherapists who have booked a one-on-one coaching session with me, because many people just don't understand who anyone could be like that, I mean you put yourself in their shoes and it's like how can anyone live in someone else's home, you're paying the rent, you're paying the bills, you're paying the mortgage, whatever it is, you're paying for their food, you're paying for the car, you're paying for the insurance, you're paying for the fuel, and maybe you're paying for other things as well, you may be buying them clothes, taking them on trips, you may be doing all of these things, and they're like, it's like they're your child, and you're their parents, you're their caretaker, but meanwhile you don't have any authority, you don't have any control, and yet at the same time whenever they like they could just leave and move on, and not feeling debted to you, not feel any need to repay you, because believe it or not, yes they are like a child, they're emotionally underdeveloped, that's why they throw these temper tantrums like a two-year-old child, because they're not even properly an adult, they can't take on adult responsibilities, and that's how they can do all of these things to you, and then they can just move on like nothing ever happened, because they literally just, they're literally like a child with no responsibilities or accountability, and they view you as their parent, their caretaker, so they expect you to take care of them, they're like a leech of parasites, so how can they ever move on, how can they ever move on, if you found this video helpful you should definitely be checking out my other videos, I have many other videos aside from my live videos, there's pre-recorded videos that I post every day, I've got 3,500 videos on this channel, on all different topics of narcissistic abuse, so definitely check them out, I've been making videos now for over five and a half years, I've been researching this disorder for six years every day, so I do know exactly what I'm talking about, I've learned from the best, from some of the greatest 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