 If you're having intimacy and trouble in your relationship, it's important to really understand your relationship in a whole new way and start thinking about what is it that you're actually expecting? One of the most difficult or biggest problems is actually expectations. You have a certain expectation of how things are supposed to be in an intimate way. The truth is that it's probably not going to be like that. Whatever you're seeing in Hollywood, whatever you're envisioning, it's not going to be like that. It's real life and when you're to be open and present to your situation. One way that will help you with that is to think back on when you first fell in love with your partner, when you realized that they were the one for you, to realize that you had such care for this person and that you promised to be with them through thick and thin and even in these challenging situations, even when things aren't going to be perfect. To have that commitment there, to be able to work through this together and to be able to communicate kind of what you want, what your expectations are, that will be the best way to actually getting your needs met. If you have these expectations that you're not sharing, then basically you're setting yourself up for resentment and for negativity in your relationship. This will not, of course, help your intimate relationship. The more that you can be able to talk about it, the more that you can be able to clarify what your expectations are, to understand what's realistic, that will help you become more educated in this department and help you get on the road to a more intimate and successful relationship.