 I Love you and right here inside it with down feathers on Listen, let's domestic right boy. Tell me I just want to be Want to I want to love Yeah, I want to feel so aligned I Black men don't see enough of y'all smiling, so it's good Because I think why it's important is like if You notice the average niggas see you on the street They're gonna think oh damn. She got she's a shit. Don't stay. She got her stuff together She does everything sexy She's just a person Some shit is just for intimate settings I get that but I think about it like little boys need to see that Because when they grow up they're gonna be like, okay Either they're gonna be the boy who puts girls on pedestals and get fucked over Or they don't realize that she's a human being so let me talk to her like she's a human being So that's why I said black boy Tell me how you really feel right? Yeah All right, let's do this I think this is good How did the media that means music and movies specifically Shape your initial expectations of black men I don't think that shaped how I view black men. I feel like the only thing that Shape how I view black men is experience I don't think like something I seen in a movie or on social media or Heard on a radio or podcast or TV Really can make me think of anything towards black men is really just experience like just how I grew up or relationships or situations or Friendships even that I've had is that's the only thing that can shape me like real life Experiences is the only thing that could shape how I view like me And music too matter of fact actually I'll take that back music is probably the only thing that Had an effect on that too All right, so to follow up with that How do you view black men? What were your initial expectations of black men? Based on all those things you listed childhood music I mean initial expectation how I said previously is Provide and protect that's like the top two like when I think of black men. I think of That's The role or responsibility that they should acquire or acquire all around Like I got three brothers. So I'm the only girl. I'm the baby. So, you know, they was chasing dudes away Like, you know like being a female in a male dominated household and like That's pretty much what made me already like always think too as well like when I said, um We're not like value much because I mean who don't care about what a little Eight-year-old thinks a little girl a little eight-year-old girl You know what I'm saying? So But other than that like Experiences I mean usually It's hard to Actually believe that Men are faithful Let's just talk about that relationship wise I mean, it's I do believe there's some dudes that won't cheat but they probably want to Because it's in y'all's nature And y'all don't know how to be naturally monogamous As you so like to put it polygamy is Like what is already in you I guess But um protect providing You know y'all have to run everything y'all have to be like so rough and stiff with everything like And sometimes y'all have a guard up. That's another thing I learned to y'all really have this guard up towards us too And I understand why Just as much as we have a guard up towards y'all as well for our reasons and y'all have y'all is up for y'all's reasons too But um, I don't hate y'all I really love y'all for real. I don't see myself Not being with a black man so What that's good All right, so This is a two-part question. I'm gonna give you the first part answered and I'm gonna give you the second part That's just three part question first part first part three parts first part And it kind of goes back to that first question Describe your ideal man if you could build a nigga describe your ideal man Okay, so All around physically mentally financially Okay And I feel like I'm speaking for everybody when I say it is not just me so And I'm not saying that anything opposite of that is wrong but it's just a Prefront, yeah, um, hold on. I gotta clean my glasses I'm gonna keep that in there. What? Don't do that, please This is our guard moments I'm still don't like I was But um, there's an ideal man Be honest. You ain't got a shitty coach. I'm trying to think like I don't want to Okay, so It's a lot of public figures Who I would like to cooperate with Who I would okay athletic not necessarily an athlete But you know, everybody want to find ass man or whatever everybody want to you know A dude to look a certain way just a certain way talk a certain way act a certain way have a certain type of mentality um It's gonna be dudes watching and listening to this so Spell that out for them the 16 year old boy. What does that mean? Look a certain way? What does that mean? It's all dark handsome You know nice tee You dress nice Dress how? Nice because this is it's it's the nike suit nigga, and then it's the suit suit nigga. You can't be both What's ideal explain to that? What's ideal there? I don't feel like it's Like a nigga that can go to work in the suit can be the same nigga that get off work and put that nike suit on And fucking go hoop with his boys That can be the same dude. There is no Like I feel like a lot of it can be blended in together. I don't feel like nike suit and So women women prefer a man who can do both Exactly, so you don't necessarily want nike suit and you don't want to you want to nigga Exactly that can do both. You know what I'm saying? Like A dude that can like Handle business outside And handle business Business wise Explain that and at home Break that down Remember what I told you No, this is for the 16 year old who's watching this. So break that down. He's trying to cultivate the type of man Nobody want no soft dude no punk Everybody want like I said protection. I want to feel safe with you You know what I'm saying? Like I want to be able to remember that movie temptation And them dudes was harassing them and he ain't do nothing and she went home feeling so vulnerable and unsafe because he didn't do his job as a man And beat them niggas up regardless if he was gonna get jumped It was five of them. However, it was it was the The the effort into wanting to protect your girl. That's all that matters Even if you can't even fight for real at least Go into it knowing that You showing her that you go like You just got done saying black man. We love you and now you talk about black man commit suicide See no see that is not what I'm saying. Like I don't know how to put it without sounding Like I said, I could only speak