 Hey there, Psych2Goers. Before we begin, we would like to let you know how grateful we are for all of the love and support that you've given us. Here at Psych2Go, our mission is to make content on psychology and mental health more accessible to everyone. Now, back to the video. Do you know someone who is or might be a narcissist? Narcissistic personality disorder, also known as NPD, is characterized by a grandiose sense of self-importance, a deep-seated need for praise and attention, and a lack of empathy for others. But while the disorder itself is present in a rare few, a lot more people actually have narcissistic tendencies. Before we start, we'd like to mention these are just some examples of what a narcissist would say. After all, there are a variety of ways to say them. Also, if you relate to this video, please do not use the video to self-diagnose or diagnose others. A person who has narcissistic tendencies does not necessarily have a narcissistic personality disorder. With that said, here are 10 of the most common things narcissists say and what they really mean. 1. If you could have just one friend, who would it be? While it might seem like a harmless question, it's a subtle way for them to emotionally manipulate you. They may ask this in hopes that you'd say it's them. If you don't, they may get upset at you and give you the cold shoulder. It's a way for them to reaffirm their sense of self-importance and that you should choose them over your other friends. 2. We don't need anyone else A common strategy narcissists use to keep you compliant and loyal to them is by isolating you from everyone else. While it may sound flattering when they tell you that all you need is each other, what they're really trying to do is make you dependent on them and them alone. They don't want to compete for your time and attention because they want you all for themselves. 3. You're always overreacting Have they told you that you couldn't take a joke when you called them out for saying something hurtful? Did they say that you were too sensitive? A narcissist will never own up to the abuse they inflict on you, but rather trick you into thinking you're the one at fault. They'll make you second-guess yourself and, as a result, enable their bad behavior by rationalizing it, minimalizing it, or by making excuses for themselves. 4. Not everything's about you With a narcissist, everything needs to be about them, all the time. You can't ever steal the spotlight from them or they'll resent you for it. They don't care about your problems or what you're going through. Instead, they'll project their own self-centeredness onto you and make you feel guilty or embarrassed about taking the focus away from them, even if it's just for a second. 5. Wow, no wonder nobody else likes you To a narcissist, the key to keeping you in line is by destroying your sense of self-esteem and making you feel like you have no one else to turn to. The more alienated and alone you feel, the less likely you are to leave them. They may prey on your insecurities and make you think that no one else can ever love or care for you the way they do. 6. I always defend you to everyone else, and this is how you repay me? When a narcissist tells you this, it's for three reasons. Firstly, they want to turn you against the people you love by saying that they secretly hate you and talk about you behind your back. Secondly, they want to play the hero and swoop in to save the day. But mostly, they want to make you feel like you need to reward their so-called active kindness by never speaking out against them and by paying them back with more loyalty, praise, and obedience. 7. You only succeed because of my help A narcissist is likely to take credit for your accomplishments. They might brag about how you couldn't have done it without them or how you owe them much for your success. They want to share in your glory and remind you that you're nothing without them. 8. Don't let this get to your head While they may pretend that they're happy and supportive of you, deep down, they're rooting against you. They want you to fail to make them feel more comfortable about themselves. No matter how well you do or how much you succeed, they'll find ways to make you feel less important than them. 9. I'm the best you'll ever have Narcissists want you to think that they're the best thing that's ever happened to you. They want you to think that they're the best friend and romantic partner you've been looking for and that it would be the biggest mistake of your life to leave them. Narcissists may also make it seem like they've stooped down to be with you since you're unworthy of them. 10. I'm only doing this because I love you Most importantly, Narcissists will try to justify their mistreatment of you by saying that they're only doing it out of love, or that they have your best interest at heart. But what they may really mean is that they enjoy being able to control and exploit you for all that you give them. Did anyone in particular come to mind during this list? Do you think you might have a narcissist in your life? Let us know in the comments below. If you found this video helpful, be sure to like, subscribe and share this video with those who might benefit from it. The references and studies used in this video are added in the description below. Thanks for watching and we'll see you in the next one.