for my experience. I want to be with someone who I feel safe with who is going to protect me um somebody who can Provide of course. I mean My daddy did that so I expect nothing less Sorry if That comes out that way, but I mean every female want to feel like she good insecure Explain when you said, um Talk to me a certain kind of way or talk, you know what I'm saying? Explain what that means Respectfully talk to me like you got some sense talking to me like you know that I have sense You know what I'm saying talk to me like you about something and talk to me like, you know, I'm about something too Like like I can't it's Certain dudes the way certain dudes approach you you can I can already off the back off the rip tail Like what kind of person you are Just by How you looking how you talking to me how you approach me? Like it's it's a difference between the nigga that walked up to you and be like, hey little mama Hey, baby. What's up? Like, you know what I'm saying? It's a difference between a dude that comes down sits down next to you and says Hello, how are you doing? What's your name? You know what I'm saying? polite respectful, it's a it's a big difference What you looking at me like that for? Because the alo mamas get more played. They do get more played, but that don't mean they're right Wait again, they do get more played when boys black boys Are looking at the world They're looking and seeing okay. What's the path of leash resistance? What's going to make me the most successful with what I want women pussy or what not So they're gonna model that behavior So you hear women saying I want you to say hey, how you doing? But when you say hey, how you doing they shit on you see You know how old I am so who I was when I was The age I was six years ago is not Who so I'm looking at things differently today I want to do to approach me with respect and talk to me like A lady You know I'm saying like I don't want the whole like hey, hey Damn I don't like that shit because it's it's dudes that Will like look at you and just you can see it in their eyes that they object to find you and I don't like that It makes me feel Discussed it makes me feel like Don't look at me like that I don't like being looked at like something like a piece of meat I don't like that and and they still do that today. I want you to look at me like I'm somebody Because how I already feel Towards the situation of like how men look at women or how men value women and stuff like that So when you coming at me talking crazy like I'm gonna act out because I don't like that and I don't appreciate that I don't even how you're supposed to come and approach and like Reveal to me like that's that's how you coming So interesting question because again, um, you're gonna have dudes who are watching this name will be like She's that's captain that so explain it this way For the good dudes who are gonna come and say hey, how you doing? What do you think what lesson do you think they can learn? From the eight little mama dudes who are really successful like what piece of their game can they take and add to being a good dude? Because they're doing something right. Let's be real Most of the time they be funny the job like I ain't gonna lie like sometimes the reason they get played is because like they like the eight little mama dudes like They're real smooth with how they come on you and it's not necessarily Directly saying a little mama it'd be one of them like play it tight dudes They'd be real cool and and and slick at the mouth and smooth talking and like real chill and stuff like that's attractive But sometimes the The hey, how you doing guy? He's kind of too Tight You feel me because I'm not tight But they're more respectful and that's more like welcoming The how you doing like I'm more likely to turn around and actually Have conversation with you rather than like you hey Like now you now you're gonna act like that Like you feel me but The a little mommy then you gonna act like that type of dudes are they funny they're more spontaneous Like It's more of like I'm you more likely probably you probably gonna have more of a good time with them But then like it's How do I say A bottle of wine and then like you got like A bottle of fucking What's the lip joint everybody drinking Custom it like I mean, yeah all that good shit handy patrol all that stuff But then the glass of wine and I only drink wine when I'm chilling Laying back. I only drink liquor when I'm turned up So it's just like what would you prefer in your life? You want like that fast like you want that nigga? That's like Hey, let's go Pull up over here and and do this and that and go out of town and do all this type of or you want to do that's gone like Sit and watching Netflix with you and like Read stories and All this type of stuff and ain't nothing wrong with either one of them to be real like I like turning up But I like it's it gotta be a balance Because the how you doing dude can probably be like that on the side The turn up type on the side and sometimes the turner dude know how to calm it down sometimes so Okay, so the second part of that question is For That ideal dude that you described right that ideal man that every woman wants Describe his ideal woman I already know I already know what it is like Let's just let's just put it like this. Let's just say this i'ma go based off what Men and women prioritize the most So a male's a dudes ideal woman Number one she probably more than likely is gonna be good-looking Two She gotta listen or submit or whatever. She got to be loyal. She got a Probably be good with kids and nurturing because you got to think about how who you want to raise your kids, right? Y'all care about it, right? If you want to have kids with her um I don't know if y'all really care about money like that a lot of dudes With money don't care about how much a woman got So it's more about like Do you listen are you understanding or do you have a good heart? like You gonna Do what I say Type deal Can we pause it? I ain't see you pause it. I can cut all this. This isn't live I feel like people be thinking this shit live like shit broadcasting so I still gotta put it on the computer edit And then upload because it's a lot of stuff that I wish like I could rewind and like fix like clean up What I said because I feel like I'm all over the place with some of the stuff I'm saying because I'm thinking about so much and I'm trying to put it into like one way